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I want to get married, but she had 1 minute intercourse with a man while we were on a three month separation...Should I let this bother me?
Q. I been with my girlfriend for a very long time and we both are thinking about marriage. We have everything we want in one another. I just have question if everything you and your girlfriend did sexually was both of your guys first besides a a ...
A. 7 April 2011: At the end of the day, you were on a break. She has done nothing wrong. Live with it.... (read in full...)
Cure for Premature Ejaculation? - No alternative pleasing, just penetrative sex!
Q. Is there really a cure for Premature Ejaculation?? I have used desensitized condoms, and they work great on me, but the latex burns and rashes my gf, no mater how wet she is or how much lube we use. The Start-Stop method don't work, it has act...
A. 7 April 2011: make sure you cum during foreplay whether that be her masturbating you or giving you a blow job. That way when you go to have sex soon after you should last longer.... (read in full...)
How can I trust and love my new partner after what I've been through?
Q. dear cupid hi im jst startin a new relationship and a year and half ago i fleed domestic violence also lost my 4 children through it. my new partner is the most loving person and caring but i think im pushing him away because im scared because of my ...
A. 7 April 2011: You have to see him as a different person and a fresh chance. It's understandable that you have fears because your last relationship has left you mentally scarred.
Look for the positives you get from your new guy and give him a chance. Does he ... (read in full...)
I want a long-term serious relationship, but I get bored easily!
Q. I'm generally an easily bored person, and it's no different when it comes to relationships. I'm constantly wishing for my ideal man--someone who is engaging, funny, and charming among other traits. Maybe it's because I want a unrealistic fairytale ...
A. 7 April 2011: Lower your standards - you want mr perfect and because someone doesnt exactly fit that bill, you get rid.
Stop looking to tick boxes of approval and just chill out as your blinding your own vision.
Take a bloke as you find them - you're right t... (read in full...)
I took a guy's virginity and stopped talking to him cold turkey. Now I feel guilty, what should I do?
Q. About three weeks after ending a five year relationship with my ex I started talking to a guy and things went off great. It was honestly really amazing, he was perfect. I ended up having sex with him, and he had told me before hand that he was a ...
A. 7 April 2011: You should write to him again, or even meet up and you should be open about everything that's gone on so he understands.
You also have to decide what you want from it to. If it's nothing as you're happy with your new boyfriend, you have to make ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid his large penis is going to hurt
Q. me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 6 months and we are very close. we have discussed sex and contraception and all that and we both feel ready and comfortable enough with each other to have sex. but he hasa very large penis ad i'm ...
A. 6 April 2011: plenty of foreplay to get you wet. if that's not enough lube. that's all you need to worry about.... (read in full...)
Torn between my boyfriend of 4 years and another guy
Q. I am torn between my boyfriend of 4 years and another guy. i used to be really happy with my boyfriend but he doesn't really talk to me and he rarely texts me. When we started dating he always wanted to see me and talk to me but not so much anym...
A. 6 April 2011: It sounds like you and your boyfriend are drifting apart, but this is what you should focus on. Find out why it is happening and what you can do to resolve it. It could just be a case of you actually growing apart and can't be resolved. This is t... (read in full...)
She's keeps asking me when I'm going to propose to her, but she tells other people she wishes she was with this other guy who she's cheating on me with!!
Q. Hi I just wanted to get some advice I don't think my gf is phisicly cheating on me but..... When got together she was seeing this other guy at the same time. 2 years on and she is still in daily contact via txt and face book with this guy. to save ...
A. 6 April 2011: Dump her. She's taking you for a ride.... (read in full...)
Which ex should I choose now that they both want me back? The hot and sweet one who lives far away or the funny one who lives close by but is a big flirt?
Q. I can't choose between these two guys. I used to date both of them at seperate times of course and now they both want me back. One is way hot and sweet and I know he loves me but he lives far away so I barely get to see him. Also he's broken u...
A. 5 April 2011: You seem to be pointing yourself to the one who lives far away, but if that's the one you're going to go for then you have to find a way of making it work.
You say he's dumped you twice because of distance, come up with a way of avoiding history ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in an emotionally abusive relationship
Q. i think i'm in an emotionally abusive relationship, although i'm not quite sure. some of the signs i read online just aren't quite suiting, although i just feel something has to be very, very wrong. i've been cheated on and found out, and she beg...
A. 5 April 2011: There is no relationship here. When you end it you have to stay strong and keep it that way no matter what she says.
It is blatantly obvious there is only one of you in this "relationship" and the sooner you switch on to that and move on the bett... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated on me and I can't get over it
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me months back and I can't seem to get over it. We were living together and things had started getting really rocky. We were fighting bitterly all day every day. I felt her distance herself from me, and rather than give...
A. 5 April 2011: Can't really add anything different to CaringGuy. My thoughts are the same as his.... (read in full...)
I want to try gay sex but I have a gf.
Q. ok so im straight ive been in a relationship for three years, i think i was to have sex with a man im very curious but i don't know what to do? can any one give me any advice on what to do pleaseeeee??? HELP!!!...
A. 30 March 2011: You have a decision to make:
a) stick with your girlfriend and carry on as you and wonder 'what if?' about sex with a man.
b) finish with you're girlfriend, as it is only right, and go and try sex with another man.
What you can't do is ... (read in full...)
The "ups" and "downs" or condoms... any ideas?
Q. I have been having a few problems with erections. I have been with this girl for about 6 months and at first because I was new to sex I had problems keeping my erection. I gathered this was due to performance anxiety. Then after about 3 weeks af...
A. 30 March 2011: Condoms can make you lose much of the sensation that you would normally have when you have sex without condoms.
Try using thinner condoms like Durex Fetherlite and see how you get on.... (read in full...)
Is sexting with another woman cheating?
Q. Is sexting (sending sexually explicit texts/pics) cheating? A guy I know has been doing this with me on FB and to my cell phone. I found out he's engaged! So I have stopped responding because I feel it is disrespectful to his gf, but is it ...
A. 30 March 2011: Any kind of sexual relations whether it be physical or though texts is cheating. You are right to stop responding.... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong?
Q. I have been trying to figure this out for some time now, and i dont know where else to turn. I have no idea whats wrong with me. I have had only one relationship with a girl in my life. I want to have another relationship but at the same time i ...
A. 24 March 2011: a) you're young so chill out. b) the more you want the more frustrated you'll get c) make the most of being single while you can becuase when you do eventually settle down, you should be committed to that one person... (read in full...)
Would I freak my friends out if I asked them this?
Q. Well i am guy and ive recently gotten in interest in getting in shape. I have friends who are ripped and have six packs and everything and ive always wondered how it feels like to have one. Im not gay or anything but I just want to know what having ...
A. 24 March 2011: You probably would freak some of them out, but I personally I do see why you even want (need) to do this. The only way you'll know what it feels like to have a six pack etc is to work hard and get one.... (read in full...)
Would this be called cheating the new Gf? If I just asked my ex to strip while we were on webcam.
Q. Is it cheating if? Let's say you have a girlfriend. And you know your ex still loves you and you still have feelings for her, but you don't want to be in a relationship with her, but you drunk call her telling her you love her, and miss her, et...
A. 22 March 2011: In one word: Yes. If that's happening over a webcam, who knows what would happen if the two were together.... (read in full...)
Sleeping with my best friend's brother and she doesn't know....
Q. I have been sleeping with my best friends younger brother for over a year now. No one knows about us. It started with simple back and shoulder rubs and went from there with him making the first move. I really like him and I'm not sure what to do. We ...
A. 18 March 2011: You are playing a dangerous game here and you are aware of the problems it can cause.
Secrets don't last forever and it will come out eventually.
The answer to both of your questions is you need to talk to him. It's been a year now and you need... (read in full...)
B/f won't give up option of being able to see photos of girl he cheated with
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. For four months, he cheated on me with a good friend of mine, and lied about it even when I asked about it. When I first found out about it, we agreed to stay together, but he told me that he ...
A. 14 March 2011: Sorry, but I will tell you to break up with him because you are in the right in terms of not wanting him to have the option of doing anything with her.
And I back this up (you ending it) because it seems clear he is not willing to let go of her c... (read in full...)
To my utmost horror, I'v realized my girlfriend still does cocaine. Should I stay and try to make it work, or leave?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for 13 months, and have only had a handful of fights. we're both pretty upfront about what we've done in our past-- one instance being that she tried cocaine a few times. we talked about it, and i told her i ...
A. 14 March 2011: You are right to leave. What she has done is an open slap in the face to you knowing full well your thoughts on this.
If she wants to mess up her life then let her go ahead - the last thing you want is to suffer the same.
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Is it ever too late to say you're sorry to a friend?
Q. I used to have this best friend, and we were close. You could possibly say that at times our relationship felt more than your average friendship, and it was a little mutual. We were always together and would find any excuse to hangout. ...
A. 14 March 2011: Go for it. It is never too late to say sorry. Whether you apology is accepted is another thing that you can't control.... (read in full...)
Should I follow my head and chose the nice guy whom I "like"? Or go for my ex whom I love(d) but who hurt me?
Q. I'm really confused. I don't know what to do or who to pick. I'll tell you the story... I'm 17, and I was with my ex for 7 months. We were really happy at first. My family loved him and we got on very well. He then turned very controlling, he'...
A. 14 March 2011: Whichever you decide, it has to be for the right reasons first and foremost.
Too often people follow their heart over their head which sometimes works, but can also lead to failure.
I think one of the difficulties for you is your ex is your ... (read in full...)
I don't understand about my boyfriend's friend!
Q. I have been with myy bf for three years but I'm a little confused. My bf has this friend who will have sex with anything lol pretty much literally. When I met my bf he waas with that guy. That guy tried to have sex with me but I was interested in ...
A. 14 March 2011: You won't like the sound of this, but comparing you situation to people I know, it could be a case that he keeps his friends from you in case someone lets slip about something(s) he doesn't want you to know about.
... (read in full...)
No oral because she "doesn't like the thought that she actually did that."
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 15 months, and we get along pretty good. She is my first girlfriend and I think I love her. One thing is though, I would like the relationship to go farther. She also wants to, but she doesn't ...
A. 13 March 2011: It sounds like she sees it as dirty and can't get her head round yet that it's perfectly normal in sexual relations and an important part.
Try and ask her what she meant by what she said, but I think this is the reason.
Offer to perform oral ... (read in full...)
No oral because she "doesn't like the thought that she actually did that."
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 15 months, and we get along pretty good. She is my first girlfriend and I think I love her. One thing is though, I would like the relationship to go farther. She also wants to, but she doesn't ...
A. 13 March 2011: It sounds like she sees it as dirty and can't get her head round yet that it's perfectly normal in sexual relations and an important part. Try and ask her what she meant by what she said, but I think this is the reason. Offer to perform ora... (read in full...)
Is he back with his ex and is not telling me?
Q. im so fed up i feel i have lost everything. i met this boy about 5 months ago in town and we started seeing each other everything was fine, untill about a month ago everyone tryed to spilt us up. first it was this girls he was with before and then ...
A. 12 March 2011: Dump him for your own sake and apologise to your friends for doubting them. It is easier to see a situation looking from the outside than when you're involved in it yourself.
At the end of the day, friends are the most important thing to have and... (read in full...)
Should I get back together with a bf who has hurt me so much?
Q. Call me stupid or dumb but i don't know what to do.. i have been with my first love for three and a half years and we had a rough relationship. he has done a lot to me in the past but some how i still love him We weren't together for six months but ...
A. 12 March 2011: It's often harder to let go of your first love and this is probably why you are struggling to decide.
Him wanting you back could be a case that he has grown up and realised what he's lost.
But then again hindsight is a great thing. What it c... (read in full...)
Does this mean he's breaking up with me?
Q. Hi Me and my bf are together for the past 2 years. For past few months our communication has become very sparse, if i don't initiate the conversation, we don't communicate for days. 2 days back he called me and he was upset over something and ...
A. 6 March 2011: It sounds like he is trying to tell you something but when it gets to the crunch can't go through with it.
I can't say what it is, but like you, I suspect he's trying to end it again.
I would prepare yourself for single life.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend chooses bars & friends over me, what should I do?
Q. We have been on and off for 3 years now, long story short the last time we got back together has been almost perfect. He even surprised me with a promise ring on Valentines Day. Everything was going good until he started to recently choose his ...
A. 6 March 2011: It's quite simple, you tell him you want to spend more time with him when he would ordinarily be out with his mates (don't tell him to stop seeing them - that won't happen). If he can't agree to that, then you're wasting your time. Realist... (read in full...)
How can I stop from losing my libido?
Q. Hi, i'm 19 and gay and have been going out with a guy for about a month and we've gotten to the oral stages of sex, and it was all good the first time, but the since then i've been unable to orgasm (he has) and the other night neither of us did, we ...
A. 6 March 2011: It could be down to tiredness but it could also be down to the fact you two are not sexually compatible.... (read in full...)
Both times I tried to have sex I was drunk and failed!
Q. I've only had tried to have sex twice and both times I was drunk and both times it failed I'm 20 and I don't know if it's nerves or what I've always had shyness issues and stress issues and now it looks like I have profiemance issues. The second t...
A. 6 March 2011: You were drunk both times, you probably had brewers' droop... (read in full...)
I can't help but worry about an up coming stag do..
Q. Hey, I'd love some advice, especially from guy readers, on what really happens on stag nights. I've been with my bf for 5 months. Everything's going great, he's told me he loves me and that he's really happy we're together. We've planned a weekend ...
A. 3 March 2011: I personally dont see much difference between stag dos and normal nights out.
The personnel might be slightly different because they are all the groom's friends/family as opposed to a normal group of friends.
The only ones who should worry rea... (read in full...)
How do I stop my habit of cheating with men behind my girlfriend's back?
Q. hi there, I have a girlfriend, she's just crazy about me and the problem i'm having is, when i'm with her i'm normal and when she's not with me i start flirting men. I had sex with men too. I know that i'm betraying her but all i wanna do is to g...
A. 2 March 2011: If your girlfriend is so perfect, then why are you cheating on her?
You are the one who chooses to cheat by flirting with men and going further.
Take a step back and look at the situation. There is obviosuly something not right in your relation... (read in full...)
Why did my boy friend's breathing change? What did that mean?
Q. i was at my boyfriends house yesterday and me got into a pretty heavy make out session. i started kissing his neck and his breathing went all funny. he kinda took a massive breath in and then was breathing quickly and deeply. what does this mean? ...
A. 27 February 2011: he was turned on... (read in full...)
Is my brother in danger? He is dating an older married woman and I think he is out of his depth.....
Q. Is my brother in danger? He is 21 and in a relationship with a woman who my family think is about 39. My family who are very different in opinion on other things in life diverse all agreethat they are very concerned about this but dont know what to ...
A. 23 February 2011: This is not a situation that sits comfortably with me. You'd be right to be worried.
Are you in a position where you would be able to talk to him about it?... (read in full...)
I give her $5000.00 2 days later she splits! How do I get my money back?
Q. I thought I knew her for 5 years! We were together for that amount of time. She (aged 50) asked me for 5 thousand dollars. I gave it to her. 2 days later she split. Does the timing of the two events sound that she had every intention to 'screw' ...
A. 23 February 2011: I don't know much about American law but it doesn't sound like you can do much to get your money back.
As for her screwing you over, she has well and truly done so by the sounds of it.... (read in full...)
I don't regret having sex but feel that I should regret it
Q. im 19 and i've had sex with my boyfried and and dont regret it but i feel i should regret it. he was my first and we've only been together for like a month officially but have been dating for like 5 months. am i just reading too much into this. i ...
A. 23 February 2011: Yes you are reading too much into it. You had sex with your boyfriend which you don't regret, that's the end of it.
Just keep doing it more (safely) and enjoy.... (read in full...)
She won't reciprocate in the oral department
Q. Hi - I have been with my girlfriend for 2 years, however she will not perform oral sex on me. I regularly perform it on her during foreplay, because she enjoys it, just like I do. She has said for the past 18 months on and off that she has had a ...
A. 21 February 2011: Have a chat about it and find out why she doesn't do it.... (read in full...)
Is it realistic to ask him to wait?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months officially and we've known each other for a little over 2 years. We stupidly used the "pull out" method for a while and I no longer want to take the risk. He hates condoms and wants me to get on b...
A. 21 February 2011: You're not wrong to ask him to wait as it's your body and if he doesn't like it then that's his problem and he can go find a different girlfriend who is willing to do what he wants.
He wants the full-on sex and I can't blame him in truth, but it h... (read in full...)
I think I lost my best guy friend
Q. So I think Ive pretty much lost one of my really good friends and I dont know how to get him back. He and I actually dated our senior year of high school, but even after breaking up we were still really good friends. We always still talked to each ...
A. 21 February 2011: I'm not a mind reader so can't tell what he's thinking, but perhaps maybe he did want to rekindle something but felt rejected after you said you wanted to stay friends.
Another possibility is that he may have felt awkward over the whole uncertai... (read in full...)
I cant find anyone I am interested in!
Q. Im currently a 22 yr old uni student and lately ive been feeling pretty empty with the lack of a gf. ive spend the past two years in uni and not found one single person i might be interested in. I keep thinking that ill never find someone and I feel ...
A. 21 February 2011: Two things here (in no particular order)
1) Are you setting your standards too high?
2) probably the most relevant here - break out of your usual routine. It's easy to get stuck in a comfort zone but I think this is the way forward for you.... (read in full...)
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