How can I permanently be with my lover?
Q. Ive been married for 22 years and got 3 kids (grown up now tho), ive been having an affair for the past 7 years with a man i love very very much, he is married and has 1 grown up daughter. We want to be together but we havent a clue what to do or ...
A. 12 April 2012: This isn't difficult to figure out.
Go to a divorce lawyer and tell them the truth, that your husband is abusive and won't let you have any money. You want a divorce but need to get a discount because of hardship or maybe he could work for you ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I think sex is boring. I astound the guys I date! Is there a problem?
Q. I'm 21 and I have very little sexual experience. I've been to third base a couple of times, but I usually end it quickly because I'm not comfortable or I think it's boring. I do fantasize and play with myself occasionally, but almost never with ...
A. 11 April 2012: I'm really glad I could help you out. It's perfectly normal to have mismatched libidos at least sometimes in a relationship, but being willing to give your partner their needed intimacy is really a great way to show your mate that you love them. ... (read in full...)
Who is right, me or my wife? And what advice do we give our friends?
Q. I searched the internet for advice sites, and I ended up here. We (my wife and I) have a question. We have some friends who are a little younger than us (mid 20's). They are engaged to be married. The Guy has an apartment, and the Girl moved back ...
A. 10 April 2012: Why are items from a past relationship, or sheets or a bed that might have had an ex sleep on them or have sex on them, such a threat to people? I never understood that. They're items, they're not INFECTED with THE HORRIBLE SPIRIT OF THE ... (read in full...)
Questions about getting breast transplants
Q. I have a few questions for the ladies. I am seriously considering breast implants. I am 46 years old and about three years ago, I lost a good 40-50 pounds, got back in shape again and have become a gym rat and regularly swim and have turned most...
A. 10 April 2012: I'm seeing a lot of negative press in here about implants and I have to say, yes, implants CAN drop, and yes implants CAN look and feel soft and natural, especially silicone and the new "Cohesive Gel" implants. Again, lots of celebrities and ... (read in full...)
He comes to my place, eats, uses utilities but says I am ungrateful for not paying when we go out!
Q. My boyfriend stays over at my house over the weekend. I recently found out that he thinks i am being ungrateful because he pays for dinner and i dont offer any money to put to it. This is because he tells me it is on him or he'll buy dinner. Money ...
A. 10 April 2012: Stop cooking for him. Or when you do, make sure he knows since he keeps track of who's paying for what, that this is coming out of the "Gratefulness Payment" he keeps track of.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend can't last longer than 3 minutes of sex
Q. My bf comes after about 3 minutes of sex, even if we just had it that day already. We've been in a relationship for ages and he always ends up saying sorry after sex. I usually don't mind but it's getting to the point where I really don't get a huge ...
A. 10 April 2012: Have him bring you to orgasm with oral or manual sex or stimulation with a sex toy BEFORE intercourse, that way you'll be satisfied and it won't matter how long he lasts.... (read in full...)
Questions about getting breast transplants
Q. I have a few questions for the ladies. I am seriously considering breast implants. I am 46 years old and about three years ago, I lost a good 40-50 pounds, got back in shape again and have become a gym rat and regularly swim and have turned most...
A. 10 April 2012: 1. Yes. All surgery is painful, because it's surgery. You have to decide if the pain is worth it, to you. 2. It depends on the individual person. For some people, they'll recover in just a week or two, some people it can take months. Tons of ... (read in full...)
Can it be harmful to have sex during a period?
Q. So..me and my girlfriend had sex while she was on her period. ( please don't judge) I was wondering if this was bad in any kind of way? Like can it harm our bodies and stuff like that. Thank You...
A. 10 April 2012: It's just blood. How could it be harmful?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not have sex because I have a teenager in the house
Q. hi my bf of 2 years, Steve, finds it difficult to relax and be intimate with me because my teenage son lives at home and rarely goes out. This got worse last year and our sex life decreased so much so that we havent had sex for six months now. I...
A. 10 April 2012: It doesn't sound like he's avoiding intimacy because of your son, it sounds like he has a low libido and doesn't want to admit it to himself or to you. Men are "supposed" to be sex-hungry horndogs, always sniffing after getting laid. That's the... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I think sex is boring. I astound the guys I date! Is there a problem?
Q. I'm 21 and I have very little sexual experience. I've been to third base a couple of times, but I usually end it quickly because I'm not comfortable or I think it's boring. I do fantasize and play with myself occasionally, but almost never with ...
A. 9 April 2012: You may be confusing asexuality with not being physically or romantically attracted to anyone. Contrary to popular assumptions, plenty of asexual people have relationships, are romantically attracted to people, and some of them even have sex on a ... (read in full...)
My husband's temper is destroying me and our marriage!
Q. I feel absolutely trapped in a relationship that is tearing my self esteem apart. I've been with my husband for 7 years. I've always known he was opinionated and a bit hotheaded. At times he borders on being verbally abusive when he's mad. Then ...
A. 8 April 2012: I was with a man like that.
It continued to escalate until he started hitting me. I stayed anyway, to the point where in a mad crazy blackout, he put me in the hospital...nearly killed me. I had to have surgery or I would have died.
Do you ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and I think sex is boring. I astound the guys I date! Is there a problem?
Q. I'm 21 and I have very little sexual experience. I've been to third base a couple of times, but I usually end it quickly because I'm not comfortable or I think it's boring. I do fantasize and play with myself occasionally, but almost never with ...
A. 8 April 2012: It's possible that you're asexual.
http://www.asexuality.org/home/
Please look into this possibility.... (read in full...)
How can I permanently be with my lover?
Q. Ive been married for 22 years and got 3 kids (grown up now tho), ive been having an affair for the past 7 years with a man i love very very much, he is married and has 1 grown up daughter. We want to be together but we havent a clue what to do or ...
A. 8 April 2012: What are you confused about?
Divorce your husband. Move out into your own place. Move your boyfriend in with you.
Since your kids are grown, you won't have to worry about custody, and if you don't have any property, you can get a divorce for li... (read in full...)
Why would a guy who wasn't into me act so happy to see me?
Q. 3 months ago.. I had a massive crush on this guy. i initiated contact [emailed him].. and he eventually asked for my number and suggested we meet. we did.. and it went really well [or so i thought]... but he never called me after that and didn't ...
A. 8 April 2012: You're reading too much into his actions. A smile doesn't mean he was excited to see you, he was being polite.
He's not into you. Move on.... (read in full...)
What size penis do women prefer?
Q. I am a man aged 34, iam just wondering on what penis size do women prefers. Is big, small or just average and if big how big. What do women enjoy most while having sex. Do they like when a man comes from the back or when he is on top....
A. 8 April 2012: Since most women can only reach orgasm with direct clitoral stimulation, and the clitoris is located on the OUTSIDE of the body, penis size has little to nothing to do with sexual enjoyment with women.
So, to answer your question, most men coul... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!
Q. Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...
A. 7 April 2012: I question your mental state that you think dating a bigot is okay.
Do you honestly think this will end well for you? Because you're deluding yourself if you think it will.
DTMFA.... (read in full...)
Women: What are the real secrets to winning and keeping your hearts?
Q. This is a question for all of you women who are, or who have been, married or in a long term relationship. What are the things a man can or should do to keep his wife happy and fully committed to him? What would be yourbest advice as to what a ...
A. 3 April 2012: Be responsible and mature. Act like an adult, take care of yourself physically, mentally and emotionally. Don't be a slacker, keep up with chores and childcare, be hygienic and well dressed.
Be honest without being cruel, compassionate and lovi... (read in full...)
How likely is it to get pregnant if you use condoms correctly?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we've both been wanting to have sex for awhile now but I am deathly afraid of getting preagnant and yes, we have condoms but I'm scared they'll fail and I can't get birth control because we have ...
A. 3 April 2012: You don't have to go to Planned Parenthood to get hormonal birth control. A regular doctor can prescribe it for you. Go talk to your regular, normal doctor and ask for some form of hormonal birth control.
Use spermicide with the condoms always. ... (read in full...)
Why has the consistency of his cum changed?
Q. hello i have a question i need help with please. im 18 and me and my boyfriend are sexual active for about 4 months now. well a couple weeks ago his cum started to change. it used to be sticky but now its very liquidity. is that normal or can ...
A. 3 April 2012: A million things could be the cause of the change. Diet, stress, level of hydration and lifestyle massively affects the color, flavor, scent and consistency of ejaculate. If he's done -anything- different over the last few weeks in terms of diet, ... (read in full...)
How do I go about being more confident to be the dominant one in bondage?
Q. I'm the same person who asked about a guy wanting YOU to tie HIM up, or whatever the question was titled... And now I want to know how I can get more confident to tie him up and do stuff with him, since I'm not a confident or outgoing person....
A. 2 April 2012: The term Service Top should be pretty self explanatory.
In BDSM, A 'TOP' is a person who takes on a Dominant-like role of "giving sensation and/or pleasure", but is not a person with a Dominant personality. You are SERVING that person by acting a... (read in full...)
How do I go about being more confident to be the dominant one in bondage?
Q. I'm the same person who asked about a guy wanting YOU to tie HIM up, or whatever the question was titled... And now I want to know how I can get more confident to tie him up and do stuff with him, since I'm not a confident or outgoing person....
A. 2 April 2012: If you really want to please him, ASK HIM EXACTLY WHAT HE WANTS YOU TO DO. Then do it. You don't have to be loud, or dominant, or aggressive. You can please him and be submissive. Since you don't have a Dominant personality, you can't be Dominant, ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy wants YOU to tie HIM up?
Q. My boyfriend is into restraints, or whatever it's called, where your hands are tied to the bedpost, and sometimes feet are tied to the.... bottom of the bed? wtf is it called? But anyways, he said once that he wants me to tie him up... What do...
A. 2 April 2012: It sounds like you don't even want to try.
Everyone has to start somewhere. We're not BORN knowing how to do anything, we have to practice and LEARN. Making excuses like "I don't know how!" won't get you anywhere. If you just don't feel like you... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy wants YOU to tie HIM up?
Q. My boyfriend is into restraints, or whatever it's called, where your hands are tied to the bedpost, and sometimes feet are tied to the.... bottom of the bed? wtf is it called? But anyways, he said once that he wants me to tie him up... What do...
A. 1 April 2012: Who says you can't be a pleaser if you tie him up?
You know it'll make him happy, and please him, and if you want to please him, try it.
What's so scary about it? You know he doesn't expect you to make it perfect. You know he's smart and since ... (read in full...)
Is he in love with me? or was I just a cheap feel?
Q. I've liked this guy for a while, and sometimes I feel like he's making moves on me. Yet, I'm not sure whether those moves are fueled by his possible actual attraction to me or whether he just wanted a cheap feel. As bad as it sounds, I don't mind ...
A. 31 March 2012: You don't have to make the first move. He already has, with all his affectionate physical contact.
I think he likes you a lot, and would like to date you. If he was just after sex with you, I think he would have been a lot more aggressi... (read in full...)
My Friend will not associate with unattractive People, is this common?
Q. I'm 40, he's 22 and we've only been friends a short while. He's very intelligent - and I thought deep, until he told me that he doesn't associate with unattractive people because it badly reflects on him. He's heterosexual and his male friends ...
A. 31 March 2012: Bigots aren't kind people. They can talk good game, but deep down, they hate. Bigotry stems from irrational hatred, ignorance and fear...this isn't someone you'd really want as a friend, would you?... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to discredit all the good we had in our relationship? Did I take it all for granted and basically throw a good thing away?
Q. Just wanting to know people's opinions.... I asked a question about this before, but there is new information now... My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. From the beginning, he has been very loving towards me, tel...
A. 31 March 2012: Hm. This is a really tough situation. You already know it was wrong to snoop so I won't beat you up for it, your guilt about it is doing a better job than anyone else ever could. However. I think it was right and for the best that you two... (read in full...)
How do I control my sexual urges? I've gone from a highly sexual relationship to one where there's no sex yet
Q. I was in a long term relationship where I was having sex about 5 times a week, now I'm no longer in that relationship I'm finding that I'm having problems adjusting to having no sex life, I'm with another guy now but he's a virgin and we haven't ...
A. 31 March 2012: If you're not able to masturbate to orgasm, you're probably focusing on the wrong body parts. Are you just straight penetrating yourself with your fingers, or are you focusing on your clitoris? Most women can only reach orgasm through direct ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy wants YOU to tie HIM up?
Q. My boyfriend is into restraints, or whatever it's called, where your hands are tied to the bedpost, and sometimes feet are tied to the.... bottom of the bed? wtf is it called? But anyways, he said once that he wants me to tie him up... What do...
A. 31 March 2012: Roles are not gender specific. Not all women are submissive, and not all men are Dominant. I have been involved in BDSM for many years and I can tell you that the rainbow of differences in relationship between kinky people are just as diverse as ... (read in full...)
I was tired of being his mother!
Q. I just recently broke it off with my boyfriend of nine months, I was tired of being his mother. I did everything for that kid, and he appreciated none of it. I wasn't happy at all in the relationship. I was belittled and treated wrongly. I paid ...
A. 25 March 2012: It's too soon right now to get involved with someone, yes. But if you are interested in him, let him know that in the future when you feel more healed and ready, you want to try a relationship with him.
... (read in full...)
Is looseness a sign of cheating?
Q. Okay I'm a young male around 18-21. My girlfriend lately has been very distance and when.we do have sex she feels loser. Is this a sign she is cheating?...
A. 24 March 2012: A man having sex multiple times with multiple women doesn't make his penis bigger. Why would you think that a woman's vagina can be affected, then? It makes absolutely zero sense.
Maybe your penis shrunk, and that's why she feels looser. It makes... (read in full...)
My husband has an obsession with my butt.
Q. This question is for ladies only. I am new to the internet. I come from a culture where girls are not educated about sexuality. I never had any sexual encounter with a man before my wedding. A few months after my marriage,my husband left country to ...
A. 22 March 2012: I have a large ass as well. In my husband's culture, it's extremely common for big butts to be admired as a beauty trait, so in my case, yes. Totally normal.
He finds you sexually appealing, attractive, beautiful, sexy. This is a GOOD THING. Y... (read in full...)
All of a sudden my boyfriend is sick of me and thinks I'm too predictable!
Q. I have been with my bf for almost 10 months, and we have been pretty good except for the rare arguments that we work out. He has a huge sense of humor, and he makes jokes about anything, everything, and he knows that I always say he doesnt know when ...
A. 22 March 2012: Here's what's going on. He wants to break up with you, but he's too chicken to do it. So, he's being mean to you on purpose, waiting for you to get sick of him treating you like crap and breaking up with him yourself.
Tell him that you know wha... (read in full...)
Dumping a guy over pornography use?
Q. Has anyone here ever dumped anyone over pornography use? How bad was it? I want to find a man who doesn't use it so I can feel special for once....
A. 20 March 2012: I would never dump a guy just for looking at porn. That would be like a man dumping a girl for watching chick flicks.... (read in full...)
Can a girl get pregnant from being fingered with sperm on the fingers?
Q. so my girlfriend and i were having sex... i pulled out and came on her stomach... i got some on my hand which we wiped off with a towel and wiped off her stomach then about 2 minutes later i started to finger her again and fingered her for a while.. ...
A. 20 March 2012: For one thing, as the other posters have said, you need to be using birth control, two methods would be best (condoms and hormonal BC like the pill, patch, shot, etc.).
Also, I know you're young and inexperienced, but inserting your fingers ... (read in full...)
Why can't my bestfriend trust me as I trust her?
Q. Im Jonas and Im seventeen and my bestfriend is Camille and she is sixteen. We hang out three times a week with other mates. We are really close and I love her like family. Id trust her with almost anything even if she has to ask me to talk to her if ...
A. 20 March 2012: You said it yourself already: "she's had a hell of a lot of shit in her life with family, friends and people mistreating her in general"
Not everyone is going to develop trust in the same way, or at the same speed, especially someone who has seen... (read in full...)
I feel insecure about my 34C breasts!
Q. Hi this is gonna seem a really cliché question. I've always been really small like a size 6/8 and 5 2" so this is going to seem inevitable but I am really self conscious about the size of my boobs. On paper they should be fine ( 34C) but they look ...
A. 20 March 2012: If you feel terrible about them, start saving money to get a breast augmentation. That's the only permanent and scientifically proven way to increase your bust size.... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to some random girl while drunk, while I really like this other girl. Should I tell her?
Q. Ok I basically lost my virginity last saturday, I was so drunk that I literally cannot remember what happened, the whole night was a blank. I only found out I had sex the next morning. The problem is I am into a girl, who is also into me, but she ...
A. 17 March 2012: She's not your girlfriend, so no. It's not cheating, you didn't do anything wrong, so you have nothing to "confess".... (read in full...)
Don't feel anything during sex, why is this??
Q. Hello, I'm 18 and in need of some advise. I can't orgasm, in fact whenever I have sex I can't feel anything. I haven't told my boyfriend this cause I don't want to hurt his ego so I usually fake it. I haven't told anyone. He says I'm great and we ...
A. 17 March 2012: Because most women cannot reach orgasm through penis-in-vagina intercourse. The vagina isn't the source of sexual pleasure with most women, the CLITORIS is. So, if you don't know the location of your clitoris, do some google searches, educate ... (read in full...)
I want to be his girlfriend and he wants sex!
Q. hello everyone. i'm an 18 year old girl, senior in highschool. i've been talking to this guy for a little over a month now. it's clear that we are ''something'' more than friends but im not too sure what to think of it. i have feelings for him and ...
A. 17 March 2012: I think you already know what's going on, you just need someone else to tell you what you need to hear. No, he's not interested in you as a girlfriend. He wants to sleep with you. You're a walking masturbation tool to him, not a person. If... (read in full...)
Ladies, is a 4.25" penis big or small?
Q. Ladies, do you consider a 4.25 inch erect penis to be big or small? Do you have experience with this size? If so how did you like it? ...
A. 15 March 2012: It's on the small side of average.
Yes I do have experience with that size.
Since most women can only reach orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation, the size of a man's penis has little to nothing to do with how easily a woman gets satis... (read in full...)
My son's father walked out on us and my son has gone from being a sweet, innocent, clever child to an angry, resentful boy
Q. I have a serious problem thats ruining my life no end. Ive been a single mother(technically) for a couple of years now since my sons father decided todo a dissapearing act. I always managed to cover this up with a story about my sons father work...
A. 14 March 2012: You can't, nor should you try, to purchase your son's good behavior by offering him toys and parties. That'll only teach him that if he pushes you hard enough, you'll spoil him to get him to be good.
When he pushes the boundaries, stay absolute... (read in full...)
Hair extensions, whatever next?!
Q. I met this beautiful girl, she is laid back, funny, interesting, smart just a great girl! She has a great figure and is a natural beauty, unlike some the girls I see she doesn't look like she even has to try to look good. Well one thing about her ...
A. 14 March 2012: Are you actually suggesting that because she wears hair extensions she's going to be a slutty, cheating liar?
I really hope you understand just how bonkers that sounds. You have some serious problems with women if you really think that a woman ha... (read in full...)
My husband just up and left and told me to keep my rings and don't date. HUH?
Q. ive been with my husband off and on for 5yrs 8months married and he left last week while i was at work and only took a few outfits. yes we argued but that is normal especially when i was the only one working and trying to pay for everything and take ...
A. 14 March 2012: Unless you two have property, it'll cost next to nothing to divorce.
No sense in staying married to someone who doesn't love you anymore. Instead of eating out or buying clothes or makeup, forgo luxuries for a few months, save your money, then get... (read in full...)
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