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At the end of the day there is little use in pussyfooting around situations, I say them as I see them.
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I have accidentally got two girlfriends and now I don't know what to do.
Q. I have accidentally got two girlfriends and now I don't know what to do. I have a girlfriend and we have been together since our teens and have known each other since we were born practically. Although we have been together for so long our ...
A. 21 May 2011: This is a classic example of why open relationships are a joke. How on earth can you be in a full-on loving relationship with someone when you can freely go an have sex with others? Eventually things like this happens. You meet someone else w... (read in full...)
I had sex with a transexual, does that make me gay?
Q. i had sex with a transexual, it it really bugging the hell out of me.. does that make me gay?...
A. 21 May 2011: Doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. I take it you know from the start he was a transexual before getting into the bedroom? If so, ask yourself, what made you do it? Would you do it again?... (read in full...)
The action didin't happen and now boyfriend doesn't want to talk about it!
Q. Last Saturday, my boyfriend and I planned on having sex with each other for the first time. He planned a date and everything was really nice and by the end of the night I was definitely ready to do it...but he was too nervous or something to get it ...
A. 21 May 2011: Failing to be able to perform is not uncommon. It happens to many blokes and he is naturally embarassed. He basically needs to relax about this and relax when it comes to sex. you need to show him you're not put off by making the moves. Don't d... (read in full...)
I am really sexually confused.and need advice.
Q. I will be 18 this year and I am still a virgin and the reason why is because I'm so confused and scared. So I spend time watching porn gay and straight and I am so sexually confused. I find a gay interesting first and ive been looking since about ...
A. 21 May 2011: It sounds like you may be bi-sexual. Go on actual dates with blokes and girls and see what you prefer.... (read in full...)
Could you tell me what I'm feeling?
Q. To be honest, I just really don't know how I feel inside and was wondering if people could give me an idea of what I feel. I am emotionally restarted right now, like I know what makes me laugh and I can feel okay, but anything more its just a ...
A. 15 May 2011: Sounds like you two weren't a match for each other but your feelings for her were stronger than hers for you. An interesting point you make about not standing up to your parents, lying and letting things slide. The key to any successful rela... (read in full...)
When we have sex, it's agony!
Q. Heyy.. Okay; Well; ive been with my boyrfirend for 7months. I love him with all of my heart. Butt; when we have sex; its agony!! I have been in tears over this before during sex. I feel really bad; because he then feels bad for putting me thru the ...
A. 15 May 2011: Sounds like you may need to do more foreplay beforehand to get yourself wet. Also have you used lube?... (read in full...)
If you give good help does it feel horrible if no one likes your answers? This is for the people who answer a questions here ever please
Q. This is a question especially for people who like answering questions here. About their relationship on screen between the people they try to help and the people who get answers. The people who answer here have so many things they know and sometime...
A. 14 May 2011: I give my opinion, it's up to those if they want to listen.
I've found over time that often people around me or on here may not like what I say but six months later they turn around and say I was right or that they should've listened.
It's pr... (read in full...)
Is my mom finally accepting that I'm gay?
Q. Is my mum starting to except that I'm gay after a year and a half? We didn't get along for a long time and suddenly like a switch she has changed back to her normal self, we don't argue as much and now she has started to warn me about sex... A b...
A. 25 April 2011: It sounds like it yes, so good luck... (read in full...)
Do I come out to him? I haven't confirmed if he's in the closet yet. I don't want to lose contact with him.
Q. If you have read my other posts you know my story, but to sum it up I am a 17 year old bisexual male. This guy and I have been friends for a while and have been growing closer together and are on the verge of starting some kind of relationship. My ...
A. 25 April 2011: If you know he is in the closet, then that helps as opposed to not being sure if he likes men. You simply need tp start hanging out with him more other than these study groups. Try and push it a little bit (while keeping it fairly subtle)... (read in full...)
Should we go through with this?
Q. So my girlfriend and I have an excellent relationship and are very open with each other. We are both 19 and have been together since we were 15. We were talking a few weeks ago and she told me that the idea of letting guys lose their virginity to ...
A. 21 April 2011: It sounds absolutely bonkers. Your girlfirend isn't a piece of meat and this will attract all sorts, and could lead to something you both regret. Next, you'll be charging people for the privilege - effectively prostituting her. You say you... (read in full...)
My friend can't seem to accept that I've come out of my shell
Q. So I have had a couple of confidence problems in the past but in the last year I've really come out of my shell and I'm being a lot more confident. However I have a friend who can't seem to accept this, she was always the more assertive one and now ...
A. 19 April 2011: You've probably stolen her thunder and now get the attention while she has slipped into the background and she doesn't like it. Jealousy.
Carry on as you are, it's not your problem, it's hers. The guys will soon see that.... (read in full...)
I know our relationship is more important than sex, but I cant help feeling so horny! What can I do?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 16 months, and I love her. A lot. She is my first girlfriend. She meens the world to me, we have helped eachother through tons of things including the death of a close friend in a car accident. But the ...
A. 19 April 2011: It's understandable that you're a horny 17-year-old and want sex, but you're best backing off the subject and using your hand. You rightly say your relationship is more important than sex and you acknowledge that you raising the subject makes yo... (read in full...)
Everyone I know is married and some with kids, where did I go wrong?
Q. My sisters (1 older than me and 1 younger) are both married, one with children, one of my friends has been married 3 times and has 4 children, another is married with 5 children. It seems that the women of my age I meet in business are also all ...
A. 19 April 2011: It hasn't gone all wrong - look at your friend who has been married three times, now that's an example of going wrong. I'd much rather be in your position than your friend. All that's happening at the moment is you're feeling under pressure be... (read in full...)
Found a condom in my BF's wallet...but we don't use condoms!!
Q. my boyfriend and i have been togther for 3 years and i found a comdom in his wallet we don't use comdoms i ask him about it and he said he was going to use it on me i don't beleve him what sould i do...
A. 18 April 2011: Hold fire for the time being but keep an eye on things. Sounds suspicious to me.... (read in full...)
I want to stop masturbating because I don't feel good afterwards
Q. ok i haven't had a girlfriend before or had sex and i just keep masterbating. the other day i masterbated twice before 7am which is just crazy. what should I do to stop masterbating. i want to stop because i don't feel good after i have finished ...
A. 18 April 2011: Why would you want to stop doing something that is totally natural and form of sexual release?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbating, whatever time of the day. You masturbate for a reason - because you are horny.
Keep doing it... (read in full...)
We broke up because he said we had lost the 'connection' but he is still talking to me and wanting to be in my life! Does he still love me?
Q. What should I do about my ex boyfriend? am so confused:(? My ex boyfriend and broke up nearly 2months ago, he wasn't just my bf when we were together, he was my special friend as well and we did everything together and now I miss him so much...
A. 18 April 2011: Sometimes you don't realise what you had until you lost it and this seems like a classic example with your boyfriend. You both clearly still have feelings for each other but the ball is in your court over what happens next. You have to decide i... (read in full...)
I love her but she hurt me so I don't know what to do now....
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for two years now. Recently we got into a huge argument. As a result of the argument I went over her house to talk to her. I told her that I wanted to forget about everything and get try to make it work between us. She ...
A. 18 April 2011: She can't have her cake and eat it. If she thinks he's a better match for her then you should let her go. The only reason she wants to stay with you is for security.
I don't believe that she would just cut off contact with him.
You are right... (read in full...)
I cheated and he wants me to leave her for him..
Q. i have a girlfriend and have been going with her for 16months. however, in the 14th month i cheated on her, with another man. it turns out he was bi, and weirdly, we got on to the topic of penis. we kissed and i had sex with him. it was odd but felt ...
A. 17 April 2011: Firstly, no way to the 3-way, that is just ridiculous.
Secondly, you have to decide what you want - it's one or the other. You have to be true to yourself and go with what your instincts and head tell you.
You have already said you can't see yo... (read in full...)
I don't know who the father is
Q. I am pregnant (8weeks), and there is a possible of 3 people who could be the father. I went to a party and had sex with a mate. The next morning I, again had sex with another bloke (random this time). The next day me and my bf had unprotected sex ...
A. 17 April 2011: Can't really add anything different to what Caring Guy said, but I agree with him... (read in full...)
My ex still keeps in contact with me though he's supposed to get married to the woman he left me for...how should I handle this?
Q. I have tried for almost a yr. now to move on and stop loving my ex who left me for someone else. Although, he didn't become romantically involved with her till after ending it with me she was in the picture before hand. I have not spoken to or made ...
A. 17 April 2011: Let him carry on and ruin his own life instead of allowing him back into yours and inevitably give you more heartache, because that's what will happen.
I know you spent a long time together, but he has treated you badly. Why on earth do you want... (read in full...)
How can I deal with a lying boyfriend?
Q. Okay so I'm having serious trust issues with my boyfriend. It kills me that I cant trust him so I've been going to any lengths to prove to myself that I can trust him. He promises me that he doesn't talk to anybody else on msn tells me I'm all he ...
A. 17 April 2011: Get a grip and take control by dumping him. He is making a total fool out of you and you're letting him do so. The fact you've let it go on this long is bad enough - and yes you can break up with him as 14 months in not a long time. Un... (read in full...)
I feel horrible about masturbation. Is it wrong to do every day?
Q. So i'm 18 years old and i masturbate often. It ranges from 2 times a day every day to 3. I can't help but feel that i'm destroying my life every time i masturbate. I've been trying to reduce the amount of time i masturbate and to no avail, nothing. ...
A. 17 April 2011: There is absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal about what you do. It is perfectly normal. The only reason you may think you're the only who who does it daily and on more than one occasion is because others don't or won't admit to doing it. Vir... (read in full...)
Is it normal for me to want real cock
Q. I started out with my gf sticking her finger in my ass well she had a dildo and she said if I could take her dildo all the way in my ass I could fuck her in her ass(she said this jokingly) so I brought her the dildo and told her to do it. I took it ...
A. 17 April 2011: If by you saying your girlfriend moving away means you're not longer together then you can go and pursue it. It seems something you obviously enjoy and you'll only know for certain if you try it for real. I suspect you are bi-sexual or at ... (read in full...)
No communication or sex, should I break up with him?
Q. So I have been dating this guy for four months now. We are lucky to see each other twice a week. Most of the time it is only once a week, and half the time when we do see each other its only for a few hours. When we are together we are both hap...
A. 17 April 2011: By the sounds of it, this relationship isn't functioning as it seems there's only one of you in it. You can try giving it one last go and have another chat with him, but I suspect based on what you said that it is unlikely to prevent the inev... (read in full...)
Why did I tell him I forgive you?
Q. Basicly I dont know why Im still upset about it. well this guy i was with, we were constantly on and off he had a foul temper, he kept telling me over and over "I want you" and I kept giving him Achance and I dont even know what way it was supp...
A. 17 April 2011: you need to get a grip and pull yourself together.
you know this guy aint good for you, and when you tell him to delete all evidence of existence of his phone, you need to do the same about him on your phone.
cutting off all contact and movi... (read in full...)
This guy I've been talking to didn't want to sleep with me...and I ended up sleeping with his friend. Why do I feel badly?
Q. I have been talking this guy and we have been keeping it cool. I spent the night at his place twice but we have only done oral. So I was with him and his best friend we had all been drinking and his friend asked us if we were staying the night since ...
A. 16 April 2011: The probable reason he may be ignoring you is because you slept with his friend. There is not a lot you can do except give him a bit of space and time to cool down if he is angry. Leave it a week or two and if he hasn't contacted you, get in ... (read in full...)
This guy I've been talking to didn't want to sleep with me...and I ended up sleeping with his friend. Why do I feel badly?
Q. I have been talking this guy and we have been keeping it cool. I spent the night at his place twice but we have only done oral. So I was with him and his best friend we had all been drinking and his friend asked us if we were staying the night since ...
A. 16 April 2011: Would the same have happened if you weren't drunk?
Even though you don't regret sleeping with this guy, it seems like you did it on the rebound of getting rejected from the guy you actually wanted to sleep with.
See it as a lesson learnt in... (read in full...)
I'd love to be the confident person I appear to be. How?
Q. I don't want to bang on so I will keep this brief. I have no confidence what's so ever, after years of bullying cause I used to be a bit chubby, now that I've lost a lot of weight and some what attractive I can't bring myself to date and do thin...
A. 15 April 2011: Be yourself, be confident in yourself and don't care what people think about you. At the end of the day, all this doubt, it's all in the mind. Take up these offers from guys and try getting into the sports you enjoy, just go for it. You on... (read in full...)
After being found out he admits to all the cheating and says he'll give up his other girlfriends
Q. Hi everybody! I and my boyfriend are been together for 2 yrs and I just found out recently that he has already a girlfriend before me and they're still together. On top of that he has other women that he sees once in a while... I found out also ...
A. 8 April 2011: The obvious thing to do is dump him, he isn't going to just stop seeing these other girls no matter how much he makes u believe that. He said the decision is yours, the sensible one is to go your separate ways.... (read in full...)
I am torn between my polygamous ex who I love and a stunning woman who I dumped. How do I sever ties to my ex?
Q. I have been dating this girl since October and we are madly in love, but it hasnt been easy. She has lied to me numerous times,I have found out her actual age (a lot older than me) and she has lied about being with her ex, while she was still wi...
A. 8 April 2011: You shouldn't be with either girl. The first one has treated you shabbily and you were right to end it, but somewhat foolish to get back with her. The other girl seems more right for you, but seein as you can't feel the same way for her, you s... (read in full...)
Need suggestions on how to win her back while she is dating someone else.
Q. alright i know what ur gonna say do u really want ur ex back. Shes a good girl im just wondering how to show her that im not possessive. She broke up cuz i was supposedly possessive. I realize im gonna be who i am and if she don't like me again fuck ...
A. 8 April 2011: Credit for wanting to win her back and be the person she fell for, but were all this to happen, how are you going to stop being possessive again? You said "I realize im gonna be who i am and if she don't like me again fuck it shes not worth it." ... (read in full...)
Should I Tell Him That I'm Pregnant With His Baby?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry to bother you all but I've got myself into a difficult situation. I'm 17 (18 in 2 months) and I just found out that I'm 29 weeks pregnant. I was really experiencing any symptoms which is why I never found out earlier. The ...
A. 8 April 2011: You've answered your own question. He has a right to know and so does the baby later on in life. I understand you don't want to ruin things for him in his current relationship, but you need to tell him.... (read in full...)
Moving in with my boyfriend and his 2 friends, but I dated one of the friends a few years ago! Will it be awkward?
Q. Right about our one year anniversary, my boyfriend, his two closest guy friends and I are all moving into a house together. Yes... I'll be living with three guys but I'll be in my boyfriend's/our room. Unfortunately, I dated one of his friends for a ...
A. 7 April 2011: How comfortable do you feel with it? I assume your boyfriend knows about it and if so, he seems comfortable with it.... (read in full...)
I'm worried our relationship is purely based on sex!
Q. My boyfriend of 3 and a half years are always having sex. Our sex drive is ridiculous and we always want eachother. Our relationship has been good so far but I am worried that its based on sex. Im taking him very seriously now so I dont want this to ...
A. 7 April 2011: There's nothing wrong at all with having lots of sex, but do you do other stuff together when you come up for air - like days/nights out, trips away, socialising with others or even just chilled nights in without the sex?
If the answer is no, then... (read in full...)
Is it normal for men to become immune to small fights?
Q. Is it normal for men to become 'immune' to small fights and arguments? My fiance just doesn't seem to care about talking things out, but would rather sweep it under the rug and not really talk about it. His view is that I get upset and angry every ...
A. 7 April 2011: Sweeping things under the carpet is never a good idea, that's how problems start. talking is key over everything. but one thing that struck me from what you said is that his view is you get upset and angry every week so it's hard for him to have ... (read in full...)
Loves me or loves me not?
Q. hello eveyone.this is my first question and i hope that you can help me.just to clear this out,im gay and i dont want any hate in here.so let me begin.im 18 years old and i am at this college.there is a fellow student of mine that i really like and ...
A. 7 April 2011: Ask him.... (read in full...)
Is he right about our relationship? Will I be missing out? Will we both end up getting hurt?
Q. i'm 18 and i'm dating a 26 year old. though unorthodox, we persued our relationship. through the protective older brothers and sisters, judgmental extended relatives, and questioning parents; we came out as happy as ever and perhaps ...
A. 7 April 2011: strong relationships will get through most turbulent times. i can see his point of view about college but good relationships are hard to find. I wouldnt just throw it all away. See how it goes.... (read in full...)
Do I still need to get checked for STD's?
Q. So, i had sex for the first time back in October of last year and haven't had sex since then. The guy had many sex partners before me. We used a condom, but i was wondering when i have a check up this week with my doctor should i ask for a STD ...
A. 7 April 2011: It won't do you any harm at all to have a check-up. you may very well not have anything but at least you'll know for certain. It's refreshing to see peope thinking about these things.... (read in full...)
How do I come accross as nice guy even when her boyfriend is around?
Q. well my friends and i are going to the cinema tomorrow and the girl i like is going as well and i want to show her that i can be a nice guy because i think she has a little thing for me but her boyfriend who is coming with us treats her like rubbish ...
A. 7 April 2011: Just be yourself if that's the kind of person you are.... (read in full...)
I want to marry her, but her friend is exaggerating horrible secrets from my past.
Q. Basically, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year, and I'm planning to propose to her soon as we are very much in love, but I have some very horrific and soul destroying secrets that I never ever want anyone to know, but a close ...
A. 7 April 2011: Your girlfriend needs to know the secrets now and not later down the line.... (read in full...)
I want to get married, but she had 1 minute intercourse with a man while we were on a three month separation...Should I let this bother me?
Q. I been with my girlfriend for a very long time and we both are thinking about marriage. We have everything we want in one another. I just have question if everything you and your girlfriend did sexually was both of your guys first besides a a ...
A. 7 April 2011: At the end of the day, you were on a break. She has done nothing wrong. Live with it.... (read in full...)
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