My GF has the sex drive of a man-is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have found the perfect woman, but that's the problem - she's too perfect. She doesn't care that I've just been made redundant, orgasms through penetration alone when we have sex, genuinely finds me physically attractive and explai...
A. 1 September 2011: I think she's perfect, and there is in fact something wrong with you for thinking she's flawed for being that awesome.... (read in full...)
I am about to start a mixed-sex school. Please give me some tips on talking to girls
Q. Hi im 13 years old and just after going to secondary school from an all boys school but ive never talked to a girl before and get nervous when around them and icant even talk to them please give advice on how to talk to a girl...
A. 31 August 2011: Talk with them the same way you would with your guy friends. Girls are HUMAN BEINGS, just like you. They may seem mysterious or hard to understand, but they suffer through a huge range of the same exact programs that you do. They get nervous when... (read in full...)
Hurts when I give him head
Q. Why does it hurt my bfs penis when I try to give him a blow job? I think my teeth get in the way or could it be because I have my lip pierced. How can I give him a really good Bj?...
A. 30 August 2011: Take your lip ring out.
Every man is different with what they like with oral sex. Ask HIM how to give him a good BJ, because he can tell you way better than us!... (read in full...)
Is it normal to only want a really attractive woman? Or am I just disillusioned with an unreal fantasy?
Q. okay I don't wanna seem shallow or anything of the sort but I have a dilemma ive been facing for a good while while in the dating world. Since as far back as I can remember I always pictured my self with a beautiful woman and lately ive been finding ...
A. 30 August 2011: I know I'm probably going to get a ton of down-rates for saying this, but it's only an unreal fantasy if you're not as attractive as they are.
I've said this before, but if you're a 2, be okay with dating other 2's.
Go after the 9's if you'r... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to help myself achieve an orgasm?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 years old and have been sexually active with my boyfriend for a few months now. My problem is that I am never able to orgasm! I have orgasmed through the use of a vibrator, but I have never been able to orgasm through masturba...
A. 30 August 2011: Since PIV sex is all about the penis inside the vagina, external stimulation of the clitoris doesn't really happen unless you do it yourself. Use your own hand to stimulate your own clitoris during sex, that's the way most women do it, anyway, and ... (read in full...)
I cant stop sleeping around when I'm drunk!
Q. I have a very embaressing problem. I cant stop sleeping around when Im drunk. In the past month, Ive gone out a couple of times and got absolutely plastered, pulled some bloke and took him back to mine. I have sex with them then I kick them out. In ...
A. 30 August 2011: Stop drinking.
Get therapy.
That's the only way you're going to really sort your life out.... (read in full...)
My FWB is dating someone else, but still wants sex with me
Q. We had a friends with benefits type thing for a while. He said it was because we live too far apart and I accepted that. Now he's dating a girl who lives near him but still wants to sleep with me. He calls me "hot" etc I feel ugly :( I'm not easy a...
A. 30 August 2011: This isn't about what you look like. It really doesn't matter if you're 126 pounds or "hot", and really, listing that makes you look like you're the one obsessed with your looks instead of your ex. The way you look has absolutely nothing to do with ... (read in full...)
How can I show my boyfriend that his violence toward me is wrong?
Q. Dear Cupids, Please help! My boyfriend seems to think there is nothing wrong (technically) with pushing/shoving me and grabbing things out of my hands if he is angry. He also does this motion where he makes a fist and comes at me as though he will ...
A. 30 August 2011: He's treating you with violence. You're treating him with violence. You both need to get out of this trainweck of a relationship and seek help for your violent behavior.
You will not change, and he will not change, if you do not get therapy.... (read in full...)
Does Online Dating work for men??
Q. Hi all, So I have been trying to make sense of this... Does online dating really work for men? I ask this because I put up my profile on 2 sites (one famous paid site and one famous free site) and am very surprised to see absolutely no r...
A. 30 August 2011: As a woman who is on several social networking sites that people also use as dating sites such as literotica, facebook and fetlife, I have to say from a woman's perspective, social networking sites are almost completely different than to a man's ... (read in full...)
Is my fiancé gay?
Q. I don't want to seem naive asking this question, but I'm afraid my fiancé is gay? He's slowly admitted to me certain things about his past that makes me question this. He's never had sex with a man or been in a relationship with one and say...
A. 30 August 2011: He doesn't sound bisexual, to me. Bisexual denotes that one is equally or almost-equally as attracted to both men and women.
He sounds "heteroflexible", where he has SOME desires towards men but is mostly straight.
And that is 100% perfectly n... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my old school friend want a relationship with me, but will work 40hours a week with me
Q. An old school friend was going through divorce and we had sex on Valentine's Day.he knew I was crazy about him.Then he just went quiet.I got upset because I felt he used me for sex and I told him that.He said that I really pissed him off saying ...
A. 28 August 2011: You love him. He does not. You cannot force him to love you, sweetheart, no matter what, and feeling like you "deserve" a relationship with someone who clearly is not a good choice for a boyfriend shows that you need to look within yourself to find ... (read in full...)
Is 'friendship only' possible with the opposite sex?
Q. I am a woman who is looking for a friendship" only" with a man- what do you think?...
A. 28 August 2011: It is ABSOLUTELY possible! I have had a male friend for eleven years now and we have had no problems remaining completely platonic.
It's possible, you just have to make sure from the first that you're just looking for 100% platonic friendsh... (read in full...)
Spring V Autumn. Does she like me? she's 19.
Q. There is this girl, she's 19 i'm 57. she always calls me sweetie when she sees me. The other day at the gas station she called out at me to get my attention. Does she like me or am i just thinking this?...
A. 26 August 2011: She's probably just being polite. But really, you can't ask us this question, we don't know her. You'd be much better off asking her.... (read in full...)
Different sex style and sexual expectations...how can we make compromises in bed?
Q. Hello everybody, so one month ago, i've started dating one guy. I'm 22 and he's 30 (these age differences are ok for us). We have decieded to be a lovers and maybe one day couple, but we're not in really hurry. Our dates are in the nature, in t...
A. 26 August 2011: You need to talk to him, honestly and openly. Since he can't read your mind, you're going to have to ask him for what you want. It sucks, but it's just reality...everyone likes different things when it comes to sex and relationships and when it ... (read in full...)
I'm not physically attracted to her but I love her personality
Q. Hi. I've known a girl for about a year. She has made it very clear to me that she really likes me and wants to form a relationship with me. I really like her too. She had a great personality and she is someone I would normally go for. The onl...
A. 24 August 2011: Sounds like she's a "best friend" instead of a "girlfriend".
You CAN be best friends with a girl. You just need to love her personality but not be attracted to her. Oh, look! You already have that going! Well then, you're set! :-D... (read in full...)
I really want to ask my co-worker out - before somebody else does!
Q. Hi everyone. I am the same guy with the following post. Please read through it cause I want guidence really bad. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-find-out-if-this-beautiful.html After that I have moved quite further. I talk to her a...
A. 24 August 2011: You can't ask her in such a way that she WILL NOT say "no". There is always a 50-50% chance of her saying no, ALWAYS.
If you like her, you need to make sure that she knows you're interested in her. Sooner rather than later. But don't think th... (read in full...)
Relationship going nowhere, he doesn't open up to me
Q. I've been seeing this guy for several several months now and it's going nowhere. Normally I would have left by now, but i have nothing else going on so i'm trying to see where this can go...if anywhere. The problem is that he doesn't open up ...
A. 24 August 2011: Stop making him a priority in your life when you're just an option in his.... (read in full...)
Is my penis size considered big, small or average?
Q. Hello all, im 19 and im basically a shut in and this is why im asking this because i cant ask no one else. its about my penis size i am not sure if its average or big my penis is 7inches with 6.9 girth.. is this considered big or averag...
A. 23 August 2011: If you're worried about your penis size because you want to make sure you can satisfy your future partners sexually, let me tell you a little secret. Penis size to most women don't matter, and porn is fake. Most women need direct CLITORAL ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is annoyed that I won't wear what he is telling me to
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 26. For the past week or so he's been asking me to wear a bikini and halfshirt 24-7 and is getting angry that I won't do it. I told him no, it's inappropriate, but he thinks it'll be good for our relationship and it'...
A. 23 August 2011: He probably has a fetish for clothing like that. Instead of assuming that he's being controlling, you need to talk to him openly without judgment or scorn and ask him to tell you if he has some sort of fetish for certain types of clothing, and if ... (read in full...)
I'm 22, she's 15 is it best to stop before things get started?
Q. I started talking to this girl recently, she seemed really nice, really pretty. Then one day we find out how old each other is, she thought I was 17, I'm 22, and I thought she was 18, the girl is 15. Nothing has happened for it to be a legal matte...
A. 20 August 2011: It's fine to date her, just don't have sex with her.... (read in full...)
Spanish men or Argentinian Men?
Q. If you had to choose between Spanish men or Argentinian men, which would you choose and why? As partner, lover or both?...
A. 19 August 2011: Don't you think it's a little silly to imply that ALL Spanish men and ALL Argentinian men are alike?
They're not. People are individuals.... (read in full...)
How can I tell if the girl I like is gay like me?
Q. I'm interested in a girl I'm not sure whether or not she's gay? She's tomboyish - not in looks but her personality reminds me a lot of me and I'm gay! She slouches when she walks, she walks with her hands in her pockets, she wears no make up, always ...
A. 19 August 2011: When you want to know the time, you ask someone with a watch. When you want directions because you're lost, you ask someone where to go.
It follows logic that if you need to know something specific about a person, you ask that person about th... (read in full...)
How to get my boyfriend to kiss me??
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been together for a week now. He is 18 and I am 17. We have held hands in the movies and hugged several times. He just hadnt kissed me yet! This would be my first kiss and I don't know if it would be his first kiss though. ...
A. 19 August 2011: Two things.
Ask him.
Kiss him yourself.
It's that easy!... (read in full...)
How can I convince my husband that having our child's toe removed is a good thing?
Q. We have agreed to wait 2 and a half more years or until we have reached our personal goals and can afford a child. It was only brought up because I had my mother look at our fiances and she told us we should be able to reach them much sooner if we ...
A. 19 August 2011: I want to say two things. One, if your child is old enough to consent to this surgery, then ask them. If they say yes, by all means do it. Children can be cruel, and you know first hand how horrible it can feel to be taunted because of something ... (read in full...)
How to cure only child syndrome?
Q. My boyfriend has serious only child syndrome and I dont know how to deal with it. It is starting to really irritate me. He often makes me feel like everything is on his terms, e.g. when we see each other, what we do, what movies we see, what games ...
A. 19 August 2011: You need to be honest but polite to him and share your worries. Tell him that you feel like your relationship is starting to become one-sided and you'd like to take turns picking what to do, to be fair.
... (read in full...)
I'm really horny during my monthly. Does that happen to other women?
Q. this might be an odd question, and sort of graphic, but here goes... i've found lately, that anything me and my bf do sexually while i have my monthly (short of having sex) feels REALLY good; i actually tend to be quite a bit more horny during thi...
A. 19 August 2011: Yes, completely normal and common. Many women feel their libidos are more active during their periods. Nothing to worry about. Many couples share completely normal sex lives during that week as well.... (read in full...)
I've masturbated for years but can't get there having sex with my boyfriend
Q. I'm having a bit of a sex problem ... Okay so I have been masterbating since I was 4 but with a book so when I started having sex I was surpriesed I couldn't get there i have been have sex for years now and I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong I ...
A. 19 August 2011: Focus on stimulating your own clitoris with your own hand during intercourse. That's the way many women reach orgasm and it's completely normal.... (read in full...)
My wife won't have sex with me because of past sexual abuse. How can we heal?
Q. My wife of 20 years and I have always had a poor sex life except for probably the first sex months that we dated, but she abruptly stopped having sex with me a decade ago. She says it creeps her out and she feels like she's being raped. She has ...
A. 19 August 2011: Take her to therapy.
If she won't go, then she is literally going back on her agreement to be your partner when she agreed to marry you, and at that point you would be completely justified in seeking divorce.
You can't force someone to seek ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my husband is telling me the truth about these pictures?
Q. How do I know if my hb is telling me the truth?? He is overseas due to work. He is by himself. He sent to me some pics..in some pics he is with some people that I know from long time ago. In other pics he is in different city and he appears alone.. ...
A. 18 August 2011: If you think he's lying to you, you should talk to him about it. There's no sense in being worried about something so potentially small! :-)... (read in full...)
Unexperienced boyfriend is making me feel bad about wanting oral sex
Q. Hi, aunts and uncles! Should I be offended by my boyfriend's bedroom etiquette? My boyfriend is a bit immature. He is 21 and I am his first serious girlfriend. Before me, he was a virgin and just lost is virginity last week. So, I've been trying...
A. 15 August 2011: Chigirl is -absolutely- correct. You have to treat this situation as what it is...this has nothing to do with his amount of sexual experience and EVERYTHING to do with his personality, which is sexually selfish.
You are half responsible for this... (read in full...)
My pot smoking husband is causing lots of money problems with his habit!
Q. So my husband smoke pot, and I don't. My big issue on the whole thing is that he is constantly smoking more and more, and our money is really tight. I end up using all of the money I earn to pay my half of the bills and then whatever he can't cover. ...
A. 15 August 2011: Send him to rehab. He's an addict and it's starting to destroy your life.
If you don't get him into rehab, and you stay with him, you WILL see greater and bigger problems as his addiction gets worse.
People who smoke pot often do so to self-me... (read in full...)
Should I find someone who does appreciate me? Or should I continue trying to make myself more "suitable" for him?
Q. I shall attempt to hold back going into excruciating detail. I love my best friend (who is male) as more than a friend and have done so for at least 2 years. However he has recently been saying he is in love with a girl he met once over a year ago...
A. 15 August 2011: You can't make someone love you. With all your similarities, you are not that girl that he is in love with. You cannot make yourself into that girl, because you will always be you.
The problem with this situation is, you're asking the wrong qu... (read in full...)
I don't want to flirt, I have a boyfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm 14 years old going into 10th grade in High School. I have a boyfriend for just over 3 months and we are happy together. However, being summer, he's working at a sleep away camp and can't contact me much. He has sent a few messages via ...
A. 15 August 2011: Flirting is a choice. You decide how you want to act, then do it. You are in complete control of what you do and what you say, realize this, accept it and control yourself.... (read in full...)
Is this guy a creeper or harmless?
Q. Ok here goes. I am a single woman with two teen daughters. One of my daughters is in a theater group. I help out a lot there. I run the lobby and give the parents their jobs. In the spring play I needed a 50/50 person and asked this very nice ...
A. 15 August 2011: You need to block him from all of your online contacts and phone. He thinks that if he's persistent enough that your 'no' will eventually turn into a 'yes', and this is a serious problem, because he thinks his desire to have you is more important ... (read in full...)
I hear my parents arguing about sex and it's grossing me out!
Q. Hello all. This is not really a question regarding myself beyond the fact beyond that the situation is seriously traumatizing me and really, starting to piss me off. My mom went through menopause 5 years ago and apparently, no longer posses...
A. 14 August 2011: You need to tell your mother straight up to at least occasionally pony up the booty or your dad will find it elsewhere. I equate sex like any other need, like food. Just because she's not hungry, she's going to make him starve until she wants ... (read in full...)
I don't mind him ejaculating on me, but I'd rather not be peed on
Q. Me and my boy friend like to do alternative things in the bedroom. We act out some porn scenes that seem interesting. The one that he wants to try, I'm not into much. He wants to ejaculate on my face, then urinate on me. I can handle him cumming on ...
A. 14 August 2011: I disagree with Person12345 completely. Actions are not inherently humiliating or degrading, it's all about the context in which they are done in.
For example, sex is not degrading, but rape is. The difference is only -consent-.
Watersports, ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my addiction to sex?
Q. I am 19 years old and I have come to the realization that I am a sex addict... I dont want my family or friends to know but I want to get help and I dont have money or Insurance to get a psychiatrist... I was hoping any of you could tell me what I ...
A. 11 August 2011: If you are an addict, then you need to go into therapy for sex addiction. Unfortunately, none of us here are qualified to tell you if you are an addict or not, especially with the limited information you've given us.
If you are TRULY worried ... (read in full...)
I like him but I'm not physically attracted to him, should I meet him anyway?
Q. Hi again aunts and uncles. I gave online dating a try and so far its going quite well. Ive been talking to this guy who just seems so sweet and kind and he seems to really like me but the problem is i'm not attracted to him in the slightest but he ...
A. 9 August 2011: Sounds like a friend instead of boyfriend material.
You can't force yourself to be physically attracted to someone. Don't set yourself up for failure like that hon.... (read in full...)
Why wouldn't my ex look me in the eyes when we talked?
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I broke up 4 years ago after an on again, off again relationship that lasted nearly 5 years. Breakup was mutual and amicable. She met someone a few months later and they got married and now has child. I too met someone else ...
A. 8 August 2011: You're over thinking this. She's your ex, you shouldn't give one action like this so much thought.
There could have been a million reasons, really. We couldn't even begin to guess.... (read in full...)
Why are guys threaten by gays? Or is it only my bf who is immature?
Q. My bf is upset because I have a lot of gay friends. He says he is tired of me hanging out with so many queers. Why are guys threaten by gays? or is it only my bf who is immature. I don't have the courage to leave him. I moved into this City ...
A. 8 August 2011: Don't paint all men with the same brush, it's incredibly misandrist to do so. What if a man came in here and said "Why are all women threatened by porn?" It's the same attitude. Not all people of one gender are alike.
Your boyfriend is a bigoted ... (read in full...)
I'm scared this girl is too perfect!
Q. I’m seeing this girl who is the most incredible person I’ve ever met!! But I think she is too perfect and too good to be true that i'm skeptical whether to carry on seeing her. Guys what do you think… She is so beautiful, knock out figure, grea...
A. 8 August 2011: So let me get this straight, you're thinking about breaking up with a girl because you're falling in love with her and she's everything you've ever wanted?
Correct me if I'm wrong, but to me that sounds absolutely bonkers. You only find a person l... (read in full...)
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