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writes:Need help!Okay so I've been a worrier. And I worry not that my boyfriend will cheat but that he'll do something like send pics to other women. Especially since he's not that open with his phoneHe says he's always been honest and never sent pics or anything that would be considered any type of cheating.One day about a month ago I saw some pics Of his penis on his phone and I asked him about it. He said he sent them to me. I looked through texts and found nothing. He then proceeded to tell me he was GOING to send them to me but we ended up hanging out.Nothing else seems out of place but he had been texting one of his girl friends more often and he said he talked to her only bout his best friend who was flirting with her even though he's married. So do I have ANYTHING to worry about or should I just let it go? We get in arguments over my insecurity and doubts of him. So I'm thinking maybe let it go? Help!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 December 2011):
 umm yeah I love Cerberus and his great answer..
yeah this is a bad thing... guys do not take pictures of their genitalia on their phones for themselves babe.
AND his reaction to OTHERS cheating is what I call a red herring...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, he has sent me these types of pictures before and we did hang out on the day he supposedly took them. But just the fact of him changing his story is what makes me wary. It wasn't a big change of the storyBut still a change...And he doesn't like cheating. Whenever I mention something about a friend cheating that we both know, he'll call them idiots and he'll think about the girl (like how they could do that). And he's said from the beginning of the relationship, when we were only friends, that he never understood cheating and doesn't condone it
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2011): No, it's fine, I have loads of pictures of my penis on my phone. It's the most beautiful thing ever. I have it as my desktop wallpaper and I have a big framed picture of it hanging over my fireplace too. The t-shirt I'm wearing right now is an artful silhouette of my penis.
The reason I have it on my phone is so I can look at it any time I want without getting arrested for exposing myself. You know? It's so awesome I just have to look at it from time to time. I'm actually thinking of getting a tattoo of my penis on my penis.
Okay in all seriousness yes that's something to be wary of. As my above sarcasm probably illustrated and as N91 said we don't just take pictures of our penis' for no reason. I wouldn't at all to be honest, I don't know any girl that thinks they're "pretty" to look at. The thing I'd worry the most about is his excuse. He said he sent them to you, you'd think he'd remember sending something like that. Perhaps he did send them but forgot it wasn't you he sent them to who knows, for now give him the benefit of the doubt, but tell him you don't want him sending you pictures of his penis. That way he will have no reason to have them on his phone. I wouldn't panic just yet, but I wouldn't forget about this either. Taking pictures of your genitals are for showing others, no one takes pictures of them just for themselves and if you don't want them being sent and he still has them or new ones then he's showing someone and that isn't you.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (28 December 2011):
 If he has pictures of his penis on his phone, he has or is going to send them to someone. Probably not you.
Have a discussion about boundaries and what is and what is not acceptable in your relationship. That's the only way he'll know for sure that you are NOT okay with this.
If you catch him at it again, you really need to strongly consider if his disrespectful actions are what you really want in your life.
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reader, N91  +, writes (28 December 2011):
 Hahaha no not at all, I'd never send a picture of my penis to someone else!
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reader, N91 +, writes (28 December 2011):
I can tell you that I don't take random pics of my d**k unless I was planning on sending them to someone (Even so, why would somebody want a picture of a penis to look at? Not like they're very pretty)Sounds a little fishy to me, you'd of thought they'd get deleted if he didn't need to send them anymore...
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