GIrls: Do you like hairy guys?
Q. Hi This question is for mostly for girls. Do you find attractive "hairy men"(hope you understand), who has hair in chest,back and legs,or maybe you will dump them.Also do you think guys with classic beard are attractive, even I think this depen...
A. 15 November 2012: I don't like back hair, but hair everywhere else is great. A hair chest, legs and a beard is especially attractive to me.... (read in full...)
How old were you the first time you had sex? How was it?
Q. Hello I'm curious to know in what age you had first time sex(intercourse), and how was it?...
A. 14 November 2012: I was 16 and it was horrible. It was extremely painful, the guy had no idea what he was doing and was incredibly selfish and rough. Very traumatic. It took me years to learn how to appreciate intercourse after that.... (read in full...)
I hooked up with my friend. Does that mean he likes me?
Q. Hi there, so i have tiny problem. I think i need guys and girls help. So i have this guy friend, we know each other for 3 months, and we always hang out etc. Also we text every day for hours. My friend thinks that he may like me cos we kind of f...
A. 14 November 2012: There is a 50/50 chance he likes you. Either he does or he does not. You should talk to HIM directly, since you want to know. We can't read his mind, and you're much better off always being direct with men when you want something.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't want any kids so why does he always want sex when I am at the most fertile time?
Q. my bf of ovr 22 yrs says he doesnt want more kids, but the way he acts during sex and how he seems to not be so worried about geting me pregnant and asking when every month my period is due and we always eem to have sex only during the most ...
A. 14 November 2012: When you are at your most fertile peak in your cycle, you give off strong pheromones that your partner can sense, and it raises his libido. Simple Biology.
He's not doing it consciously. He can't help himself.
Since he doesn't want to have kid... (read in full...)
My husband flipped out because I wore a male co-worker's jacket! Is he making it too big of a deal?
Q. Hi everyone. Pretty quick question: Is it okay to wear a male coworker's jacket if you are married? My husband found out that my coworker let's me wear his jacket at work and totally flipped out. I don't see the harm in it. Let me know what you th...
A. 14 November 2012: Depends on the context. If you wore it just because you were cold and he was polite enough to share, no big deal and he needs to calm down. If you're flirting with this guy and he doesn't know you're unavailable, then there's a prob... (read in full...)
Is it possible for your hymen to be broken and you are still a virgin?
Q. I am very stubborn… I finally went out with the guy and we spent a day together... I still footed half the bill… but I think I lost my virginity… I still feel as one tho… His did not penetrate me… I did not allow him but I saw blood on the bed and ...
A. 13 November 2012: I found this for you:
http://www.ourbodiesourblog.org/blog/2008/12/the-hymen-breaking-the-myths... (read in full...)
She's not interested in "shrooming" with me...
Q. I really love her, we've been together for 9 months as of the other day. I ask that anyone who reads this, do so with an open mind and not cast judgement or speak against "drugs", assert that I have a problem or anything likewise. Things were really ...
A. 13 November 2012: Not everyone is interested in it. Pressuring her isn't going to make her want to do it, in fact, it will only do the opposite.
Not everyone has "good trips". Bad tripping is an absolute possibility, and some people (like myself) never try shrooms ... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend reach climax while wearing a condom?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about 10 months now and we've been together for over a year. We love each other dearly and we plan on being together long term. The problem is that there are only two ways I can make him cum: giving h...
A. 13 November 2012: Why don't you two start using spermicide? That way you can still have the two-methods of Birth Control protection, and after your STI workups, you can stop using condoms.... (read in full...)
Should I stay with a violent husband for the sake of the children?
Q. My husband has violent outbursts about 3 -4 times a year. Something small will usually set him off, but everyone in the family knows to run for cover. I have three children (8,11,13) who have witnessed him exploding in a rage. The last time it ...
A. 12 November 2012: A divorced, safe and happy home is far FAR better than an intact home that is abusive and dangerous.
You know better. You KNOW what choice you have to make. Do it.
You can.... (read in full...)
Do guys really prefer girls with long hair?
Q. do guys really prefer girls with long hair? I have really long dark hair down to my waist, but most the time I leave it naturally curly/wavy because it looks nicer and has more texture. But the amount of guys who mention my hair on a night out is ...
A. 12 November 2012: In Western society, long hair on women is considered a beauty trait. The majority of men prefer long hair, from the shoulders to the waist is the prefered length.
Straight hair is considered more attractive in fashion today, but if your hair tex... (read in full...)
How can I get to know someone in a professional manner?
Q. I want some advice on how I should go about getting to know someone at work in a professional manner, without appearing too forthright and desperate. I have been hopelessly in love with a guy from work probably since the first few times I laid...
A. 12 November 2012: Ask him out to lunch.... (read in full...)
Should I respect my parents or try to make my boyfriend happy?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we've had a few major hiccups along the way but we've always weathered through. One of our main arguments is that I don't sleep over at his house unless my parents are away. My parents are a...
A. 12 November 2012: Their house, their rules. He needs to understand that while you're staying with your parents, you have to respect their rules. If he can't cope with that, then you need to take a hard look at why he's pressuring you so hard and so completely ... (read in full...)
Do you think a girl that sleeps with every boyfriend is a whore?
Q. Hi!! The other day I was talking to my mom, and somehow she ended up telling me how she thinks that a girl that sleeps with all of her boyfriends is a whore. She didn't say strangers, or guys you have only known for a week or so, she meant real rel...
A. 11 November 2012: To the male anonymous poster who said: "Please don't expect the majority of men to change 50,000 years of natural preferences overnight just because the circumstances have changed in the last 50 years. It's not going to happen because its not ... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my boyfriend's desire to have sex with another guy?
Q. My boyfriend is a wonderful guy and I love him so much and I know he loves me too. He isn't gay or even bisexual, guys themselves make him uncomfortable sexually, but he's really attracted to penises. Which probably seems weird. I know he's ...
A. 11 November 2012: There are "ejaculating simulator" dildos that would work in a strap on. Search sex toy sites. He doesn't have to have sex with a man in order to get what he's looking for.... (read in full...)
My 54 year old boyfriend ejaculates prematurely
Q. I've met a lovely gentleman. He is 54 and we have been seeing each other for a few months. We are both ready to take the relationship to the next step but when we get down to it he seems to ejaculate within seconds of me touching him. We have tried ...
A. 11 November 2012: It could be a myriad of reasons, but the key is to be patient. PIV sex, as in Penis-In-Vagina penetration, shouldn't be the end goal and the only thing you consider "sex". There are many other things that you can do with him and be satisfied, such ... (read in full...)
Do you think a girl that sleeps with every boyfriend is a whore?
Q. Hi!! The other day I was talking to my mom, and somehow she ended up telling me how she thinks that a girl that sleeps with all of her boyfriends is a whore. She didn't say strangers, or guys you have only known for a week or so, she meant real rel...
A. 11 November 2012: This is to the anonymous male who stated: "Agree in principle, but I must point out that males have the inherent biological advantage of enjoying the "sexual freedom" to be indiscriminate in their choice of female partners because they have the ab... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my boyfriend's desire to have sex with another guy?
Q. My boyfriend is a wonderful guy and I love him so much and I know he loves me too. He isn't gay or even bisexual, guys themselves make him uncomfortable sexually, but he's really attracted to penises. Which probably seems weird. I know he's ...
A. 11 November 2012: If he just wants a penis, and not a man, have you two ever thought about you using a realistic-looking strap-on in order to give him the sensation and look that he likes without it being another person?... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend reach climax while wearing a condom?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about 10 months now and we've been together for over a year. We love each other dearly and we plan on being together long term. The problem is that there are only two ways I can make him cum: giving h...
A. 11 November 2012: Have him masturbate using condoms from now on, using lube. This will train him to be more sensitive and to recognize and sexualize the sensations better. It will take some time, maybe a month or two (longer if he cheats) but eventually he should be ... (read in full...)
Do you think a girl that sleeps with every boyfriend is a whore?
Q. Hi!! The other day I was talking to my mom, and somehow she ended up telling me how she thinks that a girl that sleeps with all of her boyfriends is a whore. She didn't say strangers, or guys you have only known for a week or so, she meant real rel...
A. 10 November 2012: The number of sex partners a person has in no way reflects their worth as a human being. Period.
Girls should enjoy the sexual freedom that men have enjoyed for decades now without fear of being condemned unfairly.
Slut-shaming is wrong and mer... (read in full...)
Too embarassed to buy condoms! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and my bf is 22. We've been together for almost a year and we feel like we're ready to have sex. We understand the consequences of having unprotected sex. Hence despite both of us being virgins, we still want to use a condom. Problem is: ...
A. 9 November 2012: If you can't be rational, adult and mature about doing something as blase as buying condoms, you are far from ready to deal with the risks of having intercourse.... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if your husband encourages it?
Q. What should I do? My husband of almost ten years and I talk about everything. He knows exactly what I like and he satisfies me but I have been having a fantasy about being in a threesome. My husband likes the idea but doesn't think the other guy ...
A. 8 November 2012: He's consenting to you being intimate with another person.
Cheating is non-consensual.
It's very easy to tell what's cheating and what's not. If your partner APPROVES of it openly, then it's not cheating.... (read in full...)
I need some general dating advice on courting an "alpha female"
Q. Cliff note: I need some general dating advice on courting an "alpha female" - you know, the independent, ambitious, and career driven woman. Let's also compound the challenge by throwing out most conventional dating wisdom because she is in medici...
A. 8 November 2012: You were direct with her. She didn't return the favor. Unfortunately, that doesn't look good, but you can't assume anything without proof.
Ask her point blank if she sees this relationship moving forward.
Her answer will point you in the direc... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of six years has been sending messages to other girls, asking for sexual favors and pictures.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we have a three year old and one year old together. As time goes on he has become more and more controlling, and i have just found private messages to ex girlfriends, and other girls, asking for ...
A. 8 November 2012: I have to say, I am completely disgusted by the anonymous male who came here spouting slut-shaming and narrow minded, bigoted hate speech. I can't believe that got past the mods. People are entitled to sleep with whomever they want, and condemning ... (read in full...)
How can I last longer when making love to my girlfriend?
Q. Hey all! I was just wondering if you guys have any tips for lasting longer? I don't finish quickly all of the time but sometimes I'm done in a couple of minutes. It doesn't really bother me or my girlfriend but I figure it would be a lot better ...
A. 5 November 2012: Wear a condom with desensitizing lube.... (read in full...)
He's coming on too strong -- should I just walk away?
Q. I met a man on an online dating site just under two weeks ago, he is 56, I am 50, he is stationed in Afghanistan and his tour will be over on Dec 15th. He was married for 18 years and divorced for 7, I was married for 15 years and divorced for 3. M...
A. 3 November 2012: He's coming on too strong! Men like that often throw meaningless words around like "love" when they're really only trying to bed you. Since you already talked to him and he hasn't gotten it, you need to stop talking to him period. He doesn't respect ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't last more than a few minutes during sex. Is that normal at his age?
Q. My boyfriend recently told me that when he has sex with me, he's good for a couple minutes but then he has to start thinking about something else otherwise he will cum too soon. He said that it sucks that he can't be in the moment because he has to ...
A. 1 November 2012: If it's a problem, may I suggest that you two use a condom with desensitizing lube so you can have a longer time to enjoy intercourse?... (read in full...)
I think my husband is using a penis pump and it concerns me
Q. My husband's penis is much darker lately. I think he used a pump. When I asked, he said he squeezed it real hard to make the blood rush to the surface. He also has a rough spot near the head. I know he is self conscience about how well he performs ...
A. 1 November 2012: We can't tell you for sure if your husband is using a penis pump or not. If you don't trust him to be truthful to you about something so inconsequential, you really do have bigger problems to worry about than that, though.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't do the things I need to make me climax. What should I do?
Q. The only way I can cum is with penetration and breast stimulation at the same time. Time and time I've asked him to touch me and to suck on me, but my boyfriend of 9 years won't do it for more than ten seconds. He gets to cum, but I never can be...
A. 1 November 2012: Then you have a choice to make.
Since he seems to put his satisfaction above yours in priority and you are unwilling to give him an ultimatum, you have to decide whether or not you can live like this for the rest of your life, or if you need to ... (read in full...)
I don't know what's wrong with him. He's being a jerk out of nowhere. PLEASE, I need advice.
Q. Sorry if this is a bit lengthy, but it's well worth the read. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We broke up in August because I had an attitude problem, but it was my birth control that made me have an "attitude problem"...
A. 31 October 2012: As a gamer who plays WoW, I can tell you that playing RPGs like that IS resting and relaxing. That's the entire point of video games, to relax and have fun.
If it makes you feel secondary, have you ever considered trying the game out? Playing ... (read in full...)
I don't know what's wrong with him. He's being a jerk out of nowhere. PLEASE, I need advice.
Q. Sorry if this is a bit lengthy, but it's well worth the read. So, my boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. We broke up in August because I had an attitude problem, but it was my birth control that made me have an "attitude problem"...
A. 31 October 2012: He is overworked, mentally and physically exhausted and needs to take a break from his too-busy schedule.
Here's a website I found for you that will show you what stress can do to his body and moods.
http://www.ma... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't do the things I need to make me climax. What should I do?
Q. The only way I can cum is with penetration and breast stimulation at the same time. Time and time I've asked him to touch me and to suck on me, but my boyfriend of 9 years won't do it for more than ten seconds. He gets to cum, but I never can be...
A. 31 October 2012: Stop sleeping with him until he can get it through his head that you're deeply unhappy. Men often don't understand that we'll continue to "give" even when we don't want to. In "manspeak", giving means that you're not that unhappy about it.
The o... (read in full...)
My fiance said her ex was a better lover.
Q. Hello everyone, sorry for the long post,this is the first time asking a question, although I have been reading many posts here trying to come to terms with something that happened to me recently. I have just recently come back from Europe where I a...
A. 31 October 2012: People can say truly horrible things that they regret when they're intoxicated.
However, one mistake on her part doesn't mean your whole relationship or marriage is in jeopardy. I'm sure you've made mistakes too, even large ones that you deeply r... (read in full...)
So much porn on boyfriend's computer has really grossed me out
Q. Ok so I've had issues with my boyfriend and porn from the gate im insecure and hes bot very understanding of that but whatever just some history for ya .... Anyway I went to his pad to do some work for my college courses i'm in and ( we have bee...
A. 31 October 2012: He has a right to his own fantasy preferences. I bet you wouldn't like it if he said that the things YOU liked were "disgusting" and "Creepy".
Think about what you're saying. You're basically telling him that he doesn't have the right to his own ... (read in full...)
Is it really about the size?
Q. My girl friend has had only one partner in the past and that is who she lost her virginity to. We both are sexually active and she says she is happy. The problem is that most of the time when we have sexuall intercourse she doesn't orgasm. She told ...
A. 31 October 2012: Most women can only reach orgasm through direct stimulation of the clitoris.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris
The reason why she's not orgasming during intercourse is because neither of you are fully communicating about what she needs, ... (read in full...)
Disturbed by his actions in bed
Q. When a guy is giving you oral sex and he holds his breath, does it mean you smell down there? And in the middle of sex, he gives a disgusted look, does it mean he IS disgusted with you? ...
A. 31 October 2012: None of us can really tell you what he's thinking. Your best bet would be to talk to him honestly about your concerns. As good as we are, here, we're not mind readers. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Could my breasts get larger without the side effects of the pill?
Q. my breasts have grown bigger since i've been on the pill, but i didn't get and soreness or aching which i'm concerned about? Of course i'm not complaining, but is it possible that they can grow without any of those side effects? ...
A. 30 October 2012: Not all women have negative side effects while using medication. It's perfectly normal to have only positive side effects, so there's absolutely no need to worry.... (read in full...)
How do I come out to my Mom and tell her that I'm a Lesbian?
Q. Modnote: Your very long post was shortened as below is the crux of your question, which is clear,and is below. Your extensive account of prior events do demonstrate that you prefer girls and believe you are a Lesbian. But your question is the ...
A. 30 October 2012: I found these links for you. I hope this helps!
http://www.wikihow.com/Come-Out-As-a-Gay-or-Lesbian-Teen
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/gay-and-lesbian-well-being/201103/should-you-come-out-your-parents... (read in full...)
Am I drinking to the point where my caffeine intake is too high? I've switched to black tea now. is that better for my health?
Q. I used to buy coffee from [biggest coffee chain in America] every day. I got hooked on the caffeine. The expenses were adding up so I switched to black tea by the same company which was cheaper. Now I buy black tea in bulk from supermarkets (10...
A. 29 October 2012: Tea does not dehydrate you. That's just a myth.
http://teafinelybrewed.com/blog/does-tea-hydrate-or-dehydrate-you/... (read in full...)
Am I drinking to the point where my caffeine intake is too high? I've switched to black tea now. is that better for my health?
Q. I used to buy coffee from [biggest coffee chain in America] every day. I got hooked on the caffeine. The expenses were adding up so I switched to black tea by the same company which was cheaper. Now I buy black tea in bulk from supermarkets (10...
A. 28 October 2012: I found this website for you. It'll show you the caffine content in drinks.
http://www.cspinet.org/new/cafchart.htm
Drinking tea everyday is actually a GOOD thing, so yes, you can drink it for the rest of your life and shouldn't see an... (read in full...)
He is a player and a liar, and I had sex with him!
Q. I met this guy on a dating app. He came over in the weekend we drank some ciroc the biggest bottle between me and him we finished it, we was in my kitchen and he was trying to take my pants off and I looked at him and I said no, so he let me be. I ...
A. 27 October 2012: You didn't pay attention to your gut feelings about this guy. You didn't trust yourself, and now that your fears have been proven correct, you feel bad.
We can't offer much in the way of comfort for you right now, but we can do one thing, which is... (read in full...)
Do you think he wants me just for sex? He admits he had a STD test recently. Could he be a player?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy and we've been on three dates. He initiated everything from asking me for my number, to arranging for our dates, to paying for each one of them. Yesterday he invited me for drinks with his friends. They were mostly ...
A. 27 October 2012: I believe that it's a very antiquated thought process that you are dealing with here. Not just "players" and "sluts" get tested for STDs. -ANYONE- who is sexually active needs to get them regularly, regardless of how many or how few partners they ... (read in full...)
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