Stress has caused us to fight a lot lately, and the last one, he got a little violent. I don't know what to do.
Q. So here is the thing. We have been in a great relationship for almost 3 years. I love him with all my heart and he is the type of guy who brings me flowers for nothing in particular. We moved in together about 7 months ago and things have been going ...
A. 10 May 2013: HI
Just be very careful, like I said in my previous post once you forgive the first time (many times) it will happen again and again, getting more aggressive than the first time. I hope it works in your favour.
Good luck
Mandy x... (read in full...)
How to deal with my sex-addict girlfriend?
Q. I never thought this would be an issue, but my girlfriends is sex addict. She wants to have sex at least two times a day or as much as possible. I mean our record is 8 times a night. So to my problem. I really enjoyed this in the first few moths ...
A. 15 February 2013: HI
you just have to be honest and tell her your not a sex object. It's great she has a high sex drive but not great for you, when this is all that seems to be on her mind. She definately needs to talk with someone about it. If you have no reaso... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he wants to go out for our Valentines dinner at the weekend?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for about 6 months. Now its valentines day..i know he is trying to save money for a house and i am not materialistic in the sense where i expect us to go out to dinners all the time..i even contribute towar...
A. 14 February 2013: HI
I think your overreacting yes. He is being upfront and honest, and still offering a movie and spending time together so it's not like his trying to get out of seeing you. And trying to save for a desposit for a house/flat so prob feeling ... (read in full...)
How important is a mans height in society
Q. I have an acquaintance who is a few centimeters from being 6 feet tall and he believes he is short and worthless because of it. He brought up a lot of articles and facts about how being short is the worst thing a guy can be and that being 6 feet ...
A. 13 February 2013: HI
there is an old saying " all good things come in small packages" height has nothing to do with respect or anything else for that matter it's down to the circle of friends you keep. My best friend is just under 4ft I have never treated her ... (read in full...)
Online guy seems to have vanished! I'm disappointed did he get the wrong impression?
Q. Hello I'm hoping someone can shed a light please?... Last week I met a guy online. We exchanged loads of messages and seemed to get on really well and have loads in common. I told him my interests ag walking, camping and he hinted that he would ...
A. 13 February 2013: HI
firstly you did the right thing by not exchanging pictures of any kind, saftey is really important with online sites.( many people have had there pictures used to open another accounts with to lure un-suspecting victims) secondly why did ... (read in full...)
How can one tell the children about divorce when your spouse is too emotional to be rational?
Q. For many years now I have been unhappy in my marriage. My wife and I have been together for twenty years. After our children were born my wife became very emotional, and she tends to react to situations by shouting, swearing and crying. She's bee...
A. 12 February 2013: HI
I totally get and understand your frustration here, but even after all she has done and been like over the years this is not a very good way to solve anything. Your children will be very hurt if you just left then told them regardle... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned. Nothing I've tried is helping, and I'm afraid it is going to tear my relationship apart.
Q. I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned, and it immensely effects many of my relationship. My current girlfriend, was originally my best friend for three years and on the fourth year she asked me out. When she goes out with her family, ...
A. 12 February 2013: HI
I believe the longer your with your GF the deeper your falling inlove, and of course the more you love someone the more scared you are of loosing them. When you were a child only your parents will have the full truth of why they did what the... (read in full...)
Stress has caused us to fight a lot lately, and the last one, he got a little violent. I don't know what to do.
Q. So here is the thing. We have been in a great relationship for almost 3 years. I love him with all my heart and he is the type of guy who brings me flowers for nothing in particular. We moved in together about 7 months ago and things have been going ...
A. 11 February 2013: HI
Starting a row is one thing, being violent no matter how or why is unexceptable! I would not wait for a second time. I would get out now, once you allow it the first time he will do it again and the next time he get's really angry and it... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned. Nothing I've tried is helping, and I'm afraid it is going to tear my relationship apart.
Q. I have a phobia of being left behind or abandoned, and it immensely effects many of my relationship. My current girlfriend, was originally my best friend for three years and on the fourth year she asked me out. When she goes out with her family, ...
A. 11 February 2013: HI
May I ask were you abandoned as a child?
If so this could be the trigger for all this. And you would probably need more therapy if you are to move forward.
If not then atleast you recognise you have a problem and want to deal wit... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my writing teacher, and am confused as to whether this is something I should even be thinking about.
Q. I feel dumb asking this or even telling anyone but i have developed quite the crush on my writing teacher. I am 18 and he is 24. So the age difference is not totally out of realm. I am going to college next year to become an English teacher, just ...
A. 11 February 2013: HI
I don't think your crazy dumb as you put it, but I would keep it to myself for a while, his young and is being very nice towards you but it don't mean anything right now. If he does have any feelings towards you he can't do anything about it... (read in full...)
What can I do about my grandma showing up at our house all the time?
Q. I'm living with my father, because of my parents recent divorce (I'm ok with it, I could see it coming for a loooong time). My dad and I were alone, we needed to learn how to do the stuff my mom usually did - making soup, for example. So we k...
A. 11 February 2013: HI
This can be a tricky situation for two reason's
1- She probably felt honoured to be asked for help....so just wants to help all the time, and maybe because your mum is no longer there feels she has to do the nagging. So if she is no lon... (read in full...)
Our dates went well, he was interested in seeing me, and now he's been ignoring me for 2 weeks?
Q. To cut things short, I was dating this guy I met at my uni.. We weren't seeing each other for long, we met, he got my number, we spoke on whatsapp for a week or so and then decided to meet up. We saw each other three times. We went out to dinn...
A. 11 February 2013: HI
I agree with so very confused completely erase him from your online accounts it will help to move forward. There are plenty of guy's out there who would treat you with respect. And if for any reason it turns out he did infact have a valid ... (read in full...)
My depressed Gf won't have sex with me. If I say I'm leaving she hurts herself. Should we breakup?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my girlfriend for one year and a half and we live together. The problem I have is she won't have sex with me. The last time we had sex was 7 months ago and I confessed to her that I am considering sleeping with other ...
A. 11 February 2013: Dear no nonsense Aidan
being on here and offering ( as your name quotes) no nonsense! advice gives everyone grounds to respond how they feel the OP comes across in the first place..
I confessed to her that I am considering sleeping with ot... (read in full...)
My depressed Gf won't have sex with me. If I say I'm leaving she hurts herself. Should we breakup?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my girlfriend for one year and a half and we live together. The problem I have is she won't have sex with me. The last time we had sex was 7 months ago and I confessed to her that I am considering sleeping with other ...
A. 9 February 2013: HI
do you still love her? because if she is suffering with depression anti-depressants can have dramtic effect on her libido. She needs support not the threat of getting it else where, which leads me to believe your only interested in your own... (read in full...)
High sex drive, unsatisfying outcomes
Q. I feel kind of weird about this, but I've started feeling really out of place lately. Up until I was 18 I had like no sex drive at all, but for some reason I have a ridiculously high sex drive now, I get bored really easily and I feel like I alwa...
A. 9 February 2013: HI
Then they simply are not the one for you. You will know when you have met the right man because there will be nothing like it ever....like firworks :) your still young you have plenty of time to find the right man.
Mandy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a type... and it's not me?
Q. Hello. I am a lady in desperate need of hearing some truths. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about five years now and we're doing great except for a couple reoccurring issues. Our relationship started in early college and therefore suffer...
A. 9 February 2013: HI
What I mean is that this man has cheated on you ( I don't doubt his love or lack of love with you ) he enjoy's porn, women with big breasts, etc etc...these type of men can be quite shallow and constantly need their ego's to be boosted.... (read in full...)
How does a teacher ask out a single parent?
Q. I am a teacher in a primary school, and one of the single mothers has caught my attention for a long time, I do not teach her son and won’t be teaching him. She has a great personality what I like about her is that she talks to anyone and everyone; ...
A. 8 February 2013: HI
It's not often we get the chance to meet the right one for us in life, so stop dilly dallying about and ask her out already :)like aunt honesty said just start off by asking her out for a coffe, or maybe if you have a day out with the chil... (read in full...)
High sex drive, unsatisfying outcomes
Q. I feel kind of weird about this, but I've started feeling really out of place lately. Up until I was 18 I had like no sex drive at all, but for some reason I have a ridiculously high sex drive now, I get bored really easily and I feel like I alwa...
A. 8 February 2013: HI
I think that's were your going wrong, your looking for sex rather than the relationship. Sex with guy's who are just looking for sex too, rarely put any emotion or effort into it, it's a case of wham bam thank you mam! try going all out norm... (read in full...)
Young relationships are supposed to be fun, but mine is boring!
Q. Hey, so I'm kind of in a unique situation haha. I'm 19, and my "boyfriend" is 22. We live together because of university, our living situation is this: He got a double room, and a private bathroom, he asked me to move into the second bedroom s...
A. 8 February 2013: HI
get on with your life, your too young to be stuck in a stale dead end relationship. run run run as fast as you can or he will just drain and zap any fun you have left in you. If he has anxiety problems then HE needs to deal with it not you.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a type... and it's not me?
Q. Hello. I am a lady in desperate need of hearing some truths. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about five years now and we're doing great except for a couple reoccurring issues. Our relationship started in early college and therefore suffer...
A. 8 February 2013: HI
It seems to me he wants a down to earth women, someone who isn't obssessed with their looks. he wants imperfection. many guys find it hard to keep up with women who hardly eat or too skinny. They want to be with women who aren;t afraid t... (read in full...)
I was about to end things with him and he turned his act around. Now I'm confused.
Q. I am 26 and have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. I love him a lot, but for the last couple of months I feel like I don't know if I want to be with him anymore but at the same time I can't imagine not being with him either. What should I do? We ...
A. 8 February 2013: HI
I definately think you should give it a little more time. In relastionships we often hit a stale phase, but he obviously cares very much for you, as he has picked up on your change towards him, and seems like his really trying to make thi... (read in full...)
I think there might be a connection, but I don't know.
Q. i have a guy friend that I've known for about a year now and last year we used to hangout in the library with my his friend who was in the same class with me, helping each other with work class during lunchtime, so yesterday he asked me to do ...
A. 7 February 2013: HI
yes that would be a good start, just say it in a natural " so glad i'm not like many in this school, I would never date someone in school" slyly watch for his reaction, don't say anything and then just say " well got to go speak soon " j... (read in full...)
I think there might be a connection, but I don't know.
Q. i have a guy friend that I've known for about a year now and last year we used to hangout in the library with my his friend who was in the same class with me, helping each other with work class during lunchtime, so yesterday he asked me to do ...
A. 5 February 2013: HI
Do yourself a really big favour here ok, I know if he helps you with tasks it makes your study life easier, BUT if you allow him to stay close to you for this reason it will give him the wrong idea trust me I know. I knew this guy, really s... (read in full...)
I got drunk and missed my personal tranining session, how do I apologise to my trainer?
Q. What have I done? I've really hurt him:( how do I apologise? So I got drunk last night and I'm the kinda girl that never drinks. (I'm a good girl, i dont party or anything) But I was bored so I drank last night and woke up with the biggest...
A. 4 February 2013: HI
Unless your his only source of income ( which I doubt) he would have forgotten you by now. So you got drunk and missed your appointment, the only one who is really missing out there is you. You need to think seriously about your training... (read in full...)
I think there might be a connection, but I don't know.
Q. i have a guy friend that I've known for about a year now and last year we used to hangout in the library with my his friend who was in the same class with me, helping each other with work class during lunchtime, so yesterday he asked me to do ...
A. 2 February 2013: HI
If you feel that there is a connection but not the kind you want from him, then I suggest you stop the cuddling and explain to him you only care for him as a friend. Allowing him to cuddle up to you knowing this is a personal closenes... (read in full...)
I like him, but I'm not sexually attracted to him. I'm confused, help!
Q. Hey guys, So I am in another situation. I am getting mixed signals from a boy I am not sure I like. We have been friends for 8 months, and become quiet close. At the beginning he said he liked me and as time progressed I started to like him, by ...
A. 2 February 2013: HI
It sounds like he just wants you a his best gf (bff)anyway to be honest. More and more men are intouch with their fememine side these days, and get on very well as just friends with women. Saying he likes you but speaks about getting ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should be patient and understanding or just stop this relationship?
Q. Hello, I have reached a point where I am at a lost and I don't know if I should continue this relationship. Well, I agree that he's having serious money problems as he has borrowed money from the bank as well as from friends that he cannot repay. A...
A. 1 February 2013: HI
I understand your frustration, however If he didn't care he would be bothering you with all his problems without a thought for you. In this case he stays away when he is feeling low or maybe even ashamed of the way his life has turned a... (read in full...)
Why is it an ex always looks better after a break up than when you were together?
Q. Why is it when you've broken up with a girl, when you next see them they always look better than they did before? It's strange, the girl I used to go out with she has always been beautiful, but I ran into yesterday for the first time in a while ...
A. 30 January 2013: HI
This happens a lot. What happens is when your together you get so used to eachother sometimes you forget what attracted you to them in the first place, as it can become a habbit. So when you don't see them for quite a while BAM..you... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend's gesture and behaviour strange in this situation?
Q. Recently my boyfriend (who makes an excellent living) brought me a bouquet of flowers. They were the grocery store variety and the price tag that he left on the cellophane said $7. He came to my front door with said flowers still in the plastic ...
A. 26 January 2013: HI
I'm not surprised you feel the way you do, he sounds very detached. Yes he brought you flowers BUT if his going to be rude about it why bother. I would say to him how you feel, and that if he can't buy you flowers and mean the gesture ... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual and in love with my best friend. What should I do?
Q. I have known her for 8 years from way back in high school ...I am a bisexual. I have always felt strangly drawn to her ....and her to me....while I have been open to my feelings, she has been shy about it. I try, have pecked her ...tried to cuddle w...
A. 26 January 2013: HI
I think you should let nature takes its course on this one. she seems confused about her feelings for you, so to push on this would be really unfair. Many friendships can cause jealousy when someone else comes along and takes time up from ... (read in full...)
Are these the signs of an abusive relationship or am I being paranoid?
Q. I am a little worried about the relationship I have with my boyfriend, but I don’t know if I am being paranoid or not. A few years ago I was in an abusive relationship. My instinct at the time told me to get out, but I didn’t and I got hurt. ...
A. 24 January 2013: HI
What is Important here is that YOU obviously don't feel comfortable, so with that being said I would end it now before it gets harder to. Your gut feeling is telling you something is not right, so be true to yourself, don't wait around f... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? He has no job, and he doesn't want to marry me. We have a child together.
Q. firstly,i am a 24 year old lady who has a daughter to my boyfriend for 8 years. We are living together on his parents' house.he has no job and i am a homebase computer worker. My pregnancy when i was 19 wasnt planned though we're already 4 years in ...
A. 22 January 2013: HI
he sounds like his very childish still and has a lot of growing up to do, also your BOTH still in contact with ex's regardless of the reasons this should not be an important part of your life right now. Your child is what is Importan... (read in full...)
Broke up with my GF because I still have feelings for my ex, but she has a BF. How can I move on?
Q. I had been with my ex girlfriend, R, for about 2 and a half years. I always thought that I was actually happy, but near the end of our relationship I realized that I was mostly in denial. When I found out that the girl that I had been with before ...
A. 21 January 2013: HI
Unfortunately as you pointed out, she has moved on. You need to let this go, it wouldn't be fair on her OR her new partner if you try to intervene, she would only hate you for it. I know you must be feeling hurt inside , this will get bett... (read in full...)
I need some help with the jealousy I experiencing over two friends. I need your help please?
Q. Ok, here is my story. I have these 2 friends they are girls and I am a girl as well. I met my first friend at work about 2 years ago (Friend A) and Friend B came in a year later. By this time Friend A and I got close, hung out, had fun and be...
A. 15 January 2013: HI
I understand how frustrating this must be for you. Maybe she never really had any real friends untill you both came along, and now she feels threatend. I would first talk with her about it and explain what you have just written here. Ma... (read in full...)
Break-up. Another girl a day later? Should I even consider giving him a new chance to get back together as a couple, in the future?
Q. My boyfriend of one year broke up the day after Christmas. Prior to Christmas we went on a cruise celebrating our one year anniversary. Throughout our relationship I know we have had our ups and downs. When times are good they are really good ...
A. 29 December 2012: HI
No I would not go back with him. It seems to me he don't like cheating ( which is a good thing) the down side to this is everytime he wants a one night stand with someone he dumps you, then when it's out of his system he wants you back. yo... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me? Am I damaged goods?
Q. What is wrong with me? Am I damaged goods?:(? So my ex bf cheated on me with 2 other girls and he dumped me when I found out. He got with someone straight after and when it didn't work out he came back begging me. Of course I gave him...
A. 29 December 2012: HI
I am not surprised . your self esteem has been kicked. Han in there you WILL slowly start to build back up. People can be so cruel especially when breaking up with someone. He cheated on you twice, slagged you off about your body, his a cr... (read in full...)
Did I make the wrong decision by not giving my ex a second chance?
Q. Long story short, I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 and a half years about 4 months ago. I had felt that he didnt have enough respect for me. we had almost no sex life and he didnt want to marry me , which i had come to terms with over a few months. ...
A. 29 December 2012: HI
You obviously lost that loving feeling a while ago, which is why you have moved on quickly....some would say too quickly , you need real time to grieve over your lost relationship. However feeling sadness now because you are moving on is qu... (read in full...)
I was abused in the past. Do I have the right to become celibate in my relationship?
Q. After years of having sexual problems, I have decided to become celibate. This is due to extreme anxiety and depression before and after sex that stems from emotional and slight sexual abuse. I was never forcibly raped, however, no matter how hard...
A. 20 December 2012: HI
I don't think it is fair to your partner , to expect him to be ok with this at such a young age is not fair. He will either end things himself or stray and neither would be nice for you. Obviously you need to go councelling for your past exp... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's mother has died and now she is pushing me away, what should I do?
Q. My girlfriends mother has passed away on tuesday,so she had to go back to where she comes from,I could not go with her because her family doesn't really like me,so now I'm consolling her via texting and calling but she just keeps pushin me away and ...
A. 20 December 2012: HI
This is all still so raw for her, she will be hurt, upset,confused,angry...a whole heap of emotions will be going through her right now so you i'm afraid will be the least of her concerns. All you can do is continue to be there for her, sup... (read in full...)
If he lost interest, why is looking at my Facebook pics?
Q. A guy I have been seeing has stopped contacting me. I don't know what happened but it started after relationship got physical even though that was great so I know it's not a lack of chemistry there. . I'm not looking for a "u gotta hold out longer" ...
A. 20 December 2012: HI
It could may well be that he is already in a relationship, and as you both got physical it brought it to reality to him and he now regrets it. Yet he still likes you which is why he looks on your page and at your photos.....Or it could be... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are both very outspoken. Will we be alright living together?
Q. well, my boyfriend and I have known each other for 1 year and been together for 6 months, i meet him right before moving back from a other state. we have a good relationship we get along very well. we are currently live 9 hours apart, we are ...
A. 20 December 2012: HI
It's a big step when you get married and move in together, and it is only natural to be scared and question yourself about how it will work. Try to keep yourself busy and focus on the now rather than on the what if's. I'm sure you will bot... (read in full...)
I can't stop making out with my colleagues!
Q. I am 27 married 7 years and have a child! I haven't been happy for a very long time but kept in marriage for security and for child sake! Recently at a Xmas do, I got very drunk and made out with s work colleague! I then went home and brought home ...
A. 20 December 2012: HI
You may well be Head f***ed BUT you are going through a testing period of your life. You new your husband was in the army so you chose that life to lead. He is bound to have seen some awful things whilst working in the army I know both my ... (read in full...)
I can't stop making out with my colleagues!
Q. I am 27 married 7 years and have a child! I haven't been happy for a very long time but kept in marriage for security and for child sake! Recently at a Xmas do, I got very drunk and made out with s work colleague! I then went home and brought home ...
A. 18 December 2012: HI
You STOP what your doing right now before someone or ( all ) of you end up getting hurt. Try spicing up your marriage again, maybe talk with your husband and tell him how you are feeling. How would you feel if you found out your husband ... (read in full...)
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