Should I move back home or stay with my boyfriend?
Q. Hey :) I moved away from home 4.5 years ago to come to uni. Although i finished uni in 2010, I ended up staying here. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year but we dont live together. I live with a friend, but my boyfriend and I are trying to ...
A. 23 February 2012: Uni relationships are always strained once the courses finish. People go their separate ways and things get tough.
Right now, you have to make a decision.
Your home town, or his home town. He wont move, you want to be closer to your family. ... (read in full...)
What makes someone ready to date?
Q. Okay so I been thinking. What really makes someone ready to date? Please don't say you'll know. I want to know what will help me determined if I'm ready for a serious relationship....
A. 17 February 2012: I hate to say it, but you will just know when you are ready.
Being ready to have a serious relationship is not something that just happens overnight. You don't just wake up one morning and go "yes, I am ready now". It doesn't work like that.
... (read in full...)
I am 15, and just found girl I really like is 13. Is this appropriate?
Q. Hi. uhhm well, where do I start? You see, it all started out with a random friend request from a frape [EDITOR'S NOTE: frape: When a person leaves their laptop/PC unattended whilst signed into Facebook and other people change various parts of their ...
A. 16 February 2012: If she is 12, then she shouldn't even be on facebook as I believe their policy states you have to be over 13 to have an account.
This girl is WAY too young for you. She probably hasn't even started her periods yet, let alone gone through puberty.... (read in full...)
Simple question, who would you choose?
Q. Simple question - who would you choose? Person 1- lets call him Froddo. So i have fancied 'Froddo' since year 8 (age 12-13 for others) (im in year 11 now - age 16-17) and we fell out a few times, but we always made up. He's a lovely guy. Rece...
A. 16 February 2012: I know you dont want to hear it, but you are NOT in a relationship with the spanish boy.
Connecting via the internet and spending a few days together does not make you his girlfriend. He could be doing anything and you would never know. Being ol... (read in full...)
How do I create the opportunity for a future romance to develop with my Lecturer?
Q. I am very aware of my lecturer’s professional boundaries and respect that. The rapport between us is very good and I do believe he is interested in me too. I expect that there is about an 8 years age difference. And he doesn’t wear a wedding ...
A. 15 February 2012: OP... I know you like this man. BUT...
"I am planning to study further at another university when the course finishes."
This will no doubt involve you either moving or spending a lot of time away from your current location. Is this really the ... (read in full...)
Is there really another girl? Or is this guy just saying that?
Q. I'm starting to like this guy in my class and I'm not sure if he has the same feelings towards me. First off we have ALOT in common, he's always asking what my plans are for the weekend, he also invites me to go out to a Bon fire but I already have ...
A. 15 February 2012: If he is seeing another girl, then he is cheating on her by fliting with you.
If he ISNT seeing another girl, and making it up to make you jealous, then he is a liar.
Either way, he isn't very trustworthy.
If he cheats on her he will ch... (read in full...)
I feel that my association with this girl is just screaming 'pedophile' even though it's legal
Q. Hey, In a weird situation right now regarding a girl's age. So the backstory is, I was out at a club with my friends, ended up talking and dancing with a few girls. As standard, try the whole 'are you coming back to mine thing' haha to whic...
A. 15 February 2012: Think back to how mature you were at 16.
How much have you grown and matured in those 4 years? What do you know now, what have you experienced since then that have helped you grow into an adult?
She is 16... she may only have turned 16 last m... (read in full...)
Is my secret lesbian relationship with my best friend doomed?!
Q. Help/ opinions will be really appreciated. Sorry for such an essay but I can't talk to anybody about this. I'm 22 and have always been with guys. Around 3 years ago I met *A now 20 we soon became best friends. Even though she was also 'straight' ...
A. 15 February 2012: In my experience 'secret' relationships are doomed from day 1.
The fact you cannot be honest about it, puts pressure on the relationship and that is what causes it to fail.
You have said a number of times you like men and want to be with a man... (read in full...)
How do I create the opportunity for a future romance to develop with my Lecturer?
Q. I am very aware of my lecturer’s professional boundaries and respect that. The rapport between us is very good and I do believe he is interested in me too. I expect that there is about an 8 years age difference. And he doesn’t wear a wedding ...
A. 15 February 2012: If he is working with you on a project in a supervisory role, then any kind of romantic relationship would be inapropriate. SHOULD you end dating him, your grades could be scrutinised, and as there is the issue of favouritism, sex for grades and ... (read in full...)
The sex law does not stop any teenager from having sex, why is it always slammed in our faces that we're underage?
Q. Hi, i am not looking to have sex. But i have questions on the sex law. It doesn't stop anyone! I know a pregnant 8th grader! On secret life of the american teenager, amy got pregnant at 15! But why when girls my age (15) ask to go on the pill, its ...
A. 10 February 2012: I just want to add this for you to think about.
Imagine there was no age of consent.
Imagine you could have sex whenever you wanted at whatever age?
A strong willed teenage boy of 15 sees a young girl he fancies. She at 11. He tells her ... (read in full...)
The sex law does not stop any teenager from having sex, why is it always slammed in our faces that we're underage?
Q. Hi, i am not looking to have sex. But i have questions on the sex law. It doesn't stop anyone! I know a pregnant 8th grader! On secret life of the american teenager, amy got pregnant at 15! But why when girls my age (15) ask to go on the pill, its ...
A. 10 February 2012: Wherever there is a law, there will always be irresponsible people who think they know better and that somehow the law doesn't apply to them.
With children (and you are a child, like it or not) this gets even worse.
At 15, you think you are an... (read in full...)
Au naturale...
Q. I read in a newspaper recently that a lot of women are beginning to stay 'natural' i.e no shaving their arm pits, etc, I am wondering what readers of 'dearcupid.org think about that suggestion....
A. 8 February 2012: For me, armpits and legs, yes. Those are on show to everyone and should be kept hairless.
Pubic hair however is actually more important, it helps to absorb sweat and prevention of infections.
I keep it trimmed, nice and neat and tidy. Shavin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend behaves badly with me. What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone what should I do in this situation I have been in a casual relationship for 11 month now anyway he treats me very badly he doesn't text me much or ring me or come and see me apart from when he wants the obvious he wants me to sit around ...
A. 5 February 2012: You have said it yourself.... "I have been in a casual relationship for 11 month "
it is a casual relationship. You are not commited, you are not boyfriend and girlfriend. It's just sex.
You obviously want more from a relationship, so... (read in full...)
How do I make myself look older? People tell me I look about 17!
Q. Hi everyone this is not a relationship question didn't know where else to ask I'm 25 but everyone tells me I look about 17 I'm almost 26 I'm going out tomorrow night on a date and I have nothing to prove my age do you women know any tips to make ...
A. 3 February 2012: Can I ask why you have no form of ID?
Driving licence? Student card? Anything with your date of birth on at all?
... (read in full...)
Frustrated, straight, but considering an offer of a bj
Q. Hey I got a question. Im a 28 year old man living single and my job keeps me extremely busy and always on the travel. Over the last couple years I have developed a male friend shom I met over the internet from a town that is about 40 miles from ...
A. 3 February 2012: So, you are sexually frustrated.
Rather than just deal with it yourself, you are going to let another guy give you a BJ? (apparently with no obligation to return the favour). To be honest I cannot see the logic in this.
I know masturbation is ... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you rather be approached by an interested man?
Q. As a woman, which way would you rather be approached? A. At my university, I see an attractive woman, so I say to her, "Excuse me, do you know where building F is?" She then shows me where it is and I say, "Actually, I know where building F...
A. 3 February 2012: None of the above for me I'm afraid!.... they are all a bit too full on.
A - you are lying to her the first time you see her. Then you TELL her it was a fib to talk to her. What else would you lie about?
B - you find her attractive...rig... (read in full...)
Should my spy reply to this message?
Q. I asked a male friend of mine on FB to do some snoop work for me about a potential future boyfriend. The chap who wanted to help me ended up receiving an actual message from the guy (bf) in question telling him that a little bird told him that he's ...
A. 2 February 2012: Are you really 30-35 years old?
Spying on potential boyfriends? I suspect should he find out then that will have blown any chances you might have of getting to know him. He will probably be freaked out by this!
You are a grown woman, if you li... (read in full...)
My bisexual girlfriend wanted to have a threesome, but the way she worded it makes me feel bad!
Q. My girlfriend told me she fancied a girl we met, and suggested we hit on her together and potentially have a threesome. I said I wasn't interested at the moment, but the issue has been bothering me a lot since. The girl in question was seriously ...
A. 2 February 2012: Can I pose this a different way.
If your girlfriend was saying this about another man how would you react?
If she said she wanted a threesome with another guy, and was quite happy to go out and kiss him whilst still dating you, how would you fe... (read in full...)
Which plans should I cancel; those with my mum or my date?
Q. What should i do? It's my mum's birthday tomorrow, and we are supposed to be going shopping in the afternoon, and the cinema at night, but this guy i am dating said he wants to meet tomorrow too. Should i go to the cinema with my mum in the afte...
A. 30 January 2012: I agree. You had already made plans with your Mum. It is her birthday! He can see you any other time, but she only gets one birthday a year.
How do you think she would feel if you dumped her for the BF? Probably quite sad.
Tell your BF ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep feeling so sick whenever I go out drinking?
Q. Hey I seem to have a bit of a problem that affects me going out and enjoying myself, not sure if anyone else has had the same problem but I've receieved comments about it. Everytime I go out drinking I get so far and feel the need to throw up, and...
A. 26 January 2012: Why do you feel you have to drink in order to keep up with your friends? That is NOT what drinking is about.
If you NEED alcohol in order to have a good time, then you really need to take a long hard look at your priorities.
Different... (read in full...)
Why do I keep feeling so sick whenever I go out drinking?
Q. Hey I seem to have a bit of a problem that affects me going out and enjoying myself, not sure if anyone else has had the same problem but I've receieved comments about it. Everytime I go out drinking I get so far and feel the need to throw up, and...
A. 26 January 2012: It could just be you have a low tolerance to alcohol. Not everyone can be a hard drinker.
How much do you actually drink on a night out before you feel sick? Are you talking just one glass or more than that?
For me personally, I cannot drink m... (read in full...)
I want to have a second baby but where's the potential dad?
Q. Im nearly 30 and im desperate for another child! I have a 7 yr old daughter I was with her father 5 yrs! I met a man who I was totally madly inlove with and I would of loved for him to be the father of my child, but love is blind and this man was ...
A. 23 January 2012: Calm down! You are not even 30 yet! You are still young, and still have plenty of time to meet a man, get married and have children.
I am 28, not married and have no children. I dont even have a boyfriend. Am I also in danger of my time running ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I like him?
Q. There is this guy I like at school and me and him (I wouldn't call it all flirting) but we have been picking with each. I was picking because I started to really like him but I didn't know if he was gay. Well over the weekend I was bored and on ...
A. 22 January 2012: I would move with caution on this, facebook is not the most reliable source of information for things like this.
I teach a lot of 18-21 yr olds, and many of them have their sexuality down as something different to reality. Some are in relation... (read in full...)
Why are many men obsessed with female virginity?
Q. I mean I read alot of stories on here like this. Why does it matter so much? Are any of these guys virgins themselves? I doubt it. why would it be a surprise if a grown woman isn't a virgin? These days most people don't marry before they're 25....
A. 21 January 2012: From my own experience, being an older virgin has actually been more of a hinderance. Three ex boyfriends have all been freaked out by the fact that I was a virgin over the age of 25. As I see it,it isn't virginity men like. What they wa... (read in full...)
How can I tell this teacher that I respect and appreciate what he does for my class?
Q. Hey guys, just a quick one :) There is a teacher (no, I don't fancy him/ love him etc) but I do really appreciate him. He is such a lovely guy even in class and we have had a few out of class discussions. We get on well, but I am nothing special ...
A. 19 January 2012: I would wait until the end of the year, then write a small card thanking him for all the effort he has put into your classes and how much you have learnt this year.
Do you have any other nice teachers? Perhaps you could give more than one card? Th... (read in full...)
He flirts with me. Do you think I MIGHT be coming out of the friend zone?
Q. SO... I liked this guy all summer he's 29 I'm 21 he works as a bar back at this bar i frequent. So i see him every weekend when i go to play pool. He flirted with me constantly throughout the summer and lead me to believe that he liked me too. he ...
A. 19 January 2012: I think you are fighting a losing battle here OP.
This guy is a barman. He is paid to be nice to customers, talk to them, interact with them, be friendly and flirt with the ladies. The whole point is, his behaviour makes women want to come bac... (read in full...)
Fair enough she needs time to "heal" from learning I'm gay, but how long does it take?
Q. Its been about 2 and a half years since my mum has asked me if I was gay. She still don't treat me the same as she did before which doesn't help. Seriously how long does she need! She has always had gay friends she's loved her brother who is g...
A. 15 January 2012: "Well she hadnt for me atleast but she did for my sister and I don't want to feel like that."
You do appear to be linking this to your sexuality, when in fact she is now just treating you the same as your sister, nothing more. Your sister has live... (read in full...)
Never had a 'real' orgasm
Q. I have never experienced a 'real' g-spot orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and have had to fake it every time. When we first started having sex, we had it a lot - he wasn't amazing then but he lost his virginity to me, so I...
A. 15 January 2012: If you were only just 15 when you first started sleeping with your boyfriend, I take it with the two previous boyfriends you were even younger? 14 years old?
At that age your body is not yet mature enough, or ready for sex, so it is very unlikely... (read in full...)
Never had a 'real' orgasm
Q. I have never experienced a 'real' g-spot orgasm. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and have had to fake it every time. When we first started having sex, we had it a lot - he wasn't amazing then but he lost his virginity to me, so I...
A. 15 January 2012: May I ask how old you are, and how old he is?
A lot of people take time to mature into sex and learn technique. You have been telling him that he is great in bed, by faking orgasms, so he thinks he is doing everything correctly. By fibbing,... (read in full...)
He'd rather watch football than hang out with me and my parents
Q. So this weekend me and my family are going out and we always invite my bf. so i called him and he said that he couldn't go because he is going to be watching football that day.so i got kinda hurt that he would rather watch football then hang out ...
A. 13 January 2012: If you are indeed 18-21, then you are a fully grown adult. You are not a child, and you have your own opinions on how you should live your life.
At the moment, you are still letting your parents treat you like a child. How long are you going to... (read in full...)
I mistakenly sent a text to the guy I like saying I liked him! Now things are awkward
Q. I accidentally text the boy I like, instead of my friend with a text saying ' I really like (boys name) why should I do ?' and I made up and excuse that it wasn't me that sent it was one of my friends and I think he believes it wasn't me and it's ...
A. 12 January 2012: Well he may just be confused for one thing.
You have just gone and told him you don't like him! How would you feel if someone did that to you?
1) You might feel a little hurt if it was your friend and you though they liked you.
2) If he... (read in full...)
How can we our first time spectacular?
Q. Okay, so early last year I was sexually assaulted by my boyfriend at the time. So that was my "first time" whether I liked it or not. Yeah, I know, how lovely. Anyway, I now have a new, wonderful boyfriend whome is a virgin and we're discuss...
A. 11 January 2012: I agree with the others - you have no idea how you will react when the time comes, and IF you should suddenly react badly he has to know what to do.
You just assume your first time with him will be special, but it may bring back painful memories... (read in full...)
There's an 8 year age difference, is that OK?
Q. Hi agony aunts, i need some advice on what to do with this older man I have been seeing. He is 25 yrs old (8 yr age gap, I'm 17) i have met him only a few times in the month and a half i have known him and other than that mostly keeping in touch ...
A. 10 January 2012: Good for you OP, I am proud of you! :)
We have all fallen for the charms of slimebags at one point or another, but as you get older you will begin to see the signs a little more. Keep safe x
*HUGS* Tiger x... (read in full...)
Worried she has manipulated me to cover half of her mortgage to sort out her financial situation, how do I explain to her I've changed my mind and want to start fresh in a new property?
Q. I've been seeing my gf for 9 months now and living with her for about 5. I recently sold a flat and moved in with her whilst looking for a new one. I was about to buy a place but my gf appeared upset by the prospect of me moving out so I didn't and ...
A. 10 January 2012: Run away very fast. This will only end in tears and financial problems later.
I agree 100% with BimBim
This is a really good way out for her, and I do worry that she might see you as a bit of a meal ticket. After only 9 months that is a seriou... (read in full...)
Is there really someone out there for everyone?
Q. Do people actually always find someone.....? I'm 28 and am wondering if there really is someone out there for everyone. I have friends and am comfortable enough in a crowd but I just can't seem to meet anyone. Everyone keeps saying to be pat...
A. 10 January 2012: I am the same age as you, and you sound like a male version of me!
Its difficult to handle sometimes, but it will happen. Faith and patience. Well, that's what I am hoping for anyway! :)
Tiger x... (read in full...)
Should I ask her on a date? and how?
Q. There is woman about my age working in my local cafè I really like her and I think she is giving me signs smiles and waves when i come in and asks how I am and when in the Q she is not like that to the other customers the thing is though there is ...
A. 10 January 2012: There may be a policy about not dating clients, just be careful. A lot of businesses do not encourage flirtation with customers, and you would not want to get her into trouble.
... (read in full...)
What do you say when a guy cancels at the last minute?
Q. I text him yesterday telling him that i couldn't do what we originally planed today but i was still free today and we could do something else instead if he wanted to. He text me back yesterday and said i could come to his and watch a movie instead. ...
A. 9 January 2012: Ok, I still don't see why you are mad at him.
Exactly the same thing has happened to him as happened to you - the venue of choice was no longer available due to other people.
No more his fault as your family coming over is your fault.
He ap... (read in full...)
What do you say when a guy cancels at the last minute?
Q. I text him yesterday telling him that i couldn't do what we originally planed today but i was still free today and we could do something else instead if he wanted to. He text me back yesterday and said i could come to his and watch a movie instead. ...
A. 9 January 2012: Ok, I am a little confused.
So you had a date planned for the day, you said you couldn't do THAT, but you were still free for the day? What were you doing that you couldn't do the original thing?
I don't understand why if you were free, you c... (read in full...)
There's an 8 year age difference, is that OK?
Q. Hi agony aunts, i need some advice on what to do with this older man I have been seeing. He is 25 yrs old (8 yr age gap, I'm 17) i have met him only a few times in the month and a half i have known him and other than that mostly keeping in touch ...
A. 9 January 2012: I agree with Honeypie.
This is NOT a nice man. He is a sleaze and only after one thing. SEX.
There are a few pointers here that suggest you are in a lot of danger from this man.
1. He added you on facebook. You don't actually know who ... (read in full...)
I want to become a surgeon, will this be possible with my qualifications?
Q. Hi all! Ok so my Question isn't really about relationship/ life related but I quite like the advice given on here anyway. So I'm 23 years old and just recently moved back home to the UK after living abroad for 7 years. After much debating an...
A. 4 January 2012: Hi Anna
Congratulations for having the drive to want to do something worthwhile like this, however I feel that you are in for a very tough challenge. Mentally, emotionally and also financially (uni fees have now gone up).
May I ask if you got... (read in full...)
Am I nuts, or is it wrong of my ex wife to make me a babysitter so she can get laid in her own bed?
Q. I am worried (I guess that is the best word) that my ex-wife is shirking some of her responsibilities as primary custodian of my son. She is a great Mom, but I have been asked a few times lately to take my son and keep him out to a specific time. ...
A. 3 January 2012: I want to add something to this post as there seem to be answers from the mother and fathers side, but no question about the child.
I have been in this 15 year olds situation. And I can tell you, it isn't fun. My parents divorced and a few year... (read in full...)
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