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writes:I have been working with this company for 2 years. The man I am extremely interested in is a manager of a different department. He is extremely low key and shares most of my interests. He is funny, smart, quirky and very nerdy. I love that about him. Here's the thing. I am a single mother and am chronically avoiding relationships. I don't really have the energy to get hurt again. Everyone else around me tells me he is seriously interested in me, but it's been a couple months now of chatting and laughing it up with nothing close to a lunch or any sort of date. How much longer should I wait before I give up on this? Reply to this Question
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (14 May 2008):
You said hes 'nerdy' so hes probably shy. Alot of people who are seen as nerds have insecurities and are shy. I think maybe you should ask him out to lunch or something...and see how that goes :)
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Why are you waiting? IMO, if he's not acting himself, then you do it. Ask him out for dinner or lunch or some other activity. Look, most nerds I know are dense. If it doesn't hit them over the head, they may be completely oblivious to your advances.
I think you should go for it... start the ball rolling yourself and see what happens. The worst that can happen is nothing.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Make the first move he may be shy and not sure if you are interested. Dont see it as a long term thing whether you want a full blown relationship or not being a single mum is soo oo hard so have a bit of fun and if it develops into something more just take each day at a time. Good luck x
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