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writes:Hi, thanks for viewing this question:D. Anyways, on the problem. I think this year is an extremely strange year, maybe its because of the fact that everyone in my level will be graduating from our school. But this year, I received 17 confessions to be exact. 2 right before my exams and 15 in the remaining days before school ended and holidays start. All the boys who confessed to me were people I never expected would do so. I always thought of everyone as J.U.S.T friends. I haven't had my first crush or anything like that yet. This year's experience pretty much scarred me. Right now, each time I look at one of my male friends, I get a little afraid that they'll like me and...I just find that kind of...disgusting? I'm not too sure. I just don't like the idea of anyone liking me That way, boy or girl. Is this strange, or is this part of a disorder? My BFF, Carrie said once that girls our age would start liking boys already and fall in love and all the kind of stuff. Is there something wrong with me? Since, I kind of don't like doing things like liking people in a crush/infatuation manner.
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reader, shrodingerscat  +, writes (1 January 2012):
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I realize that. Hence why I said "Might" and "May" instead of saying "I know you are asexual." I wanted to give her an option to explore rather than just telling her that she was "just fine" or normal. She came here looking for answers, and since it's a possibility that no one else bothered to mention, I felt it would behoove us all to give her information that might be critical to her understanding herself better.
I am quite aware of the different flavors of asexuality. Again, that's why I said "Might/may" instead of talking like I knew her.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (31 December 2011):
 There is NOTHING wrong with you, I was exactly like that! The first time that a guy confessed his undying love towards me, I was only 14. I didn't know anything about all this, I was a complete Enid Blyton devotee, my life consisted of school, home, my friends and my books... that's it. So when this guy handed me a letter which had his feelings written over 4 pages, my hands shook and my knees went weak and I actually showed it to my mom and started crying! Can you believe how silly I was!! *sigh*!!
I too couldnt imagine anyone liking me in a romantic way, it made me feel sick. But OP, its all a part of growing up, and now that you're growing into this lovely lady, a lot of young men will be vying for your attention. Its going to be a part of life, and you dont have to like it but just get used to it and not let it affect you.
And oh...two things that I would like to say.
1.) You are NOT asexual, and
2.) The boy with the letter eventually turned out to be the love of my life
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2011): I wasn't interested romantically in anyone at your age either, everyone is different though. You can't do anything about people liking you, it happens, the only thing you can do is tell them your not interested back.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (31 December 2011):
You might be asexual.
http://www.asexuality.org/home/
At your age, people do start feeling interested in people in a romantic and sexual way, and it is common enough to make it normal to feel like you're falling in love with someone when you're in your early teens. However, since you find it "disgusting" and you actually actively FEAR love/sexuality, I suspect you may be asexual.
Please look at the link I've provided above. It may help you.
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