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Will my ex ever realize what he has done to the family?

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Question - (5 January 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 5 January 2009)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

was with my partner for many years and suffered verbal, emotional and physical abuse. all our children are all grown up now and have nothing to do with their father, ive recently divorced him and have left the area where i lived with him and now he doesnt know where we live or how to get in touch with us, and now i think he is with a younger woman who apparantly cant read or write, is a bisexual and looks at womans porn mags and is a bit backward. i know i shouldnt be bothered but do you think that my ex will realize what hes put his family through and ever regret it. its hard to think that a person who has been so cruel could carry on with life and have no remorse

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A female reader, sarcy24 United Kingdom +, writes (5 January 2009):

sarcy24 agony auntI posted a question similar to this a few weeks back and received similar answers. The problem is the man may well think about what he has done but it is not going to change anything. It is likely to be a thought that pops into his head when he is feeing down and then just as easily pops out again. My ex husband was not nice to me and as far as I am aware he feels absolutely NO remorse. He has nothing at all to do with me or our child. In his mind we are just a financial burden. When you have been with someone for a long time and they treat you shamefully you desperately want them to feel some shame or sorrow for their actions but from experience they don't. I too was upset by the way we had been treated and I sent many texts asking him how he could have done what he did to us and did he not feel terrible but be never responded and eventually i had to accept that either he didn't see it like that or that he just didn't care.

There is no point in you thinking about who is is with and where he is living and that he doesn't know how to get in contact with you because quite simply he doesn't want to. Do your best to forget about him completely and concentrate on looking after yourself and getting some fun for you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2009):

i think he will someday but i wouldn't spend my time worrying about it i sure he does think about but love try and move on with your life yes yet your feelings out cry scream shout what ever feels good but try and let go of your past beacuse one day he will feel like a dick head for he has done i promise x

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (5 January 2009):

Honeypie agony auntMost likely he will never understand or admit what he did was wrong. And I would bet he is continuing he behavior with this new.. backwards girl.

I fell sorry for her. ( the new girl/woman in his life)

Be glad that you are rid of him. You moved on physically, maybe ti's time to do so spiritually and mentally. Concentrate on you and your kids, he's a waste of time.

Make a good happy life for yourself, you deserve it.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (5 January 2009):

You stayed with him for long enough hoping he would change, and he didn't.

Why do you expect him to change just because you left?

He's going to carry on like this forever and if this woman is stupid enough to stay with him for as long as you did then it's her loss.

Good Luck!! xx

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