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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): Thanks for your help. Will talk to my dad, not sure if it's a one off, the person i found him in bed with is a lot younger than him. Will talk to him soon
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 No. Absolutely don't tell her. It is simply not your business to tell your Mum or to be issuing an ultimatum to your father. Your father knows what you saw and he'll find a way to deal with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Thanks everyone for the advice. I'm not sure if it's a one off, could possibly be a lover, the person he was in bed with was quite a bit younger than me. Will talk to him soon
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reader, MommyOfOne  +, writes (15 December 2008):
 NO! DO NOT tell your mother. Speak with you dad and tell him he needs to come clean to your mom. It may hurt your mom more if she hears it from you and not your dad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Talk to your father first and ask him the reasons for his behaviour. To my opinion it would not be good to inform your mother without talking to your father. At least you should give him the possibility to tell what happened himself to your mother.
Realize also that there might be a chance that the will split up after you tell, you make the bomb only bigger if you tell in stead of you fathter.
To my opinion is the only good advise that you should give the possibility to your father to start talking about what happened.
Good Luck
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 December 2008):
 You definitely need to talk to your Dad. You should tell him that he needs to talk to your Mother. He's the one who should be telling your Mom what's going on. You shouldn't be stuck in the middle of all this. Tell him to come clean with her or you will have no choice but to let her know. I hope he does the right thing. Keep us posted.
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reader, agonyaunt1995  +, writes (15 December 2008):
Yes, Of Course. He could do it again.
And your mum will finally find out and be angry at you for not telling her.
Hope it helps.
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