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writes:hi i am 14 and in year 10 and my mom keeps on being nosy about what i do on the internet.i am not doing anything bad or wrong all i do is go on msn and myspace maybe play on games.she clearly thinks i am up to somthing which is wrong she always asks what i am doing and always trys to look at the computer screen its pretty silly there are girls in my class that but pics of themself in bras on myspace i wouldnt dare do anything like that so why is she worrieing for its SOOO ANOYING how can i get some privacy also she is constantly trying to look at what i am doing too?
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Hon, I know it is frustrating but later in life you will understand why this is a necessary part of life right now, especially for parents who care about their children.
The internet is a frightening place if you know how to check it.
I have logged into chatrooms as a young girl to experiment. Immediately all kinds of men started messaging me, propositioning me, and even sending me pictures of themselves of a porngraphic nature.
The internet is in fact a very dangerous place if you are not careful and because of the inexperience of our children we parents tend to be a bit protective. Sorry if it seems that we are nosy but we parents do love you kids.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (1 January 2008):
 I know its irritating im 19 and my mum still checks what im doing on the net (she even talks 2 my friends on msn but thats cause they like her) but your mum does it because you always hear horror stories on the net "girl runs off with man she met on net" "perverts grooming young people on the net" she is just looking out for you, but i would talk to her and tell her that you feel she is invading your privacy and that you only go on msn or myspace.
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (1 January 2008):
 hey im 12 and my mum is starting to check what i do on the computer, i no it seems annoying but the internet can kind of get you into a lot of trouble. for instance there are perverts on the internet on chatlines and u dont want any problems but myspace and msn isnt really that bad every teenager has it so just talk to your mum to let her know that if she didnt mind if she could give you an hour or to alone on the computer and also tell her that she can totally trust you, unless you know that your doing something you shouldnt be doing.
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reader, keely-h +, writes (1 January 2008):
keely-h is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok i have too admit i always close the page everytime my parents walk by.only because i am in a private convo with bad language being used.my mom is very striked on swaering and my sister of 20 is not allowed to swear and i also go no forums too so thank you all xxxxxxxxxxxxxx very helpfullxxxx
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (1 January 2008):
 I can understand how you feel, but your mum is just worried. It's not that she does not trust you, i'm sure she does. I have a son who is almost 13 and like you he goes on the internet, He goes on MSN and plays footie games etc. But he has also been a little curious and gone looking for porn, he found it, unforunately, We have now tightened the security more so on the computer with passwords, not just the security that we had on before. Your mum wants what is best for you.
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reader, uh oh +, writes (1 January 2008):
im in the same position man, almost exactly, my parents check cookie, everything!
i think you just need to talk to them - its what i did and it worked
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Hey sweetie, I know it really pisses you off that your mom is always trying to see what you do on the internet but now a days you cant trust other people on the internet, i am sure she wants to respect your privacy but she is also worried about what happens on the internet. She may belive you that you are not doing anything wrong, but just wait intil you are a parent you are going to do the same thing to make sure your child is going to be safe...If you have nothing to hide from her why dont you just show her what you do on the computer to show her that you are safe and you are not up to anything, show her that you are mature on the computer. Just give it some more time one day she will see that you are fine and your not doing nothing wrong
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reader, starfairy +, writes (1 January 2008):
 If you're totally innocent, you've got nothing to hide, so let her see what's on the screen. She's obviously worried, what with hearing stories of girls lured by fake people on msn and Myspace and all the horror stories that go with that...So put her mind at ease. If you're open with her, she's going to trust you. If you close a page down as she walks by, or hide the screen, she's going to wonder why!
Have a chat with her, tell her that sometimes when you're on msn you're having private conversations that you don't want her to read, just as she wouldn't want you reading her private conversations/text messages, whatever. Tell her you are completely aware of the dangers of the internet, and you're aware of the stupid things other girls your age do, but you would never do anything like that, and ask her to trust you.
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