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I can't seem to accept that she likes me and I get depressed when I don't hear from her!
Q. I've met this girl who I think likes me. Infact, her actions suggest she certianly does. We've had 3 dates so far, and have talked a lot on msn inbetween. At the end of the third date she invited me for coffee and we held hands walking to her place. ...
A. 11 January 2011: You are over thinking and need to chill out and go with the flow.
You obviously have feelings for her because when you don't hear from her you 'get depressed' which to me is a sign you want to speak to her and be with her and from what you say ... (read in full...)
Could this be a yeast infection or is it an STI/STD Title
Q. ok so.... saturday 8th january i had unprotected sex with a guy while i was drunk. It's the first time i've gone back to a guys house after meeting them that night. and ive only slept with 4 people. The thing is i now have an itching / slightly...
A. 10 January 2011: Go to the doctor, I doubt it's a yeast infection, more like an unwanted present from the bloke you had unprotected sex with.... (read in full...)
How can I start a convo off to get reaquainted with my friends?
Q. i want to get to know more people who i am friends with on facebook and get to see what my old class mates are doing these days and to chat to people at my college who i see every day but i don't want to sound pushy or desperate and i don't want to ...
A. 10 January 2011: Just simply along the lines of: "Hey long time no speak, how are you doing? what are you up to these days?" ... (read in full...)
How do I get all this crap to stop???
Q. hi, i just need an opinion here ok in september of last year i started college or tec. i made a good group of friends but one particular friend of mine she has a guy best friend who; btw only knew me for a day and showed an interest in me (wh...
A. 10 January 2011: It's good to see someone not desperate to lose their virginity or put out like it's going out of fashion.
Unfortunately, it seems this guy has felt jilted and deems it appropriate to make a scapegoat out of you.
Stopping these sorts of message... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle my sadness! I want someone in my life!
Q. Hi guys. I'm a 16 year old gay male and I'm been going through a tough time in my life since the last 3 years. There are a lot of things in my life that are bringing me down. One of the things that ways a lot on me is the fact that I'm lonely. I'm ...
A. 10 January 2011: Sounds like you have low self esteem and confidence.
We would all like the perfect partner but they are incredibly difficult to find.
You may have had some downs in your life, but remember you are only 16, what's the rush?
At your age, it... (read in full...)
Will I sound crazy if I mention this concern?
Q. This is kind of complicated so I apologize in advance. This guy and I were initially work friends who hooked-up. He had broken up with his gf a couple months prior and I ended things with my bf during that summer. I assumed that we would h...
A. 10 January 2011: Sounds like you have a simple thing to do - talk to him about it all and see how you feel about it all.
It seems you are pretty much in a relationship already.... (read in full...)
When does flirting go too far?
Q. I have recently become concerned about my own behaviour. I have always been a flirt and for the most part my friends partners never seemed to mind - or at least to the point where they've never minded enough to address the issue with me. But it ...
A. 10 January 2011: It seems like you gave your number out in good faith in the hope you'd get some work contacts - some may see it as naive though.
You did the right thing to delete his texts and being honest with your partner. Now you should delete that bloke's ... (read in full...)
A bump inside my breast! Is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, Im a 16 yr old normal teen. I've recently started feeling my breast and noticed there was like a bump inside my breast. Whenever i put my finger on that certain area, i can feel the bump. Im super worried because i have no idea what it ...
A. 10 January 2011: Go and get it checked out ASAP.... (read in full...)
If a woman isn't moaning, does that mean she isn't enjoying the sex?
Q. hello, i just wanna know what does it mean when the girls dont moan while making love ? i know this girl and we are f*** buddies. but when we have sex she doesnt moan or like scream or something, i mean if she was really enjoyin it or feeling ...
A. 10 January 2011: Well it could be a case that she's not enjoying it or it could be the exact opposite.
The problem is that everyone is different. Some people are really quiet and some are really noisy and of course there are those in between.
I don't think you ... (read in full...)
Worried about my foreskin......
Q. hi, im not sure what to do and i have been more concerned over time. i am 17 and have noticed that my foreskin is still attached to the end of my penis but only in one little line so it doesn't (move about) like its supposed to. i think is teh best ...
A. 5 January 2011: You are old enough to visit the doctor on your own, besides there's no big deal in telling your mother even if you had to. it may seem like it is, but really, it isn't.
Override the embarrassment and go and get it seen to. At the end of the day,... (read in full...)
He is a lot younger than me ... I am stupid!
Q. Hello I have a problem and I feel so stupid! I am 27 years old and have slept with a 19 year old! He was asking me for my number etc I kept telling him I was too old for him,(even though I was extremely attracted to him and he acts a lot older) h...
A. 4 January 2011: I wouldn't say it is wrong to have feelings for him. Seven years is a reasonable age gap, more so as he is 19 and still young, and will probably want to have more fun.
You have said you know nothing will happen from this and if that is your fee... (read in full...)
There is a chance my little girl may not be mine, how do I handle this?
Q. My girlfriend and me have been together for nearly 3 years and we have had our ups and downs but we always stay together because we love each other. We have just had a baby together and now it turns out that she slept with someone else around 9 ...
A. 4 January 2011: Until you have the DNA results, do nothing. If they come back and you girl is yours then you can carry on.
If she are someone else's then you have a decision to make on how you handle it, but only you can decide on what that is.... (read in full...)
Has anyone got any ideas for a fun first date thats disabled-friendly?
Q. I have been talking to this girl on a dating site for a month now, and now we both want to meet. However, I have got Cerebral Palsy which means I am a bit wobbly at times. Has anyone got any ideas for a fun first date thats disabled-friendl...
A. 4 January 2011: Cinema?... (read in full...)
Worried about my foreskin......
Q. hi, im not sure what to do and i have been more concerned over time. i am 17 and have noticed that my foreskin is still attached to the end of my penis but only in one little line so it doesn't (move about) like its supposed to. i think is teh best ...
A. 4 January 2011: As much as you dont want to go to the doctors you should and they are really the only ones who can help you. And there's no need to be embarrassed as they will have seen many penis' in their time for varying reasons.
Worries about foreskin... (read in full...)
My sex drive has gone into overdrive, is this normal?
Q. hi guys! :) not really relationship problems but i deffinately think i have a problem! when i first got with my boyfriend about 18 months ago id been in previous relationships, so had he, we'd both had a few sexual partners, nothing out of the ...
A. 4 January 2011: In my opinion, if you're having good sex it raises your sex drive, but the problem can be that you want it more and more and become complacent when you don't get it.
It may be that you have worn your fella out. Having sex three or four times a ... (read in full...)
I like him but he is only 14, what should I do?
Q. Im in serious sentimental crisis haha for the same guy who everyone thinks likes me ..because i think i like him just a little bit too, but he's 14 and i'm 16 and other people think that , that small age gap counts and would make it look weird for ...
A. 4 January 2011: At that age, two-year gap is considered big because of your ages and the stage of life you are going through.
You need to work out if you both actually like each other. If you do like each other then go for it, but if the issue of sex comes up... (read in full...)
We had sex and he told everyone! What should I do?
Q. Im 15 and about a month ago i had sex (i was a virgen) with my 17yr old bf bc i thought i loved him. He promised me tht no 1 would know no matter what but less than a week later he broke up with me bc he didnt want attachments bc hes goin to the ...
A. 4 January 2011: So you've had sex. Big deal. It doesn't surprise me that he's told everyone because at your age it's considered by many as a big thing and people - more often males - boast about it.
It's happened, get over it, stories about other people will com... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to my sisters boyfriend with her blessing?
Q. So I have a complicated situation where my sister and her boyfriend are completely open to open relationships where they'll see other people/have sex with them, but will be dating each other as each other's main partners. I'm a virgin and hadn't h...
A. 4 January 2011: The way I look at it is the boyfriend will probably end up bragging to his mates that he's having sex with sisters.
The relationship you sister is in is not a proper relationship. Proper relationships don't involve sleeping with other people. ... (read in full...)
My older brother said I can, but should I go for it?
Q. I'm a 14 year old male and am still a virgin. My older brother is 17 and has been sleeping with a couple girls since he was 13 and said I could sleep with them if I wanted. I have never seen her but I know she's hot. Should I go for it even though ...
A. 4 January 2011: a) you're under age, which means it's illegal to have sex and I understand that makes it more tempting.
b) what's the rush to lose your virginity?
c) do you want to have sex for the sake of it?
c) why is your brother so keen for you to have sex ... (read in full...)
Girls reject me because I'm waiting till marriage for sex!
Q. I a guy, just turned 32 last month, and I've never had sex. The thing is, I have a sex drive, and I want to have sex, but I'm the kind of person who does not want to have sex with just anyone; I only want to have sex with a woman I am truly and ...
A. 4 January 2011: Unfortunately in this day and age, holding out for sex is not that common, but that is not to say it is wrong. In fact it is admirable.
Your problem is that in today's society, sex is so easily put out and is rife among young (and getting younger)... (read in full...)
Why do guys run when you mention "baby"?
Q. i going to be giving birth in the next month and the father who i was dating for, for 6 years did a legger as soon as i told him he has a new gf now anyways i have to do it all on my own to be honest i don't think i'm ready to be a mam or to do it ...
A. 4 January 2011: Commitment and being trapped springs to mind in this case, however he has acted in an immature and irresponsible way.
Whether the baby was planned or not, you are pregnant and he should face up to his responsibilities, however there is no way you ... (read in full...)
Moved in together 6 months ago, now he's distant and neglects me. Red flags?
Q. My boyfriend and I moved in together about six months ago. I got accepted to Teacher's College in a different city and asked him if he wanted to come with me. His job in our original city is very flexible and his boos told him he can come back to ...
A. 4 January 2011: You have to talk to him and try to sort it out. Ask him why he is being distant. You said he told you it was nothing to do with the relationship, try and find out what it is then.
It could be something going on with his family or it could be the m... (read in full...)
Should I make one last attempt to get things right between us?
Q. Hi, Everyone. Sorry this is so long, but if you would take the time to read it and offer me your advice I would greatly appreciate it. I'd like to disclose from using real names so ill just call myself RJ and the love interest will be JF. I supp...
A. 4 January 2011: I think he's in denial about his sexuality and taking it out on you, but I still wouldn't get your hopes up about getting together eventually.
At the end of the day, the stuff he's said to you are just words and probably a deliberate attempt ... (read in full...)
All I want is the help I'm entitled to
Q. Here the deal, My husband and I have been separated for over a year we decided to make things work. So we have talked about moving in together. The point is nothing has change. he promised he has. he has job security issues. He gets really depressed ...
A. 4 January 2011: He needs to grow up and start behaving like a responsible adult and father. You are right to resist moving back in as nothing has changed and based on what you say doesn't look like it will change either.... (read in full...)
Should I take my ex back?
Q. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for six years and since we have broken up I have dealt with it and decide to move on. I have seen how some guys can be so nice and I am attracted to it. one problem though my ex keeps texting me saying he ...
A. 4 January 2011: So many times I've heard of people giving their exes a second chance because they've said they've "changed" and so many times it turns out to be utter crap and the same old abuse begins again.
Do not take him back. You should feel no guilt. H... (read in full...)
How long should you wait before sex?
Q. How long should you wait before you are intimate with someone? I'm 24 and have only slept with one guy in Whig I was in a 6 year relationship with and I am back on the dating scene! I'm wondering how long should you wait I'm not really e permiscious ...
A. 4 January 2011: How long is a piece of string? It totally depends on each situation. The most important thing is you feel comfortable with it, you feel ready and that you're doing it for the right reasons. It should happen naturally.... (read in full...)
Is this girl evil?
Q. I recently got into a fight with a girl I know about what she does. Basically, she sleeps with men for money and she leads others on by pretending she is interested in them. She sort of is, but when they get too close she pulls back----but only ...
A. 4 January 2011: It could be perceived as she is evil, like you say, but I think it could be more that she has low self-esteem and milks the attention, but gets scared when it comes to commitment.
Sleeping with men for money is prostitution and again that I would ... (read in full...)
He wants to work things out with me, but doesn't want to be 'official' as he wants to be single. What is going on?
Q. So I recently asked for help about a breakup. My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me because he wasn't sure what he wanted. He ended up going on a couple dates with another woman within a week of the breakup. Last week he finally realized he ...
A. 4 January 2011: It should be all or nothing. You are either together as bf/gf or not together at all.
He wants his cake and wants to eat it. You would basically be there for him for sex and as a back-up. He says he wants to be single so there would be no ties and... (read in full...)
She texts her ex in the same manner as she texts me, but cant see that it really hurts me
Q. My girlfriend and I had a fight today and it was because I saw the text between her ex and her. I noticed that she texts him the same way she texts me. She calls him honey and baby from time to time, and something it goes as calling him sexy, ...
A. 4 January 2011: It sounds like there are three of you in this relationship and my instinct tells me you should get out.
Remember this is my instinct based on what you've said, however, if you've got friends who know you that are telling you to break it off too,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks there's no such thing as making love!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend thinks sex and love are completely different entities and that theres no such thing as making love. The other day i asked him, what if i had sex with another man is it okay? he said, no coz i wouldnt be having sex. What kind of a...
A. 4 January 2011: sex and making love are essentially the same thing, but can be viewed as different kinds of sex.
There is sex which there are so many different kinds of and then there is making love which is deemed more slow, loving and romantic (but is still se... (read in full...)
I feel like my marriage is doomed!
Q. I feel like my marriage is doomed! My husband has always had a "strong" personality but since our wedding 2 months ago he has been horrible. I can be in a perfectly calm, happy mood and never know what's going to set him off and get him yelling at ...
A. 4 January 2011: I obviously don't have the answer to what is going on as I don't know either of you, but something is definitely up in my opinion.
I would say to try an talk to him, but given by what you've said already you might have difficulty doing so.
S... (read in full...)
I know I don't have a future with any of these guys, but they all like me and I don't know what to do!
Q. Ahh! Ive got myself into a right daft pickle. I know im fully to blame but i dont know what to do! I split up with my ex, my first true love, of 2 years, about 8/9 months back now. Ill admit it broke me, but i thought i was over him! I got close to ...
A. 4 January 2011: I don't think you're in too much of a muddle. You know you don't want to be with any of these blokes and I think you should just be honest with them and say so.
As for the job, it may do you good to start afresh somewhere else, but make sure you... (read in full...)
Are my feelings justified?
Q. Hello All, I am in need of some perspective due to an issue that's arisen lately in my relationship. First and foremost, I love this girl very deeply. It's very painful for me to write or talk about this, but I feel as though I need to...
A. 4 January 2011: I can understand your frustration, but have you thought it could be a case of her not wanting to go back to the scene of the crime so to speak?
That place has a lot of bad memories for her because of what happened and maybe she is also afraid t... (read in full...)
I'm constantly checking out women and I want to stop being so shallow!
Q. Hello. I seem to have a problem. I have always followed and been under the influence of the notion: looking past the outside, for what's on the inside. But, here is the problem. I often find myself, checking out women constantly. All the time. Co...
A. 4 January 2011: Checking out women (and vice versa) is completely natural.
After all the first thing you come across is looks and like it or not most of us are shallow enough to make a judgement based on looks before bothering to find out if they have a personal... (read in full...)
He says he loves me, yet wont discuss our problems!
Q. why does my husband say he loves me more than anything in the world and yet does not want to discuss issues that hinder our relationship? ...
A. 4 January 2011: Sounds like he's trying to brush them under the carpet and pretend everything's ok. It is so important to talk about issues because if you don't that's how problems start.... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex and my best friend together without meddling too much?
Q. My best friend in the whole freaking world is being an idiot. :D I say that as affectionately as I can, though there is definitely an undertone of frustration. We are freshmans, and you know, highschool drama and all that. I broke up with Dan...
A. 4 January 2011: I think you need to give both of them a nudge in the right direction.... (read in full...)
Why does he ask me out but never actually come through?
Q. I can't figure this guy out and I don't know why I'm even bothering to do so. Normally I'm not this patient, if a guy shows signs of disinterest, then I move on. Which is fine, not everyone is going to fall in love with me. But with this guy, h...
A. 4 January 2011: What are the reasons he keeps cancelling?
This is been going on for two months and you have to draw a line under it at some point or the same will continue to happen.
Next time he asks you, agree to it, but let it be known it's his last ch... (read in full...)
Did I deserve this treatment from her?
Q. this is a long story but to get the full effect and so i may get honest opinions u need to know the enitre story thanks for your help everybody so here it goes I met this girl on a camping trip and it had been awhile since my last relationship but...
A. 4 January 2011: You are better off without her. You've done everything you can to keep her happy but she is obviously ungrateful and has treated you shabbily.
You can find someone better who appreciates you for who you are and what you do and I suggest that's w... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to avoid your ex?
Q. Is it wrong to avoid social situations where you ex, and her bf will be at the expense of your own happiness?...
A. 28 December 2010: it's not a case of right or wrong, it's a case of doing what you feel happy and comfortable doing. If you think avoiding social situations because of your ex is affecting your happiness, then maybe you should start going to these socials.... (read in full...)
I just found out I'm pregnant and he doesn't want kids
Q. I need some advice. So i'm 17,my boyfriend is 19, we've been together for over 2 years. Yesterday my boyfriend and I were talking and the subject of kids got brought up. Anyways so my boyfriend said that he doesn't want any kids. Today I just fou...
A. 25 December 2010: You need to tell him and discuss it.
This pregnancy sounds like an accident, but were you using any form of contraception?
If not, then it amazes me why not considering that he has no interest in having children.
You're both old enoug... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend the monster wants to try again!
Q. I don't know what is right or wrong anymore about love. My exbf was a monster. He ripped my heart out and taunted and did vicious things to me for entire year after he dumped me. I went all the way down hill and hibernated but he still found ways to ...
A. 25 December 2010: Don't get back to him, you will only be setting yourself up for more heartache... (read in full...)
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