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writes:I only get to see my boyfriend a few times a week. We have been going out 2 years and all we seem to do is watch tv and go to the pub. Most nights we only see each other a few hours and i need some ideas as i feel we are stuck in a rut. Anyone got any ideas please?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cupid-oOx +, writes (21 November 2007):
Sorry to say this but,
It's got too end here.
It isn't a proper relationship and you dont sound very happy about it.
Maybe you'd be happier with somebody else.
Alternatively you could talk to him about it and tell him how you feel.
Your choice.
Yours...
Cupid-oOx
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reader, starfairy +, writes (21 November 2007):
 It sounds like you need to spice things up a little, it's all to easy to fall into the 'takeaway' phase of a relationship. Meaning when you were first together you were probably in the 'dining out' phase, or you would cook for him, you guys made an effort. Now you are comfortable with each other, you just can't be bothered really, it's too easy to fall into that rut!
It's easier that you don't live together, you need to plan 'date nights'! If you see each other 2 nights a week, perhaps have one night you go out and on enight you stay in. Alternate who organises the date night. Treat yourself to a new dress and killer heels. Spend an hour soaking in the tub, spend an hour on your hair, tryon 20 different outfits, use your special expensive body lotion, really pamper yourself on the date night. Have him pick you up, and make sure his jaw is going to drop when he sees you! You don't even need to go somewhere expensive, find a small intimate family run restaurant, Italian is usually best.
Or you could go away for a night. A Travel Inn is only £40 odd, bring a CD player and a special CD you've made for him with romantic songs, pack bubble bath and tea lights, or if you're feeling adventurous, whipped cream, chocolate or toffee sauces, spend the night getting gooey and sticky together ;o) Or treat yourself to something sexy from Ann Summers.
If you're on a real budget, go for late night drives, go on a search for hidden away places you can be intimate. Again you could make a CD for these drives. You could pack a finger food picnic, bring blankets and have a picnic in the backseat of the car.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): Hey be gratefull its a few times a week - I only get to see my girl/f at the w/ends due to work and distance between us!!! But I kno how you feel to about been stuck in a rut!! It kinda felt like that with us for a w hile too...
Why not suggest or even book a nite or w/end away somewhere special? Go to the movies, a meal/pizza??? Do something different that you both always wanted to do. Doesn't have to mad expensive either if you plan it right...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007): Wel instead of sitting in watching telly u dnt u ask him to go out yeh ur only together a few hours but u cud always go bowling or even to the cinema and instead of going to a normal pub look 4 one that has entertain meant where u can have a laugh.. or even try something different like go out 4 sumthing to eat once a month for a change from the pub.. it seems like u dnt like a route so many b u sud just suggest a change to him to excite the relationship again..x
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