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I don't know how to feel about what my friend said about me. How would you feel?

Q.   I feel really sad and confused right now. My friend of so many years whom we both had feelings for once..said something rather hurtful when I was speaking to him yesterday. He said he can't deal with me and that we haven't got a long for the past ...

A.   22 July 2013: "I would rather have him besotted with me than no one at all? Lol I'm not desperate and I don't need someone to like me you know." I hope you understand those two sentences contradict each other. If you don't "need someone to like you", then... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has a bad temper, what should I do

Q.   I'm 27 and my boyfriend is 26. We live together and most of the time we get along very well. However, my boyfriend is extremely touchy and if I say the "wrong" thing to him he gets very angry very fast. For example: Today my boyfriend and I ...

A.   21 July 2013: Usually I'd make a lot of effort to write out a longer reply and put some really heartfelt advice into every word. But this'll be short. He's a prick. He uses anger as a weapon to control you, and to get the reactions out of you that he wants. H... (read in full...)

I don't know how to feel about what my friend said about me. How would you feel?

Q.   I feel really sad and confused right now. My friend of so many years whom we both had feelings for once..said something rather hurtful when I was speaking to him yesterday. He said he can't deal with me and that we haven't got a long for the past ...

A.   18 July 2013: No, I don't think you should be friends with him. The relationship is toxic and unhealthy. Why bother? There are plenty of people out there that will be your REAL friend instead of trying to wait out your lack of sexual attraction to them in the ... (read in full...)

I don't know how to feel about what my friend said about me. How would you feel?

Q.   I feel really sad and confused right now. My friend of so many years whom we both had feelings for once..said something rather hurtful when I was speaking to him yesterday. He said he can't deal with me and that we haven't got a long for the past ...

A.   17 July 2013: http://jezebel.com/5838994/a-field-guide-to-nice-guys?tag=dudes This guy is definitely the Predatory Bestie: "The Predatory Bestie He offers to listen to you cry and cry about your ex. So you let him. He offers to help you move a heavy dres... (read in full...)

I'm willing to give them a deposit on a home, but I want them to make some contribution too

Q.   Following a divorce over 20 years ago I haven't lived with children who are now both in their mid twenties. Over that time I have maintained a good relationship with them and have always seen and spoken to them regularly. I am now in the position...

A.   17 July 2013: Since this is a starter home, they might not know that a larger down payment would mean smaller morgtage payments. Explain to them that the more money they save up now for the down, the less money they'll have to spend later for the payments, so ... (read in full...)

How do I handle my matron-of-honor duties at my sister's wedding? I'm on bed rest for my pregnancy!

Q.   My sister is getting married this weekend. I am the matron of honor and therefore would have to give a speech. I am on strict bed rest for my pregnancy and can only attend the ceremony as it isn't long. Should I have one of the other bridesmaids ...

A.   17 July 2013: Record your speech and have it played at the wedding! Problem solved!... (read in full...)

Can one be a nymphomanic without being promiscuous?

Q.   Is it possible for someone to be obsessed with all things sexual without being a nymphomaniac? I was very curious about sex from an early age.... which I am ashamed to elaborate on. Let's just say I would watch films on the television (soft...

A.   15 July 2013: You're misunderstanding the term. It's a MEDICAL condition. Don't minimize it's potentially life-altering and often traumatic characteristics just for effect. Only a doctor can tell you if you are indeed a sex addict. Don't call yourself a nympho... (read in full...)

For the men who use porn, why don't you think of your girlfriend when masturbating?

Q.   I'm not sure if this has been asked before but here goes those men who use porn when they have a girlfriend, why don't you think of your girlfriend when masturbating? Surely you find them the most attractive so what's it all about, we need this ...

A.   13 July 2013: They watch porn because they enjoy it and it's sexy. The same reason women watch porn. If it is that big of a deal to you, try and find a man that doesn't watch porn. I can promise you that it'll be VERY difficult, with the ease of finding ... (read in full...)

I had everything planned out, then love got in the way

Q.   Hi everyone, I need a bit of advice. Basically for the past year I have been dreaming of spending my life (or at least the rest of my 20's) travelling. So I worked hard to create my own online business that I can take around the world with me. ...

A.   13 July 2013: So...take him with you?... (read in full...)

Does it matter that I'm not that physically attracted to him?

Q.   hi. Im just looking for advice on dating someone ur not sexually attracted to?! iv met this lovely man, his nearly 17 yrs older than me but that isn't a problem for us. we get on rather well and i feel ifwe get together as an actual couple he would ...

A.   8 July 2013: You cannot be in a long-term romantic relationship with a person you have no physical attraction to. He sounds like great "friend" material, but don't date him. You'll be wasting both your times.... (read in full...)

He's my boyfriend, but he's posting pictures of some other beach beauty. Am I overreacting?

Q.   My boyfriend recently took a series of 3 pictures of a girl on the beach that he posted to his blog. When I saw them, it made me really angry. I told him I didn't like the photos and thought it was being creepy and inconsiderate of my feelings. He ...

A.   6 July 2013: It's incredibly inconsiderate of him to not only take pictures of a strange women -without her consent- but then to post the pictures up on the internet. That invades her privacy and her consent completely. He has NO RESPECT for this innocent ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with a woman with a low self esteem who keeps telling me to leave her alone?

Q.   I need some help.. 8 days ago this woman pushed me away. Saying I wanna be alone I hv no feelings for you. Something I do not buy based on all her feedback our intimacy dates n her body language. I told her I love her. She says move on im not inte...

A.   6 July 2013: No means No. Leave her alone.... (read in full...)

Our son is confused about his sexuality. How can we help him?

Q.   We live in Stockport, in Greater Manchester, and have a 20 year old son. He told us last night he was confused about himself sexually. Not professionally. He's enjoying his university studies in business systems and marketing - wants to go into PR ...

A.   5 July 2013: Sexuality is a fluid thing that many people find evolves with time. It's totally normal and okay for him to feel whatever he feels about his sexuality. He might not need counseling for this, he may just need time and a safe place to feel loves and ... (read in full...)

Why my husband won't show me affection in bed?

Q.   Why my husband won't show me affection in bed? He talked about al of his exes and how he would please them knowing they cheated on him but knowing I'm loyal he makes me feel like a call girl just in it to get his rocks off. He knows nothing that ...

A.   5 July 2013: The next time he approaches you for sex, you need to tell him that you need more foreplay. If he won't give it to you, then you don't have to give him sex. It's not fair if only one person that wants to be pleased is being pleased. He's being se... (read in full...)

Why do people think that women are more emotional in relationships, more clingy, needy and attached after sex?

Q.   Why do people think that women are more emotional in relationships, more clingy, needy and attached after sex? Why do women have this stereotype when so often I see men becoming engrossed with their female partners after a sexual relationship has ...

A.   5 July 2013: Because we live in a Patriarchal culture that is inherently dismissive and hostile to women. We're, as a whole, considered "crazy", "emotional", "catty", etc etc. The same traits that are admired and respected in men are considered a negative with ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend dumped my because I wouldn't add her as a friend on Facebook.

Q.   My Girlfriend dumped me because I wouldn't add her as my friend on Facebook. I don't understand what everyone's obsession over Facebook is. I like to keep my private life private. I think she is just too jealous. I don't feel I should have to add ...

A.   4 July 2013: No, I personally don't. I would have done the same thing, honestly. It looks bad, like you're doing things on facebook like pretending to be single so that you can talk to other women. It was THAT important to her. But you chose being "private... (read in full...)

Do all women play the chase game?

Q.   Do all girls/women play the hot or cold game, or indeed like the Chase? I feel its cropped up a few times where I've had a girl interested, giving hints then they go cold? I must admit I don't strike when the irons hot so I'm missing chances...

A.   1 July 2013: First, you need to ditch the whole "Alpha" idea because that's just verging into territory that has no basis in real science. Don't let PUA's con you into thinking you have to Neg women and preen like a peacock to how her how "Alpha Male" you are. ... (read in full...)

What is the truth about libido? My man has been impotent since his 40s.

Q.   The curiosity is killing me, but I cant find the rght answer anywhere. I keep hearing about man , who goes impotent and age 40, and than the doctors, and people are saying , oh it happens all the time, and its just natural aging. Yet, I keep ...

A.   1 July 2013: Desire and ability are not the same thing. And it's natural for anyone of any age to lose their ability to have sex due to any number of psychological or physical issues. What is more important than whether or not it's "normal" is if the people work ... (read in full...)

He's a liar and a hedonist but I love him

Q.   Is there any hope for us? I love my fiance so much, he is my best friend and we laugh together so much and when things are good, I have never known so much happiness. But...he has been a womaniser all his life. He was married for 26 years and ...

A.   1 July 2013: Listen to me, hon. You're in a self-destructive relationship with a man that you have to constantly keep on a leash, who has proven multiple times that you cannot trust him. A leopard doesn't change his spots. You already know that you're i... (read in full...)

Husband slept with gorgeous coworker. Is it unreasonable to ask him to find another job?

Q.   My husband had an affair with a gorgeous female co-worker. He felt guilty and admitted everything to me. I am devastated but would like to work on rebuilding our marriage. Am I being unreasonable for asking him to find another job? They see ea...

A.   28 June 2013: Isn't he supposed to have a no-contact policy with her now? As in, he's not supposed to be talking to her...AT ALL? If he just got caught talking to her, then he broke your trust. AGAIN. If you can't even trust him to do something as simpl... (read in full...)

My friend assaulted me, should I report it to the police?

Q.   Hi guys. Not a relationship question, but I could really do with some advice here! Last week a friend bit me. Hard. It was completely unprovoked, and I don't know if he just thought he was being funny or what. We were sitting on the couch, just ...

A.   28 June 2013: Make sure to photograph the bite mark. If he lies and tries to say it wasn't him, all you'd have to do would be to ask for a dental impression made from his teeth to line up to your bite wound. Teeth are like fingerprints, completely individu... (read in full...)

My friend assaulted me, should I report it to the police?

Q.   Hi guys. Not a relationship question, but I could really do with some advice here! Last week a friend bit me. Hard. It was completely unprovoked, and I don't know if he just thought he was being funny or what. We were sitting on the couch, just ...

A.   27 June 2013: You know what really ticks me off? People tell girls, "Oh he likes you, that's why he's mean to you." And then we wonder why when the girls grow up to be women, they get involved in relationships with men that treat them like shit. "Oh, he... (read in full...)

I'm cheating and should leave my marriage but I can't! I'm selfish!

Q.   I should leave my marriage but I can't! Husband very fond of me and I do my best but its gone for me and I don't want to cause pain to my grown up child. We get on but NO lust any more.I have a lover of 8 yrs and needless to say I love him tho he's ...

A.   25 June 2013: So what sort of advice do you want? You already know you should leave. You already know you're wrong and that you're hurting your husband. We can't force you to care about another human being. That's something you should have learned back whe... (read in full...)

Its false projecting when she's making her lips look larger than they are!

Q.   I met this girl, who is incredibly beautiful, funny, smart and so easy to get along with! One the thing that I found alluring about her was the fullness of her lips. And we've been on a few dates and yesterday we went out in the day and I noticed ...

A.   25 June 2013: So I guess she should turn the tables on you and tell you that shaving your face is "false projecting" because it's more NATURAL to NOT SHAVE, and that in order to not change your appearance and falsely project an image that isn't "natural", you ... (read in full...)

How can I avoid my cursed relationship status of FWBs?

Q.   Hello Aunts, I'm in a little bit of a dilemma. I have not been in a serious relationship since my last one about 2/3 years ago. It was a breakup that set me over the edge and made me swear off relationships for awhile. So I decided to have ...

A.   25 June 2013: People are inherently lazy and will take the path of least resistance due to their own human nature. Men that are attracted to you will sleep with you if you let them. Men will not commit to you if you don't specifically tell them that's what you ... (read in full...)

My bf is still communicating with an ex even though we agree that he would not! HELP!

Q.   So the man I have a relationship with for he last two years had an affair in January. Technically we were on a break. He was out of town for a month and there were no promises made. However he kept the affair secret and when he came back took up ...

A.   24 June 2013: He didn't have an affair with her. You two were broken up, which means he was single. You have no claim over someone when you're not with them, so holding his completely logical actions against him is unfair. It's manipulative and selfish to punish ... (read in full...)

We have been dating 8 years and never had sex because of pregnancy fears

Q.   Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years and we have never had intercourse. We are ready to, but we are freaked about getting pregnant because we have both always been so serious about attaining our high degrees in school. In high school i...

A.   24 June 2013: You seem like a pretty rational person. You're educated and you're already on birth control and he's going to use a condom. So. What's stopping you REALLY? Because the chances of you getting pregnant with two highly effective methods of preve... (read in full...)

He's a shy guy and I can't tell if he likes me or is just being friendly

Q.   I've always liked one of my close guy friends, who is really shy, and all our friends are constantly trying to set us up because apparently we are cute together but he only likes me as a friend which I was fine with. But last night stuff happened ...

A.   24 June 2013: When I want to know something, I ask. It's not a difficult thing to do when you apply that logic to anything, like asking what time it is or asking what someone's favorite restaurant to eat at is. Remember, no one's going to HAND you something, you ... (read in full...)

Why can I only orgasm on my own with a toy, but never with a man?

Q.   I am a 30 year old female. I am able to achieve and orgasm alone with my rampant rabbit. Sadly, no man has ever given me an orgasm. How do I manage to have one with a guy? ...

A.   23 June 2013: Because intercourse alone does not stimulate your clitoris, which is where most of your sexual response is. Use your hand or a vibrator during sex and you should be fine.... (read in full...)

How to deal with my boyfriend having a beautiful, sexually liberated woman as a roommate?

Q.   Hello, my boyfriend lives in a big flat with his male friends. The problem is one of his friends is going to spend this summer in a different city. And he said that instead of him, there will be living some his female friend, in his words "the most ...

A.   23 June 2013: Wow, slut shaming is low. He obviously has no respect for women if he's calling a woman who is enjoying the same sexual freedom that men have names. If he cheats on you with her, that's a failing on HIS part more than hers. Obviously it takes tw... (read in full...)

Husband slept with gorgeous coworker. Is it unreasonable to ask him to find another job?

Q.   My husband had an affair with a gorgeous female co-worker. He felt guilty and admitted everything to me. I am devastated but would like to work on rebuilding our marriage. Am I being unreasonable for asking him to find another job? They see ea...

A.   23 June 2013: No contact is the way to go. It's not unreasonable in the SLIGHTEST to tell him that he needs to find another job. He should NOT be around her, he obviously cannot be trusted around her and it's not a crazy request at all.... (read in full...)

My oily skin is ruining my life and my makeup! Please help!

Q.   Hi its not really a relationship problem but more of a skin thing. Basically I have seriously oily skin! Like literally you could fry chips on my face, fit or what!! Anyway, I've always had oily skin to a degree but nothing too major thats its ...

A.   23 June 2013: If primer and more heavily pigmented, pricey foundations still hasn't solved your problem, I would suggest that it's possible you have a medical issue that a dermatologist would be able to help you with. They can supply medication to you that will ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he want me as a woman ever?

Q.   I have been married for over 31 years. When the children got older in high school my husband cut loving way down. really way down. 4 times a year- then we went to nothing. we do not kiss at all-peck once awhile. no embracing. no loving fo...

A.   20 June 2013: Have you ever spoken to him about this before? If you have, what was his response? Have you considered going to counseling?... (read in full...)

Help!! Who do I choose? The one who makes me his world or the one who gives me goosebumps?

Q.   I have to choose between two men. #1 is kind, loving, considerate, caring, sweet, faithful, would do anything for me and makes me the centre of his universe. BUT he is boring, predictable there is no chemistry or spark between us and the sex is d...

A.   20 June 2013: How about neither? Obviously neither one of them have ALL the qualities that make a good long-term partner.... (read in full...)

How do I end this? I don't love her but don't want to hurt her

Q.   THANKS for reading...but friends i am in a great difficulty...i met a girl on social network site and we did long chats and also did talk on the phone and now it has been over a year of our such relationship but before a couple of months that girl ...

A.   19 June 2013: What would you want to happen if the situation was reversed? You would want her to be honest with you, tell you that she doesn't love you romantically and that it wouldn't be fair for her to continue stringing you along. You would want her to t... (read in full...)

Do you believe a person can do/achieve whatever they want if they want it enough and work hard enough for it?

Q.   Do you believe a person can do/achieve whatever they want if they want it enough and work hard enough for it? I'm asking this question in reference to my dream career but I'm interested in all general opinions on this too. Thanks!...

A.   19 June 2013: In an ideal world, hard work and persistence would be ALL that would stand between us and our goals. Unfortunately, we live in the real world where sometimes our dreams simply can't or won't be realistically achieve-able. It's -always- smart to... (read in full...)

Where is the blood coming from?

Q.   Hello! I'm 22 and my boyfriend and I have been dating for quite awhile. While we were on vacation, we were having sex much more frequent than what normally happens at home. YAY! On one of those days it was kind of rough, and later on when I ...

A.   19 June 2013: Slight tearing is actually super common during rough sex. Unless you notice any severe pain or prolonged/heavy bleeding that you're SURE isn't your period, I'm sure you're 100% fine. You might be a little sore for a day or two but you'll be okay ... (read in full...)

In the western culture... who pays the bill on a date?

Q.   Hi Dearcupid, I came from asian background and i was on the dating website. Recently i meet a guy on line and went for a coffee date and one dinner date. Now i have a little question to ask " for the western culture, what should happen with...

A.   18 June 2013: I think it's polite to offer to split the bill, or if the man insists on paying, offer to cover the tip if there is one.... (read in full...)

I want to lose my virginity with her but will I regret it later because of the circumstances?

Q.   Hi, I'm a 26 year old male virgin. I was offered by a air hostess to 'be' with her next week. I do have to pay so she is offering sex as a service. I am seriously thinking about it and was just wondering if I should do it. I just want to get...

A.   17 June 2013: Sex is not a moral issue. Paying for sex is not a moral issue. It is a paid service like any other, if you want to and have the money and understand that you are paying for sex and not a relationship or any other sort of emotional bond with her, ... (read in full...)

I am almost completely flat-chested, my self-esteem is in the toilet and it's affecting my relationships.

Q.   Well, the title says it. I am basically the equivalent of a 32AA bra size, and even then my bras tend to slide around because nothing fills them up. I've always been a slim build and then recently put on some weight and I now weigh a comfortable 125 ...

A.   16 June 2013: It is really difficult for women these days to realize their own intrinsic human value because the media is very good at constantly reminding us that we're never really good enough, and if we buy this product we'll become better looking and ... (read in full...)

We want kids, but I'm terrified of pregnancy

Q.   My partner and I are in our late twenties and our relationship is perfect except one thing .. the absence of a child. We both desperately want to start a family, he wants nothing more to be a father and we would start trying immediately if i...

A.   15 June 2013: How about adoption?... (read in full...)

What could I do about losing my virginity this way? any way of making it easier?

Q.   hello, im very conflicted about something that most people dont really pay mind, but to me is a big deal. you see i am still a virgin at 23, and a big part of that was because when i was younger and way more innocent i made the choice of not be...

A.   15 June 2013: A person's intrinsic human worth is not lessened by how much or how little sex he or she has. Period. There is no such thing as a "slut". Looking down on people who have sex when it's none of your business and not your place to judge? Not cool... (read in full...)

What could I do about losing my virginity this way? any way of making it easier?

Q.   hello, im very conflicted about something that most people dont really pay mind, but to me is a big deal. you see i am still a virgin at 23, and a big part of that was because when i was younger and way more innocent i made the choice of not be...

A.   15 June 2013: Here are two videos by Lacy Green that you REALLY need to watch. It concerns sluts and losing your virginity. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdYtYveJI1Y http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCw2MzKjpoo... (read in full...)

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