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Blunt and straight to the point.

At the end of the day there is little use in pussyfooting around situations, I say them as I see them.

Sometimes it doesn't make pleasant reading but it is what people need to see.

They want answers and not wishy washy stuff to make them more confused.

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I cant find anyone I am interested in!

Q.   Im currently a 22 yr old uni student and lately ive been feeling pretty empty with the lack of a gf. ive spend the past two years in uni and not found one single person i might be interested in. I keep thinking that ill never find someone and I feel ...

A.   21 February 2011: Two things here (in no particular order) 1) Are you setting your standards too high? 2) probably the most relevant here - break out of your usual routine. It's easy to get stuck in a comfort zone but I think this is the way forward for you.... (read in full...)

Am I justified for breaking-up with her?

Q.   I was with my girlfriend for about 1 year and I still have feeling for her. Problem is at a New Years Eve party when we were in a relationship I saw her in a corner getting off or making out with another guy. I vaguely knew him and I just left them ...

A.   21 February 2011: If you don't feel you can trust her then making a second chance work is going to be very difficult. Arrogance and stubborness has little to do with it. She broke your trust and hurt you. It's your call but I know what I would do and that woul... (read in full...)

I have no feelings for him but he seems to think we're going out!

Q.   He really likes me, but I'm just not that into him.... what do I do?!? In brief, lovely guy, goes to my college and we share some classes, he's funny, charming, really sweet guy, and he recently told me he really really likes me and asked me out...

A.   21 February 2011: It's simple, you have to tell him straight and put him in the picture of what the situation really is and not what he thinks it is.... (read in full...)

Ashamed at being a 20 year old virgin...

Q.   I am 20 years old and a virgin. I have never had a long term relationship and the people i have been with have cheated and treated me very badly. Im not the type to have a one night stand and the fact i was still a virgin never use to bother me as i ...

A.   18 February 2011:  Stick to your principles of not putting out for the sake of it. There's nothing wrong with you and nothing you should feel embarassed about. Besides, half the time, youngsters saying they have had sex are lying to make themselves sound bette... (read in full...)

I want to stay around him until he is interested. Is this a good strategy while we remain FWB?

Q.   Ok...I need some advice. I have worked with this guy for about 3 years but we didn't really talk outside of work, because we were both been in a relationship at the time (him for 3 years and me for 4) until November. In November I gave him ...

A.   18 February 2011: Well really, you two need to be together as a couple if you want to keep him around and interested. I don't believe in wanting to be with someone in the future. You either want to be together now or never. It seems like he wants to lead a si... (read in full...)

This guy is a jerk and I am scared. What should I do?

Q.   I've been dating a 11th grader since yesterday, and now he's been telling people he's going to have sex with me, like I'm a sex trophy to him. I never even had my first kiss and I'm a virgin the most i've ever done with a guy was hug, until he came...

A.   18 February 2011: I'm not sure you even need to get your brother involved. I think you should just say it like it is to the guy you are seeing. Tell him he is out of order going around saying things like that and you won't stand for it. Ask why he said it in the f... (read in full...)

How do I start to talk to her and will there be a future relationship?

Q.   I like a girl but I had never spoken to her, how do I start the conversation and then eventually be her friend then finally get the courage to ask her out?...

A.   18 February 2011: she is also a human being so start a conversation the way you would normally start one. just be yourself and don't try to be someone you're not.... (read in full...)

I'm going to school in another country and I haven't had a girlfriend! What should I do?

Q.   I have posted a few questions on here usually when I feel really bad. I have felt really bad for a long time. I figured things couldn't get any worse, but today I logged on to facebook to see a nice girl I really liked was in a relationship with ...

A.   18 February 2011: Firstly, you should never shy away from your weakeness, you should confront them. If that means seeing a uni counsellor then so be it. As for a not having a girlfriend during your late teens/early 20s - what's the big deal? Not everyone does. T... (read in full...)

Do I respond? Or is silence golden, in the circumstances?

Q.   How should i respond to a text from my ex who has come into town. i had texted him, telling him, "we shouldn't see each other, when he's in town". he replied with "ok bye." then two hours later he texted me with a booty call text basicall...

A.   18 February 2011: if u dont' think you should see each other, leave it... (read in full...)

Should I allow my husband to have sex with other women because of a fetish for huge boobs?

Q.   Should i let my husband have sex with other women because of a fetish for huge boobs? My husband and I have been together for 4 years (married for almost 2) we have a 1 year old little boy and our second baby is due in june. He has a fetish/...

A.   17 February 2011: Short answer: No. Nothing else needs to be said... (read in full...)

To all Freelance writers or small business owners - I need your help!

Q.   Attention all freelance writers and small business owners out there.. I need help. I'm a journalist whose desperate to get out of the rat race of being a reporter - writing about things I'm not even interested in - to start up my own freelanc...

A.   17 February 2011: As a journalist, you should know that you should be chasing everything - and that includes payments not just stories. If you're not tough enough to chase, as you say, then you won't succeed. You have to have the hunger and everything that goes ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that I want to meet the guy my girlfriend cheated with?

Q.   My girlfriend cheated on me 7 months ago and at the time I was only able to deal with it by pretending it hadn't happened. Now I feel I will never be able to move on in my mind without knowing who this guy is. Is it wierd that I want to meet him? I ...

A.   17 February 2011: You need to ask yourself this: What do you plan on achieving by confronting him? ... (read in full...)

I'm regretting that I broke up with such a sweet girl

Q.   I recently broke up with my girlfriend. We were together for almost 2 years. I felt I need to break up since i didnot want to be in a relationship right now. I have too many problems and want to work through them. I have been in a relationship since ...

A.   15 February 2011: She is angry with you and feeling rejected and won't get over it straight away. You need to try and talk to her and see how you can resolve things but at the same time ensure she knows you have problems you need to sort.... (read in full...)

Will she forgive me, and talk to me again? Should I give her time?

Q.   My ex girlfriend and I broke up back in September. She broke up with me because she was feeling like she wanted to see other people. I was the best boyfriend she had and she loves me so much, but she is so upset because she has these feelings. So we ...

A.   8 February 2011: You could probably give her as much time as you want, but I don't think she's got over the original break up - even though it was her that wanted it. And what has happened since, like you getting another girlfriend has hit her hard and she's tr... (read in full...)

I'm sick of all her lies! Am I right to wait until April to officially end things?

Q.   My girlfriend of about a year and half recently broke up with me and I am so sad. I honestly believe that she was my first love and she was the love of my life. It was more than a physical attraction, I had a deep emotional and attachment to her. ...

A.   8 February 2011: Get shot now. It's your gf's problem not yours. You seem a decent bloke but don't know how you could be prepared to be around her until April after what's go on, simply because of the lease. You also have to think of your room mate and it can'... (read in full...)

Is cybersex with others considered cheating?

Q.   I met a guy many years ago online and we started to have cybersex. It became very intense and eventually we fell in love. We spent many hours talking on phone, IM, email etc. We plan on getting married but due to some unforseen circumstance have not ...

A.   8 February 2011: any sort of sexual goings on with another person whether it be physical or through cyberworld is cheating... (read in full...)

I feel so much guilt for doing this!

Q.   I have a gf but we haven't had sex in a while she is out of town ... I miss it and sometimes i watch porn and porn videos of gays come out .... so today there is someone that i didnt know and we were talking on the internet and he asked me if i wa...

A.   8 February 2011: I suspect you have too much guilt inside you to keep this quiet and it will all come out. Telling her you cheated will be a big enough kick in the teeth for her. Finding out it was with a bloke will probably be an even bigger body blow. You hav... (read in full...)

Is watching porn while your in a relationship a form of cheating?

Q.   Is watching porn while your in a relationship a form of cheating? I've found out my boyfriend has watched porn a few times and confronted him about it. I told him that I feel degraded when he looks at that stuff because he has ME, so why should he ...

A.   8 February 2011: It's not cheating and more women actually watch porn than admit to doing so. you are just watching two people having sex. if you think about it, you can sometimes pick up new ideas. if they didn't want you to watch them, they wouldnt film it.... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant, had a one night stand and am so afraid to tell my boyfriend!

Q.   I just found out I'm pregnant, however I'm not sure if my current boyfriend of five years in the father or a one night stand(I was really drunk that night celebrating my friend's birthday). The nest morning I took Plan B and I was told by the doctor ...

A.   8 February 2011: There is no way in hell that you'd be able to lie to your boyfriend and keep it secret for as long as you're together - nor would i recommend you do so either. The only reason you're scared of telling him is because you've done wrong and the baby... (read in full...)

Pain from a past betrayl getting in the way of a good relationship

Q.   I should have moved on by now. How can I make the pain go away? I was in a relationship with a man who lied to me about being married. We lasted a year and a half and not only fooled me, he fooled my family, my son, my friends, he hurt us all. I t...

A.   8 February 2011: This new guys needs to be given the chance and you need to talk to him about everything that worries you. Honesty and openness is key to any relationship. It sounds like he's very understanding and you've found a decent bloke.... (read in full...)

My girlfriends ex is still in the picture. Why would she lie?

Q.   We have been dating for a few months now and things have been going great up until now. The other day we were having a serious discussion and she told me that she still hangs out with her ex boyfriend. In the past she told me that she cut all ...

A.   8 February 2011: I get the impression that this is something that isn't just going to go away and someone is going to get hurt - most likely you. I wouldn't get yourself too into your relationship just yet as I suspect this will not be the end you hear of all ... (read in full...)

I am obssed about my boyfriend's ex's

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 1 years now, I love him so much and i can see he loves me too. we plan to get marry this year december. But I can't stop thinking about his ex girlfriend. This thinking drives me crazy! His ex's were very pre...

A.   8 February 2011: Why are you thinking about her in the first place and comparing? By the sounds of it, you're driving yourself away from him for what seems to be trivial. So many people get hung about about their partner's exes (when they're out of the picture) ... (read in full...)

What do I do about my loss of interest in sex?

Q.   I want to start this off with this: I am not looking for pity in this post, because I am sick and tired of girls (and guys) just looking for attention. I am truly looking for advice because I have nowhere else to go. The last place I wanted to throw ...

A.   8 February 2011: It's hardly surprising you've lost your sex drive. Sex is something that is supposed to be fun and enjoyable and all that has been ripped away from you because of what your ex did. You are now seeing sex in a different light and are mentally... (read in full...)

Had lots of unprotected sex and never got pregnant....does this mean I wont be able to have kids in the future?

Q.   There's this guy that I have sex with a lot. He cums inside me all the time...but I have never gotten pregnant once. I'm 13 years old (I know I'm wayyyy too young for sex) but I mean...why cant I get pregnant? I don't want to at all but I mean can I ...

A.   8 February 2011: 1) Yes you can get pregnant. 2) aside from the underage element, why on earth are you having unprotected sex in the first place?... (read in full...)

I'm dating 2 guys.... I cant pick between them

Q.   I need help..... Ive always been in a realtionship and have been single for a year now had loads of fun but now I have met 2 great guys and I dont know who to pick!!! They are both great in differnt ways but I cant carry on dating the 2 of ...

A.   8 February 2011: Neither is the blunt answer. You can't go out with someone you don't fancy and you can't go out with someone you don't trust to stay faithful. Both will fail. Wait until someone you feel you will be completely comfortable with. ... (read in full...)

I need help! What can I do to make him feel better when making the first move with sex.

Q.   i'm with my bf 16 months, at the start we were both very shy, it took a lot longer for him to come out of his shyness. we'll we started having sex after 3 months, i'm very happy with our sex-life its just i always make the first move, our sex just ...

A.   1 February 2011: Just go with whatever he does for starters. You say he's been knocked back in the past by his ex, and he probably fears the same will happen. By going with it, will raise his confidence and will encourage him more in the future to make the firs... (read in full...)

I don't understand how it has gone from being so lovely and perfect to this?

Q.   I have been with my bf for nearly 4 years and have been living together for nearly 3. Our realtionship to me was amazing, we had so much in common up for a laugh go out with our friends, eveything around the house was split 50/50 we was a good ...

A.   1 February 2011: Sometimes relationships can just run their course, but this sounds like there's more to it that he's not letting on about. It's his behaviour that seems the puzzling bit. Have you tried to talk to him about it?... (read in full...)

Are there any couples out there who are 100% faithful to one another?

Q.   I dont know if it's because Ive been reading the articles on this site too often (this being a relationship help site and all), but it seems that everywhere I look, people are unfaithful to each other. Im basically asking, are there any couples ...

A.   25 January 2011: there are plenty of faithful couples, you won't find many on this site though... (read in full...)

Boyfriend claims he love me. So why does he sleep around?

Q.   If my boyfriend says he loves me, then why does he engage in casual sex with others? ...

A.   25 January 2011: he probably says it to try and keep you happy. Ditch him... (read in full...)

Should I stick with guys who bore me, or wait for the players to change their ways?

Q.   I seemed to be having a hard time to finding someone that I can have a relationship with. I talk to plenty of guys, but once the relationship begins, I get bored of them... Or the guys that are intresting to me, end up being jerks and want to get in ...

A.   25 January 2011: what's the point of getting into a relationship if you're gonna get bored? None. The "jerks" wont become prince charmings. If you start being a player from the beginning of ur sex life, the chances are you'll always be a player. So instead of... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has slept with 6 women, but he's my first. It bothers me!

Q.   I've been with my bf for 2 years and when we met I was a virgin and he had slept with 6 other people. I love him a lot but I find this incredibly hard to deal with sometimes. Sometimes it does't bother me, but when I think about it it weirds me out. ...

A.   25 January 2011: Stop letting the number of women he's slept with bother you. What's happened in the past has happened and there's nothing you can do to change that. It's not a competition of who sleeps with the most people. What happens now you can do somethin... (read in full...)

No christmas or birthday card from my boyfriend, is it OK for me to be upset?

Q.   I wrote on here a few weeks ago about how my boyfriend of 5 months didn't get me even a card for Christmas after I got him a $200 gift. My birthday was a week later and I did not get even a card for that either. Am I being a baby or do I have a r...

A.   14 January 2011: you have a right to be upset and right to dump him (and take back the gift you got him). he clearly doesn't care.... (read in full...)

Scared of having sex again after a bad first time experience!

Q.   So I'm a straight guy, and my first time having sex, I was drunk and it ended quickly and didn't feel good, so overall, not a great experience. The problem I'm facing now is that I'm now nearly scared of the idea of having sex and am worried that ...

A.   14 January 2011: First time sex is usually a let down so don't worry about it. It will get better the more you do it and the more you relax.... (read in full...)

I'm scared I might have hurt her when I chickened out of going further. I don't know what to do

Q.   Ok, so i'm 15 and my girlfriend and I are talking about sex. But i'm scared to because i might hurt her. we've reached really close to having sex, but i chickened out. I told her this reason and she keeps saying it'll be ok... i don't know what to ...

A.   12 January 2011: Just go for it.... (read in full...)

Did my cherry pop?

Q.   ok so here is my problem over thanksgiving break me and my boyfriend were making out and getting really into it so he fingered me but when he did i was on my period but he didnt care so my question is how do i kno if my "cherry popped"?...

A.   11 January 2011: If he didn't stick his penis inside your vagina, you still have your cherry in tact... (read in full...)

He admitted he couldn't commit to me the first time, and now he's telling me I'm the one?

Q.   I have a problem. I have been seeing this man for a year and a half now. We have a really great time together and have a lot in common. I was ready to settle down and be committed to him about 8 months into the relationship. I openly discussed my ...

A.   11 January 2011: Only you can decide what you want but it sounds like your first bloke had his chance and missed the boat and now that he's caught a later one he thinks he can just walk back into your life. If one of them was to let you down later on in life, wh... (read in full...)

Why is he acting like sorting stuff out in order to be mates is a ridiculous idea? Especially after he contacted me on new years?

Q.   I really need to know from you guys, why this guy is being so weird. Help? My ex and I have been broken up fro 5 months. It was a very passionate and loving long distance relationship which ended due to the fact that we argued all the time and...

A.   11 January 2011: Sounds like he's trying to block out the problems of the past... (read in full...)

How do I leave him without feeling guilty?

Q.   Hello Cupid, Well I have been with my guy since 1998 and now we are 32 with a 10 year old daughter. The issue I have is I have grown apart from him, I stay with him because I feel I have too but in reality nothing is really holding me... I'...

A.   11 January 2011: Tell it straight. You have love for him but you no longer love him, you feel you've grown apart and you won't put up with the way he treats you. Honesty is best and it's natural to feel guilt but I cannot see why you are feeling guilty.... (read in full...)

Complicated Relationship Ended With A Complicated Break Up

Q.   Me and my girlfriend had so many problem and arguments in the past. I'm 19 and She's about to be 20, we went out for 3 years. All the fighting caused our love to be replaced by resentment, and don't believe we didn't try because we did a lot. It was ...

A.   11 January 2011: You can never predict how the future will pan out but I wouldn't pin your hopes on getting back together. If you are meant to be, you are meant to be and things will happen as and when. It's harder to let go because she was your first serious ... (read in full...)

After 2 years of dating, he's not ready for a relationship. What should I do?

Q.   I really don't know what to do I've been with a guy for 2 years now and he still tells me that we not ready for a relationship even though we act like we going out. Should I stay and wait till he comes around or walk away?...

A.   11 January 2011: I find it strange that you've been with someone two years and only now he's saying neither of you are ready for a relationship. Sounds like he may be losing interest and you should prepare yourself to go your separate ways.... (read in full...)

I can't seem to accept that she likes me and I get depressed when I don't hear from her!

Q.   I've met this girl who I think likes me. Infact, her actions suggest she certianly does. We've had 3 dates so far, and have talked a lot on msn inbetween. At the end of the third date she invited me for coffee and we held hands walking to her place. ...

A.   11 January 2011: You are over thinking and need to chill out and go with the flow. You obviously have feelings for her because when you don't hear from her you 'get depressed' which to me is a sign you want to speak to her and be with her and from what you say ... (read in full...)

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