My ex has an eating disorder and I am uncertain as to how I can help her!
Q. I was dating a girl for over a year. While dating her she developed an eating disorder. The issue is complicated by the fact that we both run for a college cross country and track team. She experienced great success as the eating disorder got worse. ...
A. 1 July 2012: If you cannot get her family and friends together for an intervention, then you need to do it yourself. The thing with addicts is that they will almost never get help by themselves, unless they are at "rock Bottom". You need to look at this almost ... (read in full...)
My ex has an eating disorder and I am uncertain as to how I can help her!
Q. I was dating a girl for over a year. While dating her she developed an eating disorder. The issue is complicated by the fact that we both run for a college cross country and track team. She experienced great success as the eating disorder got worse. ...
A. 1 July 2012: A person with an eating disorder cannot be in a healthy relationship, so unfortunately you are in a really tough spot. You need to get together with her family and stage an intervention. Until she gets professional help, she will continue to be very ... (read in full...)
I rejected my best friend when he told me that he liked me and now that he's dating someone else, I'm jealous.
Q. Some years ago I was best friends with this really nice guy. One day he kissed me and told me he wanted to be more than just best friends, but I told him that I liked him too much as a friend and didn't wanted to lose our friendship, he was ...
A. 18 June 2012: You didn't like him, you just liked the fact that he liked you.
You don't like him not, you just miss being fawned over.
Let him be with a girl that actually likes him for him instead of what he can do for her.
Next time you meet a really n... (read in full...)
Will this guy tell everyone that I don't shave down there?
Q. Hi, I'm 18 years old. The guy is also 18, he is my friend's friends and we got introduced to each other a few weeks ago. He fingered me today in the morning, I enjoyed it but I wasn't expecting to do anything so I wasn't shaved down there. Th...
A. 13 June 2012: If you're so worried about this extremely minor possibility, I honestly have to question whether you're emotionally mature enough to be ready for sex yet. Bear with me, it's not a bad thing to be emotionally immature, especially at your age. But if ... (read in full...)
Is this pattern of contact wierd?
Q. Hey, I met a guy online a few weeks ago, we've webcammed and spoken on the phone numerous times, I've started to really like him, he's like 7 years older than me and we're both fine with it. We're planning to meet at the end of this week, I've s...
A. 13 June 2012: Sounds like he's got a girlfriend and only talks to you when he's alone, so that he doesn't get caught.
Be direct with him. You deserve truthfulness, so demand it.... (read in full...)
I want to get to know this younger guy, but not be a booty call
Q. So I am in the middle of a legal separation at 29yrs old. I started a new job in April and there is this really cute guy who works with me. He's only 21 though. And I know where you are all going to go with this..."rebound" but it's really not ...
A. 13 June 2012: So what's stopping you from calling him and asking him out on a date? This is 2012, sweetheart, women are actually allowed to do that now ;-)
Trust me, he's expecting you to make a move, and you're expecting him to make a move. If one of you don'... (read in full...)
I was venting, and he tells me how to fix it?
Q. I was talking to my bf earlier and I was venting about something that happened to me at work today. I know that he really cares but it often turns into him telling me what I should have done or what I should do. And it's frustrating me because it ...
A. 13 June 2012: Before I start out, I want to strongly suggest that you pick up some books, like "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus", and the reason I suggest that is because you and your boyfriend display the classic traits of being very gender-related in ... (read in full...)
I'm so close to leaving her for her lack of respect for my beliefs and culture!
Q. me and my girl recently have some religous issues. We have a 1 year old female baby, i love her and she love me too. Previously we had issue about our age differences, she is 30 and i'm 22 but we manage to get rid of that. Now she doesn't respect my ...
A. 6 June 2012: A few tips. Don't stay together for the sake of a child. Relationships cannot be based around an innocent baby who did not ask to be brought into this world. If she's a Westerner used to Western culture, she may not agree with your potentia... (read in full...)
Thoughts of being sexual with someone scares me.
Q. From what I can tell, my problem is me. I'm a twenty-one year old virgin, who is terrified of not only relationships, but sex in general. If I ever think about sex, I get uncomfortable thoughts and feel odd. As if the thought of being intimate with ...
A. 2 June 2012: It's possible that you may be asexual, or of the asexual spectrum, or you may have some type of sexual phobia.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erotophobia
http://www.asexuality.org/home/... (read in full...)
Ladies, how would you react if your boyfriend was complimenting another girl in your presence?
Q. Ladies, how would you react if your boyfriend was complimenting another girl in your presence? In my case, the girl was not a close friend of his but rather someone he knew, like an acquaintance. I didn't know her at all and he told her that she ...
A. 1 June 2012: I think your insecurity is showing. Telling someone that they look nice isn't necessarily "hitting on" them, nor would you be bothered by it if you weren't insecure. Your boyfriend was right, in my opinion, you're overreacting.... (read in full...)
My BF cheated on me, I cant get over it but I cant leave him because I have nowhere to go, no family, no job and no car
Q. Please help me with my problem. I do not know what to do. Last month I caught my boyfriend cheating on me. It was graphic and a very bloody fight happen. After a week from that horrible day, I could not leave him. Since then he has tried everyt...
A. 1 June 2012: How about getting a job, and then a car, and if this situation ever happens again, you'll have options?... (read in full...)
Are all women capable of having orgasms through intercourse? Anyone know a good technique?
Q. Are all women capable of having orgasms through intercourse? I think they say only a small percentage of women can orgasm just from intercourse. I'm 33 and it only happened once for me. I would love to figure out how to have more. I can climax from ...
A. 1 June 2012: No, not all women are capable of reaching orgasm without clitoral stimulation. Actually, MOST women need direct clitoral stimulation, so you're 100% perfectly normal and honestly shouldn't stress yourself worrying about how you can magically make ... (read in full...)
How to explain lack of relationship experience?
Q. 30-year-old male who, due to many factors, has been pretty far behind the curve when it comes to relationships and sex. I didn't date in any form for most of my 20s due to personal issues. I've managed to turn things around a bit these past two ...
A. 1 June 2012: I think honesty is the best policy in this case. During my formative years, I had severe social anxiety and was basically a socially awkward and painfully shy head case with almost zero friends. Once I graduated and turned 18, I moved away because I ... (read in full...)
Was he a jerk or do we just have very different personalities?
Q. Hello everyone, recently I had this really painful interaction with this guy and I just cannot make head or tail with it: I knew him since around a year, he asked me to go out a few times, but it was really never clear if on a real date or not, we ...
A. 28 May 2012: This guy is crazy. He has no idea how to treat women, and has a massive overinflated sense of entitlement. Don't give him any more of your time, you deserve better than this selfish, arrogant prick. Pardon my language.... (read in full...)
Internet encounter ended after numerous suggestions of a three-way!
Q. I got in to a situation with a guy from an internet dating site. I am there to meet with guys to eventually find a boyfriend, and this guy was quite clear from the start that he was just out of a relationship and was looking for "a lover". I thought ...
A. 28 May 2012: Always be cautious of people who bring up sex almost immediately when you meet them. That's a huge red flag. You're new to dating sites and within the next few months, you'll learn a LOT about what it's like.
I've been on social networki... (read in full...)
How can I feel an orgasm during sex?
Q. I know that after I orgasm from doing it myself I have to go pee, but when me and my boyfriend have sex i don't feel my orgasm but I know i had one because I have to go pee. To me it doesn't make since because when I do it to myself i feel it but ...
A. 28 May 2012: Most men and women aren't taught about the importance of the clitoris when it comes to female orgasm. Most women can only orgasm with direct stimulation of the clitoris.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clitoris
The reason the clitoris is the ... (read in full...)
Partner doesn't think of me during masturbation
Q. Hi, this question is for women and men, would it bother you if your partner only thought about you briefly or sometimes not at all during masturbation at the start of a relationship? For some reason it bothers me, I would wonder why they hardly ...
A. 28 May 2012: Being insecure isn't an attractive trait when it comes to "girlfriend material". Do you really want your partner to describe you as insecure to their family? The real problem is that you're not confident in your place in the relationship, and you're ... (read in full...)
No experience with dating -- what's the best way to approach girls?
Q. I have no experience with dating and guess I want some answers so I can start crawling rather than running before I can walk. How should I approach girls with the intention of dating them (whether they are in a pub/club or casual setting)? Does r...
A. 19 May 2012: Walk up to a lady you think is attractive and introduce yourself. Speak to them respectfully, if you wouldn't want your dad to say it to your mom, don't say it to a strange woman. Be natural and calm, treat her like anyone else. And remember, ... (read in full...)
What have been your experiences with bad partners.
Q. I'm terrible in the sack! But this wasn't always the case. As a matter of fact, the first girl that I lost it too always loved our "encounters". To this day she says I am still the best she's had. And at the time she was my first, but I was ...
A. 18 May 2012: The worst thing a man can do in my opinion is think that penetrative, penis-in-vagina sex is the end-all-be-all of sex, and that to please me, he has to have a HUGE penis and last forever.
Well, as a 100% clitorally focused girl, no amount o... (read in full...)
Why do people react so negatively when I say I don't want to get married or have children?
Q. Maybe, I am too young to say this, but I am just not interested in getting married or having kids. Now, don't get me wrong. While I do not want to get married, it doesn't mean I don't want to find and live my life with that one special partner....
A. 13 May 2012: A lot of times, people get offended not because of your choices, but because of the words and tone you use to convey them. Politely saying that you can't ever see yourself getting married is one thing, however, a lot of people who don't believe in ... (read in full...)
He gets his kicks from sex but I don't get mine! How can I get him to pay more attention to my needs?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been posted a question but I found no response. I am trying to know that what is missing in our love relation. My hubby is very hot for sex. He likes sex, and lots of it. I found him sexualy hot but not emotionaly.he cares ...
A. 9 May 2012: Tell him what you need in order to reach orgasm. Don't let him penetrate you until YOU orgasm first. Then it won't matter how long or short the intercourse is, because you'll already be satisfied! :-)... (read in full...)
He chased me for ages, I went out then he stands me up and doesn't return calls??
Q. Im completely puzzled by this guy. We met a couple of months back swapped numbers etc but I wasnt too interested. But he bombards me with texts and I finally agree to meet him for a date. The date went fine apart from one little hitch......when I ...
A. 9 May 2012: The only reason he wanted you was because he couldn't have you. Now that you've agreed to go out with him, you're not a challenge anymore.
Next time, stick to your guns. Don't date anyone you don't want to, and certainly don't "give it" and give... (read in full...)
I really want her to be my girlfriend but every time I ask she says no! How do I get her to go out with me?
Q. hello everyone! I am 13 years old and in year 8. there's this really cute girl at my high school in my class and i really have very strong fellings (and thoughts) about her i even think about her when i masturbate. 5-8 times a week by the way....
A. 5 May 2012: You want to FORCE her to date you?
Why?
She doesn't like you. Why would you want someone who doesn't like you to go out with you?
Let me put it to you this way. Think of a certain kind of food you hate eating. Just thinking about eating it... (read in full...)
Found out g/f sleeps with men to support herself. She says she'll stop if I can support her. I can't. What to do???
Q. OK folks, I have a real dilemma. I am hoping you can help. There is this girl I know who is from a middle eastern country. She is here on a visa. Very pretty, sweet. We started seeing each other, and then got involved. I thought things were perf...
A. 4 May 2012: You've got yourself a classic gold digger, my friend.
You need to remove your heart from this equation and look at the FACTS. I know it's difficult, because you're looking at her through rose-tinted glasses, but she is DAMAGED GOODS right now and ... (read in full...)
How can people not think of pornography as cheating?
Q. I have something bothering me i've read and discussed this and people say that a boyfriend using porn is no different than him imagining someone in his head but I strongly disagree. Masturbating to porn is alot worse it is an actual picture but ...
A. 2 May 2012: Porn is not cheating in my relationship. My "rules" won't work for everyone else, and I should never be immature and think that MY way of thinking is perfect for EVERYONE on the planet.
I believe you need to understand that the way you think an... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I love the smell of my girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend and me don't really sleep together but every now and again we do get intimate. I have a real fetish of sniffing her knockers though. Is that wrong? She kind of knows I do it but it isn't talked about. I just love the smell of her......
A. 2 May 2012: It's a pretty common fetish. If you google panty sniffing, you'll find hundreds if not thousands of people that are interested in the same thing. Not weird at all.
Just make sure she's 100% okay with it.
My husband loves the way I smell. As ... (read in full...)
I'm filthy rich and very independant and it seems that most guys are intimidated by the fact that they have nothing to offer me
Q. I'm in my early thirties, I've never been in a serious relationship and once I get to know someone it never develops into anything and it's generally over within a month. I'm pretty but I don't dress to show my assets, don't sleep with guys for the ...
A. 28 April 2012: You said: "once I get to know someone it never develops into anything and it's generally over within a month." "they have nothing to offer me." "I'm bit of a commitment phobe" "I just can't seem to encourage chaps to make the first move a... (read in full...)
A beautiful girl cares about me but I am not ready for a relationship
Q. Hello. How do I say goodbye to a BEAUTIFUL girl? She has everything going for her but I am not ready for relationship with her. I want a no strings relationship and I am getting that with this other girl right now. My friend told me she is hurt t...
A. 24 April 2012: You can't give her the relationship she wants, so leave her alone. It would be selfish of you to expect her to hang around and wait for you. ... (read in full...)
Conservative Indian parents don't approve of my American boyfriend!
Q. so i come from a very conservative background. i'm indian, my family believes in marriages only with those who are indian, and care mostly for their own reputation. not too long ago, they found out i was dating an american boy for almost a year now. ...
A. 14 April 2012: Let me explain something to you sweetheart, your parents are not going to kill themselves over this. That's insane, and your parents otherwise sound like reasonably logical people. However, you need to understand that them using guilt and fear to ... (read in full...)
He knows he can't be with me because of his religion, so why show me affection?
Q. I have a friend who I really care for. But later I found myself developing feelings for him. We know each other from long time ago and we both went trough the same situations. I confront him the other day and I told him what I am feeling. I told h...
A. 13 April 2012: It sounds like he's trying to get into your pants.
I'm pretty sure that if you gave him any clue that you'd be willing to sleep with him, he'd be all over that "benefits" thing.
Trust me, if he REALLY loved you, your religion wouldn't matter ... (read in full...)
How do I get my wife to see a dentist?
Q. Hi, My wife has really stained teeth. I'd like her to get them looked at but don't know how to broach the subject. She could also do with flossing more but doesn't. How do I get her to a dentist?...
A. 13 April 2012: You don't have to go and see a dentist for minor stains. You can get a kit at the store, for like fourty dollars, that'll whiten her teeth.
Broach it like this: "Hey babe, I've seen this tooth-whitening kit at the store. Want to try it with me?... (read in full...)
How can I have a relationship when I don't trust women?
Q. All I have in this world is my balls and my word. And I don't trust women. I am not saying they're all bad. I just think when the times get tough, they disappear. And when the times are good, they love you. Am I wrong? With an attitude like this, ...
A. 12 April 2012: So because one woman hurt you, which you admit was partially your fault anyway, you're blaming the rest of the 3 billion women on the planet for your mess up and her mess up?
Seems kinda ridiculous to me.
Yes, please go and see a shrink. You bl... (read in full...)
How can I permanently be with my lover?
Q. Ive been married for 22 years and got 3 kids (grown up now tho), ive been having an affair for the past 7 years with a man i love very very much, he is married and has 1 grown up daughter. We want to be together but we havent a clue what to do or ...
A. 12 April 2012: This isn't difficult to figure out.
Go to a divorce lawyer and tell them the truth, that your husband is abusive and won't let you have any money. You want a divorce but need to get a discount because of hardship or maybe he could work for you ... (read in full...)
My mother started a fight and hit me in front on my 2 year old son!
Q. I have never had a good relatinoship with my mother. Myself and my 2 sisters have never got on with her. She is a very difficult and manipulative person and likes to pick fights. Last week we had an argument about something as usual. However, ...
A. 12 April 2012: Your son is over it. Stop feeling guilty for somehow "scarring" him, he's fine. What you need to realize is that you want to feel sorry for yourself for getting beaten up when you physically started the fight.
One thing I learned a long time ago... (read in full...)
Should I press charges because she uploaded a photo of us on facebook?
Q. Hi. I'm new, here. Last week, I have had a photograph of me with a female friend. I thought she would NOT post the photograph on the internet. However, just yesterday, I check her Facebook, just to see her photo album, as she mentionned a nea...
A. 12 April 2012: If she won't take them down, contact Facebook's moderators and ask them to help you.... (read in full...)
What could be going on between my brother and this woman?
Q. My much older brother and I know this girl for several years. Ever since he took control of our social club, he started to change. He use to be nice to everyone, especially her. But now, he acts uneasy around her. Ignores her and unconcerned about ...
A. 12 April 2012: What's stopping you from asking your brother?... (read in full...)
I don't think I want anything to do with him, what do I do next?
Q. I met a guy last week and went out a few times. We met online and had spent some time on the phone before we met in person. He seemed nice but he is too overwhelming! Goes on about working out at the gym and when can I meet him next and how swe...
A. 11 April 2012: If he's coming on too strong and you don't want to date him, you need to tell him in a nice but honest way. IN PERSON. Do not dump his friendship over text or on the phone.
Tell him something like...
"Listen, I know that you like me, but to ... (read in full...)
10 months into our relationship, he's decided he wants a complete makeover!
Q. So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 10 months now, and I really love him, but recently he's been talking about how he wants to change his look. Grow out some facial hair, cut his hair short, change his wardrobe, and other stuff. Hone...
A. 11 April 2012: Hm. This is kind of a tough situation. Honestly, I doubt we can help you much with this right now because really, you're going to have to do the hard work and tell him your concerns. Talk to him, personally. We can't tell you what's going on in his ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I think sex is boring. I astound the guys I date! Is there a problem?
Q. I'm 21 and I have very little sexual experience. I've been to third base a couple of times, but I usually end it quickly because I'm not comfortable or I think it's boring. I do fantasize and play with myself occasionally, but almost never with ...
A. 11 April 2012: I'm really glad I could help you out. It's perfectly normal to have mismatched libidos at least sometimes in a relationship, but being willing to give your partner their needed intimacy is really a great way to show your mate that you love them. ... (read in full...)
Help me compose a note to this actor!
Q. I met an actor after a show last week, and i want to write to him on facebook, saying that it was lovely to meet him, and i enjoyed the show, and that i hope to see him at the theatre again and meet him again, and that i hope to see him on tv more ( ...
A. 10 April 2012: "Hey this is (your name), I met you last week after (this show) at (this place). It was a real pleasure meeting you, and I hope to see you on TV more because you're a wonderful talent!"
... (read in full...)
Who is right, me or my wife? And what advice do we give our friends?
Q. I searched the internet for advice sites, and I ended up here. We (my wife and I) have a question. We have some friends who are a little younger than us (mid 20's). They are engaged to be married. The Guy has an apartment, and the Girl moved back ...
A. 10 April 2012: Why are items from a past relationship, or sheets or a bed that might have had an ex sleep on them or have sex on them, such a threat to people? I never understood that. They're items, they're not INFECTED with THE HORRIBLE SPIRIT OF THE ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I think sex is boring. I astound the guys I date! Is there a problem?
Q. I'm 21 and I have very little sexual experience. I've been to third base a couple of times, but I usually end it quickly because I'm not comfortable or I think it's boring. I do fantasize and play with myself occasionally, but almost never with ...
A. 9 April 2012: You may be confusing asexuality with not being physically or romantically attracted to anyone. Contrary to popular assumptions, plenty of asexual people have relationships, are romantically attracted to people, and some of them even have sex on a ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I think sex is boring. I astound the guys I date! Is there a problem?
Q. I'm 21 and I have very little sexual experience. I've been to third base a couple of times, but I usually end it quickly because I'm not comfortable or I think it's boring. I do fantasize and play with myself occasionally, but almost never with ...
A. 8 April 2012: It's possible that you're asexual.
http://www.asexuality.org/home/
Please look into this possibility.... (read in full...)
How can I permanently be with my lover?
Q. Ive been married for 22 years and got 3 kids (grown up now tho), ive been having an affair for the past 7 years with a man i love very very much, he is married and has 1 grown up daughter. We want to be together but we havent a clue what to do or ...
A. 8 April 2012: What are you confused about?
Divorce your husband. Move out into your own place. Move your boyfriend in with you.
Since your kids are grown, you won't have to worry about custody, and if you don't have any property, you can get a divorce for li... (read in full...)
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