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writes:Is there something wrong with me? My bf says there is. He blames all our relationship problems either on me and "my insecurities" or he blames our problems on my ex bf and claims I am judging him based on how badly my ex treated me. I find it hard to trust my bf. I admit, my ex bf treated me badly and I do have alot of fear based on what happened with him. But I think my fear is more then my past relationship. My current bf's actions dont exactly match what he says. He says he loves me, that Iam the only one for him and so on, but his actions prove otherwise. I caught him using an onlne dating website (I wont even bother to say what his lame excuse was), he continually tries to pressure me into sex and other things I dont want to do. He flirts with other girls in front of me, and online. His friends make fun of me, and he never stands up for me. One of his friends even spiked my drink with alcohol and he didnt think it was a big deal. He didnt say anything to the friend, infact my bf insisted that I "had to drink it", otherwise I would be seeen as being rude for not drinking a drink i was given. He says I will fail if i dont change. He is going away for holidays soon and I am so anxious and worried. I cant sleep at night. I am always on edge. Always crying. I cant deal with this anymore, I dont know how to. Any help?
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 Why the hell are you with this guy? Do you think that you deserve to be treated like this? Deep down do you really think he loves you? I think he see's you as a dormat and i cant believe that you are putting up with this! Sounds like you have jumped from one nasty ex to another, there is nothing wrong with you, he is the problem he sounds like he treats you like crap and whats worth for some strange reason you let him!
You may think you love this guy and that you may never do any better then him but TRUST me you CAN DO BETTER then this creep, my advice get rid of this guy learn to love yourself and when you least expect it the right guy will come along who will love and respect you. Rememeber we have to kiss alot of frogs to find our prince.
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reader, DracoX  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 hunny i hate to be blunt but you know what to do. this man has broken the common rule. and its called R.E.S.P.E.C.T. if he respected you. he would not blame things on you. and the fact of the matter. that he does things you dissaprove of... personally... he sounds like a asshole. and hes out to destroy you. please do me a favor.... and dont let another asshole destroy a good girl. and turn her into a bitch.... tell him to fix himself. and get out of your life. as appose to the ex thing. i wish i heard more into that subject i would have a broader look on how you are. but since thats irrelevant. we will put it this way. the fact that he blamed you just tells me he doesnt care or love you. nore respect you. its time to go. dont settle a guy that doesnt love you.a Question for you.do you like being hurt? and are you willing to stick around and put up with that?
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