Men, do you watch porn? Woman, are you okay with your man watching it?
Q. Okay I need to know answersfrom men an women! Men do you all watch porn? Me an my boyfriend of 6 years has had this issue I the past year I found him lookin at porn. So it hurts that he has to look at other women it's not like he's watching a video ...
A. 25 January 2012: Yes, Person12345, it is legal in many places to submit to being "physically hurt" and as long as it is between two CONSENTING ADULTS, it is perfectly fine. You may not "get it", but you don't have to. You should keep your opinions about what other ... (read in full...)
Is this girls behaviour normal or am I just going nuts?
Q. I started to talk this girl last week online. We live in the same area and have some mutual friends. We ended up talking to each other for long periods of time, eventually got her number and now we text all day and she likes me to ring her at night. ...
A. 19 January 2012: You need to be direct with her. Tell her "I'm busy right now, can't text. I'm working/etc." Don't text her again until you're NOT busy. Be consistent. Eventually she will stop texting you during your busy hours.
Yes, it's a little soon to talk abo... (read in full...)
We talked about a three-way but my boyfriend won't even talk to the other girl!
Q. Hello For about a year now me and my boyfriend have talked about the idea of having another girl in our relationship. Mostly in a sexual way, but not purely just that... we actually want a 3 way relationship. Anyway, so we talk about this A LOT...
A. 19 January 2012: I'm familiar with triad relationships because I am in one presently. I have both a husband and a girlfriend. It is a very healthy situation where all three of us are in constant contact and communication.
The problem could be many things. The thin... (read in full...)
Men, do you watch porn? Woman, are you okay with your man watching it?
Q. Okay I need to know answersfrom men an women! Men do you all watch porn? Me an my boyfriend of 6 years has had this issue I the past year I found him lookin at porn. So it hurts that he has to look at other women it's not like he's watching a video ...
A. 19 January 2012: Yes, my husband watches porn. Yes, I watch porn. Yes, I am okay with both. Sometimes we watch porn together. It does not negatively affect our relationship and never has. It's a masturbation tool, much like was mentioned below me, li... (read in full...)
I cant orgasm during intercourse is it my fault or his?
Q. Im very physically and mentally attracted to my boyfriend, but when we had sex i NEVER orgasm, i only orgasm when he fingers me, when we have sex it lasts awhile, long enough to where i should have "gotten off" but i dont even though the sensation ...
A. 19 January 2012: Because your clitoris is located outside of your body, not inside, and his penis isn't stimulating your clitoris during intercourse.
See, the reason why your clitoris is so sexually sensitive is because the penis and the clitoris are made up of th... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has a problem with being in contact. Will this be a problem down the road?
Q. Hey all, I am back. SO me and my girlfriend have been going out for 5 months and I love very much and she says she loves me and a believe it. However I cant figure something out. She seems to have a contact issue. I love giving massages and she ...
A. 9 January 2012: In the great span of your life, 5 months isn't that long. You're going to live for what, 80...100 years? 5 months of that loooong amount of time isn't much comparatively. Be patient with her. You two haven't been together long enough for her to get ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has a problem with being in contact. Will this be a problem down the road?
Q. Hey all, I am back. SO me and my girlfriend have been going out for 5 months and I love very much and she says she loves me and a believe it. However I cant figure something out. She seems to have a contact issue. I love giving massages and she ...
A. 8 January 2012: I think you can't assume anything until you ASK HER. The thing is, a lot of people will come to total strangers and ask what their partner's behavior means way before they'll talk to their partner about it, which confuses me because really, it makes ... (read in full...)
Why do most girls prefer to let hell freeze before speaking up and telling a guy they like them? Rejection isn't a good enough excuse.
Q. Hello! My name is Scott and I have a question about women. "Why is it that most women would let hell freeze before they tell a guy they like them?" I'm pretty sick and tired of asking girls this and the only thing they can think of is not w...
A. 8 January 2012: Maybe she doesn't tell you she likes you because she knows you're bitter, resentful and angry and knows you can't possible be emotionally healthy enough for a relationship with her yet?
I know that if I was friends with a dude who was as bitter a... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is controlling and he dislikes physical intimacy
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a few months. Our relationship has been very hectic, there was this period where I had terrible rashes and could not leave the house. He started to act distant towards me and my friend told ...
A. 7 January 2012: This is not a healthy relationship. You can do better, he's not right for you. You can find someone who will let you have space to breathe, friends, and someone who enjoys physical intimacy with you.
I hate to say this, but you really need to ... (read in full...)
I don't want anyone liking me in a romantic way!
Q. Hi, thanks for viewing this question:D. Anyways, on the problem. I think this year is an extremely strange year, maybe its because of the fact that everyone in my level will be graduating from our school. But this year, I received 17 confessi...
A. 1 January 2012: @Iamheretohelpyou-
I realize that. Hence why I said "Might" and "May" instead of saying "I know you are asexual." I wanted to give her an option to explore rather than just telling her that she was "just fine" or normal. She came here looking ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to change the taste of my "downstairs" to a little more sweeter?
Q. Hi everyone ! My question is : Is it possible to change the taste of my "downstairs" to a little more sweeter? Dont get me wrong , I dont have a horrible smell or taste , It's just that it is slightly more salty than Sweet. ...
A. 31 December 2011: Eating a "clean" diet free from red meat, onions, leeks, garlic, fast food, junk food, alcohol and cigarettes and full of fruits, vegetables, chicken and fish and LOTS of mineral water can significantly alter the flavor of your bodily fluids.
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I don't want anyone liking me in a romantic way!
Q. Hi, thanks for viewing this question:D. Anyways, on the problem. I think this year is an extremely strange year, maybe its because of the fact that everyone in my level will be graduating from our school. But this year, I received 17 confessi...
A. 31 December 2011: You might be asexual.
http://www.asexuality.org/home/
At your age, people do start feeling interested in people in a romantic and sexual way, and it is common enough to make it normal to feel like you're falling in love with someone when you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend treats his dog better than he treats me!
Q. My boyfriend doesn't treat me good. He treats his dog better than me. When we fight he calls me names, (ones i'd NEVER repeat). He doesn't sleep with me, he loses his temper and it's always my fault. He gets mad at some1 else he takes it out on ...
A. 31 December 2011: Why haven't you broken up with him yet? Seems like you have a lot of really good reasons to leave his punk @ss in the dirt!... (read in full...)
Should I let my b/f know I've never had an orgasm through regular sex?
Q. I've never had an orgasm through intercourse and I was wondering if anybody else has had this problem and how they fixed it. I've never told my fiance about it before and I don't know if I should. I think he might get upset. The sex we have is ...
A. 31 December 2011: You're perfectly normal. Most women can't reach orgasm through penis-in-vagina penetrative sex because it doesn't stimulate the external portion of your clitoris, which as person12345 below me has already stated, is the most sexually sensitive part ... (read in full...)
B/f will not have sex if I initiate it. Is this a control issue?
Q. My partner of three years does not let me initiate sex. Our sex life used to be ok but in the past year he never will have sex with me if I initiate it. we still sometimes have sex but only if he is the one to start it. I have tried everythi...
A. 28 December 2011: It could be a thousand things. It could be stress, naturally low libido, he could be a closeted homosexual. He might not be in love with you anymore. He might be suffering from ED or Low Testosterone. We cannot possibly guess at the myriad of ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my b/f will send photos to other women..I found a photo of his penis on his phone
Q. Need help! Okay so I've been a worrier. And I worry not that my boyfriend will cheat but that he'll do something like send pics to other women. Especially since he's not that open with his phone He says he's always been honest and never sen...
A. 28 December 2011: If he has pictures of his penis on his phone, he has or is going to send them to someone. Probably not you.
Have a discussion about boundaries and what is and what is not acceptable in your relationship. That's the only way he'll know for sure tha... (read in full...)
Is there any difference between pleasing yourself and being pleased by someone else?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 19 and pretty much completely inexperienced, generally and sexually. The only sexual thing I've done is given a guy a handjob. I have never shown skin before, and have never experienced anything sexual on my part with a guy. ...
A. 22 December 2011: Yes, it is very different. You are more aware than most girls in the fact that you already understand that you automatically know what you want to do when it comes time to masturbate, so you'll already be aware that if you need him to do something ... (read in full...)
Premature ejaculation with a handjob!
Q. My boy friend is 18 years old. When I give him a hand job, he ejaculates within 2 minutes, sometimes in a minute. How can I stop his quick ejaculation? Should I squeeze his balls? I did it once, he said it hurt. Do you think it will work if I put my ...
A. 14 December 2011: When he gets close, just stop. Wait until he calms down for about a minute, then continue. You can do this as often as you want.... (read in full...)
Trying to be the husband she and most would want, but is she losing interest in me?
Q. I have been married now over a 10 years, I really love my wife and have done everything in my power to make her happy to be married to me. In addition to that, I read a lot into what women would like in a husband just to make sure I am better than...
A. 7 December 2011: No one here can tell you if she's for sure losing interest in you. That's something that you need to address with your wife. With an issue as serious as this is, I strongly suggest getting marriage counseling.... (read in full...)
Dating Sites - Good or Bad?
Q. Dating Sites..Good or bad? I've got serious doubts on whether dating sites are a good way to meet anyone. I'm not the most outgoing of people and I'm trying to think of a way to get proactive in finding a relationship. (After all, I can't expect M...
A. 7 December 2011: This is actually a very good question and something that many people can benefit from.
If you're looking for an actual relationship, I say avoid the clubs and bar scene, anywhere there's going to be a lot of easily accessible alcohol. Don't pu... (read in full...)
I'm starting to lose trust on my fiancée. She lived with a male roommate and when I visited her, her sofa smelt like sex!!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm becoming not to trust my bride. Tobe. She had a male roommate for about a year he recently moved from her home. Just a few blocks away I live farther distance. I. Viset her and her sofa smelled like sex.I got angrry and left after co...
A. 6 December 2011: I think you would not appreciate her behavior if she was treating you the way you were treating her. Have you ever heard of the golden rule?! You're nearly 30 and acting like a jealous, possessive, controlling teenager...really, you should be ... (read in full...)
A great guy, but sometimes I'm overwhelmed
Q. My boyfriend is a really great guy, kind and thoughtful but sometimes I feel as if he's taking over too much and overwhelming me. He will send me jokes and then say I must mail them to my dad/brother/sister when I feel they are inapprop...
A. 6 December 2011: I think personally you're being oversensitive. So he sends you joke emails, in ten years will that really impact your life so much? No. You probably won't even remember it, so stressing about it isn't doing you any good at all.
So he told you to l... (read in full...)
What's with all the mean texts?
Q. So I really like this guy (too much!) and I'm pretty sure he likes me too. But sometimes he'll say things (in a text) that maybe I take too seriously an overreact because I'm just a girl? Or is it because he doesn't know what to say and it comes ...
A. 4 December 2011: It's incredibly sexist and insulting that you seriously believe women as a whole are more prone to emotional outbursts than men are. Men are equally capable of being emotive, but it's accepted as "okay" for a man to show negative emotions in today's ... (read in full...)
Question for men: Why do guys tell all women they date the same lines?
Q. I have a question for any men that happen to read this. Why do some guys tell every single woman they are involved with the same exact lines, the same exact stories, and act the same way? I recently got in touch with three of my boyfriend's ex ...
A. 24 November 2011: So I suppose you've never had a boyfriend before him, you've never cared about anything before him, and you've never acted naturally (like being yourself and showing your true personality) around any other guy before?
And you expect him to act D... (read in full...)
I like this married guy but I'm not sure that I want to be a mistress!
Q. hey, this is the first time writing to one of these agony aunt things so i'm sorry if this is long winded. long story short, a guy i'm attracted to has asked me out. he's cute, funny, intelligent.. everything i would want in a guy but never se...
A. 21 November 2011: If you're so smart, why are you even considering this? You already know it's a bad idea. Are you looking for validation?
You know the answer to your question. You already know that it's a horrible idea. Find a guy out at a club or a bar somewher... (read in full...)
Squeaky bed spoiling sex
Q. Hi, We have a baby in our room and a squeaky bed! Squeaky bed either wakes baby or makes sex less enjoyable as we have to be more careful. We have a metal bed and wanted to know if people have had the same problem. Do we have to get ri...
A. 21 November 2011: Find out what parts are squeaking and spray some WD-40 on them. Problem solved! :-)... (read in full...)
Girls' night out - girlfriend comes home drunk at 4am
Q. My girlfriend went to a nightclub for a girls' night out last night, came back at 4am and spent the first hour of today throwing up. How worried should I be? The poster for the event she went to depicts a young lady sitting down in a chair, with...
A. 21 November 2011: The poster doesn't mean anything. Just ignore it, you're reading into it too much.
Watch her closely, make sure she doesn't seem too sick. If she does seem REALLY sick, take her to the hospital.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend thinks I'm not manly enough
Q. I have an amazing wonderful girlfriend but it gets extremely annoying and upsetting because she can't see me as "manly". I don't like football and she thinks I'm not a man. I tend to show my emotions more and I'm a little sensitive and sh...
A. 21 November 2011: How do you talk to her?
Like this:
"I don't want to see you anymore. Our relationship is over."
Glad to help.... (read in full...)
I want to talk to this stunning woman on the train but don't know how!
Q. Ok most days going into work I see the most stunning woman on the train, and I can't seem to get to talk to her. I've tried the old sit opposite and try and make eye contact and smile stuff, but she's always got her head buried in The Times (or on...
A. 21 November 2011: She keeps her face buried in the paper because she does not want to talk to you. I know it seems promising because she hasn't DIRECTLY rejected you yet, but if you try and chat her up, she will.
Just leave her alone.... (read in full...)
Does my husband keep me around for the sex or because he actually loves me?
Q. My husband has signed up for dating and sex sites over 7 times in our * yrs of marriage. watches porn all the time......and we are having other issues as well..... is it just a guy thing or is he really looking for something else???? we have always ...
A. 14 November 2011: Without knowing in greater detail what other problems you two are facing, none of us can truly say if he's just keeping you around for sex. We don't know what issues are plaguing you two. If you could be more detailed in telling us what these other ... (read in full...)
How can I leave my husband without hurting my kids?
Q. I have been married 27 years to my high school sweetheart and we've had our good and bad times in our relationship. I've tried to leave multiple times through the years for different reasons but have no family and always felt alone and that I couldn...
A. 14 November 2011: There are a few things that I want to address in this post so bear with me. You didn't note what the "horrible event" was in your family with your son, and I think that bears mentioning, because depending on what that event was, the actions you ... (read in full...)
Sex while music is playing?
Q. Hello everyone, just after a few personal opinions here! Do you think it's a good idea to have sex for the first time while music's playing in the background or can that be a distraction from (or to) your partner? I'm thinking classical music, ...
A. 14 November 2011: I love playing music while my husband and I are having sex. It's very relaxing.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she's only been with 2 men, but I don't believe her. Am I right?
Q. I dont know what to do. I have been with my girlfriend for the last 5 years, but I cant trust her. I am 25 and she is 24. She has told me that she has had two boyfriends before me who she had sex with, but I have heard that she has had more. I think ...
A. 8 November 2011: This guy has a similar problem. I think the advice given on that question can help you.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/she-had-sex-before-we-met-now-i.html... (read in full...)
My wife made out with another woman when I was not there. Should I be mad? Worried? Turned on?
Q. My wife made out with another woman at a Halloween party. Should I be jealous, mad? We have talked about fantasies involving a 3 some from time to time over the years. A few times, during sex, we have even talked about her doing something with ...
A. 3 November 2011: If you doing it is unacceptable, the same rules apply to her.
You need to tell her that you consider this cheating. If you are not able to make out with other women, she shouldn't be able to do it either.
She owes you a SERIOUS apology.... (read in full...)
Is it worth the time to occasionally masturbate?
Q. Is it worth the time to occasionally masturbate? In sex ed, I did hear about it, but I'm not quite sure on how enjoyable it could be. I mean, is it worth the effort? I haven't been able to ask any other people about it, so I'm pretty stumped on ...
A. 1 November 2011: Orgasm is, in my opinion, one of the most wonderful things that a human being can experience. So yes, it is certainly "worth the time". Sexual Education in school does a shit job, pardon my language, of teaching women about the nature of their ... (read in full...)
Please help me figure out the female mind
Q. Why do girls act so strange? I have a huge crush on one of my co workers and I have been told by 2 of the girls we work with that she likes me too. We hang out all the time at work and even recently outside of work. I month ago I asked her out and ...
A. 28 October 2011: She's manipulating you into giving her more attention. Leave her alone for a while and see if she asks YOU out.... (read in full...)
Why are people disgusted by prostitution, but acceptant of celebrities that are basically just high class prostitutes?
Q. This is just an out of the blue question really, something that often confuses me when I see questions or comments on the subject of prostitutes and related subjects. I do not by any means agree with prostitution, what baffles me though, is peoples ...
A. 27 October 2011: So in your logic, everyone is a prostitute, then? Because I don't work outside of home, and my husband does, I am his prostitute, because I sleep with him and he pays my bills, is that it? So every stay at home mom on the planet is a prostitute.... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I shaved off my pubic hair?
Q. Ok, so about a week ago, I was shaving my bikini line, but I angled the razor wrong, and shaved off a patch of pubic hair that made my area, which is usually neat, trimmed, and proper looking, look stupid, so in an effort to try and fix it, I ended ...
A. 26 October 2011: Just tell him.
If you are mature enough to be sexually intimate with him, you should be mature enough to talk to him in an open and communicative way about your body.
If you're so embarrassed by it that you can't tell him, you need to consider... (read in full...)
How do I spark her interest with a message on facebook?
Q. Hiya everyone..thanks in advance for your help. I saw this really cute girl on facebook and sent her a friend request which she accepted. I now want to break the ice by sending her a nice first message(would really like to go out with her)..she ...
A. 26 October 2011: How would you want to be approached? Politely and respectfully, I'm guessing, yes? Just do the same.
Hi, I'm (your name) and I'd really like to get to know you better. You are a really beautiful young woman and I'm interested in taking you out ... (read in full...)
I want to take my new girlfriend to the strip club and watch her touching other girls
Q. I want to take my new girlfriend to a strip club, but am not sure what her reaction will be. For you girls, if you have been dating a guy for a month or so and he askes you if you want to accompany him to a strip club, what would be your re...
A. 26 October 2011: You've only been dating for ONE MONTH. Please wait a little longer for her to feel a little more secure, and so both of you can actually get to know each other better.
In a few more months, I think you'll know her well enough that you'll know wha... (read in full...)
Advice for an English girl moving to America?
Q. Hey I'm an English Girl looking into doing one of my university years abroad in the US. There are 2 parts to my question really: 1) I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. we are in a fairly long-term comitted relationship, and this i...
A. 25 October 2011: My girlfriend is English and she is planning on moving here permanently after she graduates. She's also in Uni (over here we usually call in college :-P) It might take a few hours for me to get a message from her, but I will email her and ask her ... (read in full...)
Why are people disgusted by prostitution, but acceptant of celebrities that are basically just high class prostitutes?
Q. This is just an out of the blue question really, something that often confuses me when I see questions or comments on the subject of prostitutes and related subjects. I do not by any means agree with prostitution, what baffles me though, is peoples ...
A. 19 October 2011: Because the actresses in those movies are not sleeping with the actor "for real". It's just ACTING. No sex involved. That's completely different than prostitution. Selling their BEAUTY and selling their BODY are different. That is why it's accepta... (read in full...)
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