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anonymous
writes:HelloMy new boyfriend is divorced and eight years older than me, which is not a problem to me, what is the problem is that i am still a virgin and dont know if i should tell him this, and how do i tell him, or maybe he already knows.Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2008): Exactly what happytochat said!
Coming from a guy I can tell you he is almost certainly going to love that bit of news! Don't hide it any longer, trust me you'll make him feel very important and what guy doesn't like that ;-)
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reader, happytochat  + ♥, writes (8 May 2008):
I think you should tell him, not only because honesty in a relationship is important but because it will make your first time with him alot easier. It can be a bit scary and if your bf knows you are a virgin it will take the pressureo off you to feel like you have to live up to a high standard. It will alos allow him to be more considerate, to take things slow and to guide you.
May he already know? I guess he could suspect it. My first bf knew I was a virgin because my hyman wasnt broken...but yours could be as often it can break through other things not just sex, such as sport, using tampons and masturbation.
So i think you should just tell him. Dont be embarrased :) I think your bf will feel special that you have chosen him to be your first!!!!!
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reader, Kimaxsi  +, writes (8 May 2008):
Well men aren't known for the psychic abilities lol He may suspect but its up to you to tell him and you must tell him, because first of all the first time is a special time for you and I am sure it'll be a special time for him as well. There's also considerations for a virgin you know and if he for some reason thought you weren't and rushed it a bit, didn't prepare you properly not only would it be less enjoyable for you but he'd probably feel pretty guilty for hurting you, and that guilt might interfere with later physical intimacy. You might also be turned off by sex, if the first time was too traumatic/unpleasant.
Its something you just need to sit down and discuss with him face to face, honestly if you aren't ready or able to tell him this you aren't really ready yet to engage in sex.
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