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writes:Hi everyone, just would like some advice about the situatuon im in basicly me and my bf have been together 3 years and becausr of my insecurities I feel like im ruining the relationship a little as I dont feel goid enough. I no alot of people have body issues byt this is really starting to affect me. I cant get naked infront of him as imreally flat chested it depresses me so much and I cant afford a boob job so dont no what to do. I also found on his history that he had been looking at naked girls dancing etc... This was a fair few months ago but it still really hurts inside am I not good enough? He foesent no anything about this so I just dont no whatto do. Please help with any sdvuce you can. Thankyou. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2015): This is what you do, my dear.Find a ZUMBA class near you and start going. Regularly.You will not believe what DANCE does for the self esteem and your confidence in the bedroom!Once you have that confidence, you are going to blow your boyfriend away.But start now. Get dancing! I cannot tell you how much of a difference it will make in you. Just give it a little time and you will be sexy and sensual but most importantly you will FEEL IT and he will TOO!GOOD LUCK!
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (12 January 2015):
You should stop thinking that someone else's opinion makes you who you are. You are you. If one man has a preference that is different than you does that mean there's something wrong with you?
No.
It means you're not his type. No big deal. If someone calls you stupid does that make you stupid? No. Other people's opinion are just that. They are not facts. They are not tired to your value as a person.
Embrace your flaws. Are you a model? Nope. But you should be able to get naked in front of a guy and if he doesn't like what he sees it's his loss. It doesn't make you unattractive, it means you're not his type.
Personally I am not at all attracted to the porn star look. But some guys are. It's just my preference. That forest make then ugly though.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (12 January 2015):
 Insecurities will ruin any relationship. You say you are not good enough. What do you need to be good enough for? You have a boyfriend...so you are good enough for that. As for your boobs...really??? Tell me when at any time in this world has boobs ever kept a man and woman together???You didn't have fake boobs to get a guy, but you are going to put fake ones in to keep a guy...Ummmm...NO!!! My dear, your boobs will never make up for what you have in your mind, and between your legs when it comes to men. A woman with a sexy mind, and who knows how to use it, is a dangerous force to any man.If you are using your mind to bring yourself down, then what do you expect? You think bad of yourself, you feel bad. If you think good of yourself, you feel good. :)Keeping man happy is very easy. You just have to set your mind right. :) Funny thing is...No relationship in this world ever leads to marriage based on body alone. Things like love, respect, honesty, caring, values, bonding, and so on, has nothing to do with the body. The body is simply used to express how you feel on the inside.So again...If you are thinking bad things on the inside...guess what shows on the outside??
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2015): You need to work on your confidence .belive me it will make a big difference with you boyfriend .i know its hard to be confidence so you should try something different everyday eg .tell youself you are good enough.if your body image is affecting you so much you should see your gp they might be able to help .maybe you should take to your boyfriend about these insecuritys you have .most men look at women on line its normal to fantase,but if it bother you tell him or he wont know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2015): You need to work on your confidence .belive me it will make a big difference with you boyfriend .i know its hard to be confidence so you should try something different everyday eg .tell youself you are good enough.if your body image is affecting you so much you should see your gp they might be able to help .maybe you should take to your boyfriend about these insecuritys you have .most men look at women on line its normal to fantase,but if it bother you tell him or he wont know.
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