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I came to dearcupid for advice and was instantly intrigued, ever since I've enjoyed passing advice stemmed from my own experience, to help other people through tricky situations. You come across a wide variety of situations on this site and I beleive the more I read, the more i learn about other people and how the world goes round...... |
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Oh how I need to be double jointed
Q. It seems my boyfriend and I can't do anything other than missionary position... we have tried me on top but it just didn't work and he kept slipping out or couldn't get in at all. I feel I want to spice it up with different styles, but I'm not sure ...
A. 13 August 2006: Hi
Why not try different places as well as positions! If you 'do it' in a different place to what you usually do you might just end up also doing different positions, you will have to cause you'll have to change your position to suit your environm... (read in full...)
Where do guys MOST like to be kissed? ("tops only"!)
Q. Where do guys like to be kissed. I want to know, tell what is the best place. (anything NOT below the belt?) and also how do guys like to be kissed?...
A. 9 August 2006: It's each to there own.... Best thing is to experiment. Try kissing him everywhere.... you'll know when you've found somewhere that he likes!!
Also try the advice that Malycc gave you and let us know if you backl her theory!!
You'll be sur... (read in full...)
How do the ladies like to be kissed ?
Q. a question for the ladies out there- whats your favourite kissing technique and location?...
A. 9 August 2006: You have to stare at her a little, not in a threatning way!! I mean in a gentle way, as if you are going to seduce her... and lots of cuddles first, pherhaps soem stroking on her neck.... you will be surprised how lovely that feels...
Give ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex with my hubby
Q. How do I avoid having sex with my husband for some time?...
A. 9 August 2006: Just tell him out straight that you don't want to have sex right now....
I don't think we need to know the ins and outs in order to advise you on this situation... The fact is that you feel uncomfortable having sex with him and that's that.
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Im a bit fed up and depressed and cant get out of it... Please help
Q. hey im just gonna get rite down to the subject, i feel so lonely and depressed at the moment, i feel worthless and that im never gonna accomplish anything in life, i dont want to talk to parents or that about it bcoz they think everything is ...
A. 8 August 2006: Davis...
A chemical imbalance in the brain! I'd love to know more about this!! Does it stay for your whole life??
I am guilty of thinking it was an emotion that you could gain control of........ ... (read in full...)
Do women prefer a hairy chest or shaved chest?
Q. what do women prefer, a hairy chest or a shaved chest?...
A. 5 August 2006: I like just enough hair to show that he is man I don't want to snuggle up to a jungle of hair, but I like the little bits here and there... There's just soemthing lustfull about mens body hair!! I love the little line that leads from their belly ... (read in full...)
Im a bit fed up and depressed and cant get out of it... Please help
Q. hey im just gonna get rite down to the subject, i feel so lonely and depressed at the moment, i feel worthless and that im never gonna accomplish anything in life, i dont want to talk to parents or that about it bcoz they think everything is ...
A. 5 August 2006: Glad to hear that... and sorry for all the typing errors in my message!!
Have you spoken to anyone else about how you've feeling at all? Or have you been keeping it all to yourself?
Please reply.... From Sexybum xox... (read in full...)
Im a bit fed up and depressed and cant get out of it... Please help
Q. hey im just gonna get rite down to the subject, i feel so lonely and depressed at the moment, i feel worthless and that im never gonna accomplish anything in life, i dont want to talk to parents or that about it bcoz they think everything is ...
A. 5 August 2006: Glad to hear that... and sorry for all the typing errors in my message!!
Have you spoken to anyone else about how you've feeling at all? Or have you been keeping it all to yourself?
Please reply.... From Sexybum xox... (read in full...)
To shave or not to shave...now THAT is the question!
Q. Do men prefer a shaved woman or not?...
A. 4 August 2006: I was drunk around xmas some time and me and my partner were in th eshower, we found it amusing to shave my 'area' into the shape of a heart..... I completely forgot about it and just went about my daily routine... A couple of days later I actually ... (read in full...)
Having problems with my pill and maybe pregnant
Q. Hi, please can someone help me, me and my fiance had unprotected sex about 4 times about 5 months ago i had only been off the pill about 10 days when my period was late by 3 days i took a test which said negative then came on the day after. I then ...
A. 4 August 2006: Best thing to do is take another pregnancy test. If your not pregant then go to the docters cause these could be symptons of ther illnesses, such as diabties, not enough iron.... It cuold also be a sexually transmitted infection.... who's to say... ... (read in full...)
We are really good friends and would like it to be more, but there are one or two things that are a bit nigly....
Q. I am good friends with this guy and I think we could become boyfriend and girlfriend. We have told each other that we really like each other and he has told me that he is interested in me being his girlfriend but he needs time to get over a long ...
A. 4 August 2006: Oh love
I want to keep this short and simple but I'm not very good at that...
You already know the short and simple answer... If is makes you insecure now, just imaging the future......
Only it's not as simple as that is it because you g... (read in full...)
Ladies: do you think you're more sympathetic to females who cheat?
Q. Why is it on this site that women tend to be so sympathetic to a woman who has cheated and are so very understanding but when it's a man who cheated you hear phrases like, "Once a cheater always a cheater" or "A leopard never changes his spots". Is ...
A. 4 August 2006: I'm not at all sympatehtic to anyone who cheats, you reap what you sow, whether female or male!!!!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Why are women such idiots!
Q. Last Wednesday I had a teeney tiny argument with my girlfriend, I later on apologised (even though it wasn't my fault). On Friday I asked her did she want to do something or go somewhere and got no reply.....fine. On Sunday still no word so I rang ...
A. 4 August 2006: Hiya
I've just gotta sayI read your question and all I've got to say about is is.. (and I don't know if this is in self confession or not, but...) All I've got to say is...
hehehehehehhehe
(P.S I think you did the right thing by telling her... (read in full...)
Im a bit fed up and depressed and cant get out of it... Please help
Q. hey im just gonna get rite down to the subject, i feel so lonely and depressed at the moment, i feel worthless and that im never gonna accomplish anything in life, i dont want to talk to parents or that about it bcoz they think everything is ...
A. 4 August 2006: Heya
First of all how old are you?
I thought I would reply to your question simply because I can relate to you...
I was depressed at a very young age, when I tell you that age other people would read and think 'eah right, you can't be ... (read in full...)
Ladies... Briefs or boxers?
Q. DO girls prefer briefs of boxers???...
A. 27 May 2006: boxers definatly!... (read in full...)
Should I let my 39 hear old brother know how I feel about him dating a sixteen year old?
Q. My older brother is 39 and is seeing a 16 year old girl. He doesnt see anything wrong with it but it is weirding me out! It doesnt seem right. Should I ignore my feelings of disgust and push them aside or should I let him know my feelings? He ...
A. 27 May 2006: Well I think it would be a good idea for you to let him know how you feel. Bottling things up is never a winner with me. You shuld talk to him alone and tell you that you wnat to express some concerns you have with him.
If he has respect for you ... (read in full...)
How can I make this boy choose ME over his girl?
Q. Hi there's this boy that just moved in my building 3 months ago and he is so cute. We been hanging out and talkin to each other from day one. but i just found out that he has a girlfriend and i really want to be with him. I feel that we have cem...
A. 13 May 2006: If you had known he had a girlfriend would you have kissed him? Would your feelings have developed so much if you had known he was already spoken for? Probably not.... Without knowing more about this guy its hard to stereotype him, but here's a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends sister hates me... And I wish he could stop being so sweet to his sister because of this!
Q. my boyfriends sister hates me more than anything. shes 23 and im 20 and my boyfriend is 19. When we started dating everything was nice then around 6months we found out that she was writing all this hateful stuff about me in her livejournal. then 1 ...
A. 13 May 2006: Hiya Krban12
My little brother is 3 years younger than me and whenever he brings girls back to the house (and I hate to admit it but I will) I guess I'm kinda mean to them. Subconciously I watch out for my little brother and I guess I look dow... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with his weird bump??
Q. My boyfriend has a werid bump on his thing. Is that werid? He says its been there since he can remember. We were both each others first so it can be that problem. It is only noticable when its happy. What is wrong?...
A. 28 April 2006: What do you mean weird bump? What sort of bump?
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Guys, What is your views on your partner having male friends?
Q. question for the guys out there..if you were in a marriage or long term relationship how would you feel if your wife/partner was friends with other men? she would go out for the evening with them occassionally (on their own)when you didn't want to ...
A. 27 April 2006: I have a lot of guy mates ,and tend to go out with them instead of girls because I don't click with girls all that good, Saying that lately I've grown bored of hanging out with the men and am starting to enjoy getting out with my close female ... (read in full...)
How do I ask this (married) guy for his number?
Q. i work at a place that has a truck come deliever stuff to us once a week. im very attracted to this guy. but i found out that he won't be delivering anymore after next week. i want to ask him for his number but im way to shy and scared of what he ...
A. 27 April 2006: You don't ask for his number. Being married to someone meens that you have made a commitment to them, they are the one for you that you spend the rest of your life with, no-one else!! And that includes you sweetie! He is married which means he is ... (read in full...)
Abortion advice needed!
Q. Hey people, first post on here. I'm 17, going to university in september to study veterinary medicine. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months and having sex for bout 6 months... few weeks ago we had sex in the middle of my cycle, ...
A. 26 April 2006: Hiya, I think that your boyfriend would want to go with you, and you will need his support. Its his baby as well, I'm sure the whole pregnancy is just as shocking for him as it is for him, I think he would want to support you. Its something you have ... (read in full...)
I don't like my boyfriends mate, how can I get him out of his life!?
Q. So now that college is almost over for the year, i found out that one of my boyfriend's friends is moving to the city we live in instead of another one as planned. I don't much like this guy as my boyfriend has made mistakes with him like smoking ...
A. 21 April 2006: Love to be honest you can't get him out of his life! Being in a relationship means accepting their friends as well, sure there will be some you will hate and some you will like. But it is not for you to decide whether your boyfriend meets up with ... (read in full...)
Do you think he is cheating?
Q. I have been with my bf for 6 years and i think he is cheating, he gets texts late at night from the same woman but he just delets it and does not say anything. We don't live togather but i think she texts him often. do you think he cheating?...
A. 21 April 2006: To tell you the truth I would say yes, I do think he is cheating. You haven't really given us a lot of information, but the info you have given us is the most suspicious within itself.
From coming on this website I'd say that when a man or women... (read in full...)
If someone splits up with you, but still comes back for a bit of the other, are they using you?
Q. if a bloke you've been seeing tells you he doesn't want to be with you,yet keeps coming back knowing full well that u love him to bits,and you cant keep your hands off each other is he just using you or too scared to face his true feelings...
A. 21 April 2006: He might just be confused about his own feelings and finding it hard to split up with you and stay away from you! Many people get this with exes.
He could also be usuing you like you say. Coming back and getting what he wants and then leaving ... (read in full...)
Abortion advice needed!
Q. Hey people, first post on here. I'm 17, going to university in september to study veterinary medicine. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 8 months and having sex for bout 6 months... few weeks ago we had sex in the middle of my cycle, ...
A. 21 April 2006: Hiya Alyxf I just thought I'd tell you something that might help. I've had an abortion (I make no secret of it, because I don't feel the need) So I could give you first hand advice of it....
I don't want to go into detail until you get the resu... (read in full...)
I've been told that my husband has been sleeping with his best friend's widow and seeing prostitutes!
Q. I have being with my partner for 16 years, his best friend committed suicide leaving a distraught very attractive widow. She told my partner that she had always had feeling for him and to cut it short they have had a breif affair. I had very strong ...
A. 20 April 2006: If you confront him about it he will just tell you its not true, and that won't put your mind at rest because I doubt you'll beleive him until you have concrete evidence (e.g walking in on him in bed with someone!)
The problem here is graduall... (read in full...)
After having a colposcopy exam, sex is just unbearable!
Q. Since having a colposcopy exam about 6 months ago ( which i found particularly distressing) i have found sex (oral and penitritive) very painful, to the extent that the strss and nerves that i feel before hand are totally putting me off sex. prior ...
A. 18 April 2006: Can you tell me what this exam is?... (read in full...)
She absolutely refuses to use contreception and won't let me wear a condom!
Q. My Girlfriend refuses to take the any form of contraception OR let me use a condom. It takes much of the pleasure out of sex for me as I am constantly thinking about preventing orgasm inside her. She has let me use a condom on a few occasions ...
A. 13 April 2006: Heya, just read your feedback and I have to be honest when I first read your question I thought you were talking about a girl a lot younger! Honestly I thought she sounded like a silly teenager trying to have a baby!
The fact that she's not a te... (read in full...)
If he doesn't think of me all the time, could he still be in love and just not know it?
Q. My boyfriend of a year and a half says he isn't sure if he loves me because he doesn't think about me "all the time". He is 23 and I am the first girl he has been with for over 3 months. Up until he told me this, I thought he loved me because ...
A. 13 April 2006: Honey he told you he cares about you, he told you you are baeutiful, and he told you that you are special so he obviously has feelings for you. Is it love? I don't know. No-one on this site will be able to tell you that. He doesn't even know ... (read in full...)
She absolutely refuses to use contreception and won't let me wear a condom!
Q. My Girlfriend refuses to take the any form of contraception OR let me use a condom. It takes much of the pleasure out of sex for me as I am constantly thinking about preventing orgasm inside her. She has let me use a condom on a few occasions ...
A. 12 April 2006: She'd love that, unwanted for you but wanted for her!! How old is she? ... (read in full...)
She absolutely refuses to use contreception and won't let me wear a condom!
Q. My Girlfriend refuses to take the any form of contraception OR let me use a condom. It takes much of the pleasure out of sex for me as I am constantly thinking about preventing orgasm inside her. She has let me use a condom on a few occasions ...
A. 12 April 2006: Heya mate, its quite simple really...
SHE IS TRYING TO HAVE YOUR BABY
She's not even considerring contreception because she WANTS to have a baby!! Unless you wanna be a dad stop sleeping with her and put your foot down, once she's pregnant t... (read in full...)
Inexperienced and sex is painful!!!
Q. I have several problems during sex. I am very inexperienced and have only being having sex for the last 3 months, in which I have been taking the pill. Firstly, while finding clitoral stimulation enjoyable it is also quite hard to bear as I have t...
A. 7 April 2006: Whooaa, I have to answer this question as there are several issues that need addressing here, this is a long reply but I hope you read it all...
First of all what do you mean he refuses to wear a condom!!! You don't have to let him have his own ... (read in full...)
He looks 10 years older than he really is and we get odd looks from people.Should I still date him?
Q. Hi everybody...ok to get to the point. There is this one guy I know who is very sweet and caring. I am 19 and he is 25, which isnt a problem at all except for one thing. He looks like hes 35(he dresses older, he is losing his hair already, etc..)but ...
A. 7 April 2006: Hey if you like him date him, have the happiness you deserve and as for people satring and gossiping then I would just say cross those hurdles when you get to them. It might not even happen, yet you're worrying about it now! Worry about them when it ... (read in full...)
How do you learn to kiss a man!?
Q. Hi, I have a great boyfreind, I am 13 he is 15. Its realy complicated so I wont expain. We live in different states but he lives in my hometown where I used to live and go to every summer and school break. I know that he has kissed other girls but ...
A. 7 April 2006: To be honest hun, theonly way you'll ever find out is by doing the deed itself!! Tell the guy it is the first time you've ever kissed someone and you are nervous, that way if he has kissed before he will be able to 'guide' you if you like.
Men h... (read in full...)
I get on so well with my professor... What should I do?
Q. Hello, I have a genuine liking for one of my professors. She is a psychology professor and we have SO MUCH in common. We like the same colors, we wear the same colored clothing (alot of black and brown and dark green), we eat the same foods, we have ...
A. 7 April 2006: Get out more and stop going to her office fro these chats! You cannot get into a relationship with her because she is MARRIED also she could loose her job if anything ever happened! You are obviously attracted to older women, so use this situation ... (read in full...)
Decided to keep the baby but now I'm having 2nd thoughts... Is adoption the answer?
Q. Im in a right pickle. Im having a baby in a few weeks and the baby's dad left me as soon as he knew I was pregnant, telling me to get rid of it. I was sure things would be ok, that id manage on my own, but now he has started saying he wants to see ...
A. 7 April 2006: Hey honey, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, it must be really hard to deal with and I sympathise...
I don't think you should consider adoption just to get yourself out of this situation because once you do that there's no going back and you ... (read in full...)
I still want him.....but he was in bed with someone else....NAKED!!!!
Q. I found my boyfriend in bed with another woman both naked.I still want him in my life i cant let go.Is this right?...
A. 6 April 2006: I agree with Irish, I think she's said all that needs to be said. I would just like to add that you should listen to your gut feeling NOT your heart, you know that gut churning feeling that tells you if you love someone, hate them, desire something ... (read in full...)
After 10 years he says he fancies someone else!
Q. I have been in a relationship for 10 years, now my boyfriend says to my face that he fancies someone else,he says he loves me deeply but what should i do....
A. 6 April 2006: Maybe you need to bring soem passion back into yoyur relationship with him, make him feel extra attracted to you. He's has told you how he feels so he has given you a window of opportunity. Sit down with him and talk about the whole situation. I ... (read in full...)
I know I love him, but I can't be nice to him either! How can I deal?
Q. I have been HURT sooo many times by my ex-husband. Several times while we were married, then he wanted back into my life again. So, I did. Again he has hurt me and the kids. Now, I know I have to be the better person for my kids. One big ...
A. 6 April 2006: I really think you are starting to realise what is happenning here. From what you've said (and I speak from myown experience) there doesn't seem to be much anyone can say to encourage you to take complete control of the situation. Because to do that ... (read in full...)
Are heels when naked sexy or slutty?
Q. Do guys consider it sexy when a woman wears heel naked during sex early on in a relationship or do they simply get the impression that the girl is a slut and begin to treat her like a fuck buddy? ...
A. 4 April 2006: heels, are dangerous! heheheh mens bits are sensitive!! Maybe each man thinks its different it would just depend on the type of bloke you've got, whetehr he's a pig that would look at a women as a sex machine (in which case he's not worth it) or a ... (read in full...)
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