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Do others find oral sex gross?

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Question - (13 December 2008) 31 Answers - (Newest, 11 August 2013)
A female United States age 22-25, *mber jello writes:

I find oral sex totally disgusting! Yes, call me weird. My Bf tries to make me give him a blow job, but i refuse. Am i alone on this? Am i like the only girl who thinks that's totaly gross? I just dont like the fact that stuff gets into my mouth, and im pretty sure it doesn't taste so good... does it?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2013):

the very thought makes me feel physically sick

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010):

I have tried oral sex and it is gross. Pre-cum and cum taste salty and are slimy, reminding me of snot. Plus, there are little pre-people swimming around in it!

It can also be demeaning, especially when guys call people c**ksuckers, make slurping sounds, or make other derogatory gestures.

I have had several BFs and have told them up front that I will not do this, nor do I want it done to me. They'll go along at first and then try to coax me into it. It doesn't help that many movies now openly talk about oral sex and/or simulate it.

Why isn't anyone talking about STDs? Painful herpes sores can be transmitted in either direction. The genital wart virus(HPV)can be transmitted and cause throat cancer in addition to cervical and penile cancer. According to the CDC website (cdc.gov), "HPV is so common that at least 50% of sexually active men and women get it at some point in their lives." People can have the virus and not even know it; you can get it from someone who practices oral sex.

Yes, there are medications available, and yes, condoms can be used, but it's better and safer to just not do it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2010):

Ok I'm 16 and so is my gf we have been dating for three years. She keeps

Putting of sex it has bean no big deal exalt for the last 6 month. So I asked if she would just give me head insted her reply was

It is the most disgusting thing ever.......... I'm never going to do that ever even when I'm maride

So I can tell you it's disopointing

Ps sorry for the spelling

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A female reader, nakita United States +, writes (31 October 2010):

Your not the only girl, as I also think oral sex is digusting. Its just not something I would ever in my life feel comfortable doing. I also would'nt want my guy giving it to me either. I not a big on sex but I would rather do it the "original way". I feel that it just don't seem right to put your mouth on something that gets rid of body waste. I don't care how clean you keep it! In my opinion, the "reproducting tools" of the opposite sex should be used the "original way" (sorry can't think of a better way to put it). Please to the people who do enjoy it, don't feel offended. This was only my opinion.

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A male reader, dib United States +, writes (2 May 2010):

no it is fun doing it and it tastes Damm good

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010):

I love giving my husband blow jobs. What makes it fun is that I will do it in random places, like a parking lot, grocery store (hidden somewhere) truck...anywhere I can get away with it. His cum tastes really good so I don't have an issue with letting it ooze out of my mouth or swallowing it. You should try getting used to it as it makes your relationship more interesting and fun. Good luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009):

Hello. I am a guy and I don't like the idea of giving or receiving oral sex. It just simply does nothing for me. I think it's gross..Maybe I am one of the few. I fear that I will not a have a successful relationship because of this.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2009):

Hello. I am a guy and I don't like the idea of giving or receiving oral sex. It just simply does nothing for me. I think it's gross..Maybe I am one of the few. I fear that I will not a have a successful relationship because of this.

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A male reader, skip54 United States +, writes (27 May 2009):

Hello. I am a guy and I don't like the idea of giving or receiving oral sex. It just simply does nothing for me. I think it's gross..Maybe I am one of the few. I fear that I will not a have a successful relationship because of this.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009):

If you're not comfortable with it, then you're not going to enjoy it and neither will your partner, don't so anything you're not comfortable with, i've only tried it a few times and i hate it so i no longer do this. I hate the taste, it makes me heeve, that's just me though, you can always try it & then decide.

Hope it all goes well.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2009):

As we get older we become more sophisticated sexually, your mind is the biggest sex organ, if you really are into the man oral sex on him is a real trip, people need to stop feeling self concsious and try more hardcore sex

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009):

i think is disgusting too and i have definitely done it and it honestly doesn't take like much but surprisingly my boyfriend even finds it kinda gross for me to give him head

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2009):

I feel like it is degrading, even when you're with the right person. I don't like being looked down on, and thats just how it feels to me. I don't like the reverse either, since that's me looking down on him. I need eye contact.

Also, people talk about head in a negative way a lot (suck my cock, eat a dick, etc.) which says to me that most people see it as an "I'm better that you" type of thing.

For men all like "it's a two way street" they can keep it: 1) I am fairy certian men enjoy giving it more that women like recieving it and 2) they expect you to return the favor. Why not just learn how to turn women on in a more creative way than direct clitoral stimulation and then have the sex properly? Is that asking too much!?

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A female reader, claire_youngerboyfriendtroubles Canada +, writes (22 January 2009):

a lott of girls dont like that

and i'm so happy you posted this,

since i completely relate

its satisfying for the boy but what the hell does it do for the girl?!

ahahah (:

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009):

millions and millions of women do this on a regular basis and survive the experience. Suck it up (literally), its not a big deal to do this, once in a while for him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008):

I never liked it in my 'Marriage' until I was 30+. You get a little more comfortable with your body and his, and know what your doing. But Please all you Men that want wife to do it, foreplay is a Must(touching, kissing,caressing) and whispering how beautiful she and her body is...otherwise if your forcing or manipulating, she will Always be turned off about it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008):

I think it's one of the most disgusting concepts ever. Why would you want to put a body part where excretement comes out of, in your mouth?! And I certainly wouldn't want someone to go down on me either. I don't think I could kiss them again after that. It's just...so wrong if you actually think about what's involved.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008):

I think that no guy should pressure a woman to give him a blow job.. that's a choice a woman decides to do. If so he's a jerk.

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A female reader, jtworek3 United States +, writes (15 December 2008):

I dont think it's gross per se, but I do feel very uncomfortable with myself so I tend to not let him do it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008):

Stick with the things you feel most comfortable about doing.

In my opinion if he isnt willing to stop bothering you about it then maybe he isnt the right person to be with, maybe compromise try it once see how it goes.

Just my two cents, best of luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008):

Lots of girls love it , others find it totally disgusting, you're not alone on your opinion, obviously.

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A female reader, SoftlyCaress United States +, writes (13 December 2008):

SoftlyCaress agony auntWell I Find it awesome... And really you have the choice to spit or swallow or even have him pull it out when he is just about to cum. I mean if you dont have foreplay sex can grow very boring as for me i like to give and receive.. I know some people are totally against it but I say Yeahhhhhh !! I used to be kinda funny about it but as long as your man is a clean person there is nothing disgusting about it sit back and enjoy girl !!!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008):

Obviously, you have to make the final decision on whether or not you are going to perform oral sex on your bf (and in the future your husband, this guy or another one).

Oral sex can be a very sensual, close, and rewarding sensation for both partners, however, your bf must take your concerns into consideration. 1st, he must be willing to reciprocate, and get you in the mood before asking or 'hinting' that you go down on him. 2nd, it is absolutely imperative that he is 'clean and neat' down there. And finally, he must give you warning before he is going to cum. My wife love to go down on me, and has since we started dating. Sometimes it is a blowjob to the finish, and sometimes it is foreplay before we have sex. This is totally her choice, and I'm just gratefull that she loves me and loves my body so much that she wants to do this for me.

However, the 1st guy that my wife gave a blowjob, didn't give her any warning when he was going to cum, and as a matter of fact, held her head down there while he came in her mouth. She almost threw up, and never ever did that to him again. She broke up with him a month or so later because as she put it ("he was such a selfish inconsiderate asshole to not give me the choice, especially since he knew it was the first time I went down on a guy"). Talk to your bf, maybe start off by just kissing his penis as you give him a handjob, then who knows, maybe that is all you will ever want to do, or maybe if he is a considerate person, you will go and do the whole blow-job thing. Good Luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008):

Yeah i'm with you i think oral sex is gross, but i'm lucky because my bf thinks it gross too. My other friend who has sex thinks its gross too. Her bf has given her oral but she felt uncomfortable about that too.

But i also has this other friend who does like almost everything possible with her bf. she says i'm totally missing out but i really don't care. i don't feel comfortable with it so i'm not going to do it.

Your bf should quit bothering you about it. If he really cares about you he will respect your views and how you feel.

Just stick with hand jobs, that pleases my man enough and sometimes we mix it up with dry humping because that works just as well for him to cum.

Have a good talk with your bf and tell him how you feel and that you don't want to give him a bj, you guys need to discuss your views and what you feel comfortable doing.

Thats what my bf and i do. He doesn't want to have sex yet and im fine with that even though my friends who have sex make fun of me for it.

I love my bf and i respect how he feels about stuff and he does the same for me. So if your man can't respect how you feel about stuff either bitch him out or dump his ass.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2008):

I don't understand what people find so "disgusting" about giving a blow job; I mean, sex is sex after all- there's lots of bodily fluids involved and I don't see what makes this worse than anything else, assuming, of course, that there is a high degree of personal hygiene involved which is something of a prerequisite for me! My bf also makes it clear when he's about to come, and usually prefers not to do it in my mouth anyway so I usually finish things by hand or whatever. Why don't you ask him to try that? and as the others have asked, does he give you oral sex as well?

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A male reader, a_decent_1 India +, writes (13 December 2008):

a_decent_1 agony auntYou're normal.. Many girls don't like giving a blow job.. It's actually understandable.. It depends a lot on our personal choice and the extent to which we are sexually stimulated..

Most women don't like it.. So chill.. You either LOVE it or you HATE it..

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A male reader, sommerslover United States +, writes (13 December 2008):

sommerslover agony auntOne of my ex-wives admitted to me she hated giving me head. That was after we were married 10 years. I asked her why she did it if she hated doing it, and she said she did it because she felt she HAD to. So I told her that from then on she no longer HAD to give me any oral sex. She was happy with that, until I told her I wouldn't be giving her anymore oral sex either. So, if you don't want to go down on your boyfriend, that's fine. Just don't expect him to go down on you. Fair is fair.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (13 December 2008):

DoubleM agony auntYes, you could call it disgusting, especially if a man only wants to receive and not return the favor. However, if you have never experienced talented cunnilingus, which is heterosexual oral stimulation to a woman's vulva and clitoris, your opinion may be considered one-sided and rather uninformed these days.

You may presently consider that a man applying his lips and tongue to your most private region would also be disgusting. Let me assure you that it can indeed be repulsive for the man if uncleanliness is a factor, but otherwise, many men and women consider cunnilingus to be one of the most intimate and pleasurable ways to satisfy a woman. Why? Easy answer. If talented and knowledgeable, a man can stimulate the the vulva region (labias, vaginal opening and especially the clitoris) in ways that cannot otherwise be achieved. Even in older women, first-time orgasms have been achieved when years of missionary sex never resulted in satisfaction.

Perhaps more often than not, many women have experienced their very first orgasms in life due to their encounter(s) with a man (or a mate) who knows how to apply the art, and in some cultures, it is truly considered an art. More about the "art" of oral satisfaction shortly.

You may be a woman who readily experiences orgasm via intercourse alone, in which case, you are most fortunate. In such a case, oral stimulation by either party may justifiably seem unnecessary and there would be no need for either to engage the other's genitals orally. There is nothing wrong with vaginal intercourse, but the fact is, the lips and tongues of either gender can greatly stimulate the genital regions of the other in ways that intercourse frequently falls short. In my opinion, oral stimulation both ways is a good way to lead to intercourse as a conclusion, but both fellatio and cunnilingus can also be satisfying ends as well. You may be surprised to learn that oral sex has been considered an art form for thousands of years - it is nothing new. Certainly, if not your cup of tea, then so be it, but also do not expect to receive if not willing to give. Gentlemen allow the lady to "cum" first. Maybe your problem mainly centers around a selfish boyfriend unwilling first to give.

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A male reader, baddogbj China +, writes (13 December 2008):

baddogbj agony auntThere is a cartoon floating around somewhere on the internet of a couple walking down the aisle after getting married, thought bubbles coming from each head. The guy is thinking "Ah! Blowjobs EVERY night :-) " whereas the new bride is thinking "Ah! No more blowjobs :-) "

Taste of India is right that men can live without blowjobs, technically speaking! It is a little like saying that you can live without meat or alcohol. You can, but who would want to live that way when we're only on this earth for a few years?

Of course, it is your body and you absolutely should never do anything that you feel uncomfortable with BUT you do face a substantial risk that he is going to look for it elsewhere.

Does he go down on you?

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (13 December 2008):

TasteofIndia agony auntHere's the solution, it's what I do. I just don't let him cum in my mouth. I jerk him off to satisfaction. He is good, he always warns me when he's close. It's fun for both of us!

BUT, don't do ANYTHING that you're uncomfortable with, that you are so repulsed with. Your boyfriend can live without a blow job.

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A female reader, piggytoes1818 United States +, writes (13 December 2008):

I don't like it at all either, its disgustinggg!

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