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writes:There's a very strong possibilty my 11 yr old daughter is going to be too ill to go to school on monday, might have to take her to the docs, we have been up since 3am, i think she has this chest infection, temperature, fluey type thing going round. I managed to go in yesterday morning because it was only 6am til 10am and thankfully she was only just coming down with it friday night, and was still asleep when I left and her older brother was under strict instructions if she needed him, he's to get up. When I got home 10am she was rough, hadn't even had any medicine, so i started dosing her up on Calpol.The fact you cant have your phone on you at work means I know I cant leave her on monday. I will be worried sick. It will be 10am til 2pm then. My son has exams all week so I cant even let him stay n look after her.Ive been in this job for 3 weeks and I love the job and i'm gutted. But my child has to come first. Will they get rid of me after the probation period because of this? I might not be able to go in tuesday either. But dont work wednesdays, and am praying to god she will be better by my thursday shift.Mondays are not busy for my job(online shopper) and we usually end up stacking shelves because of this, so I dont think they will miss me.But what should I do, say its me thats ill? Or be honest? Then i'm gonna worry they will think me being a parent is too much of a liability. Who do we speak to when ringing in. I have no family that I can leave her with and her dad sees them every other weekend thats it, he wont take time off work for anyone.Sorry for the long post, just want some opinions x
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reader, jazzy cat  +, writes (8 December 2008):
well you will probably hate what im gonna say darl!! if you have kids, they come first first and first again...job comes nowhere in the runnings, if the poor kid is sick stay home cuddle the child clean up after it and love it.. they grow up so fast and you dont want to shove your poor sick kid off to care, when they need to be tucked up in bed at home. I haVE BEEN A STAY AT HOME MUM FOR THE LAST 6 YEARS i work from home and it drives me mental not to have 5 min spare time to myself. but our little angels that we brought into this world of our own decision deserve care nuture and love and you get that at home!!! they come first take care of them as best you can, its very hard without family and friend support network. but whats more important than those kids??? NOTHING!!!!! good luck hang in there!!!!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 December 2008):
hlskitten is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the advice folks. Unless she makes a miraculous recovery by the morning, I will have to put her first.
I'm just not looking forward to ringing in, and am gonna feel terrible. I really enjoy the job, and not many people can say that about their job can they.
Its just horrendous timing :o(
I am going to txt her dad, but I already know the answer. Which is one of the reasons I never feel gilty when he goes on about the back pay the CSA are taking out his wages each week because he stopped the payments for a few months. If he wants no responsibility for them, when I am trying to earn a living to make their lives better, atleast he can pay something towards their upkeep.
Thanks again anyway xxxxx
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Be honest with your employer about the situation, and chin up. If you do two months of good work while on your probation it's highly unlikely that they will count one day (an emergency, at that!) against you. Good luck and hope your daughter gets well soon =]
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 December 2008):
hlskitten is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou think? Hmmm I wonder if they would go for that. Chances are they would say stay off rather than keep the phone on me though, but literally just because at the moment, mondays are dead there. Saves them having to pay me. My immediate boss is a woman similar age to me and has atleast one daughter of 14 that I know of, so maybe she will understand? I just feel really guilty as ive only been there a few weeks, and really like the job, it suits me at the moment, and hate to think they will let me go in 2 months time. And the worst thing is my son hasn't long got up coughing, sore throat and complaining of a headache, and he is supposed to be doing exams all this week! haha gotta laugh haven't ya! :o/
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 I have around 120 people that work for me in my business. Any decent employer (and parent) would sympathise with your situation however not everyone is decent. I have to say that if someone starts calling in sick during the first few weeks of work then the thought certainly goes through my mind "Oh no, not one of these" and I'm sure most employers would think the same.Tell the truth. Anything else is too risky. Don't get into a whole elaborate story. It might sound fake and even if it doesn't they don't have time to listen to the whole involved story. Your boss doesn't want to get that involved in your life.Offer to do something to make up the inconvenience to your employer.Your best bet might be something like this: "Ms X, this is HLSKitten, I'm due to work the 10 - 2 shift on Monday. I have a sick child that I have to take to hospital and I cannot make it in to work my shift. Depending on the visit to the hospital I might not be able to make it in on Tuesday either. I know that this is very inconvenient for you. Please know that I will willingly work some additional shifts to make up for the inconvenience caused."Hopefully she says words to the effect of "Of course, you must take her to the hospital. Hope all is well" in which case you say "Thank you, Ms X, I will make it up to you." Don't grovel, don't go overboard with the thanks.
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reader, tux +, writes (7 December 2008):
 I would personally talk to your boss about it. Maybe he can make an arrangement for you with this. Maybe allow you to bring your phone with you during this time. I would say be honest and up front with him. It's worse to have a lying employee.
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