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Blunt and straight to the point.

At the end of the day there is little use in pussyfooting around situations, I say them as I see them.

Sometimes it doesn't make pleasant reading but it is what people need to see.

They want answers and not wishy washy stuff to make them more confused.

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My ex boyfriend the monster wants to try again!

Q.   I don't know what is right or wrong anymore about love. My exbf was a monster. He ripped my heart out and taunted and did vicious things to me for entire year after he dumped me. I went all the way down hill and hibernated but he still found ways to ...

A.   25 December 2010: Don't get back to him, you will only be setting yourself up for more heartache... (read in full...)

How do you break a relationship that isn't honest to start with?

Q.   I've been in an open relationship with someone for almost 3 months but I've been treating it as if it was a real relationship. I know open relationships are shallow and I really hate them but she didn't want a real one. The worse thing is that I ...

A.   25 December 2010: The most straightforward way is to tell her the truth tell her what is on your mind... (read in full...)

I'm OK with the rough sex, but I bruise easily

Q.   My boyfriend and I like things that are kinky. The only issue is that sometimes things get out of hand (I don't mind, that's okay) and I'm beginning to worry that someone will see bruises or something and think that I'm getting abused or beaten. I ...

A.   25 December 2010: I would just come out with the truth and if people ask say you like kinky sex and you bruise easily but highlight they're not all from sex: "Oh this one's from (clumsy incident). Bet they won't ask you again. Obviously I wouldn't say the... (read in full...)

My strategy failed: I lied to my bf saying I was pregant to try to get him back. Would telling him I miscarried work?

Q.   OK; soo i Have an ex boyfriend and i am still in love with him... i would love to know how to get him back ? he is my very first love, but i think i made a mistake. Because i lied to him and told him i was pregnant, just to see if he would come back ...

A.   25 December 2010: Gotta be honest, you've blown it - you've lied to him to get him back and in a way that is virtually entrapment. You've broken up for a reason and this is a desperate and shallow attempt to win him back which will only blow up in your face. ... (read in full...)

How do I withstand the cold war with my mother?

Q.   Ok blunt and simple... I know that parents grieve or what ever when they find out there children are GBLT but roughly how long does this take? O.O I know it's different from person to person but it's literally killing me... Me and my mother used to ...

A.   25 December 2010: Unfortunately it's like asking how long's a piece of string. Sometimes it is just a case of time is a healer and others will never accept it. How deep are her views on homosexuality? It may be a case that she finds it shameful - but you are what... (read in full...)

How do I approach this person - I don't know if he's gay

Q.   hi, i feel kinda odd asking this but i really fancy someone i don't know very well, but it's not like any normal crush. i work in a bar and he always catches my eye and then one night out i bumped into him and i felt that there was more than just a ...

A.   25 December 2010: just chat normally and drop the odd question in at appropriate times like bringing up the subject of girlfriends etc (asking if he has a girlfriend) - if he has one he'll tell you and u know where u stand. If he hasn't again he'll say so and if h... (read in full...)

It smells down there. Do I need to see a doctor?

Q.   Hi there. I have a problem...whenever me and my boyfriend have sex he says it smells down there bad to him...so i went and bought summer eves bodys wash and wipes for whenever im not at home well i used these products and the smell goes away but ...

A.   24 December 2010: you can get lots of advice from us about the possibilities of what it might be, but for peace of mind, there's no harm in going to a doctor to get it checked out.... (read in full...)

She lied to me and I have no reason to trust her now

Q.   ok im 17 iv been dating my gf for about a year,just today she told me something she had kept from me this whole time,it was that she played strip poker and whent skinny dipping one time a couple yrs ago (shes 16) with her friend and a guy,this ticks ...

A.   24 December 2010: when you look at the bigger picture, this isn't really a big deal. She played strip poker once and went skinny dipping - lots of young people do these things. It's hardly crime of the century. If it was something more like there had been another ... (read in full...)

Why isn't his penis erect enough?

Q.   I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time, but I couldn't make his penis hard enough for penetration. Then he tried to erect it himself, but even thought his penis was erected he couldn't insert it into my vagina in spite of doing a ...

A.   22 December 2010: could be something as simple as nerves... (read in full...)

The men I fancy tend to be straight and very rarely gay - why?

Q.   I would like to have your opinion on the fact that the men I fancy tend to be straight and very raerly gay and what does it say that I am into men from the age of 16 right up to the age of 79? Your views are welcome!...

A.   22 December 2010: have you tried gay dating sites?... (read in full...)

I'm getting ready to graduate. Have I lost my best chances for dating?

Q.   I'm getting ready to graduate college in May which is a pretty cool thing to me. However I do have some worries. I am one semester away from graduating and yet I have never had a girlfriend, or even kissed a girl (let alone more than that). And ...

A.   22 December 2010: Simple answer is no you haven't. While you're young you tend to let your hair down and have more fun, but it is not the be all and end all. There are so many other opportunities to meet women either through socialising, work, dating sites etc... (read in full...)

Shouldn't sex last??

Q.   So me and this guy always have sex well kinda we did like 3 times and when we do it's only for like 30 or 40 min .. And idk if he cummed or not or if he had an orgasim or not .. But shouldn't sex last for like an hour or 2 ??? ...

A.   19 December 2010: The length of sex is completely varied, could be as little as 5 minutes or be a marathon session of a few hours... (read in full...)

Trouble having sex...any help??

Q.   me and a guy I've been seeing decided to try and have sex last night. he got as far as putting the tip inside but I couldn't handle the pain of any more going in. we're going to try again another night, and I don't want to disapoint him. is there...

A.   19 December 2010: Foreplay is the main thing, try to get him to get you nice and wet. Relax too. Nerves may have played a part. You could also use a bit of lube if needed.... (read in full...)

I just cheated on my boyfriend and didn't feel guilty!

Q.   I am in so much trouble. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and everything is great. We love each other and I really don't want to lose him. But there's this other guy who likes me. I ignored him at first but now I'm actually interested in him ...

A.   19 December 2010: you have to make a decision as you cannot carry on as it is. the fact the you do not feel guilty speaks volumes about the state of your relationship and that's what should focus on first.... (read in full...)

17 and not interested in sex any more??? What is wrong with me???

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for just under 2 years, I'm 17 turning 18 and shes 16, for a while now we've been sexually active, which is great but lately I've put no effort into it and don't even think about sex which is really strange for me ...

A.   19 December 2010: have you tried varying your sex to keep it interesting? or perhaps your relationship may be beginning to run its course... (read in full...)

My girl friend is sending naked pictures of herself to her ex. Is that cheating?

Q.   So the girl I've been dating for 6 months now has been sending naked pictures to her ex, and having conversations with him while telling him that she loves him too, and that he should come over to have sex with her, all while telling me that she's ...

A.   18 December 2010: I didn't need to read all of your note, the first few lines alone is enough to tell me she is cheating, no good for you and you should dump her.... (read in full...)

Virgins getting erections????

Q.   ok so my friend's worried because her boyfriend says he's not a virgin but she thinks he's lying because he always has a erection like when they hug kiss or anything he always gets a erection and she thinks that if he's not a virgin he would be able ...

A.   18 December 2010: Your friend is talking nonsense, blokes get erections all the time virgins or not.... (read in full...)

Do I like boys or girls?

Q.   hi i'm 25 and love having sex with girls wether it be a relationship or one night stands i've had several girlfriends and love the emotion of falling in love.... when i'm not having sex i masturbate 3-6 times a day but heres the problem i find the ...

A.   18 December 2010: Sounds like you're definitely bisexual and possibly feels wrong because you haven't accepted it it. I think you have to accept your bi first before telling mates and if you find having a relationship to find out works for you then go for it. A... (read in full...)

What can I do about my PE?

Q.   Right here's my story. I've suffered with premature ejaculation for a good 2 years now. I literally last seconds in bed. I had a girlfriend for over 2 years and we had sex atleast 3 times a week but I never seemed to get better. When we broke u...

A.   14 December 2010: why you are taking anti depressants and other stuff to solve ur premature ejaculation i don't know! try getting ur girl to suck or wank you off before you have full sex as this should extend ur time... (read in full...)

I want a baby so bad, but... is he the right one?

Q.   I'm 21 years old and I want a baby really bad i'm prepared to be a mum but I dont think my current boyfriend is the right one even though he is very cute he makes me feel spacial, he loves me and he wants a baby too but i dontknow if i want him to ...

A.   14 December 2010: why do you want a baby so badly? you're still young also, if you don't think you want ur boyfriend to be the dad then you should not have it... (read in full...)

Actual sex grosses me out!!!

Q.   whenever i think about sex (me having sex, others having sex, or watching porn), i get grossed out. i get aroused by like kissing and stuff but not sex, why is this? (im genderqueer, 16, and a virgin)...

A.   13 December 2010: I don't think you're ready yet.... (read in full...)

I feel doomed at 21 to be alone forever!

Q.   Although 21 years of age is still relatively young, I can't help, but feel doomed. I am god-awful at relationships. I have tried multiple gay dating sites, but the results were far from what I expected. I have tried getting out there and "meeting ...

A.   13 December 2010: You have to believe yourself, because if you don't no-one will. Positive mental attitude. If you can't start doing this then you will find it difficult. What makes you insecure about yourself? What good features do you think you have both physical... (read in full...)

Was I right to end it?

Q.   I recently met a girl 2 months ago, we clicked very first and after one month, I discovered she was lying to me of her relationship with her ex who she said that they had broken up. I realised this after she returned my phone back after she got ...

A.   13 December 2010: In situations like this you have to think of yourself and you were right to end things... (read in full...)

I'm married but am friends with benefits with a co worker

Q.   I am married for four years been together for nine years. And we have a six year old son together. My husband is a control freak had to know where, when, who and what!! And if I ask him to do anything especially when it comes to my family the answer ...

A.   9 December 2010: it sounds like your friend with benefits has other friends with benefits and wants it to stay that way. i don't think he is willing to commit to you as much as you are to him and you need to tread very carefully with this. think serious... (read in full...)

Am I being taken for a fool by my online girlfriend?

Q.   Ok so I've been dating this girl for 5 months online (met at a concert) but we're starting to have trouble like Im deciding i don't want to take all her crap anymore. She says her computer has a virus and can't use browsers (Im sure yoy can) so she ...

A.   9 December 2010: you have hit the nail on the head - you are being taken for a fool. get rid, move on and hopefully find someone closer to home.... (read in full...)

Girlfriend talking to her ex all the time!

Q.   Just a question for you all to answer. So i have been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now. Lately i have been catching her talking to her ex from 7 months ago allll the time. and going out for drinks and lunches quite often. One night th...

A.   9 December 2010: Personally I wouldn't stand for it if I was in your shoes. It sounds like she's dating you and your ex. if you're the only person in her life, then why is she spending so much time with her ex? have you told her you're not happy with this ... (read in full...)

Do most people feel unsure about moving in with someone for the first time?

Q.   When I was younger I loved to have options - like at school I was the smartest kid there and so I had a lot of opportunities and possibilities and could do anything with my life. Now I'm settled on a single career path which is ok, but I miss having ...

A.   9 December 2010: In terms of moving in, it is completely natural to feel nervous, because this is one of the biggest tests for a relationship - being able to live together. Your nerves are probably heightened though due to friends/family thinking he's not good eno... (read in full...)

She keeps telling her exs she loves them!

Q.   We've only been together for 3 months and the feelings were very intense in the beginning, you can call it infatuation if you want but the girl is not my match in many ways but I try to love her for who she is but the biggest problem is that she ...

A.   6 December 2010: er...dump her. try re-reading back what you wrote and you should see that she is making a mug of you. as for wanting a baby, ha ! don't even go there, and as im a cynic, be extra careful when having sex, you don;t want to fall into any traps i... (read in full...)

She's the girl all the bad guys want!

Q.   Yeah I know that I shouldn't be depressed because in the end I will find the one I ultimately love. I met this girl in town through Facebook actually. We talked for a good week and she wanted to hang out. I never EVER get nervous about meeting ...

A.   2 December 2010: why dont you try telling her what you've just told us?... (read in full...)

How do you know when you've done the right thing?

Q.   Hi, I've been going out with my girlfriend for almost three years (anniversary next week) and she moved in with me in April. However over recent months we've been drifting apart, or should I say I have. She made it clear that I was the one and ...

A.   2 December 2010: It seems you sealed your own destiny from the start when you declared you didn't want marriage or kids. That's not a criticism, that's your choice and it was good that you said it straight away. None of us can predict the future and perha... (read in full...)

What should I do if a girl gives me eye contact?

Q.   When the girl I like stares at me I tend to look quickly away because I get nervous. Can someone give me tips on what to do if this happens again. Should I maintain the eye contact?...

A.   2 December 2010: yes, try your best to maintain eye contact... (read in full...)

Sometimes no glove and I still make love!

Q.   ok i've had sex a couple time without a condom. It it very quick should i be worried that something is wrong with my stuff. with a condom i last a very long time. is this something to worry or is it regular?...

A.   2 December 2010: Condoms can lessen the sensation and that's why you can take longer when wearing them than when you're not wearing anything.... (read in full...)

I had sex with my ex and I regret it so much!

Q.   I had sex with my ex bf 3 days ago and i felt extremely guilty for myself.I don't know what the hell am i doing after i left his house. Here is the story : Me and my ex went for a movie after 4 months of break up. He hug me,kiss me in the cinema...

A.   30 November 2010: Sorry anonymous, I didn't explain my question very well. What I meant was what were you doing in those four months to try and move on?... (read in full...)

My girlfriend still shares a bed with her ex! What should I do?

Q.   Hi. Well I got a problem. My girlfriend and I live miles away from each other. I live alone, and she lives with her 5 bestfriends. 3 of them are guys, one of them is her ex. I'm a really jealous kind of guy, and she knows that. I really dont like it ...

A.   29 November 2010: She's taking you for a ride and making you look like a mug you should get out before you get really hurt. I find it extremely hard to believe she's being innocent with her ex if they're regularly sleeping in the same bed. She's probably getting... (read in full...)

I think I'm pregnant, will all of our hopes and dream be ruined?

Q.   I'm 15, my boyfriend is 18; I'm sure you know what's coming. I think I'm pregnant. I know, I'm stupid and an ungrateful child who is going to break her parents' heart; I tell myself that everyday. So before you scold me and the like, please con...

A.   29 November 2010: you have had lots of advice here, but there is one thing that sticks out very strongly from your second sentence. You THINK you're pregnant. Go and get tested to find out for sure. You could be worrying about nothing. If it does turn out yo... (read in full...)

Husband got girl pregnant twice!!

Q.   What would u do if your husband had 1 baby while yall was not together and you let him come back home and you find out he got another one on the way by the same girl...

A.   29 November 2010: Get rid of him. Simple. You gave him second chance (I don't know why) and he continued to sleep with this other woman and got her pregnant again. Now he should expect some divorce papers from you.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend wants my baby to remember me by

Q.   ok im going out with this girl in new york but im moving to florida and were in love and she wants to have a baby that she can keep so it like a piece of me i cant even tell my parents anything how would i tell them how would i tell her mom i dont ...

A.   29 November 2010: Having a baby to remember you by? Is she mad? This is a child we are talking about not a toy. It's an absolutely ludicrous idea. Don't do it. I could go into a long rant about the pitfalls (but read other people's responses instead). Th... (read in full...)

I'm afraid if I act on my emotions I will lose him completely

Q.   I'm a 16yo boy who is bisexual and seriously in love with a friend. The thing is i dont know what to do, i want to act on my emotions but am afraid that if i do i will lose him completely. We're so alike which leads me to think he might not be str...

A.   29 November 2010: If you have the type of friendship as best friends do you should be able to talk about anything and know whether their reaction is a real one or not. Blokes talk about women and sex a lot and it could be a way in. Perhaps the conversation cou... (read in full...)

My b/f wants to have a threesome with me and my best friend

Q.   Oh gosh im in love with my boyfriend were both 16 and im bisexual. He wants too try a threesome and im not sure if I should cause it might mess up our relationship. Hes cheated on me before and I know he dont desrve me. Im not sure if I should ...

A.   29 November 2010: He's a cheat and is probably pressing you for a 3sum a) to say he's had one and b) to have a go on your best friend. He's not interested in you or your feelings and you should dump him and you know that. You will get over the hurt and realise... (read in full...)

Do I approach him and ask for him to deactive this online profile?

Q.   I am in a loving trusting gay relationship with my bf. We had a rocky patch a month ago, due to a misunderstanding and trust issues being damaged, but once everything was cleared and communication back to being open it was sorted and now we are s...

A.   29 November 2010: If you are convinced he is not cheating, perhaps he is insecure and uses the hits he gets and messages as a morale booster? Have you thought about this possibility? On the other hand, you say you trust him, but you obviously have enough doubts t... (read in full...)

I had sex with my ex and I regret it so much!

Q.   I had sex with my ex bf 3 days ago and i felt extremely guilty for myself.I don't know what the hell am i doing after i left his house. Here is the story : Me and my ex went for a movie after 4 months of break up. He hug me,kiss me in the cinema...

A.   29 November 2010: It sounds like he knew what he wanted from you and at least he was honest enough to say he fancied someone else too. Regardless, you had sex and it was a mistake. We all make mistakes and regret them. the important thing is you learn from it - ... (read in full...)

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