My boyfriend maintains a friendship with a woman who has a crush on him
Q. There is this girl my boyfriend has been talking to online. I found out she has a huge crush on him and has been trying to hook up with him for weeks now. What's worse is that I found out she sent him a naked picture. I'm upset because even tho...
A. 19 May 2013: He's enjoying this girl's inappropriate attention. You two are in a relationship and this is hurting you, it's unacceptable behavior because it's crossing your boundaries.
Were I you, I'd give him two choices...you, or her.
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So why am I feeling conflicted about progressing this to sex with her? Seemed the logical next option.
Q. I've recently began a self-improvement kick, beginning to exercise, be more social, exude confidence. I'm getting female attention for the first time in ages. I really hit it off with a girl at a party last week, we spoke a lot and ended up holding ...
A. 19 May 2013: I don't understand why "Not having sex with her" isn't an option to you. I mean, if you want to be REALLY logical, if having intercourse with her will really cause that many emotional issues for you both, just....don't do it. Why do you thin... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time. Birth control options?
Q. I'm 22 years old and a virgin. I have been single for two years. During my previous relationships, I wasn't ready or interested in sex, but now I am. I've been dating a guy for a couple months. The relationship is still new, but I want to be ...
A. 17 May 2013: I did some interneting for you. Here's what I found, I hope this helps! http://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/810522/birth-control-pills-facts-you-need-to-know http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/B... (read in full...)
I don't like being called a bitch! Do I try harder to be friendlier to my boyfriend's mates?
Q. I think I'm over reacting but I thought I would ask anyways. I've always been an emotional person and I get my feelings hurt easily. A friend of my boyfriend has really hurt my feelings twice now. The first time was he called me an 'effing bitch...
A. 16 May 2013: Um no. No one "jokes" when they call someone a fucking bitch. Your boyfriend's mate is an asshole.
Give him back a taste of his own medicine. When he acts like an asshole, act like a bitch right back to him. I learned a loooong time ago sometime... (read in full...)
Ready to date. Where can I meet men outside my daily routine?
Q. It's been a year and a half since I last dated, and would like to date again. I'm looking for a long-term serious relationship but I don't know where to look. I want someone a bit older and more experienced so college isn't the ideal place to loo...
A. 14 May 2013: Unless you stop subscribing to antiquated ideals that you shouldn't directly approach a man you're interested in, you won't meet as many men that are your type.
You should see men everywhere, but if you're looking specifically for an older ge... (read in full...)
He's asked me to be more aggressive during sex. Suggestions?
Q. So, my boyfriend has been asking me to be aggressive with him while we're having sex. His most recent request "I seriously want you to rape me sometime. Force me to do stuff like that, hit me, scratch me, bite me, punish me. Call me names. Pee on ...
A. 10 May 2013: Actually no, it wouldn't be weird at all because you can't read his mind. He needs to be able to honestly and accurately describe his desires so that you know what to do! A frank talk about his fantasies is a great way to gauge what he wants and how ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to be thinking of marriage?
Q. Hi guys. Just a quick question. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 26. We have been together for 8 months. I really love him and he loves me. Everything is great. The trouble is we have started to talk about marriage- I want to marry him and think that he ...
A. 9 May 2013: Laci Green from Sex Plus on youtube did a video about getting married young that I think you should watch. It'll give you some things to think about in regards to getting married at your age.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aalpoITtYxY
I got m... (read in full...)
How do you help someone with a fear of flying?
Q. My boyfriend has a serious phobia of airplane rides. We've been dating for a year and will be taking our first international trip together soon. We're both looking forward to the trip itself but as our flight date approaches, he's becoming quite ...
A. 9 May 2013: Take him to see a doctor and let them know he has panic attacks while flying. They'll give him appropriate medication to keep him calm.... (read in full...)
He's asked me to be more aggressive during sex. Suggestions?
Q. So, my boyfriend has been asking me to be aggressive with him while we're having sex. His most recent request "I seriously want you to rape me sometime. Force me to do stuff like that, hit me, scratch me, bite me, punish me. Call me names. Pee on ...
A. 9 May 2013: Sounds like he wants you to Top him.
There are a few books you can get on Amazon that'll teach you how to Top effectively. Check out "The New Topping Book" and "The New Bottoming Book" and "Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns"
I'm openly in... (read in full...)
My confidence has dropped sharply after constantly being rejected. What's wrong with me? What should I do?
Q. I feel like girls don't like me, because I'm a nice guy. Lately I've thought about it, and some people have told me that I'm way too nice. I'm the romantic type that thinks out dates, and plans cute stuff for anniversaries, and basically does sup...
A. 8 May 2013: The "Nice Guy" fallacy. Women love nice guys. We love men that open doors, speak politely to wait staff and tip well, are kind to animals and children, and generally have their shit together. Women do not love a^^^oles. We do not love being c... (read in full...)
Does the number of people you sleep with have any effect on you later in life?
Q. I am just wondering if the number of people you sleep with has any psychological or emotional effect on you later. I am not talking 3 or 4 partners. I mean, like, say 50 partners. My best bud is dating seriously a girl who has slept around qui...
A. 6 May 2013: It is not logical in the least to think that the number of sexual partners a person has had in any way affects their ability to be a compassionate listener, giving sexual partner or any other good quality that makes an ideal partner.
To think so... (read in full...)
HE wouldn't tell me if I'm his girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. I've met a guy 7months ago. We've been sleeping together we text each other everyday he calls sometimes. 5months ago i told him that i want a serious relationship. So i asked him where do i stand with you? Am i your girlfriend? And he could'nt give ...
A. 6 May 2013: If he can't give you a "straight answer", he's giving you a straight answer. He doesn't consider you his girlfriend.
If you're looking for an actual relationship and not just a FWB situation, it's time to move on.... (read in full...)
Do women really get 'used for sex'?
Q. This is not a personal question but a general question about the concept of 'using' someone for sex which is usually used about women. Why do people assume that a woman is 'being used for sex' when she's in a friends with benefits situation or at ...
A. 6 May 2013: It's a common social construct that many people believe. Many people believe that women cannot only want sex and ALL women either openly or secretly want relationships/marriage/children and cannot find a purely physical sexual relationship ... (read in full...)
Online dating. I'm interested. What should I say in my message?
Q. I asked for advice on using dating sites a few days ago. Now I have a more specific question. There's a guy I'm interested in someone on OKCupid. Should I message him? Why or why not? And if so, what should I say? I'm a bit shy and embarassed about ...
A. 6 May 2013: Relate to him by treating him like you'd like to be treated. Greet him politely, tell him truthfully that you've been to his profile several times and that you find him handsome and that you two seem to have many things in common. Point out a few of ... (read in full...)
Online comments from girls: should I take notice? Does a guy's personality change girl's opinion or perceptions about a guy?
Q. When I asked girls (online) to rate me, the majority of them said I was okay but I wasn't their type of guy. One girl said I was okay but no panty dropper (kinda hurt my feelings). and a couple said I wasn't good looking. I wanted to hear the trut...
A. 12 January 2013: I actually have to strongly disagree with Tranced and say that I think "negging" is a very manipulative method of talking to women. Negging is Pick-Up-Artist speak for undermining a woman's self-confidence by insulting her or putting her down... (read in full...)
Online comments from girls: should I take notice? Does a guy's personality change girl's opinion or perceptions about a guy?
Q. When I asked girls (online) to rate me, the majority of them said I was okay but I wasn't their type of guy. One girl said I was okay but no panty dropper (kinda hurt my feelings). and a couple said I wasn't good looking. I wanted to hear the trut...
A. 12 January 2013: You should never ask a question if you aren't prepared to hear it answered. Have you ever met an attractive girl with a terrible personality, so you decided you'd never date her because of it? Men are no different from women in that res... (read in full...)
What did he mean when he told me not to get too attached?
Q. I've liked the same guy for almost 3 years now. He's a good friend as well. Basically the whole time of when I've liked him he's had girlfriends too though. Recently he just split up with his girlfriend whom he has been going out for for almost 2...
A. 7 January 2013: He's only using you to get off. He doesn't care about you romantically, he finds you physically and sexually attractive but that's the limit he's willing to give you. A piece of advice from me to you. "Don't make someone a priority in your ... (read in full...)
Two months together but not "official" yet. Is he up to no good? I want to lose my virginity with him. Can you give me advice please?
Q. modnote: OP - People will ask so please advise in followup why you cannot obtain Birth Control in US?? Hi all, and Happy New Year! So I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now... we're pretty much a couple even though there isn't any o...
A. 1 January 2013: Here's something you might want to consider right now. If you say you can't afford birth control, don't have sex. Period! Because if you can't afford the 30 dollars a month for birth control, you certainly cannot afford the 300+ a month t... (read in full...)
Two months together but not "official" yet. Is he up to no good? I want to lose my virginity with him. Can you give me advice please?
Q. modnote: OP - People will ask so please advise in followup why you cannot obtain Birth Control in US?? Hi all, and Happy New Year! So I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now... we're pretty much a couple even though there isn't any o...
A. 1 January 2013: You're legally an adult if you're 21 and have absolutely ZERO issue getting birth control unless you aren't really 21.... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and feeling pressured by my own longings to have sex with my Bf. But I'm scared of getting pregnant. What should I do?
Q. okay so im a teenage girl and i kind of feel pressured to have sex,not by anyone though, i have a certain longing for it.i want to wait till im married because im still a virgin but sex is so tempting to do. And i have the guy i want to do it with ...
A. 30 December 2012: Masturbate.
You should feel right as rain after you're done. And the bonus is, no pregnancy scare to worry about!... (read in full...)
My guy is going bald - HELP!!!
Q. My guy is going bald!!!!!! I dont want to leave him, but he looks too elder than me! What do I do? He is ready to do anything if I have the solution..Pls help me! He is just 25! and Am 23 !! :-( :-( Am so sad abt his baldness..Am trying to support ...
A. 22 December 2012: Unless you want to pay for his hair transplants, there's nothing you can do about it.
How would you like it if he stopped being attracted to you because you were getting wrinkles because you were getting older? Probably pretty mad at him...th... (read in full...)
My ex-girlfriend owes me money, but is pregnant with another man. What do I do?
Q. I apologize in advance if this is lengthy. I'm 22 years old. I dated a girl for three years who is the same age. We lived together for the majority of that time, however the last eight months of the relationship was very rocky. Sex was a rarity...
A. 20 December 2012: It would be better to go after government assistance like food stamps as a temporary fix, and totally cut her our of your life and forget her. BLOCK HER...anything. If you NEED "something" as in money to help you pay your bills, there are healthier ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is REALLY almost TOO skinny, what to do?
Q. Hi agony aunts :) I'm having this problem. My girlfriend is really, really, REALLY skinny. Like, I can see her bones, skinny. She is sometimes really insecure about the way she looks and how much she weighs, which always seems crazy to me because ...
A. 16 December 2012: She needs to see a professional. If she's so thin that she's showing bones yet still thinks of herself as fat, that's a serious red flag, and disorered thinking. You cannot help her with this, only a trained therapist will be able to.... (read in full...)
Pregnant? Condom slipped a bit and I'm worried about the chances of pregnancy. Any advice?
Q. I was having sex with a condom on and the i were on top.I ejaculated into the condom while still inside of her and we continued for few minutes. Condom doesn't break and slipped down maybe 0,2 -0,5 inch . Is there higher chance of pregnancy?...
A. 16 December 2012: In the future, please remove your penis from her body immediately and throw away the condom. Using them correctly is the ONLY way to prevent pregnancy.
If this is a regular partner that you're sleeping with, encourage her to use another form of ... (read in full...)
Have I slept with too many guys?
Q. I lost my virginity a few months before I turned 16. Since then I have slept with four guys. The fourth one just happened about two weeks ago? I really worry about becoming loose and never being able to find a partner. Some of my old friends have ...
A. 3 December 2012: Vagina size does not expand with each sexual partner you have.
It's just a common sex myth that's spread to fear-monger women into preventing them from enjoying sexual equality and freedom.
The amount of sexual partners you have does not in... (read in full...)
I have not had sex yet getting married in 3 weeks and I'm really scared about this part of the marriage!
Q. Hi there. I'm a week away from my 22nd birthday and three weeks away from my wedding. And I have managed to make it all this way without going any further than kissing. And the closer we get to the our wedding date, the more cripplingly nervous I am ...
A. 21 November 2012: This is the video I always recommend to people who are about to have sex for the first time.
Enjoy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdYtYveJI1Y... (read in full...)
I told her I loved her and she just laughed! What should I do now?
Q. I am in love with my former teacher. I am now teaching in her same college and I know her since 15 years. This lasted since the first time we met. I tried to live as if it wasn't true, but now that I am facing the fact that I do not think to anyon...
A. 20 November 2012: I don't think she's interested in being with you. Perhaps you should consider focusing on finding someone who WILL want to be with you, instead of wasting your time on your ex-teacher?... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a well-dressed man to find an average dressed woman attractive?
Q. I see this guy every day and every time we pass each other the flirting is intense. This guy is gorgeous and I love his mannerisms and find him intriguing, and would love to get to know him further. The only issue I have is that he very well ...
A. 20 November 2012: There is more to a person other than the way they dress.
I think it would behoove you to look past the superficial and understand that most decent people do too.... (read in full...)
I want to know how to increase my libido
Q. hello every body i want to know how to increase my libido my sex drive high so that i can fulfill my pleasure with my girlfriend. i have heared that if i tie a black and red thread around the waist i will overcome evil eyes as well as my sex arou...
A. 20 November 2012: There is no hard scientific data that a piece of thread will raise your libido, and since there's no hard scientific data on "the evil eye" either, I'd sorely doubt the source that told you that a piece of thread would do ANYTHING for you.
You n... (read in full...)
Do I sound like a guy that girls would want to date?
Q. Girls, do I seem attractive? I'm a sweetheart, very smart, fun, strong, good hugger, tough, confident and I'm very independent. Sometimes people say that I'm very handsome. I believe when ever I get a girlfriend, she'll be the best thing that ...
A. 19 November 2012: You believe that when you get a girlfriend, she'll be the best thing that will ever happen to you?
I think that's putting your future girlfriend on a pedestal that's incredibly unrealistic, sweetie.
Women are people. We're not goddesses to be ... (read in full...)
How do I dress for a date at the pub?
Q. i have a date next friday night, we're going to the pub and i don't know how i should dress for it? I don't want to look too over-dressed, but i don't want to look like i haven't made the effort either! I was thinking of skinny jeans and a simple ...
A. 19 November 2012: Things guys like:
Long dark eyelashes, soft but not sticky looking lips, and really even and silky looking skin.
So, use a nice semi matte mineral foundation, a really good concealer, and some nice HD powder to set it and make your skin look v... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who is mentally ill, more specifically bipolar?
Q. Would you date someone who is mentally ill, more specifically bipolar? I was recently diagnosed with Bipolar II Disorder, and in my googling I have read many, many warnings from people who have dated bipolar people to steer clear of us. I have al...
A. 17 November 2012: If you were properly medicated and seeking professional therapy, yes. If you were not, no.... (read in full...)
What is this bad smell coming from my arm pits? I clean but it is still there, help!
Q. It comes from my arm pits. It is not as bad-smelling as sweat. But, it does still stink. Could it be my own personal scent? If so, why am I picking it up? I can smell it evdnafter having taking a shower. And, yes, I clean both arm pits with soap. ...
A. 17 November 2012: Honeypie, the OP is male.... (read in full...)
What is this bad smell coming from my arm pits? I clean but it is still there, help!
Q. It comes from my arm pits. It is not as bad-smelling as sweat. But, it does still stink. Could it be my own personal scent? If so, why am I picking it up? I can smell it evdnafter having taking a shower. And, yes, I clean both arm pits with soap. ...
A. 17 November 2012: You cannot detect your own pheromones as an actual smell. If it's only a very slight odor, a deodorant should be all you need to cover/conceal it properly. If it ever gets severe, see a doctor.
And it's "faint". Feint means a certain type of movem... (read in full...)
I'm sixteen, she's thirteen. Is this too much age difference?
Q. Hey I'm 16 years old. I just came back from hoilday with my mate and his family. Throughout the hoilday I started to get more attracted to his sister. Problem is she is 13 and I'm 16. Her personality is what I like in a girl everything she like I do ...
A. 17 November 2012: I don't think it's weird, as long as you two don't have sex.... (read in full...)
What is this bad smell coming from my arm pits? I clean but it is still there, help!
Q. It comes from my arm pits. It is not as bad-smelling as sweat. But, it does still stink. Could it be my own personal scent? If so, why am I picking it up? I can smell it evdnafter having taking a shower. And, yes, I clean both arm pits with soap. ...
A. 17 November 2012: If you have an extremely offensive body odor immediately after a shower, it could very well be a serious health issue that needs immediate attention from your doctor. Please go and see them ASAP.... (read in full...)
Do any girls have good suggestions for longer lasting hair removal that will make my hair softer?
Q. Hello, this is one for the Aunts. I have been using a basic razor for all hair removals and occansionally I use hair removal creams. Do any of you girls have better suggestions for a softer, cleaner, longer lasting shave for legs, underarm...
A. 17 November 2012: You need to visit a professional to get waxed. It's much less painful because they've been trained how to do it quickly and gently.
Doing it yourself is just asking for trouble!
Baby oil won't soften your hair much, as oils technically cann... (read in full...)
Do people really need porn to be stimulated or is it just an excuse to look at someone naked?
Q. I have a question about porn, do they really need it to get stimulated or is it just an excuse to look at someone else during a relationship? Is that why some people don't request a picture of their partners to use? ...
A. 17 November 2012: If you want to get it down to need vs. want, we don't actually NEED a lot of things these days that have become normal and commonplace. Like electricity, cars, phones, money, the internet, TV, etc. However, having them is an enjoyable luxury. People ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and broke up with baby's dad. He says he doesn't want me to breast feed the baby! Should I take legal advise re access? It was amicable up until this ....
Q. Im 29 weeks pregnant with my first child. Me and the babys father have separated due to him being unfaithful (not the issue here tho). We are both trying to be as involved as we can, he has been to all scans and classes and he is going to be prese...
A. 15 November 2012: First, you need to give him some information about breast feeding so that he fully understands how "breast is best". A lot of people simply don't "get" how much better breast feeding is for babies, and he could very well possibly think that you're ... (read in full...)
Debate: GIrls love being treated like dirt!
Q. Girls are weird. Whether u all admit it or not. Most my school and teen years I used to see guys being docks and girls getting hurt and complaining. I always wondered why they didn't go out with nice guys like me who would not hurt them. F...
A. 15 November 2012: I've posted this several times before, but here's an article my friend Lady_Air wrote: I hear over and over again how hard done by "nice guys" are. How women always go for assholes. How women won't give men who treat them decently the time of ... (read in full...)
GIrls: Do you like hairy guys?
Q. Hi This question is for mostly for girls. Do you find attractive "hairy men"(hope you understand), who has hair in chest,back and legs,or maybe you will dump them.Also do you think guys with classic beard are attractive, even I think this depen...
A. 15 November 2012: I don't like back hair, but hair everywhere else is great. A hair chest, legs and a beard is especially attractive to me.... (read in full...)
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