My husband just up and left and told me to keep my rings and don't date. HUH?
Q. ive been with my husband off and on for 5yrs 8months married and he left last week while i was at work and only took a few outfits. yes we argued but that is normal especially when i was the only one working and trying to pay for everything and take ...
A. 14 March 2012: Unless you two have property, it'll cost next to nothing to divorce.
No sense in staying married to someone who doesn't love you anymore. Instead of eating out or buying clothes or makeup, forgo luxuries for a few months, save your money, then get... (read in full...)
Is it ok for me to have these romantic thoughts about Transsexuals?
Q. Hi agony aunts, i want to know if it's normal for me to be interested in transgender people sexually and emotionally. Right now im 18 years old, It all started a little over 2 years ago. I was looking at pornography on the internet and i h...
A. 28 February 2012: It's perfectly fine to be interested in pretty much any kind of person. It's perfectly fine to be attracted to and interested in transsexuals, lots of people are. I would say if you're really wanting to, look online at various dating sites and make ... (read in full...)
He has the ring. When will he find the right moment? Should I wait?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years this June. We have a great relationship and have lived together for the past 2 years. I trust him and he has never given me a reason not to. We are very close and are best friends and lovers. 2 1/2 years ago ...
A. 26 February 2012: If he hasn't put up the effort and gotten the motivation and money together to create that "perfect moment" in two and a half years, he won't ever do it.
He's lazy. He's been waiting around for some ultra-romantic moment to come along and just mak... (read in full...)
I'm a guy and like one of my straight friends. What things should I do to manage this situation tactfully?
Q. Hello. I like one of my best guy friends, and I too am a guy. I've been close friends with him for 3 or 4 years. We didn't really talk to each other for the first few years, but became close as we had classes and talked to each other more. It w...
A. 26 February 2012: You know he's not interested in guys. You said it yourself that he's straight. There is nothing you can do to change that, because sexuality is inborn, not a choice. Just maintain your friendship with him, and don't say anything to him about liking ... (read in full...)
He stood me up for no reason
Q. Me and this guy friend arranged to meet up this weekend; his idea actually. We do have a bit of a history. We've never dated but we did have a bit of casual "fun" when we were both single. I ended up developing feelings for him but I think that was ...
A. 26 February 2012: You have a boyfriend. He has a girlfriend. He tried to get you to sleep with him the last time you two spent time together, you rejected him.
He doesn't need to hang out with you anymore, because he's getting the sex he wants from his partner.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets upset when I don't answer the phone
Q. i am 46 single and live in uk and my muslim boyfriend is 26 years old, we met on a dating site. I look much younger than my age,we are planning to get married. My boyfriend gets really upset with me, when he cant get hold of me on the phone. He se...
A. 26 February 2012: Possessive, insecure and jealous people do not make good spouses.
Tell him to deal with his issues or there won't be a marriage. Putting a ring on his finger will not make his problems go away.... (read in full...)
Being told you're beautiful during sex, does it mean anything?
Q. Just want to get an idea what the general consensus is on telling someone they're beautiful during sex. If during the early stages of seeing someone, they say you're beautiful, can this still be quite a casual statement, or do you think it's a ...
A. 26 February 2012: It means they think you are beautiful. Don't read into it, women often make the mistake of thinking that the things people say mean something different than what they mean...don't fall into this trap. Take words as what they are, rather than trying ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate for a man to ask a woman if she is bowlegged while at work when it is in plain view?
Q. My lady and myself are engaged in a heated battle so I left and found this site while trying to remain cool. I love my lady but at times she acts as though she doesn't have a clue. My lady is bowlegged and it is very noticeable. Is it appropri...
A. 22 February 2012: He was being inappropriate by being so forward and crass to her, but she told him politely and respectfully that she was taken. That shows a lot of class.
She should be a little miffed that he was so disrespectful, but these days so many women ar... (read in full...)
5 months dating is too early to say I love you, isn't it?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 months now, and saturday night he told me he loved me, I didnt respond and he went quiet but then we said nothing about it since. The thing is I have thought that I am falling in love with him, I do h...
A. 22 February 2012: I fell in love with my now-husband within a few weeks of dating him. I didn't tell him, I waited until we had been together for a while before I said anything. I didn't want him to feel rushed. However, 5 months is a nice amount of time.
If yo... (read in full...)
Am I gay?
Q. Well my problem is im 16 and male and think i like guys because whenever im with my friend "aaron" i feel attracted to him and when we were getting changed for PE i got an erection when i saw him in just his boxer shorts. Am i gay? And if so how ...
A. 22 February 2012: It's possible that you're gay, yes. If you've only been attracted sexually and emotionally to other boys, then you probably are gay. At your age, your sexuality is really fluid, so you may end up changing at any point. You may end up being attracted ... (read in full...)
Oral sex saved for a special occasion?
Q. My boyfriend has been asking me to give him oral sex for a little while, and I finally brought up the courage to do it for him the other day. It was spontaneous and romantic and everything I imagined it to be. Since then, He has asked me a coupl...
A. 22 February 2012: Sexual intimacy doesn't lose it's appeal. You can't "overdo" sex, any kind of sex. If you save oral sex for special occasions, you're basically telling him that he has to "earn" the right to have your mouth on his penis...what kind of message is ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and terrified of being called "small". Is it okay to want a woman who doesn't have a past so that she don't compare my size to others?
Q. Im a 21 year old virgin guy and lately ive been trying to figure out what I want in a girlfriend before I know for sure that im ready to have sex. While trying to figured things out for myself ive realized something. I have female friends that joke ...
A. 21 February 2012: I blame porn for your obsession with penis size. Women aren't going to sit there and examine you with a tape measure or ruler on first blush meeting. Hopefully the first time she meets your penis eye-to-eye (el oh el) she'll be too busy with her ... (read in full...)
I like him but I'm wondering if he's gay?
Q. Hi, I really need some advice, I've met a really lovely guy who is in tbe military. But I'm concerned he might be gay. He can be camp at times, loves cleaning and ironing it took 7 dates for him to kiss me which I instigated and also said his ma...
A. 20 February 2012: So. Ask him if he's gay?
It's not that hard, you're a grown up now and can talk about things like this without giggling like a schoolgirl, right? ;-)... (read in full...)
How can I get bigger boobs and better hair?
Q. I was just wondering...how can I look more attractive? I feel I look good but how can I get bigger boobs naturally? Also how can I make my hair thicker and volumed?...
A. 19 February 2012: There is no way to make your breasts bigger naturally. Working out your chest muscles will change the shape and tone of your chest, yes, but breasts are made up of fat mostly. Unless you get pregnant or take a chance with hormonal birth control ... (read in full...)
Why are women so bitchy to me? Why am I a threat ?
Q. In my other post people had a go at me for being platonic friends with a guy . Well so why is it I try and be friends with women and it never works? I'm friendly and easy going, and don't treat people like garbage. For some reason women always see ...
A. 19 February 2012: What I've noticed in most women that have a difficult time being friends with other women is that they themselves do not see the behavior that makes other women dislike them.
Now, I am in no way absolutely certain that you are like this, so pleas... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and terrified of being called "small". Is it okay to want a woman who doesn't have a past so that she don't compare my size to others?
Q. Im a 21 year old virgin guy and lately ive been trying to figure out what I want in a girlfriend before I know for sure that im ready to have sex. While trying to figured things out for myself ive realized something. I have female friends that joke ...
A. 19 February 2012: I want to repeat what the other ladies said about the importance of the clitoris in female pleasure because you absolutely MUST get over the notion that the size of your penis makes some sort of difference in her pleasure. The clitoris is just... (read in full...)
Ex told me my penis was too small and now I have serious confidence issues
Q. Confidence. I'm a guy with a average to small penis. I've always been fairly good in bed using what I got. When I was in the process of breaking up with a girl I was absolutely in love with she said "Well you're a guy with too small a dick" for some ...
A. 19 February 2012: Most women can only reach orgasm through stimulation of their clitoris, which isn't located in their vaginal canal at all. If your soon-to-be ex is a "size queen" perhaps she should find a nice doorknob for her monstrous gaping black hole and leave ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he will not take advice from a girl
Q. When waiting for a take away once with my ex boyfriend, I was reading a magazine with a sex positions article in it. Being flirty, as a joke I showed it to him and he put it back on the table and said angrily I'm not taking sex advice from a girl! ...
A. 18 February 2012: Well, honey, personally he sounds like a misogynist. They're really good at hating women and thinking lesser of us just because we have a dirty ole vagina instead of a magic penis.
Consequently, they still want to put their magic penis in our dirt... (read in full...)
Why can't a married woman be a good friend to an ex-lover?
Q. we are coworker and she is married, i love her truely from the heart still i think about her 24hrs may be she will talk to my like a close good friend (not expected kisses etc) but close friendship as she earlier have with me . sometimes i think ...
A. 17 February 2012: Your desire to be close to her is purely selfish. You want her around because you love her still. You are not her partner now, her husband is. It's time to move on.... (read in full...)
My nipples have started to become sore, but I've never had sex!
Q. I'm usually the first one to say "get checked by the doctor" but was hoping it could just be a passing thing. This is a little embarrassing but painful. My nipples have become hard and sore, i've never had sex so definitely not pregnant and period ...
A. 17 February 2012: You might also be suffering from "joggers nipples":
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fissure_of_the_nipple
... (read in full...)
How do I deal with built up hatred for my ex? He just went missing when I told him I was pregnant and he never cared to check on me until months later
Q. It has been about 4 years since I had an abortion. I had gotten pregnant by my ex. I had also gotten sick around the time I was pregnant. I had to make a choice to have surgery for my illness and lose the baby..or stay sick and keep it..I ...
A. 17 February 2012: Abella is absolutely correct. He behaved in an incredibly irresponsible and hateful way. Fighting with him or "telling him off" in the guise of "closure" will not actually help you as much as you think.
I suggest if you are in serious emotiona... (read in full...)
How can she love us both equally?
Q. If a women says she can't choose between 2 Men because she says she's in love with both so when I got out of my relationship and told her 2 Make a choice the other guy is her fiancé so she got so upset that she couldn't go 2 work for over a week she ...
A. 17 February 2012: The human heart isn't a limited thing.
Think of it this way. When a woman has one child, she loves that child with all her heart. But say she has another child, and perhaps even another. Now she has THREE children. Does she suddenly have no room ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had several threesomes and hook ups in her past: liberal open-minded girl or just a slut?
Q. Well, I know this topic comes up a lot but here I go anyways: I'm dating this girl for the last 5 months. She has been always open about her attitude about sex, and admitted to me that she has had a lot of threesomes, hook ups and ongoing on and o...
A. 17 February 2012: If you can't deal with her displaying the same sort of reproductive and sexual rights as all men have, then break up with her and find a more prudish "conservative" woman. The thing is with "sluts" is that we tend to have many great qualities like ... (read in full...)
I think she has a problem with me being a Christian, is she a bad friend and should I stop hanging out with her?
Q. I'm a Christian. I'm not a bible thumper, and I love the gays, and I swear, and you wouldn't know I was a Christian if I never told you. Last summer I got a job teaching kids art at an art school, and there I met a girl my age that was really ...
A. 15 February 2012: You should tell her that the hateful bigotry she's displaying is one of the reasons people like her claim to hate some Christians. She's no better than them, hating people because of their beliefs. It's the exact same hate, just packaged ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend told me I act weird when I receive blow jobs
Q. My girlfriend of 6 months is 12 years younger than I am, but very much more sexually experienced than I me. I got married young and I have only been with two women in my life while she is very adventurous and loves sex. She is also blessed with bei...
A. 15 February 2012: I absolutely agree with the other posters that say she's sexually immature. Putting you down for enthusiastic sexual response is a LOW BLOW, and can absolutely kill your sexual desire for her. She probably has no idea just how incredibly insulting ... (read in full...)
Engaged guy texting obscene messages to me. Should I tell his fiance?
Q. Here's my situation. Long story short, there's this guy I met and talked to maybe 3 times. He seemed really friendly, and nice so I added him on facebook. He got a job somewhere else, got engaged. (I'm also engaged)and he hasn't really spoken t...
A. 15 February 2012: Since you blocked him, you no longer have any proof of those conversations. If you talk to her, she won't believe you if you don't have proof. And even if she DOES and confronts him, he'll tell her that because you didn't SHOW her the conversations, ... (read in full...)
I feel that my association with this girl is just screaming 'pedophile' even though it's legal
Q. Hey, In a weird situation right now regarding a girl's age. So the backstory is, I was out at a club with my friends, ended up talking and dancing with a few girls. As standard, try the whole 'are you coming back to mine thing' haha to whic...
A. 15 February 2012: You're still extremely young yourself. It's not unheard of for high school girls to have college age boyfriends, because a large number of girls prefer dating older people. It's common enough to not be a problem with most people although SOME FOL... (read in full...)
Should we get another man involved because I cant get my wife to orgasm any more?
Q. My wife and I are seventy still want sex. I can't keep it hard to insert it in the vagina. I have had this problem for about five years, it just will not stay hard long enough, I can have a orgasm my wife uses a strong vibrator,on me and it still ...
A. 7 February 2012: So buy her a realistic penis sex toy and use it on her. Problem solved!... (read in full...)
Why was I not able to reach climax?
Q. hey so the boy i like and i hung out today we were making out and then he started to finger me, it was his first time doing it and my first time being fingered he figered me for over an hour and i couldn't cum i have fingered myself many...
A. 2 February 2012: Because men aren't both with female genitals, they don't automatically understand that most women need clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm. You have to show him where and what your clitoris is and explain how you like to be touched.
... (read in full...)
Performance anxiety is preventing us from having sex, help?
Q. Hello all. I posted once on here already describing some awkward sexual issues with my girlfriend, and now that things have played out a bit since then, I wanted to re-address things. My girlfriend and I are both virgins, in a committed, lovin...
A. 31 January 2012: Have you tried masturbating with a condom on? If the problem is that the condom is "breaking your focus", then integrating the condom into your normal sexual routine (not only with your partner but also with yourself) can help make you totally ... (read in full...)
Wife Always Walks Ahead of Me...Far Ahead
Q. This is a puzzling thing for me. About 10 years into my marriage I noticed that my wife would immediately walk ahead of me when going places. She doesn't slow down, just keeps walking. She is not more attractive for a woman than I am for a man, ...
A. 29 January 2012: If you think you can do better than her, and your only complaint is that she walks faster than you, I think she's the one who can do better.... (read in full...)
My red hair gave me nothing but the blues
Q. I was bullied quite badly at school for having red hair. That was 7 years ago, i'm 24 now and look completely different, but i still feel like i'm the same person i was back then. If somebody compliments me, especially a guy, i just won't believe ...
A. 29 January 2012: I don't understand the UK's obsession with being mean to redheads. In the US, Redheads are almost universally considered sexy and beautiful, and red hair is HIGHLY prized as a beauty trait. The folks across the pond really need to wake the hell up ... (read in full...)
We hooked up twice and now he ignores me
Q. hey there, so i have a slight problem, i have this friend we use to date back in the day but it didnt work out for a few reasons, but recently we have partied with each other a couple times we hooked up twice, he does have a girlfriend and i feel h...
A. 29 January 2012: No, he doesn't like you. He knows that you like him and will have sex with him, that's why he keeps you around. You're his piece on the side. He doesn't respect or care about YOU or his poor girlfriend.
... (read in full...)
Advise required on how to keep our affairs on the boil
Q. i had sex continually with my wife's good friend who too is married for many monthes. we know its wrong but we both want to continue. please advice what we shud do to continue our relationship....
A. 29 January 2012: How about Divorce your wife?... (read in full...)
He's ok to do things when I"m on my period, I'm not!
Q. So me and my boyfriend were fooling around, having a good time, clothes on, and he went to put his hands in my pants, but I said no because I'm on my period, which I think is gross, and I thought he'd be grossed out when I told him, but he told me ...
A. 29 January 2012: It's not gross, hon, it's just blood. Totally harmless. Plus, orgasm can relieve cramps.
Just wear a tampon during oral sex and you'll be fine. Since he should be focusing on your clitoris during oral sex, he shouldn't get any blood anywhere... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to prepare for a birthday spanking?
Q. My birthday is coming up and my boyfriend says he is going to give me two gifts. One that I will really enjoy, the other is going to hurt. I asked him about the one that is going to hurt, and he tells me just wait and you'll see, then he puts his ...
A. 29 January 2012: For full disclosure so that no one freaks out, I want to let every reader know that I -very much enjoy- impact play and my relationship with my husband is totally consensual and healthy.
I've been spanked many, many times, especially by my husba... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like me on top!
Q. My man isn't satisfied with me ontop ... I've done all the tips from cosmopolitan and different sites. Still he seems unsatisfied ...its so bad to where when I see his unhappiness I get sick of trying and walk out the room...I feel less of a woman. ...
A. 25 January 2012: Um...so, don't be on top anymore?
If he doesn't like it, why focus on it? Why be committed to only one sexual position? ... (read in full...)
Can a woman eventually turn into a bi-sexual after an age?
Q. Can a woman eventually turn into a bi-sexual after an age? I've been with my partner for about 15 years and she's 37 years old now. She has always told me that she has hated the idea of lesbian sex. But lately she has started tell me that she only ...
A. 25 January 2012: Sexuality in almost all people is fluid. It evolves and grows, and can change, as a person grows and changes. With exposure to more people and experiences and time, our ideas about our own sexuality grows, constantly, over our entire lives.
The k... (read in full...)
If I drink energy drinks can I have sex multiple times?
Q. Hello. Me and my girlfriend are going on a trip to New York City and she been making comments like having sex all the time multiple times a day on this trip. It's only days, I'm a little nervous I won't perform okay. She is 31 and I'm 20 and a...
A. 25 January 2012: Caffine cannot give you sexual stamina. You don't get an erection because of caffine. You're thinking too narrowly. Your penis is entirely unnecessary for her satisfaction. You have other things you can use to stimulate, arouse and bring her to... (read in full...)
What's wrong with sexting someone else while in a committed relationship?
Q. why is sexting (sending racy/sexually suggestive texts and FB messages) wrong? I can't see a problem with it and have been sexting an ex-colleague who i have no intention of seeing in reality. My gf of 6 months (who i love and am serious about) ...
A. 25 January 2012: Cheating can mean many different things to many different people. Here's my example. Person A and Person B get into a monogamous relationship. Both expects monogamy from their partner although Person A has a different view of monogamy from Pe... (read in full...)
Men, do you watch porn? Woman, are you okay with your man watching it?
Q. Okay I need to know answersfrom men an women! Men do you all watch porn? Me an my boyfriend of 6 years has had this issue I the past year I found him lookin at porn. So it hurts that he has to look at other women it's not like he's watching a video ...
A. 25 January 2012: Yes, Person12345, it is legal in many places to submit to being "physically hurt" and as long as it is between two CONSENTING ADULTS, it is perfectly fine. You may not "get it", but you don't have to. You should keep your opinions about what other ... (read in full...)
Men, do you watch porn? Woman, are you okay with your man watching it?
Q. Okay I need to know answersfrom men an women! Men do you all watch porn? Me an my boyfriend of 6 years has had this issue I the past year I found him lookin at porn. So it hurts that he has to look at other women it's not like he's watching a video ...
A. 19 January 2012: Yes, my husband watches porn. Yes, I watch porn. Yes, I am okay with both. Sometimes we watch porn together. It does not negatively affect our relationship and never has. It's a masturbation tool, much like was mentioned below me, li... (read in full...)
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