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writes:ive been with the same woman for 14 years.i just found out that she slept with 3 of my friends four yrs ago.one a really close friend.iam now very insecure and hurt cuz i knw that they are bigger than me in penis size.so i knw she enjoyed it because ther bigger than me.she keeps tellin me that although they are bigger .our sex is the best.i dont beleave her.any advice?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (8 September 2010):
 Glad to hear you're getting some counceling. Hopefully you can work past it or decide what will make you happy, even if it is leaving.
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reader, pewee +, writes (8 September 2010):
pewee is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthx ,u all.we actally have been in counselin,since i found out.so we are addressin it.i thnk ima end up leavin when all is sd and done.we have kids together so its not that easy.thx all
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (8 September 2010):
 It's very possible. Size is a question of optimums, not maximums. I'm beginning to wonder whether an article on the size myth is warranted. I adore cocks in general, but even I am partial to men smaller than 7inches. The big ones are nice to suck on, I suppose, but I'm really more likely to use one as a dildo ("Stay still and let me use you to get off") rather than for actual intercourse ("Show me what you got"), if you get my drift.
Anyway, as the others have pointed out, it's interesting that the cheating doesn't bother you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): Without any emotion that woman and those friends would be gone, disappeared, fucking ghosts of my past. You dont deserve that pal and plus she's a whore if she's sleeping with anyone else but you so u have reason not to trust the relationship. End it. Id end it without hesitation. Start over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2010): She slept with 3 of your friends????? If I was you, that would be four fewer people in my life right now. Stand up for what you deserve in life, and leave this awful woman that you have stayed with for 4 years too many.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): I would be more worried about her sleeping with 3 of your friends and never telling you. That was need-to-know information.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (7 September 2010):
 I agree with Dirtball. Penis size should be the least of your worries... she slept with 3! of your friends?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 September 2010):
Wait, you're worried about their penis size, not the fact that she cheated on you?!?
By the way, big dicks can really hurt for girls. Almost every answer I've ever seen around here says 6-7 inches is best.
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Trust me when i say size really does not matter it's how you use it that counts! Believe what your lady tells you because she is telling you the truth
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reader, spanishquerida +, writes (7 September 2010):
I've slept with three men in my life. One was six inches, the other two were seven and a half... The two seven and a half inches made me curl up in agony and were absolutely awful - I hated them. The six inches I just kept going back for more and more and more. Just because a man is bigger does not mean he was better, trust me.
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (7 September 2010):
 She is right. Bigger in size has nothing to do with being better. Sex is not only about the size. It's the movement, it's hitting the right spots. Bigger penises can't always do that. Sex is also about the emotional connection, not just physical. So even if they were bigger she may not have the connection and the emotional satisfaction she has with you.
It's hard to tell someone to stop feeling insecure, but I can tell you I would not go back to a partner who was bigger because I get everything I need from what I have now.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (7 September 2010):
First of all, get over yourself. Who cares whether they had bigger dicks? She chose you. You absolutely have to have the biggest dick your wife has ever had? I don't know whether that's arrogance or insecurity.
Second, you have no idea what goes on in women's minds. You seem so sure that size not only matters, but it's the ONLY thing that matters. A woman's mind is usually a total mystery to a man, but you have it all figured out, huh? Isn't it possible that you think size matters to her because size matters so much to YOU, and you're projecting that feeling onto HER??
Finally, and strangest of all, you are only asking for advice in coming to grips with the size of your dick, and not even touching on the bigger problem, which is... YOUR WIFE SLEPT WITH THREE OF YOUR FRIENDS WHILE SHE WAS WITH YOU?? Holy cow. Well, if the biggest problem in your life is that someone else has a bigger dick, congratulations man!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Penis size is not even close to the most important thing in sex. You abviously have the drive and technique to please far more than any of these other guys. A big penis that does nothing will never please a girl. My advice to you is to be proud that you have the abilities and don't rely on size. That is a way bigger accomplishment.
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