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Blunt and straight to the point.

At the end of the day there is little use in pussyfooting around situations, I say them as I see them.

Sometimes it doesn't make pleasant reading but it is what people need to see.

They want answers and not wishy washy stuff to make them more confused.

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I helped influence my boyfriend to disown his son

Q.   My boyfriend has a 6 year old son by another woman. When I came into the picture there was hardly a bond between them which I was not surprised at, he only saw the child twice a year and spoke on the phone with him. I felt this burning resentment ...

A.   22 November 2010: You are right in the fact that you have acted selfishly and should be ashamed from making your boyfriend disown his son. Admittedly he was wrong to keep it secret from you initially, but I can see why as you stated your intentions. But ... (read in full...)

Why can I no longer have an orgasm?

Q.   My boyfriend and i have been having sex for about a month now, we were both virgins when we met; so we are both still quite inexperienced. In the beginning of our new sex life my boyfriend was able to make me orgasm during intercourse a fe...

A.   22 November 2010: Firstly, the fact you take longer to orgasm than your boyfriend is nothing to worry about. You are still very new to your sex life and still learning what makes you tick. Think about the times when he did make you cum. Was it in a particular ... (read in full...)

We are living together but we are not together

Q.   hi recently me and my partener of 18 months and which i have a 10 month old child too have gone on a break. the reason behind this i dont know but we have a counciling session tomorrow to try and help our relationship be rebuilt, however...

A.   22 November 2010: It is good that you are trying to get things back on track, but the one thing that sticks out for me is that you said she suddenly stopped taking her medicines for PND and has been a mess after that. It sounds like she was not ready to come off... (read in full...)

Why would he go "floppyish"?

Q.   Hey, So i recently started dating a guy call him Jay, we really get along and love spending time together but we have tryed to have sex twice and his erection goes floppyish when we are about to have sex but when we are kissing and i play aorun...

A.   22 November 2010: Nerves could well be one of the reasons here. Sometimes they can get the better of a man at the crucial moment. It could be because he hasn't had it for a while or because he doesn't want to be a disappointment in bed. Just try and relax as muc... (read in full...)

Why did he come by my job?

Q.   Ok, Long story short, Fell into a casual relationship without any intentions of it being casual. I really liked this guy, he didn't want the same things = I felt like crap about it. That was 2 months ago. I've seen him a few times since and ...

A.   22 November 2010: There could be a very simple answer in that maybe he just happened to be in your area and needed to visit the store that you work for and it just so happened it was the one you work in. Given what you have said, this seems the most appropri... (read in full...)

He's nice but he's also a pimp!

Q.   i have been single for 4 yrs because i have been burnt and didnt want to get involved. a few weeks ago i was at gym and this guy came over to me and we started talking. there was instant chemistry and i felt really free and happy with him we meet in ...

A.   12 November 2010: Stay well clear. End of. If he's a prostitute pimp, he will probably brainwash or manipulate you you will eventually end up being pimped out. If he's a player pimp, he'll be sleeping with you and countless other girls at the same time. Ei... (read in full...)

My boyfriend kisses some of his guy friends and I'm not talking a peck!

Q.   Ok, my boyfriend kisses some of his Guy friends and not just a little Peck I have talked to him about it n told him it really bothers me that I feel like he's cheating, he stopped for a while but only after a huge argument about it n now he's ...

A.   12 November 2010: He is at least bi-sexual. He may be confused about his sexuality and not ready to admit he's gay or maybe he just enjoys the best of both worlds. I wouldn't say he was joking/messing around as he seems to be doing it regularly and with differen... (read in full...)

In your own personal experiences, how long does it take you to get over someone?

Q.   Just a question, for anyone to answer... on average, how long does it take you to get over somebody whom you've broken up with? Or who you've liked. I'm just asking because I feel as if it takes me so long to get over someone. My relationship with ...

A.   12 November 2010: Unfortunately it's like asking how long is a piece of string? There are so many factors that could determine how long it takes to get over someone including the type of person you are, they type of person they were, what the relationship was like... (read in full...)

Secret relationship and now I'm pregnant!

Q.   i like this man okay but it is a secret love. okay so we are seeing each other it is a secret relationship we have only been seeing each other for about 2 months but i think it will work . i need your help in how i should tell my parents and my f...

A.   12 November 2010: you've been seeing each other for about two months and you're already pregnant? have you not heard of contraception? it sounds like you have jumped in feet first and landed yourself in an unexpected situation that you have to deal with. you bar... (read in full...)

Would you say he's controlling?

Q.   Is my boyfriend controlling me? I have been dating this guy for a year and four months. Some insight into our relationship: I have cheated on him. (Kissed an ex at a party) And told him in a hurtful way. That was four months ago. Since then...

A.   12 November 2010: I think he is trying to control you because of what you've done to him. It is insecurity. You only have yourself to blame (more so for the way you told him) and clearly you have not won back his trust. Will you ever? Who knows? But at the same ... (read in full...)

Anything but a fairytale..

Q.   About 5 years ago I met once of the nicest sweetest people in the world and fell in love with her. Sounds like a fairy tale, but it is anything but. The truth is that from the get go I based our relationship on a lie and I had fidelity problems. ...

A.   12 November 2010: It may hurt you to read this, but I think you should walk away. You obviously have a connection, but there's definitely something not right. I can't put my finger on it though. I understand you want to be with her, but I think even if you wait... (read in full...)

He cuts off contact when he goes abroad?

Q.   hey.my boyfriend and i have been in an l.d.r for over a year now. we met the day he was leaving for u.k and fell in love in the few hours we spent together that day. at first we talked everyday and i was so in love but then he cut contact with me ...

A.   12 November 2010: Move on, you are wasting your time and have a more realistic chance of finding someone else you get on with better and see more if they are in your own country. This bloke is clearly not interested.... (read in full...)

Is it wrong for me to want to wait for her despite the fact that she is engaged?

Q.   I'll just get straight to the point. I am 20 yrs. old, and I am in love with my best friend who is 26. She has a 4 yr old daughter. She and I have been friends for about 2 years now. We are extremely close. I love everything about her, her smile, ...

A.   9 November 2010: Solely basing it on what you've said, it comes across that she sees you as a best friend. Unless there is something you haven't told us, it seems like you will be waiting a very long time for her. There is no hint from you of anything wrong i... (read in full...)

Do I leave this guy or should I give him a try?

Q.   Hi, i want some advice on this. I have been dating a guy for about 5 months and we are pretty good to each other, he has told me he has started to feel something special for me and i am starting to feel something for him, too. Before we started ...

A.   7 November 2010: My gut feeling is that your heart is in the relationship but his isn't. It seems like he is not being totally open with you for whatever reason. You are still in the early stages and if you are going to break it off, do it sooner than late... (read in full...)

Had sex with 2 different guys... who could be the father or could I be pregnant?

Q.   Had sex with 2 different guys... who could be the father or could I be pregnant. I was on the depo shot for six months and once i was off i had heavy bleeding for a month none stop. Finally i my period regularize and my period stopped 5 days l...

A.   7 November 2010: Firstly, take a pregnancy test to actually find out if you are pregnant or not before you get overly worried. If you are then you have a choice to make in terms of keeping it, and if you do you will have to tell both and then have a DNA test. ... (read in full...)

Yikes!!! Boy trouble!

Q.   Hi, I just met this guy at a friends party and we got chatting, we hit off straight away and I knew as soon as I saw him he looked like my next boyfriend! So we were gonna swap numbers but never got round to it. My friend gave me his number and h...

A.   7 November 2010: Stop beating around the bush and ask him out. Just simply along the lines of going for a drink of something. There's nothing more to it. As for your last sentence, that's just over the top.... (read in full...)

Smoking making him impotent

Q.   well ive just got bk with my ex to gave it another try but the only thing that is stopping us having sex is that he cant get hard the doc recons its down to his smoking but he wont gave smoking up any sugestions what we can do please thank u....

A.   5 November 2010: you know the problem, he either gives up or it's gonna be no nookie for you. ... (read in full...)

He only wants sex, but I want to be friends!

Q.   Dear all I am a 26 bi male and I haven’t been in any relation with a guy for many reasons. Anyway, lately I met a 33 years old guy online. We didn’t talked too much and he asked me to get naked on cam (I felt strange from his question but I did it a...

A.   5 November 2010: I think deep down you already know what you need to say to him. He only wants sex, you just want friendship. I don't think you are going to get what you want and I don't think you should give him what he wants because you don't actually w... (read in full...)

I feel bad for receiving oral and never giving it back!

Q.   My girlfriend is always asking for oral... politely, and she respects it when I decline, but I feel bad for receiving and not giving back, its just I'm inexperienced.... can anyone help me out? ...

A.   5 November 2010: Yes you should feel bad, get down there and get busy. Everyone starts off inexperienced but the more you do it the more you learn and you'll find out what makes her tick.... (read in full...)

Its the drugs or me!

Q.   I'm 20 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and few months. I feel like my boyfriend is choosing drugs over me. I've asked him to stop but every single morning he wakes up and smokes it. He isn't at work atm either so he's just at home ...

A.   5 November 2010: Move out, leave him. He doesn't respect your wishes and isn't just going to give up. I am also amazed that you are in this situation and considering trying for a baby. Go back to you mum's before it's too late.... (read in full...)

I love a woman 11 years older than me

Q.   Hello. I am 18 years old. For several months, I had a Japanese woman stay at my house when she visited the united states. She is 11 years older than I am. She is very sweet and cute. We enjoy long talks and find that we have many things in ...

A.   5 November 2010: Age gap isn't overly a massive concern. The bigger concern is that you are young and throwing your eggs into one basket for a woman on the other side of the world. When you do save up your money to go an visit, the time you spend together you shou... (read in full...)

I really like this guy but feel totally out of my depth with his drug & debt problem, what should I do?

Q.   Hi I just dont know what to do. Iv been seeing this guy for a few weeks and we decided to become a couple two weeks ago. His a really nice guy with a great sense of humor, a good job and generally treats me like a princess. He told me he h...

A.   5 November 2010: Get out of there. Too many times I have heard stories like this when one person is on drugs and in debt and they always seem to end up with the innocent person losing out. You have only been seeing him for a few weeks and it is a good time to ... (read in full...)

I can't find a way to forget about her!

Q.   Ok well my girlfriend of about 3 years left me for another guy. Ive been feeling really crappy even after i do other things to keep me busy. What gets to me the most is that i kept talking to her after she left because i was not over her and she ...

A.   5 November 2010: Unfortunately our minds are not like switches and you can't just turn them off. Accepting that she has moved on is the first step and you are doing the right things in trying to keep yourself occupied. Assuming she is your first love, they... (read in full...)

I don't feel secure in my current relationship and can't stop thinking about my ex!

Q.   I had an amazing long term relationship a few years ago that ended mostly because of money issues... I still think about this ex and miss him terribly. Our breakup shocked our friends and family but I needed to leave because I feel like lost ...

A.   5 November 2010: It seems like your heart is not in your current relationship and given that you say it could end any day, the likelihood is that it will eventually. As to whether you should give things with your ex another go, clearly you are both still in love ... (read in full...)

Does every relationship go through a little rough patch?

Q.   Does every relationship go through a little rough patch? Things were going great till like a couple days ago now things are just on the verge of being okay. We have been in a relationship for almost a year but have been friends for two years. I just ...

A.   4 November 2010: life is one big challenge and these challenges are set to test us and our resolve. every relationship has its ups and downs for whatever reason. some big, some small. how much have you discussed him wanting "adventure" and you wanting "happily... (read in full...)

Friends with benefits?

Q.   Alfredo has been one of my very good friends for a long time. But as you know female-male friendships are a lil hard keep. Eventually it happened, we had a lil too much to drink and we had sex... then it happened again.. and again.. We became s...

A.   4 November 2010: you can do only one of two things - 1) stop the sex and stay friends or 2) take it into a relationship. it seems clear from what you say that both of you have feelings for each other and you need to discuss it and then you will have a better i... (read in full...)

I just want to be with him! Is there any advice?

Q.   Hi there, Theres this guy I've been working with. He said to me that he really likes me but because he has a boyfriend and we work together, nothing will happen between us and we would just be friends. I absalutley love this guy. Everyt...

A.   4 November 2010: Don't build yourself up to be knocked down. You know he's going through a tough time and his head isn't running very clear. While you may be developing feelings for him, you have to control them, but be there for him when things get tough... (read in full...)

He cheated, now I am falling for someone else and have no idea what to do!

Q.   Ok, this is probably going to sound like I'm a complete bitch, but I do have a conscience and I do feel bad about what I'm doing here. I'm 26 and have been with my bf for 2 years. He cheated on me a year ago, and has been flirting online ...

A.   4 November 2010: regardless of the situation with the postman, you need to end your current relationship as the trust has gone. it may hurt to hear this, but if he cheated on you a a year ago and has been regularly flirting with other girls on line, how many oth... (read in full...)

I no longer want to be with my fiancee and I like his best friend!

Q.   I'm looking for advice. I'm engaged to the father of my child. I'm no longer in love with him but I don't hate him. We get along fine and we "love" each other but the love is gone. It has been for a few years now. He has a friend, a best friend...

A.   4 November 2010: to avoid repetition, I agree with MoonLux... (read in full...)

23 year old virgin......is it too late for me?

Q.   Is it too late for me being a 23 year old virgin given that I'm finishing university in a few months? Because I'm in my final year of university, it is expected of me that I should have by now slept with at least one woman unless I'm celibate...

A.   4 November 2010: the only reason you are worrying is because the majority of people start experimenting with sex between the ages of 16 and 22. just because you haven't doesnt make you any different. If you ask most people, they will probably say their first ti... (read in full...)

I regret turning him down, but if I do ask him out then my friends might make fun of us both...

Q.   Ok, my best guy friend is really awesome. He's really funny and intelligent too. We joke about silly things, like in fifth grade when he asked me out and I replied 'where?'We drifted apart once we left that school, because we were on different sides ...

A.   4 November 2010: 1) you have to ask him out as he will probably be afraid of being rejected again 2) screw what your friends think... (read in full...)

No sex after jacking off?

Q.   Is man unable to sex with girl after doing many time jack off?...

A.   4 November 2010: A man can have sex after jacking off yes. He may need about 10 mins or so to get aroused again but there's no reason why he can't. It's more so whether he wants to... (read in full...)

Do you think it matters how quick a girl orgasms?

Q.   I tend to orgasm within 5 minutes during sex with my bf. I don't know if my bf likes the idea that I finish really quick cause I feel like he wants to go longer. Of course he gets to finish, but i feel like he wants sex to last longer... Obviously I ...

A.   4 November 2010: personally, i like it if the girl cums quickly. it usually means she can go again and again. if that's the case, great. i'd rather she have multiple orgasms than just the one. I obviously want to orgasm myself eventually, but but there's little b... (read in full...)

Before we even started, he was finished!

Q.   Well a couple of days ago it was my boyfriend and i first time that we had sex. We had been wanting to do it before but we didnt have a chance to. So everytime we made out i would turn him on. And when we finally had the place to have time together ...

A.   4 November 2010: He needs to relax and learn about controlling himself. Of course this is a lot harder when you are new to something. But there is one way around it which does help is to perform oral sex on him or masturbate him so he climaxes. Once he has done... (read in full...)

I'm worried about my skin color and what guys will think

Q.   This is a strange question but please take it seriously and not be too patronising because it is a genuine concern of mine. I have only ever been with one guy and we split up a while ago. I have since met another guy who is nice and I feel I may...

A.   4 November 2010: Your skin colour is irrelevant quite frankly. You have the same features as every other woman which work in the same way. If someone is put off by a different skin colour then it is them who has issues not you. Be proud of who you are and what... (read in full...)

Is it true that race plays a factor in the size of a penis?

Q.   my gf has made comments and jokes before about all black men having large penises i feel very uncomfortable hearing this and yes insecure about my own size but i want to know if it is true or if its just a porn scam or some weird thing like that...

A.   4 November 2010: I would say it is a myth. however I don't care what anyone says size isn't the be all and end all. If you have a very small or a very large penis, it could pose a few problems, but at the end of the day it's what you do with it that counts o... (read in full...)

Its sad that I didn't realize what I had until I lost it

Q.   Hi everyone I am looking for someone to help me out. I am a gay man and I was in a relationship. The guy I was with was a good guy and he did so much for me. We broke up as I was going thru a tough time. I did him wrong in so many ways. I know I ...

A.   4 November 2010: Hindsight is a wonderful, but exceptionally frustrating thing that you can do little about. If he still loves you, talk to him, tell him what you are feeling. If the love is still there from both sides, then who knows what can happen. If he s... (read in full...)

Ex and I split up 3 years ago but we still have sex every week even though he's with someone else

Q.   My ex and I have been spilt for 3 years +...he has a new gf that they have a child together ....they do not get along that well at all but he won't leave her because of the child, or some other reason. we sleep together every week and the sex is ...

A.   4 November 2010: To avoid repetition, I agree with everything Caring Guy says.... (read in full...)

Out of love and feeling depressed

Q.   It's been a while since I was in a relationship face to face; in the flesh. I'm a strong women and I can take care of myself. And I'm also independent. But now, i've been depress because all around me I see couples, and I've long to be with my ...

A.   4 November 2010: looking at your age, you shouldn't be worrying about future lovers, you should be out there having fun and enjoying single life. when the right man comes along, he will, just don't go actively searching for it because you will want it more and... (read in full...)

What do guys prefer down there?

Q.   My bf of 2 years prefers larger labias, and luckily for him I have one. But personally, I HATE it. Guys opinions please, what do you prefer, should I be worried about if I ever have to enter another serious realtionship? I worry about what someone ...

A.   4 November 2010: To be perfectly honest, I don't really care whether it's big or small down there, as long as i know how to pleasure my girl downstairs, I'm happy.... (read in full...)

Kissing in public

Q.   Hi I am 14 and I have a girlfriend, I really want to kiss her properly next time we meet in the city... we will be with friends... can someone advise me on the appropriate steps to kiss her in public? we hold hands in public, by the way she is ...

A.   4 November 2010: There are no appropriate steps, just go for it and enjoy. if any of your friends laugh it is through jealousy.... (read in full...)

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