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I came to dearcupid for advice and was instantly intrigued, ever since I've enjoyed passing advice stemmed from my own experience, to help other people through tricky situations. You come across a wide variety of situations on this site and I beleive the more I read, the more i learn about other people and how the world goes round...... |
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For xmas..what do you give a bf who is financially stable and can anything he wants?
Q. what is a best gift for my boyfriend, he can have everything what he want because he is stable in his money., but i still wanted to give him something on x'mas any suggest?...
A. 16 December 2006: Hiya I think the phrase used in the below answer hits the nail on the head! Give him something that money just can't buy. Something with some sentimental value for the both of you.
I'd handmake his pressie if I were you. You could make him a vi... (read in full...)
When one refers to an LD relationship--how far are we talking?
Q. When people refer to 'long distance relationships' how far are they actually talking about?...
A. 16 December 2006: Hi I can remember when I went out this guy who lived in Croydon. I classed that as a long distance relationship when it was only 20-25 mins on the train!!!
Long distance could be anything from a 25min train journey to being with someone who live... (read in full...)
He compares me to his crazy ex wife and say horrible things to me! What should I do?
Q. my boyfriend is going through a very messy divorce,his ex wife went crazy and attacked him and his daughter, she has been diagnosed with personality disorder. he really stresses and says really horrible things and compares me to his ex wife and ...
A. 16 December 2006: Hiya
This seem like a bit of a messy situation. He's obviously still feeling bitter about how his marriage had ended. It is not fair for him to take this out on you.
It is also not fair for you to be compared to somebody that has a violent pe... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious of my partner! He texts someone and is away a lot! What should I do ?
Q. i am suspicious of my partner. he texts someone a lot, keeps his phone with him and lately has been having nights away (UNCONTACTABLE) i opened a credit card statement which showed a £52 bunch flowers. I managed to re-seal it, but mentione...
A. 16 December 2006: Hiya
To be honest I don't blame you for being suspicious. It really does seem that your suspicions are justified. You have seen it with your own eyes.....
Because he clearly does know about the florist and just why would he deny knowing abo... (read in full...)
Can you ever take back someone who has cheated?
Q. What are your thoughts on cheating? It's a long story so I won't go into too much detail right now. If someone cheats and then realises they have made a terrible mistake...have taken steps to try and put things right...begging for you to take the...
A. 15 December 2006: Yeah you right two wrongs don't make a right.
Sounds like shehappy to have an open relationship.... She suggested that because she can just turn round and say "well you slept with soemone else too..." I think that's a ludicrus suggestion to make!... (read in full...)
Can you ever take back someone who has cheated?
Q. What are your thoughts on cheating? It's a long story so I won't go into too much detail right now. If someone cheats and then realises they have made a terrible mistake...have taken steps to try and put things right...begging for you to take the...
A. 29 November 2006: Don't take her back it's just not worth it.... You're gut is telling you know you know you don't trusther.
You want agood relationship and you won't have that now because the trust is gone and it ALWAYS comes back to the trust.
Please beleiv... (read in full...)
Should I have an abortion for my father or keep the baby and maybe jepordise university?
Q. Im 21, and have just found out i am 2 weeks pregnant, the father of the baby says he will stand by me although i doubt him very much and feel i will be left alone with this baby, a single parent. I am currently at univesity and will finish before t...
A. 19 November 2006: I have had an abortion and I do still think about it a lot. I slightly dis-agree with the first comment that was made on this thread... Kerpesa said that she wouldn't have an abortion because she would always be thinking about the what if's.... I ... (read in full...)
He likes my looks and my abilities in bed! Does he want me or just my body?
Q. I'm going through a really rough time at the mo and I don't feel i'm getting support from my friends or family. My bf supported me and made me forget my troubles but we broke up nearly 2 months ago. But we've been talking again, he got in touch and ...
A. 19 November 2006: The point here is that you already feel completely uncomfortable with this situation.... The answer to your question is yes.... If you know that he doesn't want to be in a relationship but does still like you for sex and you let him have sex with ... (read in full...)
We got along well on MSN and then she blocked me! Why would she do this?
Q. hiya im 18 and sooo confused, i know im straight but about 2 years ago i met a girl, she lives in southampton and i live in birmigham so along way a way, but its hard to explain we spoke al day and got on realy well and she gave me her MSN so we ...
A. 19 November 2006: Hiya
This doesn't necesserly mean that you are gay... It could be that you are just anxious as to why she blocked you. If I had a friend or soemone blanking me I reckon I would think about it all the time as well, especially if I saw them and they... (read in full...)
She told soemone that she saw me as a brother... Do I still stand a chance?
Q. I'm 21 and i started liking this girl at my work for over 7 months but i havnt said anything to her. We are really close, we talk about almost anything, and more than half the people at work think that somthing is going on between me and her. But ...
A. 18 November 2006: Yeah you still stand a chance...
She may have just said that to him because she didn't want to admit how she really felt. You will never know until you approach her.
It sounds like she likes you and it will proabbly be best if you just get you... (read in full...)
I'm having his baby but he doesn't seem to want me to meet his parents!
Q. I am 5 months pregnant with my boyfriend's baby. We have known each other for 6 yrs. but have only been dating for five months, and living together for 3. We get along well. He just told his family that we're having a baby. I have never met his ...
A. 18 November 2006: Yes I agree with you he should want you to meet and bond with his parents.
You are making excuses for him by saying he found it hard to get into a relationship.... fact is you are having his child so he has to pull up his socks now and start ge... (read in full...)
Close friends are telling me things about my bf, that I had no idea about! Should I move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. Last week one of our close friends told me things about him that I had no idea. Such as: Him and his best friend are planning to go to the strip club, This girl has a crush on him and somehow ...
A. 18 November 2006: Hello
You are not over reacting you are tackling this head on... Three years is a long time to be a relationship with soemone and by the time three years has gone past you'd think you would be aware of all this stuff going on....
I would feel ... (read in full...)
Have feelings for my friend's husband and I feel guilty! Is it wrong to tell him my true feelings?
Q. I have been very depressed lately. I still have serious feelings for my friend's husband. We started to email each other last month, but then stopped... we decided we should just talk over the phone if there was something to say. I found out that ...
A. 18 November 2006: Heya I completely agree with the comments below.
Before you deal with or approach this man with your feelings you need to sort yourself first. Until you've doen that you won't truely know how you feel and what you really want.
You sound so ... (read in full...)
I want opinions on whether he holds feelings for me too!!!
Q. This is about a certain teacher who I feel that I am in love with. My question is however not concerning my feelings towards him or even perhaps whether or not a relationship between us is possible or even morally wrong. I would like to describe ...
A. 18 November 2006: Great advice... Let's all encourage her to cause a man to loose his job and career... why would you want to encourage a young girl who is still at school to flirt witha grown man!!!!... (read in full...)
My bf's daughter and daughter-in-law always tell him about their periods! I think this is so weird! Opinions?
Q. my boyfriend which is older and has a daughter that is 34 yrs. old and married with a child. she always talked to her father in her teenage years about her monthly period because her mother was ill. her mother was confined to the house so i don't ...
A. 13 November 2006: Hello
I can understand why you think it's weird but pherhaps you're being a bit too judge mental... You need to be open minded and see the bigger picture.
Right about them being able to talk their mum.... My mum was always ill and confined to ... (read in full...)
My past was wild but I have changed. My bf wants to know all about it..do I tell him?
Q. Hi ! I am having some troubles in paradise....;) I have a very deep and meaningful relationship with my bf. We are thinking of getting married soon. The thing is, recenlty I told him about how, about 6-7 years ago I was a completely different ...
A. 13 November 2006: I will honey
By telling him you'll just be making your relationship more open... only time will tell if he can cope with that or not and if he is the one........
Good luck
SB XOX... (read in full...)
What does 'first, second, third' base mean, in dating terms?
Q. Hi guys! I'm english and just curious really as to what exactly 'first base', 'second base' etc entail? Could someone fill me in?! Thanks!!...
A. 12 November 2006: Hiya I've never heard of Home base being used in this terms... I think it goes:
1st base) Kissing passionatly
2nd base) Touching each other in private regions
3rd base) making love with each other.
Although as the previous writer said it ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you want your ex back or just miss them?
Q. How do you know if you want your ex back or if you miss them? How can you tell the difference?...
A. 12 November 2006: * sorry typing error.... You don't know what you've got until it's gone... not gine!!!... (read in full...)
Is this confirmation that it's definatly over?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up about eight months ago. He met someone else, is with her and for this reason I saw no point in having any contact. We were together a long time but I wanted my dignity. My dad just passed away and my ex always really ...
A. 12 November 2006: Hello Honey
First of all sorry to hear about your loss... It was good of you to let him know... It's a shame though that he didn't offer his condolences back to you.
Maybe this is because he is wary to open up old wounds especially at a ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if you want your ex back or just miss them?
Q. How do you know if you want your ex back or if you miss them? How can you tell the difference?...
A. 12 November 2006: This is a tricky one...
A factor that could help you decide would be to think about how long you have been split up for... Most people say it unsaid law that after three months you should be over months properly and be ready to move on... So... (read in full...)
I was wondering if agony aunts get paid?
Q. could you please tell me do agony aunts get paid or is it a service they provide for free,thank you....
A. 12 November 2006: I do it because I'm addicted!!! hehehehe
'Stands up in circle and says to group'...."Hi My name is Sexybum and I am addicted to Dear Cupid"
Group sighs.. ahhhhh..... ... (read in full...)
My past was wild but I have changed. My bf wants to know all about it..do I tell him?
Q. Hi ! I am having some troubles in paradise....;) I have a very deep and meaningful relationship with my bf. We are thinking of getting married soon. The thing is, recenlty I told him about how, about 6-7 years ago I was a completely different ...
A. 12 November 2006: Hiya again
I've just re-read and I want to ask you a question.
What exactly have you told him? Have you said to him ANYTHING truthful about your past?
The thing I'm getting it is that everybody has a past right. When you meet a new partner i... (read in full...)
My past was wild but I have changed. My bf wants to know all about it..do I tell him?
Q. Hi ! I am having some troubles in paradise....;) I have a very deep and meaningful relationship with my bf. We are thinking of getting married soon. The thing is, recenlty I told him about how, about 6-7 years ago I was a completely different ...
A. 11 November 2006: Hiya Hun
I feel quite similar... I have a shady past and soemtimes look back and cannot beleive it was me whom doen the things that I done. Put simply I am a different person I wouldn't even consider in the slightest going back to my old ways... ... (read in full...)
Is she and her Mom hinting that I get an engagement ring? Am I paranoid or what?
Q. Okay this may sound paranoid but, It has almost been a year since me and girlfriend have been together and too mark the occasion we have both decided too buy each other something that we can wear / keep. While I was unsure what too buy her sh...
A. 10 November 2006: Heya when I originally read your message I was going to reply that if you and her daughter are very happy then yeah her mum could've well been hinting that you get an engagement ring... mum's in law can be like that! ;-) hehehe.... then I would've ... (read in full...)
This married man is soo addictive..what can I do to stop seeing him?
Q. Should I carry on sleeping with this married man? I met this guy 9 months ago and started seeing him. Unbeknown to me he was married and just separated from his wife. After a few months he decided to get back together with her and give their ma...
A. 10 November 2006: I agree with Eddie you feel guilty because you know that if you were trying to make it work with a man and he was doing this behind your back once a week it would break your heart... It would really hurt me deeply if I found out that this would ... (read in full...)
I have my 'odd' quirks..is there something wrong with me?
Q. Does anybody here ever feel like they are 'odd?;' Sometimes, if my friend is calling me i will ignore the phone i like to be on my own a lot i hate making converstaion i feel that eveyone dislikes me I get very jealous if someone is prettier/...
A. 10 November 2006: Hiya
Maybe this is just a bit of your personality... I know quite a few people who like to be on their own a lot in fact I'm one of them.... I can make conversation but to be honest I prefer to be with peopel who also make conversation... I get je... (read in full...)
I am an 18 year old female..slept with 15 guys since I was 14...Is that a lot of people for my age?
Q. im 18 years old. iv slept with 15 guys. 6 were 1 nite stands i lost my virginity aged 14 4 were relationships I only used protection with 5 of these.The rest pulled out. Do u think that it is a lot of people for my age!!????I dont dare have a...
A. 10 November 2006: I think that you should for a test.... I'm sure that any one on this web site can tell you how nervous they were and sacred that they were before they went for their first STD tests.
It's not really that bad... You don't the person who does it ... (read in full...)
I want opinions on whether he holds feelings for me too!!!
Q. This is about a certain teacher who I feel that I am in love with. My question is however not concerning my feelings towards him or even perhaps whether or not a relationship between us is possible or even morally wrong. I would like to describe ...
A. 6 November 2006: Heya
I's say that the main aim of this site is to provide a variety of views for people on all types of anxieties... hopefully views that can brighten their day or make them see things from an angle that they would have never considered themselv... (read in full...)
He's well endowed! How do I have sex with being hurt ? Any tips?
Q. Dear Cupids, I am 21 years old and have only had 2 sexual partners in my life and to be honest i didn't have a lot of sex with either of them. the first was when i was 18 and was only with the guy for 3 months, the second was a male friend earlier ...
A. 4 November 2006: Heya I can give you some advice for this situation...
As for the oral sex you have nothing to worry about The most sensitive part of a mans penis is the top of it. Anyway you don't have to fit it all in at the same time you can start from the bott... (read in full...)
Does boob size really matter in attractiveness to guys?
Q. This sounds really silly, but...I'm 18 and I think my boobs are too small. All my friends a D's and big C's and I'm barely a C, probly closer to a B 1/2. I'm not a very big girl about 117lbs 5'6". So maybe it's normal for my size. Still my fr...
A. 4 November 2006: Believe me honey having big boobs isn't all it's made out to be.... constantly needing new bras... only certain types are even comfortable and also if you've got big boobs it can get a tadge annoying when it's the only thing that people pick up ... (read in full...)
Sex before marriage? Opinions please....
Q. Someone once told me that it would be better if I slept with a few guys before finding the one to marry. They told me that way I would really get to know men before I settle and get out of the lust stage. I'm almost 19 and I haven't slept with ...
A. 4 November 2006: I agree with Bonym you should only do what is right for you...
If you meet the right person you will know it and if you love them sincerely then you will know if you want to have sex with them or not... and if they love you sincerely they will und... (read in full...)
My periods have changed now that I had sex and I'm scared!
Q. I've recently lost my virginity at the age of 14 although turning 15 in a few days, I've been with my bf for a 1 year and 8 months so I'm pretty sure this relationship will stay stable, although I came on my period a few days after and then it ...
A. 4 November 2006: Heya hun
To tell you the truth you're still quite young for your body to have set into a natural rythym.... I mean my periods didn't become completely regular until I was 18!
What I'm saying is your period may have changed whether or not y... (read in full...)
I want opinions on whether he holds feelings for me too!!!
Q. This is about a certain teacher who I feel that I am in love with. My question is however not concerning my feelings towards him or even perhaps whether or not a relationship between us is possible or even morally wrong. I would like to describe ...
A. 4 November 2006: Baby you're not going to get the help that you need her.. None of us are in a position to do anything that might sort your 'situation ' out.... whether it be sorting this teacher out or sorting you out....
All the people on Dear Cupid can do is of... (read in full...)
I want opinions on whether he holds feelings for me too!!!
Q. This is about a certain teacher who I feel that I am in love with. My question is however not concerning my feelings towards him or even perhaps whether or not a relationship between us is possible or even morally wrong. I would like to describe ...
A. 3 November 2006: Hey Blond Ladie You say you're not naive you're nearly 16 so you know what you're talking about right?
WRONG!! Thta's why you posted the blimming question in the first place... You say you're not naive but your reading these peoples answers ... (read in full...)
Would it be wise for me to move in with my bf and his friend?
Q. My boyfriend is refusing to ask his friend to leave the house they share. He has said that i can move in with them. Is this wise?...
A. 3 November 2006: Hiya do you mind if answering ine question for me.. How old are you and your partner? I only ask because as Stina said the age that you are does make a difference to which living arrangements are suitable...
Either way I can understand him refu... (read in full...)
How can you tell if your ex still loves you?
Q. how can you tell if your ex still loves you?...
A. 3 November 2006: If somebody loves you than chances are they won't let you go that easily..... So like everone hear says.. Calls texts.. emails... She'll do soemthing to get in contact with you....Or find out how you are...
One sure way to tell if she still lo... (read in full...)
Brotherly love
Q. I have been involved in a sexual relationship with my younger brother for nearly twenty years now. We first had sex when he was twelve and I sixteen. I became pregnant with his child and gave birth to a healthy baby boy. Unsure as to what I should ...
A. 3 November 2006: Hey I haven't been on this site for a few weeks but do try to come on as much as I can.... This is one post that has really stood out and if I were to choose to answer any of the questions it would be this one.
First of all to all the people w... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and my middle aged neighbour seems to follow me wherever I go!!!
Q. Um…how can I start this? This problem started long time ago. There is this guy who follows me a lot, he’s middle aged man. I know him, because he’s my neighbour. He has a wife and two lovely kids. He seems to follow me a lot-everywhere. ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hello Hun
I think you need to confide in one of your parents just to be on the safe side.... You haven't got any thing to loose by doing so but you have got soemthing to gain.
AS soon as you confide in somebody who can help you you feel like a ... (read in full...)
Will my best friend say no if I ask her out?
Q. There is this girl i really like. She is my best friend and I think i love her but I don't want to ask her out incase she says no. What should i do?...
A. 24 August 2006: Hiya
If you don't ask you wil never know... And also if you don't act on your feelings they will become apparent to her sooner or later because people just 'clock onto' things like this.
Tell her you think she is special and you wnat to take... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being a sneak!
Q. my boyfriend got a call from a girl last night and left saying he's going for a walk even though it was my only day off in a long time. what should i do....
A. 13 August 2006: Hi babes
You should ask him what it is about... Find out who he went to meet and why... It is a bit suspiscious, but it could also be innocent.
Do you have any other reasons or signs to make yuo think he could be playing away.. I mean the quest... (read in full...)
Oh how I need to be double jointed
Q. It seems my boyfriend and I can't do anything other than missionary position... we have tried me on top but it just didn't work and he kept slipping out or couldn't get in at all. I feel I want to spice it up with different styles, but I'm not sure ...
A. 13 August 2006: Hi
Why not try different places as well as positions! If you 'do it' in a different place to what you usually do you might just end up also doing different positions, you will have to cause you'll have to change your position to suit your environm... (read in full...)
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