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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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Big decision, do I sell my soul?
Q. im 21 years old and have found myself in a really terrible financial situation. I don't feel like explaining the whole story but I made some bad choices on who to trust. The only immediate job that is paying good is doing massages. Call me naive but ...
A. 25 January 2011: You should not have to do something you are this uncomfortable with. Were it anything else, I would advise you to take the job but, it is not so simple. I strongly suggest you keep applying for other jobs and persevere. I have been through this ... (read in full...)
He impulsively dumps his girlfriends, how can I be sure he'll stay with me?
Q. Last night my boyfriend said he's been really down lately but it's not because of me. A little later he said he just needed to remind himself how good he's got it and he'll be ok in a few days. The night before last he told me he never wanted to let ...
A. 25 January 2011: It seems that he leaves those girlfriends because the whole 'relationship' was based more on lust than anything else which explains why it lasted such a short time. If you really have something more between you, he should not have to consciously ... (read in full...)
Her family situation has made her push me away. I'm heartbroken!
Q. Alright, it's somewhat of a long story here so bear with me. Before I begin, my last ex cheated on me with a buddy of mine in my own bed, at which point I was in the living room during the party and heard everything. She walked out of my room, ...
A. 25 January 2011: You cannot do anything right now. You have to be patient and give her time to sort things out. Family issues will always have a troublesome hold on an individual so give her more time before you talk to her again, a month or two but, when you do, ... (read in full...)
I don't think my wife is in love with me any more. What are my options?
Q. My wife is not in love with me.She says she is but she always putting me down.I'm a pretty laid back person and now i'm tired of it...
A. 24 January 2011: Is this a recent development or was this always how things were? If it was something that just suddenly happened recently, it does not mean she has fallen out of love with you, she could just be stressed somehow and she might just be venting.
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I feel helpless and paralized by fear that all good things in my life will come to an end very soon...
Q. I know this is weird, but it's my weird thing. Whenever I feel happy in a relationship; things are going well at my job, I'm healthy; everything feels wonderful I always get bombarded with horrible negative thoughts; like I'm going to die young, or ...
A. 24 January 2011: I think a part of this is paranoia but, for the most part, you have every reason to be cautious for your husband.
Your husband is really the only thing you have to worry about. Everything else you can forget. When you are happy, of course y... (read in full...)
Scared of marriage...?
Q. I'm kinda scared of actually getting married. All of these stories on here about one partner cheating on another, or leaving because of unhappy marriage, etc etc. Is there such thing as a happy marriage? I know I am only 18, and believe me, I...
A. 24 January 2011: Of course there is such a thing as a happy marriage. You just have to find the right person and be cautious of WHEN you get married. People often get married too quickly, sometimes after about 2 or 3 years, sometimes after only a month! Far too ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best mate I'm sleeping with her sister?
Q. im 19 and every satday for the past 12 years i have spent the day and sometimes nights at my best m8s shes 19. about a mounth ago i was stoping over and it was late and i couldnt sleep so i when down stirs to get a drink of water, her younger sist...
A. 23 January 2011: It is up to your best friend's sister. If she wishes to keep this from her own sister, that is her choice, not yours, no matter how close you two are as friends. If you feel so terrible about it, what you can do is stop it from happening again. That ... (read in full...)
My best friend is in love with my boyfriend!
Q. my best friend is in love with my BF and i dont know what to do i really love him and every time we go out one of my BFFs start to like him i dont know what to do, my heart is breaking and i dont want to lose anyone ...
A. 22 January 2011: You do not have to lose anyone. If your best friend is truly a friend, if she is a good friend, she will not act on her feelings for your boyfriend. You do not have to lose anyone unless they are not worth your time and care. Are you certain she is ... (read in full...)
Do I end it with my gf and also hurt my two children? or end it with the girl I feel is my soul mate?
Q. Hello wise people, I did something I thought I would never do. I had an affair. Now before anyone goes tut, that was me, before it happened. I met this amazing girl at my girlfriend's work. We clicked from day one and it was at first, just the ...
A. 22 January 2011: It is difficult, near impossible in fact to resolve this without someone getting hurt. It is good that you have confessed to your girlfriend, that was a step in the right direction.
Staying for your children will do little to help them, your rel... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about the baby?
Q. My ex boyfriend was married and i finished it for that reason, i was just lonely after my husband died, i have now met somebody that is single and we have been going out for 5 months and i decided not to tell him about my married ex boyfriend, we ...
A. 20 January 2011: I think you should tell him. If it is his child, whether he will accept it or not, he needs to know. I also think you should explain to him why you did what you did, why you ended things with your ex boyfriend, ask him to listen until you have ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to judge a good relationship anymore. What do I do?
Q. Hey. I am a single mom and so choosing someone to be with is a very important decision. I am not sure if I am making the right one. I am with a man now who is older than me, but not unreasonably so. He is experienced and knows how to liv...
A. 20 January 2011: Whatever your choice, you cannot let this man back in. You claim he can do anything, that he knows how to treat a woman and a kid. Clearly you have been blinded by his irrational behavior. This is no way to treat a woman and child. In anger, when ... (read in full...)
Please help me out of this mess!
Q. So ive been going out with a guy i met a few months back, we met for about a month and decided to start our relationship and things were going okay. Hes everything i could want in a guy and i was and still am absolutely smitten! I honestly fell for ...
A. 19 January 2011: You need to get help, professional help so you can deal with what happened to you once and for all. Whatever happens with this man, you can control how intimate you are with each other. He has to know that you just are not ready to have sex, but ... (read in full...)
When do age differences stop being an issue?
Q. ok i need something figured out, i know that a age difference isnt the greatest in dating and if theres even a 1 year age difference in your teens everyone goes insane. but if your in your 20's 30's 40's all of a sudden there could be a 20 year ...
A. 18 January 2011: It is not completely about age. It is true when people say "age is just a number" but it is what most people use to measure the maturity of someone. Personally I fail to see the problem with a 16 year old dating a 17 year old if they are both mature ... (read in full...)
I definitely think she is "the one"...but I still really want to cheat on her
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and we were best friends for almost 3 years. I am madly in love with her and I am pretty sure she is madly in love with me. I definitely think she is "the one"... However, recently...
A. 18 January 2011: If you were madly in love with her, you would be doing everything to fight this urge to cheat on her. Just fight it and let those thoughts fade like any other lustful urge. If you wish to sleep with other people, break up with her. That is the most ... (read in full...)
Tired of her lies!
Q. Ok, so I currently have a girlfriend but she's been telling me lies for awhile, and to make matters worse my ex comes into the picture and tells me that she still likes me and wants to get back together, so this puts me in a tight spot, I still have ...
A. 17 January 2011: That depends on how strongly you feel about either of them when the time comes to decide. If you are adamant about joining the marines then you can join them and you can only ask that your girlfriend (whoever that may be at the time) support you. If ... (read in full...)
Why was he holding his daughter's hand like he was?
Q. Is this weird or not?? Whilst driving my partner of 18 months reached across to the back of the car to hold his 12 year old daughters hand. He held it for 10 minutes. She has not been upset or anything -just sitting there.I felt uncomfortable as I ...
A. 17 January 2011: That depends on how he looks at his little girl. He could just hold her hand because he thinks she looks adorable. I squeeze my baby sister's cheeks, we hug each other, that does not mean anything other than she is my little sister and she is ... (read in full...)
Tired of her lies!
Q. Ok, so I currently have a girlfriend but she's been telling me lies for awhile, and to make matters worse my ex comes into the picture and tells me that she still likes me and wants to get back together, so this puts me in a tight spot, I still have ...
A. 17 January 2011: She should not be devastated. She should have expected this after lying to you so many times. The truth is, there is no easy way to break up with someone, be honest with her at least and tell her that her you cannot allow yourself to be tormented by ... (read in full...)
I don't cook and bf said no one will want me even he is verbally abusive to me.
Q. I don't cook and my boyfriend hates it. He said he will eventually leave me because I am not good at cooking and housework. He said no one will want me. His ex cooks very well, but then he has issues with her character or looks. I feel so tired and ...
A. 17 January 2011: He is wrong. You think just because you cannot cook or you are not especially good at other housework, nobody will ever want you? You are so very wrong. There is so much more to a relationship and you as a person than what you can do at home. You ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my girlfriend's mom
Q. i am attracted to my girlfriends mom,anytime i come over she talks to me like im her friend/boyfriend, and tries to hug me anytime she can(not over the top though), i mean like a loving hug not a crappy 1 second one. its a fantasy to have my ...
A. 17 January 2011: What does it matter whether or not she is 'into' you? You have a girlfriend! Right now you seem as though you are contemplating cheating on your girlfriend with her own mother! Have the decency to at least realize that this is lust and no good can ... (read in full...)
Why do people cheat even when they're supposedly in love?
Q. I was watching a movie the other night [Swimfan] and there was a guy in the movie who really loved his girlfriend. Then a new girl moved to their school and she and the guy started talking... then they went out to eat one night, and later that night ...
A. 17 January 2011: That is a common fear and quite understandable in this day and age. It is disturbing that so many people do cheat on their supposed partner. Much of it is because of the physical aspect of relationships. Men and women tend to pursue the person who ... (read in full...)
Is there a future with my meth addict boyfriend?
Q. Should I leave my meth addict partner? I am 23 years old and I have been with my 27 year old boyfriend for six years now. We have had a very rocky relationship and have been through a lot together. He cheated on me a year into our relationship...
A. 17 January 2011: If he is serious about quitting, he will get help. This is the patterns addicts have, they promise they will quite, they promise their loved ones, they promise themselves and they may try their hardest to keep that promise, it will take all their ... (read in full...)
I cheated, should I let my wife cheat now?
Q. i have cheated on my wife now iam wondering if i should let her be with another man so she can feel even ...
A. 17 January 2011: If you both slept with other people in this marriage, that does not mean you two are even with each other, it only serves to tear this marriage apart even more. If she feels she wants to sleep with other men, then I suggest you get a divorce and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is incredibly pretty and I am worried about her cheating when she goes away to college.....
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for over a year now. we started dating in high school and now i am at a local university, she wants to go to a different province for school. anyway, my gf is really god looking, brown hair, hazel eyes, to make ...
A. 14 January 2011: It is easy to cheat for everyone, do you trust her enough to stay with her now? If not, I think it is best if you break up. Her physical appearance has nothing to do with this. It is all about character. Is she the type of girl to do those things or ... (read in full...)
I've spent my whole life protecting myself from potential danger...and now I have someone that wants to love me but I won't let them.
Q. I've been through alot in my life. I was born with a leg deformity, which i've fully corrected through several surgeries. Because of it, especially in my childhood I was teased, bullied and also starred at alot because of the problem I had. I was ...
A. 14 January 2011: If anyone at all tried to compress their emotions it will only become more and more difficult. Someone who tries to suppress anger will eventually hurt someone in an explosive rage that they have no chance of controlling. Someone who tries to ... (read in full...)
I've spent my whole life protecting myself from potential danger...and now I have someone that wants to love me but I won't let them.
Q. I've been through alot in my life. I was born with a leg deformity, which i've fully corrected through several surgeries. Because of it, especially in my childhood I was teased, bullied and also starred at alot because of the problem I had. I was ...
A. 13 January 2011: Might I also suggest seeking professional help to help you deal with your past? It will help to make things easier for you.... (read in full...)
I've spent my whole life protecting myself from potential danger...and now I have someone that wants to love me but I won't let them.
Q. I've been through alot in my life. I was born with a leg deformity, which i've fully corrected through several surgeries. Because of it, especially in my childhood I was teased, bullied and also starred at alot because of the problem I had. I was ...
A. 13 January 2011: It is understandable that you would feel this way but realize that whatever happened in the past is staying in the past. You are not the same girl everyone made fun of, you are not the same girl that everyone stared at. Years ago everyone else was ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to judge a good relationship anymore. What do I do?
Q. Hey. I am a single mom and so choosing someone to be with is a very important decision. I am not sure if I am making the right one. I am with a man now who is older than me, but not unreasonably so. He is experienced and knows how to liv...
A. 13 January 2011: You are a mother and a young one at that so this sort of internal conflict of interests is natural and expected. What you need to think about is whether or not your current boyfriend is willing to change how he is at times. Perhaps he can change the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go to high school with no friends, no boyfriend, and no chance of ever finding one.
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 14 years old, and im ugly. I have bushy eyebrows, a uni-brow, im as white as all getout, and my hair is super thick. I hang out with all the pretty girls at school because of the sport i play, but no guy has ever liked me. I feel l...
A. 13 January 2011: It is something you have to face no matter what. Go through school, for now, tolerate their nonsensical words and succeed in whatever you can. Everyone at that age is more or less immature and EVERYONE is more or less insecure about themselves. Your ... (read in full...)
Do I stay the course?
Q. I am 17 and have been with my girlfriend for about 14 months. She's my first girlfriend and even though I know it probably won't last on acount of that, I love her. But I feel down about our intamacy. As of now she's willing to rub me a bit dow...
A. 11 January 2011: Is she a virgin? If she is, that is probably why she feels so uncomfortable, she has to actually get to know what she likes or dislikes. Be patient, be respectful of how she feels about it. The disgust she felt when talking about threesomes may not ... (read in full...)
How can I get him to stop calling me that nickname?
Q. My boyfriend has recently started using the same nickname I used to call my ex when we were going out. My ex and I ended on extremely bad terms so it's really weird to hear that nickname used towards ME and be reminded of him. Is there any way I can ...
A. 11 January 2011: If you simply tell him that you are not too fond of that nickname, he should stop, reason or no, he should find that there is no point in giving a girlfriend a nickname she hates. If he asks and is adamant in finding the reason why, just tell him ... (read in full...)
Aren't I a bit old to be questioning my orientation?
Q. Hey there, Been reading here for a while and I feel you could really help me out here. Well, I'm 19 and I've been feeling well different to my 'usual' self now for about 6 months now. I know what your all thinking, 'your 19, you should know by n...
A. 11 January 2011: The whole femininity that seems to come attached to homosexuality is an absolute stereotype. You could be the most masculine person on earth and still be homosexual. If you need to, tell someone you truly trust, not someone who you know will ... (read in full...)
Should I just leave be or what?
Q. Just some advice, I was friends with this girl really really close friends for a year in college and then we sort of lost touch because she stayed back a year in college and i went ahead so she made new friends etc and we drifted apart. As far am i ...
A. 10 January 2011: It should not be weird to say "hi" to someone you used to be good friends with. After all, nothing really tore you apart, there was no real negativity was there? Just talk to her and ask her how she has been. She might question why you have just ... (read in full...)
Does love exist without sex?
Q. Do you think love can exist without sex??..How can people be together 2-3 days out of a 7day wk without having sex when the see one another? This seems strange to me, but at the same time i think it's because im not use to it....
A. 10 January 2011: Real love thrives on its own without sex. If sex is needed, it is not love. You need to know what it feels like so for 2 weeks, do not have sex. If through those two weeks you feel nothing towards your partner, you need to get out of that ... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to ruin what I have with my boyfriend!
Q. My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago, we were together for a year, the relationship was tough, we were on and off and finally we both got sick of it called it quits. I've moved on now, I know im not completely over it but i'm fine. He on the ...
A. 10 January 2011: You and your boyfriend have to ignore him. If he is trying to ignite even the faintest flame of doubt, you cannot let him succeed and to do that you have to let your boyfriend know what is happening so he can ignore your ex. The moment you hear his ... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to ruin what I have with my boyfriend!
Q. My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago, we were together for a year, the relationship was tough, we were on and off and finally we both got sick of it called it quits. I've moved on now, I know im not completely over it but i'm fine. He on the ...
A. 10 January 2011: You and your boyfriend have to ignore him. If he is trying to ignite even the faintest flame of doubt, you cannot let him succeed and to do that you have to let your boyfriend know what is happening so he can ignore your ex. The moment you hear his ... (read in full...)
My mother said I was a disappointment to her... on my birthday too!
Q. Hi, my name's Clare and it's my 18th birthday today. I suffer with severe depression, diagnosed 4 years ago. A lot of stuff has happened in my life to cause me to be down (I won't go into it), but recently I've been happy. I started a music ...
A. 10 January 2011: I am sure that is her depression speaking its demented words through her mouth and nothing more. You know in your heart that she is wrong to feel any sort of disappointment and I am almost certain that that is not how she truly feels, she knows you ... (read in full...)
I wonder if actions speak louder than words?
Q. Lemme start off by saying I'm not trying to sound selfish or spoiled or anything alone those lines. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months and I love him very much. He says he loves me but sometimes I wonder if actions so speak louder than words. ...
A. 10 January 2011: Actions do speak louder than words but, what if he just is not particularly good at taking action? Why not talk to him about it, suggest a place to go, just subtly let him know that you do like going to special places and that the occasional gift ... (read in full...)
If I can't change who I am attracted to should I just accept loneliness?
Q. I have never expressed these feelings before to anyone; I am not looking for a pity party. I'm just looking for feedback. This is making me more depressed than I already am. I've been told countless times to date within my league. I've been told t...
A. 10 January 2011: That is perfectly normal, there is a reason why a specific type of man is considered 'attractive', so finding them attractive does not make you shallow. You, like thousands of others want someone who is beautiful, inside and out. It is indeed what ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to date my step brother?
Q. Is it wrong to date my step brother? Im 14 an my step bro is 13 an he is really cute an i really like him. I mean he flirts with me all the time. I dont know what to do?!...
A. 10 January 2011: Whilst much of this is not wrong, you have to think about the consequences. Your parents are married, would they approve of such a thing? You cannot help what you feel, just make sure you are not risking this family for something born from lust ... (read in full...)
Do I really like her for who she really is?
Q. right, ive been with a girl for nearly 6 months now. we're both 17, she's 4 months older than me, and we go to the same school though she is in the year above. The way we started going out is a bit strange really, she just started talking to me ...
A. 9 January 2011: This is not a matter of maturity, there are a lot of older, more mature people who find themselves in similar predicaments.
When you think of her in a non-sexual manner, do you feel anything at all? Try and test yourself, you did find that you... (read in full...)
Am I addicted to him or is it me who is wrong?
Q. Sorry, but this is a long rant because I am exasperated by my relationship. To put it into context, I was brought up in an abusive family situation which involved, along with many other negatives, my mother being extremely emotionally neglectful ...
A. 9 January 2011: Not for one second you should you spare any such sympathy. If he does this to you simply because he cannot be more dominant, that is immaturity and we should not look upon immaturity with sympathy. You have all the right in the world to be ... (read in full...)
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