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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We lived together for one and I had to move out because of family issues. He just started a business an hour away and wants me to get a job down where he is so we can be together again... I told him I would not move back in without being engaged. He told me he would propose when I got a job down where he is so we dont struggle which I understand. But shouldnt he propose then I get a job and move? I dunno maybe im looking to much into this but for some reason the order in which he wants to do things bugs me. On a side note im sticking to my guns by if i get a job before he proposes I will live in an apartment on my own until he proposes.
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reader, perfectdovez44 +, writes (19 February 2013):
perfectdovez44 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLet me clarify my parents are really old fashioned and didnt agree with us living in sin together so they caused a lot of fights by calling me all the time it was really unfair to us.
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reader, perfectdovez44 +, writes (19 February 2013):
perfectdovez44 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had to leave because of my family sadly :( thanks for your advice
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (19 February 2013):
Yes you are making a commitment to moving so you can be with him but the fact you are refusing to do it unless he proposes is absurd.
What makes it more ridiculous is that you have already lived together.
If you try and push him into doing something at a time perhaps that he is not ready to or just because you want your own way, the you stand more chance of pushing him away.
Think about thinks sensibly.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts  +, writes (19 February 2013):
 Um... You've lived with him before without a proposalI don't see why you can't just live with him again. If I've already lived with my partner, I'd want to stay with him just because I'll miss him after all that time together. Also, there are other benefits such as less travel time, shared living expenses etc. If you guys love each other and share the same views on marriage, then I'm sure he'll propose to you even if you move in with him again.Anyway, can you clarify something for me?Did you live with him for 1 year BECAUSE of family issues that meant you couldn't live with your family anymore? Or did you live with him for 1 year but then had to leave him because your family didn't agree with you living with him?
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