I'm engaged but find myself falling in love with others
Q. This is the most difficult question I have ever had to ask. I believe I will be judged, harshly, but I do hope someone will understand and help me. I am 29 and engaged to a very nice man. My problem is that I keep falling in love at regular inter...
A. 18 March 2013: HI
Well you recognise where your going wrong so this is a good start . One way of keeping the relationship burning is seeing eachother once a week to start off with, this way you have time to miss eachother, so when you meet up the passon i... (read in full...)
LDR "boyfriend" has changed his mind and says he doesn't want to talk as much as he did?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and this guy are sort of in an LDR thing. We met in December and swapped numbers (we met in person) but I was visiting a friend 100 miles away and that's where I met the guy and he is coming to visit me in my town in a few weeks t...
A. 16 March 2013: Your welcome x
Mandy x... (read in full...)
LDR "boyfriend" has changed his mind and says he doesn't want to talk as much as he did?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and this guy are sort of in an LDR thing. We met in December and swapped numbers (we met in person) but I was visiting a friend 100 miles away and that's where I met the guy and he is coming to visit me in my town in a few weeks t...
A. 15 March 2013: Just remember guys don't do the phone thing all the time,and not overly talkative on the phone. yeah just sit back a bit and let him come to you, if you don't hear from him in ..lets say a week ( of nothing ) then would go your seperate ways.
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LDR "boyfriend" has changed his mind and says he doesn't want to talk as much as he did?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and this guy are sort of in an LDR thing. We met in December and swapped numbers (we met in person) but I was visiting a friend 100 miles away and that's where I met the guy and he is coming to visit me in my town in a few weeks t...
A. 14 March 2013: HI
He maybe be talking to other people for different conversation. TBH I wouldn't want to speak to the same person day in day out, I like to have different conversations with different people, it's Good to keep the mind exercised so to speak. T... (read in full...)
Is she scared or leading me on?
Q. We love each other very much....we have known each other for 9 years ....the first time I was not aware she liked me but finally I got to like her .....I left for university, though she was still in high school she is the one who tried the most to ...
A. 13 March 2013: Because she obviously values you as a very close friend, many girls are like this with there friends, holding hands, sharing the same bed, some even kiss eachother on the lips it don't mean she wants to take this further, you need to except this and ... (read in full...)
LDR "boyfriend" has changed his mind and says he doesn't want to talk as much as he did?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and this guy are sort of in an LDR thing. We met in December and swapped numbers (we met in person) but I was visiting a friend 100 miles away and that's where I met the guy and he is coming to visit me in my town in a few weeks t...
A. 13 March 2013: HI
I can understand where your coming from, to be one way for 3 months then change from nowhere would piss me off to be honest, a week maybe two yeah fine, but 3 months!!! it sounds like his bored now and probablly realises that a LDR will be ... (read in full...)
He let my family and I believe for 3 years that his parents were dead!
Q. I'm not at all sure what to think about this, and would like some opinions. Here it goes: I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's been studying hard and is aiming for his masters, I support him fully and I know he does the same for me. We ...
A. 13 March 2013: HI
I'm actually surprised your so angry and not curious as to why he would avoid letting you know they were alive? I would find this upsetting not annoying, he must have had some serious issues with his family to be like this, it takes a lot of... (read in full...)
Do I want my ex back? I can't let go!
Q. i have no idea what to do now, im currently with a girl that i love and love everything about her but cant seem to let my ex go, i broke up with her as i didnt feel the same way, but now she is seeing someone new i hate it. Please help me am i jus...
A. 13 March 2013: HI
it's that old ego that is hurt , you see her happy with someone new and think what has he got that I couldn't give to her , what makes him so bloody special.... but the truth is you gave up on her so you have to let this go. All this will ac... (read in full...)
After this, can I still trust my best friend? She's been so mean. We're meant to be getting a flat together for uni!
Q. I need help! I don't know who to trust, they've both got bad sides! :( Me and my ex (L) have been friends for a year, and everything is fine, but my best friend (A) at this college hates him and is constantly trying to stop me from being frien...
A. 13 March 2013: HI
I think they are being very mean and childish, I would not move in with T she sounds like she could be back stabbing A !B!***H ...you seem like a good person and know what is going on here, so do what is right, don't let these people b... (read in full...)
Sleep deprived boyfriend has money for everything except an engagement ring. Should I cut my losses?
Q. My boyfriend is sleep deprived. He gets about 4 hours of sleep per night. It's almost like a badge of honor for him that he works nights. He often talks about "day" people who get up in the morning, go to work and come home and eat dinner like ...
A. 13 March 2013: HI
Hun I think you should cut your losses and move on. He don't want marriage it's obvious, you would have DEFINATELY had a ring by now if so. Also with his attitude towards everything it will just wear you down to the point of hating eacho... (read in full...)
Why do I hurt people that love me unconditionally? How do I stop this?
Q. i control my wife with passive-aggressive words, i challenge my kids about stupid things, stupid things that if my parents had said the same to me, i would have gone nuts about i try to control our finances so i can bye cannabis, spend to much of ...
A. 13 March 2013: HI
I think you do this because it makes it easier for you to carry on doing what you want, If you can make them hate you it will make it feel less painful when they decide to throw you out. But you DON'T want this to happen really, which is... (read in full...)
Is it normal to NEVER have fantasies about your partner?
Q. I have a question for all the people who are either in a serious relationship, or married. Is it normal to NEVER have sexual fantasies about your partner? The reason I ask is because while I am attracted to my husband, I find myself fantasizi...
A. 12 March 2013: HI
It is perfectly normal. There is nothing wrong with you, and I am pretty sure your husband does but don't want to hurt your feelings as its a bit of a loaded question to ask lol.
I don't know anyone who fantasizes about there own partne... (read in full...)
Is she scared or leading me on?
Q. We love each other very much....we have known each other for 9 years ....the first time I was not aware she liked me but finally I got to like her .....I left for university, though she was still in high school she is the one who tried the most to ...
A. 12 March 2013: HI
I think she is just trying not to hurt your feelings. She is with her boyfriend and has made it clear she is not a lesbian, or wants to find out . I would let it be and find someone who is interested in you.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tried to cheat, so I left. Did I do the right thing?
Q. Well..Basically i broke up with my current boyfriend sometime last week. It was hard because I had faith that he was different, but I guess not. I've had two serious relationships since being a te...
A. 12 March 2013: HI
Yes I think you did do the right thing. Boys at this young age rarely want the serious relationship, they are still working out who they are, there hormones are all over the place. Very few boys will be mature enough to have a relation... (read in full...)
Looking for advice ... am I bisexual?
Q. Okay so I'm a bit confused would you say I'm bi or not. My close girl mate told me the other week that she fancied me I've been friends with her for ages. I didn't know how to take this as I thought she was straight. Anyway she took my hand and took...
A. 12 March 2013: HI
It don't mean your BI no , just means you were flattered and curious, your boyfriend would be cool with it as most guys are to be honest. I wouldn't rush into thinking anything just yet, this is how many people get confused and think ri... (read in full...)
When exactly, should I confess my feelings to her?
Q. This is based on an earlier question I asked, and I now have better information of what is going on. Again, I've been seeing this one girl for about 2 months now, and its not exactly "dating," but not really "hanging out," either. It's more like, ...
A. 10 March 2013: HI
I feel that relationships like this ( one or both being bi sexual) rarely have a happy ending, because the eye candy is always there to tempt. However if you really want to be with her then I would say go for it now, dont waste time w... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I don't believe in friends with benefits?
Q. I met this guy online, know him for 2 months, after a week emailing, he gave me his number, then he called, after another week he ask me out, i accept it, he was nice to talk. Then i got surgery, i could not see him for some time, but he will always ...
A. 10 March 2013: HI
He never mentioned anything about freinds with benifits, so I dont know why you would think that. It could be that he is shy OR it could be that you never gave him anything (sex)....unless you speak to him about this you will never know. ... (read in full...)
Why do I always get used by people? Am I right to be upset by what happened with this guy?
Q. Hey everyone, so there's this guy I've been seeing (for about 2 months), he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend , but we meet up every other day. Anyway, he lives about an hour away from me and asked me to pick him up so we can hang out at my p...
A. 10 March 2013: Your welcome. :)X and good luck with your future happiness
Mandy x... (read in full...)
Do you think unwanted sexual fantasy can be caused by distress?
Q. Hey guys, Here's the deal. I'm 27, have always loved, adored, and fantasized about women. I've also been incredibly insecure, especially around women, and since I moved in with my woman about 1 1/2 years ago, I've been increasingly hav...
A. 10 March 2013: HI
I think you need to elaborate a bit more before getting a clear answer. You say men was never your thing up until now? which may suggest you are hiding your true feelings, that maybe you are gay but too afraid or ashamed to admit it. But unle... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but find myself falling in love with others
Q. This is the most difficult question I have ever had to ask. I believe I will be judged, harshly, but I do hope someone will understand and help me. I am 29 and engaged to a very nice man. My problem is that I keep falling in love at regular inter...
A. 10 March 2013: HI
I think the problem here is that your very insecure and crave attention. When you first meet and fall inlove with someone it's new and fresh, exciting, when things get into a routine the fun sizzles down and you feel like the passion has ... (read in full...)
3 days after our breakup my ex was dating someone else. Could he really care about her?
Q. My ex has now a new woman in his life we split up almost two months ago and three days later he was dating someone else. Could he really care about her as much as I am hearing from other people or is this just a rebound relationship. I was told they ...
A. 10 March 2013: Hi
I think you should let it go, you will only hurt yourself more thinking about the what if's.
He met this other girl and moved on, he may very well be very keen on her but either way his put you in his past. Dont waste your time ponderi... (read in full...)
Why do I always get used by people? Am I right to be upset by what happened with this guy?
Q. Hey everyone, so there's this guy I've been seeing (for about 2 months), he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend , but we meet up every other day. Anyway, he lives about an hour away from me and asked me to pick him up so we can hang out at my p...
A. 10 March 2013: HI
The reason you get used is because you allow it to happen. He said he would pay half so you should have reminded him, he is a user.....Also he knew that you were on your monthly so got what he wanted from you and now he will wait for a few day'... (read in full...)
Is 2 years a long time to go without sex?
Q. I'm 25 years old and have been single for 2 years after the end of a 6 year relationship. Being single is fine, infact it's great but I haven't had sex in the last 2 years either and Im worried that my anxiety over this may prevent me from seeing ...
A. 10 March 2013: Don't worry about what other people think, it's how you feel, if you feel it's been to long and your ready to get back out there, then thats what you need to do. Advice is there for you to way up your options, at the end of the day only YOU can move ... (read in full...)
Is 2 years a long time to go without sex?
Q. I'm 25 years old and have been single for 2 years after the end of a 6 year relationship. Being single is fine, infact it's great but I haven't had sex in the last 2 years either and Im worried that my anxiety over this may prevent me from seeing ...
A. 9 March 2013: HI
it may be concider a long time by many BUT its when your ready to. Its best you wait for the right person to come along than to have meaningless sex to keep in the loop so to speak. And to be honest your next boyfreind will respect ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex girlfriend keeps trying to get in touch with him, even though it's long been over. What's going on?
Q. My boyfriends ex girlfriend keeps trying to get in touch with my boyfriend. They dated for five years and they broke up six years ago. He and I have been together for almost two years. And he's told me their break up was very bad and they never ...
A. 7 March 2013: HI
When you love someone so deeply, regardless of how things ended it can be very hard to let go. Maybe she leaves it for long periods at a time in hope that one day he will except her back in his life.It's obvious your boyfriend has no interest... (read in full...)
Is it true that if you've been hurt in a relationship you shouldn't compare others to your bad experience?
Q. I wont bother telling you the background of me and the girl I was dating for just about 3 months, I'm just interested by her comment and wanted to know what you guys can make of it... My best friend saw her last night and said he spoke to her and...
A. 28 February 2013: HI
Yes she is right you shouldn't judge every other girl because the last one was not the right girl for you. Not everyone will be out to hurt you, there are plenty of girls who like yourself just want to be loved and respected. That is all she ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have fantasies about being anally raped?
Q. I'm just your normal, every day 17 year old girl. Sometimes I like to read erotic stories online. About two months ago, I stumbled upon this story where a teenage boy forced himself onto his sister, anally. I don't know why, but this turned me on ...
A. 28 February 2013: HI
Although it's normal to have some out there fantasies, that's what they are. Some times you have to keep them to yourself and this is that time. I think your boyfriend will be pretty freaked out by that. Of course it don't mean you want tha... (read in full...)
Do I need to worry about this? And should I break up with him?
Q. I posted here last week ,saying that my boyfriend spent part of Valentine's Day with a male friend of his who is gay, who is transgender. The people who replied to my original post said they didnt think there was anything sinister going on, but i ...
A. 20 February 2013: HI either one of the two things are happening here ( in my eyes ) 1) his just really good friends with this guy and the words babe are just words of endearment, but your boyfriend don't want you reading into something that is not there OR ... (read in full...)
How to nicely tell my bf that his female friend needs to back off?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. We've had some discussions about our friends of the opposite sex and how sometimes they make us uncomfortable. He told me this about one of my best guy friends, so I nicely told him to back off a ...
A. 19 February 2013: HI
I would talk to your male friends more and see how it makes him feel, if he brings it up tell him thats how you feel talking with that girl all the time. He can't expect you to back off from your male freinds if he is being close to a fema... (read in full...)
Is there any way to work things out with this cold unresponsive husband?
Q. My husband and I are live in different houses. We have always lived like this due to work and children's schooling but now the relationship is at the point where we would be described at separated. I need love, security and affection and he is very ...
A. 17 February 2013: HI
how horrible to be going through this, but you both allowed this in the begining by living seperate lives. I think the last straw was the valentines flowers in your maiden name :( he is showing you he see's himself as a single man not marr... (read in full...)
Female joining the military. Seeking your advice on what's the best way to deal with the men in the military, especially in my application?
Q. This is going to be a bit different from what usually pops up around here, but nevertheless I'm hoping you all would be so kind to share your wisdom with me. I'm a 25 y/o woman and I'm joining the military. Not only that, I'm going to try and do w...
A. 17 February 2013: HI
wow what a wondeful life you will have, with all the challenges and excitment along the way, this will be such an achievment.As for the male population in the army you will just have to toughen up your emotional side i'm afraid. There wi... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Why doesn't she like me?
Q. It will sound a little wierd. I am a little possesive by nature. I have a huge crush on a girl. She is my junior.she is realy open and friendly with everyone. We have spent quality time together. I make her laugh a lot and she is realy happy around ...
A. 17 February 2013: HI
Maybe she knows you are possessive by nature , and coming across to eager, this can be a massive turn off for anyone to be honest. Who she decides to date really is not your desicion to make. Yes it will be hard for you if it's a freind o... (read in full...)
Has my ex husband changed or is this a threat?
Q. I have an abusive ex husband who I've recently left, and he really wants to get back together -he's out to a new place for work and has sent this to me - what does this email below mean? Has he really changed or is this a threat or why is he sending ...
A. 16 February 2013: HI
His trying to lure you with promises of a great future, and paradise love. let him move on you don't need or want an abusive man back in your life. you got out, stay away from it now. If he is soooooo loving life and paradise why is he tryin... (read in full...)
Separated husband claims he is always sick the weekend he is to spend time with our son!
Q. Currently separated, heading for divorce. Have a two year old. No formal custody arrangement, we've been able to try to communicate and work out visits with his Dad corresponding with best interests of child. I've been very open to child spendin...
A. 16 February 2013: HI
Sounds exactly like me and my ex husband. his doing the same with my 3, the best thing to do is let him get on with it, because when your son is older he will know who was there for him and his father is the one who is missing out. just mak... (read in full...)
Help, I need to air my concerns and seek your advice please? I've been sworn to secrecy about their relationship
Q. Hi everyone. I am a bit concerned about my best friend at the moment. I have known her for 23 years (we are both 27) and we have always been very close. About 9 months ago , she made a new friend and I stopped hearing from her as much. I was a bi...
A. 16 February 2013: HI
I totally agree with you wish. There is not much you can do here she is a grown woman with her own mistakes to make. All you can do is continue to be there for her when and if she needs you. However if this girl does become violent in any way ... (read in full...)
How do I help my boyfriend last longer without hurting his feelings?
Q. Im sorry if this is a little graphic but could really do with some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months, everything is perfect apart from sex. We have sex basically whenever we get the chance so sometimes a couple of times a day so t...
A. 16 February 2013: HI
it's still a new relationship so your both still in the honeymoon period, after a while you both relax and settle into a more indepth relationship, thats when he will last longer . The only thing I can suggest for your excitement i... (read in full...)
I'm so depressed about the size of my penis. I'm very depressed
Q. Hello i have a really big problem with myself im so self councious i cant live in peace this started 4 months ago when i started going out with my girlfriend she is a really nice person i love her so much but i have an issue. not long ago we start...
A. 16 February 2013: HI
firstly that is an average size for most guys, secondly your still growing and will continue to grow up untill your 21. and lastly contrary to what many people think women don't like massive manhoods, it's how you treat her and how you use ... (read in full...)
After all these years should I try to apologize for my behavior?
Q. I would appreciate some advice regarding an ex 'girlfriend', over whom I have some feelings of guilt. She was the first girl I ever kissed, when I was 15 and she was 14. We went to the same school and although we didn't know each other there, I'd...
A. 16 February 2013: HI
it's never to late to apologise, but i'm guessing she has more than moved on from that day as she has a family and is happy, so bringing up the past may make her feel a bit awkward. Saying that she might appreciate the truth and she can then... (read in full...)
Why did this guy take the time to block me on facebook? We had not spoken in years
Q. I have had a platonic friendship with this guy for over 15 years when he dated my friend and I dated his. We had stuff in common so we got on. It was a pretty good platonic friendship, we never liked each other in a romantic way. One day, out o...
A. 16 February 2013: HI
Yeah thats pretty strange ! I would not bother about it any more though, it's been so long already why waste your time on a small minded petty person? I don't understand why he would share your private messages to people and laugh about it... (read in full...)
Agony Aunts/Uncles need to open their hearts and minds rather than judging
Q. I wrote in yesterday and got a lot of very negative and hurtful comments from so-called agony aunts on here who seemed to think they know all about my relationship when they have never met me or my girlfriend. I wrote back to defend myself but ...
A. 16 February 2013: well I have read the original post and I have to say there were some very harsh replys, however they weren't wrong in what they were saying. You are coming across as being very stalkerish, I understand how deeply inlove you are, so you need to give ... (read in full...)
Agony Aunts/Uncles need to open their hearts and minds rather than judging
Q. I wrote in yesterday and got a lot of very negative and hurtful comments from so-called agony aunts on here who seemed to think they know all about my relationship when they have never met me or my girlfriend. I wrote back to defend myself but ...
A. 15 February 2013: HI
Not sure what the original question was you asked, but everyone on here will reply with what you gave them. If you came across a certain way they will answer honestly , please or offend it's true to how they see it. could you tell me a little a... (read in full...)
How do we resolve our major differences? We get along so well!
Q. Hi, So this story starts off pretty normal: I met my now BF about seven years ago and we started dating 18 months ago. The relationship started off really slowly because niether of us had ever been in a relationship before. The problom comes with ...
A. 15 February 2013: HI
wow he thinks it's ok for future children to curse in the house? I think you should walk away while you can hun. Or your going to be having a house full of unruly children , if he will allow swearing what else will he let them get up to? and ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have a child, I dont. What should we do?
Q. I’m 31 year old man and I’m having a trouble in my marriage. My wife ( she's 32) wants a child, I don’t. We are married for 4 years. We discussed this subject many times before our marriage. I told her I never want to have children and asked whether ...
A. 15 February 2013: HI
I wonder why is it that you hate children? that said you made it very clear to your wife in the begining that you do NOT want any, so it's unfair of her to be putting the pressure on you now. It must be very hard for her also as she has ... (read in full...)
I am hurt that he chose to spend most of Valentine's Day with someone else instead of me.
Q. I'm really upset and cant stop crying. My boyfriend didnt spend the day with me yesterday, and i thought he would have as it was Valentines Day. He only asked me to go round to his house at 7pm, so i only got to spend a few hours with him. He was ...
A. 15 February 2013: HI
First of all Valentines day is a day for romance not how much you buy eachother, I thought that is what birthdays and christmas is for ! secondly if his choosing to spend it with someone else I would say he may be feeling less love than he ... (read in full...)
How to deal with my sex-addict girlfriend?
Q. I never thought this would be an issue, but my girlfriends is sex addict. She wants to have sex at least two times a day or as much as possible. I mean our record is 8 times a night. So to my problem. I really enjoyed this in the first few moths ...
A. 15 February 2013: HI
you just have to be honest and tell her your not a sex object. It's great she has a high sex drive but not great for you, when this is all that seems to be on her mind. She definately needs to talk with someone about it. If you have no reaso... (read in full...)
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