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writes: My boyfriend and I broke up about eight months ago. He met someone else, is with her and for this reason I saw no point in having any contact. We were together a long time but I wanted my dignity. My dad just passed away and my ex always really liked him. I left a message on his cellphone giving him the news...he has call display and did not pick up. He has not called back. To be honest I am a little hurt that he has not had the interest in calling to offer his condolences. Is this his way of reaffirming what I guess I have known all along....we are through...and he is happy with his new love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2006): I'm so sorry to hear of your sad loss but you two have finished, he has a new love and has moved on. Did you really need affirmation?? ITS OVER!!!
If that was me i wouldn't of even told him of the death but that's me. He might send you a condolence card later but seriously i don't see that he should feel that he has to.
His new girlfriend might feel threatened if he does get in touch. You are at a very vunerable time and nobody wants their fella to be a shoulder another woman to cry on, especially an ex.
Come on, move on and forget him. I hope you get over the loss of your dad that's more important than what your ex will do next.
Take care and i wish you well.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2006):
Wait a minute, when you say that "is this confirmation that it is over", were you seeking confirmation in sending the text msg?
It seems over... it has been 8 months.
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (12 November 2006):
 Hello Honey
First of all sorry to hear about your loss... It was good of you to let him know... It's a shame though that he didn't offer his condolences back to you.
Maybe this is because he is wary to open up old wounds especially at a vunerable time for yourself.
I've also got this picture of his existing girlfriend putting some degree of pressure onto him not to contact you. She has probably got her guard up because although you were letting him know because he and your dad were close (which I think was right of you to do) she may see it as you reaching out for your ex at a vunerable time... Therefore she may be applying a certain amount of pressure for him not to contact you.
Although even if this is the case I still think he could at least send you text back... at the very minimilist thing to do he could've at least text back to put the record straight and yes as you say to offer his condolences
However he hasnot done that so to answer your question I would say that I think the answer is yes it does sound like he is sticking to his guns that you two are now over... although this doesn't necesserly mean that his thoughts aren't with you honey.
How would you feel if this was the case because it comes across as though you would be dissapointed by it.
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Sexybum xoxoxox
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2006): i don't care how happy he is with his new girlfriend, that's just plain rude and disrespectful of him to not call back. whether he's happy with his new girl now or not, he could still pick up a phone and give you his condolences or plan to attend the funeral. especially if he was fond of him, like you said he was. honestly, i don't think that this is his way of reaffirming that you two are though; what i think is that this is his way of reaffirming how big of an ass he is. but that's just my opinion. you don't need someone like that in your life in the first place. i'm deeply sorry for your loss.
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