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Would it be bad to tell my girlfriend I want to spend time with my friends?

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Question - (31 May 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 2 June 2014)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Is it bad to tell girlfriend I want to go meet some friends for an hour or two. Once she comes to my house she doesn't leave till weekend finishes. I can't get rid of her because she doesn't see me all week. Sounds bad but I'm a guy I like to do things she doesn't like like gym or football.

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A male reader, methuselah United Kingdom +, writes (2 June 2014):

Hi,

I think we all like to have our choices and options. If every one of your weekends is booked with your girlfriend then it is quite understandable that you would want to meet up with friends some weekends. I'm married and we still have our own time, I spend the odd Saturday and Saturday night with my nephew and niece and brother, my wife spends certain weekends with her daughter. It works for us.

For you, you will need to have a really friendly conversation with your girlfriend about this. She may be understanding. However, if she gets angry or is not happy, then please look at this as a glimpse as to life in the future. Thanks.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (2 June 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony aunt"I can't get rid of her"

are you sure you care enough about her?

maybe it's the way you phrased it....

but if she shows up on friday and just stays till sunday....

are you guys Long distance or is she just making assumptions that you want her 24/7 all weekend every weekend?

How about saying to her TODAY... "gf this coming weekend from 2-5 I am going to play football with the guys" and see what she says....

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (1 June 2014):

Ciar agony auntNot bad at all. This isn't a guy thing. Most people need personal space, time to be alone or to catch up with other friends.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (1 June 2014):

Of course it's not bad. Tell her that you'd love to see her more, but sometimes you need to do your own thing on the weekend.

If you don't learn to express your wants and needs you're going to get walked all over.

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (1 June 2014):

oldbag agony auntIf you want to 'get rid of her' for a couple of hours when you only see her weekends anyway, then this relationships not good.

Its natural you want to see your friends, do your stuff and maybe 'get rid of her' was a bad choice of phrase. If you don't want her there all weekend, then say so, say you need some space, suggest she sees her friends on a Friday night and Saturday day and meet up Saturday night.

I don't know why you are apart in the week?

It does sound like it's time to let go before you resent her even more though - for both your sakes. Or find a compromise that suits you BOTH.

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