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Whose move next?

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Question - (26 May 2014) 7 Answers - (Newest, 27 May 2014)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

A man I like, whom I met several months ago and have bumped into a couple of times asked for my number when we randomly saw each other one evening a few weeks ago. I had a missed call 2 weeks ago and I sent a text back to say I saw the missed call and hope he's well. Then I didn't hear back. Yesterday morning he phoned up saying he was in the area and asked if I wanted to meet up for coffee. I was busy with a garden party but invited him along and he said he couldn't make it. We had a nice chat and I said I had to go to prepare the garden etc.

Now what? Wait for next contact from him? Invite him along to an evening out? He's someone I'd be interested in getting to know more...

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (27 May 2014):

Honeypie agony auntI'd just call him.

It was nice of you to invite him (to the garden party) and it was right for him to decline.

As a rule of thumb (if you NEED rules) is to not ALWAYS drop everything to see a guy. So if you CALL him you two can perhaps PLAN a date (even if it's just coffee).

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A female reader, Got Issues United Kingdom +, writes (26 May 2014):

Got Issues agony auntMake the next move, it's your turn. Sounds like he's interested so he will probably be happy to hear from you.

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A female reader, cca9130 Costa Rica +, writes (26 May 2014):

Yeah, i would take the upper hand too and call him and arrange something....though i would like to add that if a guy really likes you, he contacts you even more so he can get to know you better, or he might just be looking for a one night stand. I would give him a call, but be aware of his decisions to meet up, or he'll take advantage of the fact that you like him a lot

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A male reader, Mark1978 United Kingdom +, writes (26 May 2014):

Mark1978 agony auntgive him a call, arrange something and take it from there. Strike while the iron is hot as they say, you may be waiting for him to make a move, while he does the same.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (26 May 2014):

I wouldn't worry too much about rules, I'd start pursuing what I want.

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (26 May 2014):

I'd say it's obvious he's interested, so it doesn't matter either way. Go ahead and invite him for coffee or a drink, and if he can't make it that time, then it is time to wait and see.

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A male reader, tenfold Australia +, writes (26 May 2014):

Its pretty simple. Let him be the gentlemen. A Man should make the move. If he doesn't, i think he give up easily and one who give up easily is not worth your time.

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