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I've been reflecting on my relationship, and I feel that although I love my B/f and want him to be happy, it feels one-sided, and I'm not sure I want to carry on in this way
Q. I need some help to weigh up my relationship, please. I feel I put in most of the effort and it is starting to get to me. We've been together 18 months. It feels like i'm always the one suggesting things to do, like going to the cinema or out for ...
A. 29 February 2012: Relationships are all about give and take from both sides, but it seems in your case, you are doing all the giving and he is doing all the taking.
Have you talked about this?
To put it bluntly I don't think you have a future together, based ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is worried that we aren't compatible!
Q. my girlsfriend and i have been speaking and she says we dont have the friendship factor. we have been together 8 months and she is worried that were not that compatable. there is hardly any convosation when we are together. what can i do...
A. 29 February 2012: It sounds like you aren't compatible if you can't hold a conversation together when you are around each other.
Seems like it's time to go your separate ways.... (read in full...)
Do men like romantic, tender sex
Q. i love to create a romantic atmosphere (scented candles ,rose petals ,silk sheets ,nice music ,food and wine ) making love slowly ,looking into the guy eyes ,hearing his breath and pulling him closer to me.... am i too idealistic ...
A. 19 January 2012: Men who know what love is and understand it, do generally like it.
But as with all forms of sex some like, some dont.... (read in full...)
I've had 2 relationships but slept with 60 guys!
Q. heya, im 21 and have slept with 60 boys, but only ever had 2 serious realtionships. i know i have to change my ways but i dont know how help !!...
A. 19 January 2012: You have to ask yourself why you so easily sleep with men - 60 is a lot, especially for your age.
My guess is insecurity or lack of self esteem is behind it over the doing it cos it's fun.
If so, you need to put some pride back into yourself. Y... (read in full...)
Misbehaved while being drunk and high, and now I've messed up my chances with this guy I like
Q. I became single about 6 months ago, since that time I have been drinking too much and I have discovered that I am a very mouthy drunk. (Well who isn't..) I ended up drinking to blackout one night and went home with a friend of my brother. I didn't ...
A. 10 December 2011: The simple problem here is drink and how it affects you.
That's what you need to focus on, not dwell on what you have done.
So you're single yes, but why do you feel the need to go out and get absolutely blotto? Did you do that before?
Drink... (read in full...)
Do I tell my b/f about a random text I received from a guy who means nothing to me?
Q. hey I'm 26 and been with my boyfriend for 16 months. basically I received a really random text from a guy I know but not seen in years and we weren't close....just general at first...( I don't have his number so dsaid idnt know who it was at ...
A. 6 December 2011: Not necessary... (read in full...)
When to celebrate!?
Q. My boyfriend and I are trying to figure out when to celebrate our one year! We met year on october 12th and have basically been together ever since. Although he did not officially ask me to be his girlfriend until valentines day (feb 14th), we were ...
A. 2 August 2011: I always go by the first date... (read in full...)
What's the best way to make her think, and choose me?
Q. I've been fooling around with my classmate for long months now. Each time we went out, we ended up in bed together (not having sex, just petting and cuddling). She's in a long term relationship with someone else. Back when I started to fancy her, I ...
A. 20 July 2011: She has to make a choice and you have to tell her this.
If she wants you, she has to end it with her bf first. If she wants her bf then she must end it with you immediately.
She can't have both and you know that.
I know you don't want to b... (read in full...)
What does my ex boyfriend want from me?
Q. I'm a gay guy and I had a boyfriend. We were together for 4 years but then we had to break up by my initiative. After our break-up I left the town for some months. I wanted to relax and to start a new life. Time ago I returned, because I had to ...
A. 20 July 2011: It sounds like he hasn't forgiven you for breaking up with him. Maybe you should try and talk to him and find out why he is acting like this towards you.... (read in full...)
I don't know if he is gay or not - do you think he likes me? What should I do about this situation?
Q. I am definitely dealing with some crap. I know that others have gone through much worse, and I am not downplaying anyone else's situation, I just have no desire to do pretty much anything unless it's with Josh. Pretty much the only reason I leave ...
A. 19 July 2011: The fact is you cannot go on as you are and you need to find out what his thoughts really are.
Admittedly you risk losing the friendship but you need to know one way or another.... (read in full...)
Should I bring up the incident?
Q. i went on a date with a girl who just came to our area to live. date went well.. after the movie we had drinks at the park convo was good.. so left me a msgs saying i was nice and sweetheart so on.. all the nice things. we went on a second date on ...
A. 15 July 2011: let it go, it's gone in the past, move on. just make sure u go through with it next time and u leave enough time. if you stop again then you will start to make her question you.
there is a saying that if you fall off a bike, the best thing to... (read in full...)
How do I survive going to college far from home? Any tips appreciated please
Q. I live in one state and I wanna go to school in one of two far off states. They are about 8 hours away from home. But I'm nervous about being alone and how will I survive because I can't travel back and fourth all the time. But these are the scho...
A. 5 July 2011: Going away to university is one of the best things you can do in terms of learning to stand on your own two feet.
You have to remember that almost everyone will be in the same boat when you arrive and just make the most of it, have a laugh an... (read in full...)
He's nothing like my ex, so how can I get over this fear of being controlled?
Q. I was in a realtionship for a year and 4 months with a guy that was controlling and emotionally abusive. We broke up in March and I haven't regretted it once. Let's call him Joe. Joe would be mad at me if I was texting ANYONE that was a guy, ...
A. 27 June 2011: Think about what you just wrote and remember it: "He's not a jealous guy at all, like AT ALL, and he's NOTHING like Joe. I'm in love with him and he loves me and I want to spend the rest of my life with Bob." That alone should tell you eno... (read in full...)
I cant trust men because of my past! Help!
Q. I need help I cant trust men at all...My real father would beat my mother and he cheated on my mom and left us,I always had BAD relationships with men and I was cheated on by a ex a yr ago when I was 17 and he lied to me a lot and bullied me. I ...
A. 27 June 2011: You have to try and remember that each person is different and every new person you meet needs to be given a chance and have a clean slate. In this case, you have a fiance and must be happy with him to have got engaged. What you don't want to do... (read in full...)
My BF has cheated on me so much and half the time it was when he was intoxicated and at parties, that I just can't trust him to go without me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for a little over 2 years. I am 17 years old and he is just about to turn 21. We met when I was a freshman and he was a senior so obviously, the age difference didn't really matter to us to the extreme. ...
A. 27 June 2011: End the relationship. He is a shagger and probably always will be and while that is not acceptable in a relationship, it's also not good practice to stop people hanging out with friends. The problem here is that he and his friends have a certai... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my virginity just like that, but I am getting to restless waiting for sex!
Q. hello friends im a 20yrs old guy and being a virgin is eating me up,, i mean i dont want to lose it just like that,, like waiting for some special person,, but sometimes i get too restless,, but i dont feel like going to a prostitute. i dont kn...
A. 27 June 2011: Let's put it this way, i'd rather have a one-night stand to lose my virginity than a prostitute. Don't even entertain the idea of paying for sex. There's nothing wrong with you waiting for someone special, and to be frank, the first time peop... (read in full...)
I want to marry him but not his kids!
Q. I love my boyfriend hugely and we are engaged to be married. He has two children from a previous relationship ,5 and 4. Though the children are relatively well behaved and love me I find it really difficult to accept. I never want children (though i ...
A. 27 June 2011: You can't have your cake and eat it.
If you want to marry him, then his children come as part of the package.
If you cannot accept that, then you need to look elsewhere.... (read in full...)
I love my FWB but he is flirting with other girls! What should I do?
Q. Me and this guy have been friends for ages and we both decided to be friends with benefits he is 3 years older than me, anyway i was supposed to see him on a certain night but i couldn't get to him so i told him and he got sorta ignorant with me, ...
A. 27 June 2011: This is often what happens to friends with benefits, one ends up falling for the other and can often end up messy.
He can flirt with who he likes as you're not going out, you're just friends with benefits.
If you want more, you have to ask him ... (read in full...)
Why shouldn't I be embarrassed about being a virgin?
Q. Hey, I just have a quick question. I asked everyone here a while back whether I should tell my girlfriend that I'm a virgin or not and people kept telling me I shouldn’t be embarrassed about it. Why? Why shouldn’t I? Most guys loose their the vcar...
A. 25 June 2011: Most guys losing their "vcard between 15 and 18" is crap.
You would be surprised at the amount who say they have lost their virginity between those ages but actually havent.
A lot say it to feel part of the rest but they are lying while most... (read in full...)
How can we get the spark back in our relationship?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been together for a couple of years now. The problem is that we have both kind of settled into this routine, boring way of life. It makes her question us, as well as makes me question us. I know that i love her to death. I ...
A. 18 June 2011: It's quite simple, get of your backside and start breaking it whether it means re-igniting the things like the notes or the kissing and cuddling. Yes it may feel a bit unnatural at first but you'll get over it.
Try doing some stuff randomnl... (read in full...)
I am still sleeping with my ex's brother! Help!!!
Q. Hi, well ive posted a question back in April about my ex's brother and me. I know it sounds bad but it all started in April with him texting me about having sex with each other.So we did have sex a few times.No one knows about it.Not his ...
A. 18 June 2011: There is no such word as can't. Quite simply nothing or no-one is forcing you to have sex and therefore you can say no. I think it's more of a case you don't want to.
The situation is a mess already and then if people find out, all hell will bre... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to break off our engagement?
Q. I broke off my engagement around 2 and a half months ago as I thought I was too young, being only 19 and him being the only long term relationship I've had for 3 years. I'm now seeing another guy n can't stop comparing him to my ex part of me likes ...
A. 14 June 2011: Carry on as you are, by the sounds of it, you did the right thing. The two of you want different things in life. As for comparing your bf and your ex that's normal especially has your ex was ur first love who you were with for three years. Als... (read in full...)
How can I earn his respect again, even though we have already slept together?
Q. I just recently passed a week end with a groupe of friends on holiday and in my groupe of friend there is one guy that I have dated in the past and now we are kind of friends with benefits when the ocasions gives. We have slep together in this week ...
A. 13 June 2011: It sounds like from what you have said that this is the first time you slept with someone since you stopped sleeping around.
It probably brought back all the memories of what you used to be like, but you cant let that affect you.
You don't sle... (read in full...)
Feeling very guilty for cheating on my girlfriend....should I tell her?
Q. I cant stop this terrible feeling of guilt after cheating on my girlfriend recently. I want to tell her but im scared if i do i will lose her. She means the world to me and im gutted ive now ruined everything after a stupid one night stand. Ive lied ...
A. 13 June 2011: I believe in honesty being the best policy and if you lose her as a result of it, that's the price you have to pay and a hard lesson you can learn.
But you have to ask yourself why did you cheat?
99 times out of 100 cheating stems from somet... (read in full...)
Part Two of "my girlfriend treats me badly and I'm starting to have feelings for her friend, what do I do?
Q. Ok i had written a problem before but i forgot to mention some stuff. Ok to begin with, ive been with my girlfriend 1 1/2 years, i feel under appreciated. She doest show effort, love. talks to her friends more easliy than she does with me. She has ...
A. 9 June 2011: Sort your relationship out before going after others (especially friends).
It seems however that it may be time time to move on from your current gf and it doesn't seem to be working and you have tried without success.
Jumping straight into an... (read in full...)
I'm a natural jester, but when it comes to my feelings I'm honest. How do I make her believe it?
Q. so i think i have really messed up this time. there is this girl i really like but whenever i tell her about my feelings she thinks that im playing around and joking. this is mostly my fault i think because i joke around with a lot of people but how ...
A. 28 May 2011: Make sure you tell her when it's just the two of you there - if that means doing it on a date then that's the way to do it.... (read in full...)
Is he going to propose?
Q. Hi. my boyfriend and I's 1 and 1/2 year anniversary weekend is next weekend. We planned to go out of town for dinner and a movie. Out of the blue he said he wants to come and spend the entire weekend at my house. A lot of the time he comes over for ...
A. 28 May 2011: Only he knows the answer to that. I would say disregard your thoughts of pre-proposal behaviour, because if you build it up to be that then you'll only end up disappointed if he doesn't propose... (read in full...)
I don't want him to know I'm a virgin. How do I fake being Good in Bed and experienced, the first time?
Q. So I really like this guy and he really likes me but he doesnt know I'm a virgin and I'm not planning on telling him. I've told him that I haven't slept with anyone for over a year but have said I have had one sexual partner. There is no way I am ...
A. 28 May 2011: What is your issue with being a virgin?
You're making the situation more difficult for yourself because you are lying about not being a virgin and you've put yourself under unecessary pressure.
All your questions are in a panic because yo... (read in full...)
I feel guilty after sex with a guy, not with a girl
Q. I don't know what to do, I need advice and guidance. Ever since I was 14, I knew I was bi, I had a sort of relationship with a girl before hand, and since then had a brief relationship with a guy. I say brief, we got intimate sexuall, not act...
A. 24 May 2011: It seems you favour girls over guys given what you've said.
There is obvious an interest in guys but it's either your mind telling you it would rather be with girls or a psychological thing making you think what you're doing with blokes is bad. ... (read in full...)
He lied about his age...Turns out he is 18!
Q. Hmmm so the guy I am dating is away for a month,visiting his family....and today I found out he lied to me about his age. he's a professional soccer player so I looked up his name and found his age. How we met : We were on the same bus on our...
A. 22 May 2011: It sounds like when you said your age he may have panicked and said he was 20 so you didn't think he was too young.
You need to bring up the conversation with him face to face and tell him he needs to be honest with you.
If he really does like... (read in full...)
I don't trust girls because I hook up with girls who are cheating on their boyfriends!
Q. hey everyone, i have a small issue..actually its a biiig issue, i dont trust girls anymore, its like i really cant see myself trustin a girl in my life, im a goodlooking guy and i consider myself to be a player, im in a long distance relation...
A. 22 May 2011: Firstly, how can you class this girl as a girlfriend if you've never met? it's a nonsense.
Secondly, you can't say you dont trust girls when you are doing exactly the same thing that you don't trust them for.
The problem with being a player i... (read in full...)
I've seen him once in three weeks, is he my boyfriend?
Q. hi there ive been seeing a guy for 3 weeks but only ive seen him once a week cause he owns his bussniss so hes busy and hes a singel dad like me am single mum. But dose it mean that hes my boyfriend?...
A. 22 May 2011: I wouldn't class you as boyfriend and girlfirend yet.... (read in full...)
Is 8 months too soon to know you want to settle down with someone?
Q. Hey, I'd love your advice on my situation and on whether 8 months is too soon to feel like you want to settle down with someone, please. I've been with my bf 8 months now. We met through friends, both of us happily single and not looking for rela...
A. 22 May 2011: It sounds like you are in love and nature is taking its course and you should just keep going.
It is quite common for people to move in with each other between the 9 month to 18 month marks.
Living together is the real test of how you get on a... (read in full...)
Want to be more Naughty in bed!!
Q. Me and my bf have started talking about different things we would like to try in bed. And this is really good because lately things have been lacking a bit. Like I love sex and trying all sorts of things but I wouldnt say I have any extreme fetishes ...
A. 22 May 2011: The answer is simple: If you want something like him going down on you - tell him.
If you want to be more aggressive as you say - do it.
The only person stopping you from doing this is you.
Sex is all about pleasing each other, you should d... (read in full...)
What do girls think about an 18 year old virgin?
Q. theres a girlm i have started to like and she sounds like she likes me too as we flirt all the time and she immediately replies to my messages that i send her. theres this friend who we both know she went to school with this girl i like and im at...
A. 22 May 2011: To be 18 and a virgin is completely normal. You are not in a minority.
Many people who say they have had sex at that age usually haven't, but of course that isn't applicable to everyone.... (read in full...)
Do men like being pursued?
Q. I don't mean excessively, like being stalked or texted every two seconds, but the man I am interested in is notorious for not keeping in touch with anyone of his own accord. We go to the same college, and sometimes (maybe once or twice a week) I ...
A. 22 May 2011: Ask him out for a drink or something like that. It's a way of getting you two together for more than 10 minutes and have a proper chat and see what happens.... (read in full...)
I shouldn't still care for this guy, but I do and it feels like my heart is just breaking...
Q. Here it goes, me and this guy have been friends for a long time. An have been off and on again FWB's over the past three years. We have talked about being in a relationship, but never ended up in one cause he says he is in love with another women. ...
A. 22 May 2011: I would have said you should tell him it's all or nothing, but it seems that he's already made that decision.
Now you have to go along with that. If he decides to get back in touch, you have to say he is too late and he had his chance.
Friends... (read in full...)
I told my bf how I feel, he freaked out
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years lately is keep on taking me for granted, spending most of the time with his friends, not spending enough time with me. Even if i am busy with something i used to pick up his call all the time, if he calls at all, he...
A. 22 May 2011: I don't think it matters if you freaked him out or not, it seems clear there's only one of you in your relationship and that's you.
Save some face and dump him before he dumps you.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have this high a sex drive or does it mean that I'm a sex addict ?
Q. Recently my sex drive has been considerably higher than my bf's. We have sex quite often at least three week sometimes everyday but while my bf finds this plenty I still don't find it enough. He will often have sex more often than he would like to ...
A. 22 May 2011: It is absolutely normal to have a high sex drive and it can be male or female who has the higher drive.
My opinion on sex drives is they are based on how good the sex is you're getting - because you want it more.
So in that case, he's givin... (read in full...)
Should I give my ex another chance or will he just continue his previous behavior?
Q. Hey everyone - would appreciate your thoughts! Basically just over a month ago my ex boyfriend was having doubts about our relationship as he was really unhappy and didn't know if it was us or something else that made him feel unhappy. He even ...
A. 22 May 2011: Based on what you said, I think you should give him another chance.
Sometimes its a case of not realising what you've got until you've lost it.
It sounds like he reached a cross-roads and didn't know what he wanted and took a wrong turn and n... (read in full...)
I have accidentally got two girlfriends and now I don't know what to do.
Q. I have accidentally got two girlfriends and now I don't know what to do. I have a girlfriend and we have been together since our teens and have known each other since we were born practically. Although we have been together for so long our ...
A. 21 May 2011: This is a classic example of why open relationships are a joke. How on earth can you be in a full-on loving relationship with someone when you can freely go an have sex with others? Eventually things like this happens. You meet someone else w... (read in full...)
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