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writes:There's this guy I'm talking too. The problem is, I think he has a girlfriend.. We've been speaking a while and a few months ago, he told me that he can't take things forward with me because he has someone. I respected that and we remained to just be friends and talk. Admittedly I found it hard so we went through a period where I didn't talk to him as much. Anyway, lately we have been talking everyday... and he "accidentally" sent me a picture (you can guess what of..). I just shook it off and laughed about it with him so he wasn't bad embarrassed. However, since that photo, he seems to be heavily flirting with me. Saying he wants cuddles with me and just to lie in bed with me. He has expressed sexual interest too. Alongside this, he has sent photos on social media. None of which I reciprocated. Then I was talking about a good looking person on the train to this guy, and he said "he probably has a girlfriend. It's only ugly guys who don't. Such as moi" I took that as he had just admitted he didn't have anyone. But my friend went into his Facebook and it says he's in a relationship... Have I read too much into this? I mean I won't do anything if he has a girlfriend.. but part of me is like does he like me and is flirting.. or have I totally misread the signals.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (31 January 2017):
 It was not an accident him sending you that photo, he was testing you out. He is a serial player. Honestly why not just ask him straight out does he have a girlfriend? Or are you scared because you know that the answer is yes?
Say him and this girlfriend break up, could you trust him? Would you not always be thinking he was talking to other girls and sending them messages?
I would block all contact with someone like him and move on and meet a nice guy who actually is single and is interested in you as a person and not just sex.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (30 January 2017):
 Sure you respect that he is in a relationship...
Sending you a dick pic was NO accident. He was testing boundaries and you jumped in with both feet.
Think about it, if he dumped his GF for you, HOW long til he was sending dick pics to other girls? Or if he just SAID he dumped his GF so he could have a little sex with you....
And he must think you are dumb as a brick to not only fall for the "dick pic mistake" but also with the "he probably has a girlfriend. It's only ugly guys who don't. Such as moi". You already know he has a GF. If they had broken up he would have changed his status faster than you can say ONE. But since you swallowed the dick pic so easily maybe you are naive enough for other shenanigans.
Seriously, OP you know what's going on and you KNOW what the "right" thing to do would be. You are just having too much "fun" with having a guy pursue you to give a flying fart about his GF OR yourself.
I'd block him and move on. Trust me you won't hurt his feelings he will just chase another skirt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2017): Why don't you ask your friend to contact the 'gf' and see if they're still together? If they are then you have your answer: he's a bum. If they've recently broken up I'd still proceed with caution as it's likely he's on the rebound. Either way I'd probably stay well clear.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 January 2017):
 The guy told you a few months ago he "had someone." Your friend has snooped on his facebook and confirmed he is in a relationship.
So you stopped talking to him for a few days, or as long as it took for you to decide his already having a girlfriend doesn't matter, and now its full on with chatting everyday and he is sending you dick pics.
He sounds like a real charmer, I wonder if his girlfriend knows about you, like you know about her, and if it bothers her or not.
Dick pics .... really?
He is a cheater who sends girls dick pics, what more do you need to know about him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2017): This guy is an expert player.And he is going to break your heart.You are now in time to save your precious heart from destruction.By walking away and never looking back.You need to be strong sweetie. Do this for yourself. In your heart of hearts, you already know the answer. This guy is not a good catch. Not for any girl. It's usually the guys who are charming and know what to do and say and have a "game" to run, who select unsuspecting, sweet and trusting girls like you, who are the players. They will do everything they possibly can, say whatever you want to hear, to get you to put out. And once you do, they will move on. Or keep using you, if you let them, for as long as you let them. All the while hunting for other women to bed and very possibly sleeping with other girls if they succeed in conning them. Do you want a disease?All guys are going to try it on with women. You are the gate keeper. It is up to YOU if you let him play this game on you. But you are one of the smart ones. The ones who are a step ahead. Shut him down. And find yourself a guy who is available to devote himself to YOU and only YOU. He is probably flirting with a whole bunch of other girls, seeing which ones will sleep with him. You are better than that. If you allowed him to use you, you will live in absolute misery. Take it from a girl who has been there. I would not wish the sleepless nights, the paranoia, the panic attacks, extreme anxiety, crying day and night, unable to get out of bed, the inability to smile anymore or enjoy life as I used to on anyone. The girl that used to be there is not there anymore and I cannot find her. He destroyed her. Do not lose yourself over this clown. He is not worth it sweetie. Be happy and live life to the fullest with a guy who can take you places, meet your parents, and love only you. Find a GOOD GUY. At the end of the day, we all want a GOOD guy. Bad boys are a dime a dozen and all they are is trouble. And heart breakers. You will always feel secure a GOOD GUY won't be sending pics to other girls or trying to sleep with other girls. You will feel safe in his arms and feeling safe is most important. Don't go through what I went through. I am still trying hard to get over it. I wish you well.
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 January 2017):
 Well he already sounds like an asshole. He has a girlfriend and he's sending dick pics to other females.
What if he did break up with his girlfriend then gave you a shot, could you trust him not to accidentally send pictures to other girls?
Wouldn't trust this guy as far as I could throw him, stop wasting your time on him.
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