I'm so frustrated! I have no sex drive at all!
Q. I am so frustrated. I've been married for 13 years and have 4 children. I'm only 32, but hate sex and don't know why. I love my husband and we are very happy, but over the last year I have no sex drive at all. I have sex with him, just to make him ...
A. 18 April 2013: HI
Alot of women go through this and I can totally understand as I have been there. What your feeling ( I feel ) is you resent him because you are the wife, the mother, the cook, the cleaner, the ironer, and the sexual provider. So you feel you... (read in full...)
No Sex till after marriage this is my value
Q. I'm at university and I've decided I don't want to have sex before marriage, as I don't want to sleep with someone who isn't fully committed to me. I feel very strongly about this and I don't think I'd like to change it. I'm definitely not asexual ...
A. 16 April 2013: HI
I don't think it's unrealistic at all. And I admire you for sticking to your guns. I wish I had when I was younger. Although the down side to this is if you marry a guy you love everything about then realise he just don't do it for you in t... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend but now that we've had sex she has backed off. I don't know where I stand, its driving me crazy!
Q. Hi guys, I'm looking for some advice with love! I'm 25 and have had 3 serious relationships in my life, the longest being 4years the other 2 being just short of a year each. The latest girl I was with took me for a ride, she would abuse my good ...
A. 16 April 2013: HI Paul
If you feel that there is something there, and she wants to see if there is too just take things back a notch. Go out dating becasue YES you know her as a friend but you don't know her as a lover, so you need to take things slowly. ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend but now that we've had sex she has backed off. I don't know where I stand, its driving me crazy!
Q. Hi guys, I'm looking for some advice with love! I'm 25 and have had 3 serious relationships in my life, the longest being 4years the other 2 being just short of a year each. The latest girl I was with took me for a ride, she would abuse my good ...
A. 15 April 2013: HI Paul
I think deep down you know that that was the drink talking. If you really had any respect for this woman you would never have had sex with her whilst she was under the influence of drink. That being said yes she probally is ... (read in full...)
Sex with my boyfriend is bad and he didn't listen when I told him it wasn't nice!
Q. my "boy-friend" and i had sex for the first time yesterday. mind you, i told him i didn't want to have sex because i really liked him and wanted to really get to know him, but we did and thats fine, sex matters but its only a big deal when people ...
A. 15 April 2013: HI
Firstly if you were not ready you should not have just did it to make HIM happy, yes sex is important in a relationship but only when you are BOTH ready. And as for him being that terrible I would have just stopped and said unless your goi... (read in full...)
I don't like swinging but my husband doesn't want to quit
Q. My husband and I have been swinging for 3 years and I was never really interested in it to begin with.now when I tell him I dont want to do it anymore he says but we are having fun when in actuality its him having fun. He gets a little to flirty ...
A. 13 April 2013: HI
Well really you gave him the all clear to start with, and if it really was not for you why keep it going for 3 years? I know you will probally answer that with " I wanted to make my husband happy" BUT if he was not happy with just you and ... (read in full...)
GF was my Boss's mistress, and she never told anyone until the boss revealed it?
Q. please help me. i just found out my girlfriend with whom i have recently taken very seriously had an affair with my boss (while he was married. he is still married). she once told me the story of how they met and things that went on. To spare you ...
A. 13 April 2013: HI
What a nasty peice of work your boss is. Don't let him ruin your relationship to spare his ago. Sounds like he lured her into bed anyway, his a married man, If he wants to now start telling you all the nitty gritty details of what happened... (read in full...)
How can I rekindle the love we had?
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up for ten months after a ten month relationship. He was finalizing his divorce and making sure that it was over with his ex. We are now talking again and i would like to get things back, he is leary. He is coming arou...
A. 12 April 2013: HI
I would just stay the way you are at the moment, regardless of how and why he divorced, its will of bound to have had an effect on him. So going straight back into a relationship again would not be wise. I'm guessing he was having an af... (read in full...)
Sexual Abuse at 12 and now addicted to masturbation, help
Q. am a boy aged 19 and single.when i was 12.my brother took me to his friend.he was a man.when we get there.the man sent my brother to market.while i was in the house waiting for my brother.the man came closer to me and he took my hand into his ...
A. 11 April 2013: HI
I am so sorry you had to go through this, how terrble you have suffered this alone. That is an aresstable offence and child abuse. I would talk to the police and seek therapy with a counilor to overcome this . Please don't keep this to yours... (read in full...)
B/f says if I leave the country he'll break up with me
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years wants us to get married within a few months. I will be leaving the country in the next few months also but he told me that if i leave he will break up with me. I have been waiting for this opporunity to go overseas for a ...
A. 10 April 2013: HI
I can understand his lack of enthusiasm , he is going to miss you and don't know how to deal with it. Of course he loves you, but if he wants to keep you he needs to let you go and fullfill your dreams, as the saying goes if you love the... (read in full...)
I'm insulted that my ex said our time together was "nice"!
Q. My ex just said our time together was "nice" and I feel kind of insulted. I felt like replying, "and your love-making, sir, was perfectly adequate," but I'm just not that quick on my feet. Now that I've been downgraded, I can't stop thinkin...
A. 10 April 2013: HI
I would not take it to heart, some men have the most smallest of brains when it comes to matters of the heart. I doubt he meant it as it sounded, it's a good job you never replyed what you were thinking because it could have started a battle... (read in full...)
Brain wants sex.... Body doesn't?
Q. I tried to google it, but could only find information on the opposite... So now I'll just ask you guys and hope I figure this out. I've noticed that recently I've been thinking a lot about sex, and I can't wait till I can see my boyfriend (We ...
A. 10 April 2013: HI
Firstly may I ask why you only see eachother every other fortnight? as this is enough to make anyones sex life to take a nose dive. this could be a case of knowing its to meet up for sex therefore the spark goes out the window. Where is the ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me that I didn't want to hear anything about my ex? I'm happily married
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been happily married for the past six months. A couple of years ago I broke up with my ex of 6 years after meeting my current husband. It wasn't a good breakup, but I started it and I am so very happy I did it, so happy about my...
A. 9 April 2013: HI
I think you have unresolved issues with the breakup if Im honest. If you really was NOT interested in his life it would not have bothered you in the slightest what your friend had to say. Also as your happy with your new husband maybe yo... (read in full...)
Any tips for dating single fathers?
Q. Hi. I've started dating an older single dad; I'm 25 and he's 35. He's got 3 kids and they seem to like me so far, and they're great kids. Just really want to know if anyone has any tips for dating single dads. I really do like him and do want thi...
A. 29 March 2013: Hi
Just be sure that it's a relationship with you he wants and not an instant childminder, Other than that yes it can be hard at first, as my ex husband moved on very quickly when we broke up , got a new girlfriend and now has another child wi... (read in full...)
I keep pushing men away. I don't know why!
Q. Hello! Please help me. I keep pushing men away. I don't know why.... It's stressing me out. Every guy I meet I look for reasons why they are not right. I date them but don't let myself sleep with them. I constantly look for reasons why they are not ...
A. 27 March 2013: HI
I think your kidding yourself....your scared of loosing your virginity so keep finding an excuse more like. You really have to break through this barrier before you end up on the shelf which I know you don't want. Easier said then done eh?... (read in full...)
Had a steamy text conversation with my ex-boyfriend's brother. Should I let my guilt win? Or could I take this further?
Q. I've recently had very steamy text phone calls with my ex boyfriend's brother. We have liked each other forever. I want to act on it. But guilt makes us stop. I truly believe he could be everything I've been looking for. Should I move on? Stop dre...
A. 26 March 2013: I think it would be wrong to go with your ex's brother and selfish on both parts. this could cause a family to have nasty arguments and cause a rift between them. if it's raunchy txts you want text a hot line and leave this guy well alone. there ... (read in full...)
Is my 16 year old boyfriend too young to have sex with me?
Q. I'm 19 nearly 20 and my boyfriend is 16 we both are so much in love and we wanna have sex but I'm scared if he's too young for that and if its illegal or something might go wrong. I don't wanna be in trouble....
A. 23 March 2013: HI
It;s different in other countrys....Over in England it's legal HOWEVER I still think it's too young. His barely out of nappies ( in boy years ) lol but only you can know what's right for you. if it's legal in your country then it's up... (read in full...)
Is a 17 month relationship too early to be thinking about babies?
Q. Hey everyone, So this basically is a question to ask your view on the situation I am in right now, I am a 23 year old woman and my partner of 17 months is a 26 year old man, the past few weeks we have discussed having a child, please do not think th...
A. 23 March 2013: HI
If I could turn back the clock I would of had my children at the time when right ie married / house/ then baby.... but I was young and foolish. I had the kids, then got my own place then got married.....I think it is VERY much too soon. Yo... (read in full...)
My parents seem to intensely dislike my wife. My wife does have some "issues". How can I make things better for all?
Q. Hi, My father and mother are not showing affection on myself since my marriage. They have misunderstanding with my wife in the years since my marriage Maybe a decade. I could not feel peaceful since I feel like my parents are against me and t...
A. 23 March 2013: HI
I understand your frustration, but I can also see why your parents are not happy either. They raised you, gave you everything you needed in life, but you chose a spoiled woman to be your wife and forgot your parents respect. It seems no one i... (read in full...)
Most of the relationship is great, but ...
Q. Hi folks. I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and half. She's the best girlfriend I've ever had. She's above average in her looks, career, spirituality, fitness... you name it. But I've got a few concerns: 1) Sex. I've had sex with 3 ot...
A. 22 March 2013: Markymark is spot on!!!
you do sound arrogant here weather you mean to be or not. If you expect 100% you need to give 100%. She propbablly senses your attitude towards her and is quite likely to walk soon, then you will have your chance to find ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want anal sex with my wife?
Q. Is it normal to want anal sex with my wife, she's got a lovely arse and she's the only person I want it with, we have been together for 20 + years and have a fantastic sex life, I'm just wondering if my penis would be too big for her, it's 6 ins but ...
A. 22 March 2013: HI
I'm guessing this has never happened in your relationship before, which leads me to believe your wife wouldn't see it as normal. However if you have spoken to your wife about it and she is willing to try, then I suggest using a small se... (read in full...)
I like a girl who's been through alot. Will she ever trust me?
Q. I just turned sixteen a month ago and started voluntary work around the same time once a week during term time only. I met this girl who has been a volunteer there for about 6 months or so and shes seventeen and a half. We only really have half an ...
A. 19 March 2013: HI Just be there for her, the longer you hang out with her, the more she will get to see how you have changed, let it blossom in its own time , don't rush it you have all the time in the world. And when she feels comfortable enough and ready... (read in full...)
What is the difference between loving and being in love?
Q. I am curious to have others view on this. What is the difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone? ...
A. 19 March 2013: HI Well we LOVE our family and freinds, and we can love certain places or food etc etc but when you meet your soul mate your IN LOVE, mind body and soul, you make love, you think, breath everything that person your with. But thats just my op... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but find myself falling in love with others
Q. This is the most difficult question I have ever had to ask. I believe I will be judged, harshly, but I do hope someone will understand and help me. I am 29 and engaged to a very nice man. My problem is that I keep falling in love at regular inter...
A. 18 March 2013: HI
Well you recognise where your going wrong so this is a good start . One way of keeping the relationship burning is seeing eachother once a week to start off with, this way you have time to miss eachother, so when you meet up the passon i... (read in full...)
How can I learn how to control my anger that turns in to grudges !
Q. Dear Cupid. I have five siblings I am the second oldest girl my mom had three girls,two boys.For some apparent reason the youngest girl and I just never could meet eye to eye even when we were kids I was older and she was the baby. I truly hated her ...
A. 18 March 2013: HI
Firstly is your mum suffering with irritable bowel syndrome? because there are lots of things now that can help with this......as sometimes Dr's get it wrong.
You will get past this with your sister, your both at an age were being stuborn co... (read in full...)
I need to protect my child from the stranger that is her father. Advice?
Q. Had a one night stand with complete stranger five years ago. That night resulted in a baby. I informed the guy i was pregnant but he cut all contact with me. Now i knew his name, address, where he worked and stuff about his life because there was a ...
A. 18 March 2013: HI
Although it will be hard he has every right to see his daughter regardless of how it all happened, and unless you can proove he is unsafe to be around your daughter if the time comes there is little you can do if he wants visitation rights. ... (read in full...)
LDR "boyfriend" has changed his mind and says he doesn't want to talk as much as he did?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and this guy are sort of in an LDR thing. We met in December and swapped numbers (we met in person) but I was visiting a friend 100 miles away and that's where I met the guy and he is coming to visit me in my town in a few weeks t...
A. 16 March 2013: Your welcome x
Mandy x... (read in full...)
LDR "boyfriend" has changed his mind and says he doesn't want to talk as much as he did?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and this guy are sort of in an LDR thing. We met in December and swapped numbers (we met in person) but I was visiting a friend 100 miles away and that's where I met the guy and he is coming to visit me in my town in a few weeks t...
A. 15 March 2013: Just remember guys don't do the phone thing all the time,and not overly talkative on the phone. yeah just sit back a bit and let him come to you, if you don't hear from him in ..lets say a week ( of nothing ) then would go your seperate ways.
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My ex tells people that we were just friends and not in a relationship but we were!
Q. I was in a realtionship for 8months we broke up about 1 1/2 month ago. 3 days later he was talking to someone else I just wonder sometimes did he care for me the way that he said he did. Its just strange how peole ask him about me and he say that we ...
A. 14 March 2013: HI
Sounds like a jerk....but don't waste your breath or energy for one more second on him. Find yourself someone who will show you love and respect not use you untill something better came along. Sadly some people get off on using others b... (read in full...)
Is it selfish to remain single for life and not believe in love?
Q. I'm a 20 year old female who has resorted to wanting to remain a virgin and stay single for life. Although I've never been in a relationship, they just do not appeal to me. Because of my slight insecurities with myself (naturally lanky, no curves ...
A. 14 March 2013: HI
Your not selfish for wanting to be along, but I think you will regret it one day that you never gave love a chance. When we get ourself in such a habbit it can be scarey to have change, by the sounds of things you have not been shown much love... (read in full...)
A troubled relationship, I"m pregnant and scared. What do I do?
Q. In this moment I'm very depressed 5 month pregnant and I don't know what can I do....I move from uk in Italy at my Italian boyfriend left everything there and come here, we try from last august for a baby and in November I felt pregnant we were ...
A. 14 March 2013: HI
It's time to suck up that pride and go to your family. He seems unstable, they will be there for you and your baby. He may be stressed out with everything guys get scared too when becoming a father but this is a bit more than that. Take tim... (read in full...)
LDR "boyfriend" has changed his mind and says he doesn't want to talk as much as he did?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and this guy are sort of in an LDR thing. We met in December and swapped numbers (we met in person) but I was visiting a friend 100 miles away and that's where I met the guy and he is coming to visit me in my town in a few weeks t...
A. 14 March 2013: HI
He maybe be talking to other people for different conversation. TBH I wouldn't want to speak to the same person day in day out, I like to have different conversations with different people, it's Good to keep the mind exercised so to speak. T... (read in full...)
Need to get back into the game after a long dry spell
Q. Dear all, I guess I am going through some sort of emotional crisis lately. I am 29 and have been single for 3 years now. Basically, I have only had one single long-term relationship in my life, which lasted for 3 years. Breaking up with my ex wa...
A. 14 March 2013: PS
one other asks this.......
GUYS: what do you think of a girl that's been single for 2 years?
I've been single for 2years now and I don't feel like been with anyone.
Guys tell me I'm cute and sexy and they wanna g... (read in full...)
Need to get back into the game after a long dry spell
Q. Dear all, I guess I am going through some sort of emotional crisis lately. I am 29 and have been single for 3 years now. Basically, I have only had one single long-term relationship in my life, which lasted for 3 years. Breaking up with my ex wa...
A. 14 March 2013: HI
Yeah t can be quite frustrating when you see guys treating women like meat and they seem to respond to it. These type of women usually are self concious and lack self esteem. You seem like one of the good guys and have morals, which is a rar... (read in full...)
My wife is not responding sexually to me and her boss has been trying it on her.
Q. A little background. My wife and I have been together for over 8 years now and our relationship is a very good one! We do a lot together and have loads of fun together. Recently our sex life has dwindled down to once every 3 weeks to a month. It ...
A. 13 March 2013: HI
I understand your frustration here, If I were you I would just tell her how you are feeling, and that you have seen the phone bill which leads you to feel a little tense, especially as your sexlife has taken a nose dive. I don't think ... (read in full...)
Are there guys that wait till marriage?
Q. Are there virgin guys out there that want to wait till marriage with someone they really love? I feel very disappointed and alone when all I see is jerky guys and pregnant teens. People are so slutty and cold hearted these days. ...
A. 13 March 2013: HI Unfortunately this is what the world has come to due to parental rights being changed ( thats another story lol ). YES there are still guys out there that want to wait for marriage first. not all guys are jerks, you just have to stand yo... (read in full...)
I cheated, got back together with boyfriend. Does he need to know if I had used condoms?
Q. I recently got back together with my ex-boyfriend. We both realized that we loved each other and after trying to date other people we decided to give it another shot. The first time we broke up was because I had cheated on him, so he has been trying ...
A. 13 March 2013: yes of course it is, if you intend to have sex with him he needs to know anything which involves unprotected sex. If you pass anything on to him it wont be a surprise if he hits the roof . I would never have unprotected sex unless married myself. ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that this cashier likes me?
Q. i am a female also......if a woman made a special effort to do a complete 360 turn around while she was busy with customers just to say hi to you and give you the biggest cheesest smile showing all 32 teeth, how would take that? friendly aka doing ...
A. 13 March 2013: HI Seems to me she was just being friendly but see by the look on your face you took it for something else, which is why she is not so smiley today.......however if thats not the case then just wait it out, you don't want to scare her off. ... (read in full...)
My wife is happier than she has been in years. But does her (male) co-worker need to be soooooo close to my wife? I don't know what to do.
Q. About a year ago my wife was disheartened because all her friends we're either pregnant or had kids and we we're not ready yet. She sort of had a mid-life crisis and befriended a co-worker who could talk to her. Since then they have become really c...
A. 13 March 2013: HI Im sorry but your wife is taking you for granted. Letting him stay over your house..bringing a toothbrush....they are both taking you for a mug. I would tell her to end this ridiculas behaviour she is your WIFE not a friend who sits on the ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him? He tried to force himself on me, but I refused. Does he love me or is he just interested in sex?
Q. I'm 22 plus my boyfriend is 27plus we had been dating getting to 4 years now we both love each other but now I can't tell if he still loves me. Any time I pay him visit now he does things that I felt are not right for us. Now like touching my...
A. 13 March 2013: HI Don't worry about how he will feel worry about your saftey. This would be classed as attempted rape. Stay away from him, and if he trys to make contact again tell him you will inform the police if he comes near you again. He is not a man ... (read in full...)
Is she scared or leading me on?
Q. We love each other very much....we have known each other for 9 years ....the first time I was not aware she liked me but finally I got to like her .....I left for university, though she was still in high school she is the one who tried the most to ...
A. 13 March 2013: Because she obviously values you as a very close friend, many girls are like this with there friends, holding hands, sharing the same bed, some even kiss eachother on the lips it don't mean she wants to take this further, you need to except this and ... (read in full...)
LDR "boyfriend" has changed his mind and says he doesn't want to talk as much as he did?
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and this guy are sort of in an LDR thing. We met in December and swapped numbers (we met in person) but I was visiting a friend 100 miles away and that's where I met the guy and he is coming to visit me in my town in a few weeks t...
A. 13 March 2013: HI
I can understand where your coming from, to be one way for 3 months then change from nowhere would piss me off to be honest, a week maybe two yeah fine, but 3 months!!! it sounds like his bored now and probablly realises that a LDR will be ... (read in full...)
Is she scared or leading me on?
Q. We love each other very much....we have known each other for 9 years ....the first time I was not aware she liked me but finally I got to like her .....I left for university, though she was still in high school she is the one who tried the most to ...
A. 12 March 2013: HI
I think she is just trying not to hurt your feelings. She is with her boyfriend and has made it clear she is not a lesbian, or wants to find out . I would let it be and find someone who is interested in you.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but find myself falling in love with others
Q. This is the most difficult question I have ever had to ask. I believe I will be judged, harshly, but I do hope someone will understand and help me. I am 29 and engaged to a very nice man. My problem is that I keep falling in love at regular inter...
A. 10 March 2013: HI
I think the problem here is that your very insecure and crave attention. When you first meet and fall inlove with someone it's new and fresh, exciting, when things get into a routine the fun sizzles down and you feel like the passion has ... (read in full...)
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