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writes:Okay im 29 weeks pregnant. and her latley i have been feeling like my boyfriend is cheating on me.im not sure if it's hormones or what it is.but sometimes i get a gut feeling and then i feel like im gonna drop down and cry i know it probably sounds crazy. but the past week or so i havefelt like something has came between us like things aren't the same. he still treats me the same but i just don't know what it is.so sometime last month i had to go to the ER because i thought i was having contractions so i told my boyfriend. and he told me that he couldn't drive anywhere because i got pulledover and he had no license so he thought he would go to jail. so he told me he couldnt go to the hospital to see if i was okay. it was like he didn't care.so then after that on my birthday which was april 30th he said he had to tell me something very special well he didnt tell me on my birthday because hesaid he ran out of time so he took me to the movies and let me meet more of his family. then he was suppose to come to my house that sunday and tell me andhe didnt show up nor did he tell me. then his phone got turned off so i couldnt talk to him. he has wensday's and thursdays off from work well he came seen mewensday around 8 something then he said he would come thursday and he never did. and i had told him that the doctor said i couldnt have sex for awhile. because i had a bladder infection. so i made him wait 8 days more then i was suppose to. so last night i stayed with him at his house and he had sex and it was different.like he asked me if he wanted him to finish or stop and he asked me if i was okay. then he told me about him having sexual dreams. he didnt say who they were about or anything. is he cheating on me? and why do i feel like something is different between us? please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 I think there's too little evidence here to accuse him of cheating. He's a little oblivious to certain things but, I don't think you can yet accuse him to being disloyal.
I think you should tell him how you are feeling about everything. Don't make it sound like you're blaming him, just tell him about the things that have happened and how it makes you feel. This is a very important process you are going through and as a boyfriend, he needs to be there with you, be there for you.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 Hi
It sounds to me like your hormones are all over the place. And its no wonder you are feeling like this, I dont think he is cheating, I think his probally nervous about being a parent just as much as you are. Maybe he does have something he wants to say, but is worried it might excite you too much while your pregnant and has decided to wait. He seems like his very caring, he was asking if you wanted him to stop because you are pregnant and he dont want to hurt you or the baby, thats why his asking if your ok. stop worrying about what you think he might be up to, because I am sure his not up to anything other than wanting the best for you. Try some relaxing gentle exercise, or yoga to help you settle your hormones.Its natural for a pregnant women to panic like this, we have all been there, because we get this fear of being a single parent, when most of the time its just our minds playing tricks on us because of our hormones.
I hope this has helped
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