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writes:I'm torn.I met a 22-year-old man on a plane this past weekend. We really hit it off and had a lot in common. When we got off in LA, he asked for my number, saying he'd like to take me out to dinner. I told him it would easier for me to reach him, so he gave me his cell number.Here's the twitch: I'm a 49-year-old widow (although I look 10-15 years younger due to good genes), and while he did tell me he was an actor, he didn't tell me he was a well-known, up-and-coming actor with paparazzi often following him around. The 27 year age difference weirds me out a bit (especially since I have a son who is a year older than him). But I am drawn to this man, both mentally and sexually. He's funny, smart and he seemed to get me.What to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2009): go for it! men do it all the time and dont freak out- i say tap that- he's not a child and he will appreciate your experience!
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reader, sundappled  +, writes (29 December 2008):
You are both adults. You have a connection. You are both interested in each other. You are both available. Sounds good to me!
Obviously there would be difficulties in a relationship of this age gap, putting other people's opinions aside, the main problem I can see arising is how seriously you would both hold it: a 22 year old up and coming actor seems an unlikely purveyor of life-long relationships and as a 49 year-old woman you need to ask yourself if a fling or intense but two to five year long relationship will benefit you in the long run.
But that's in the long run: feeling a connection with someone can be a rare thing and I think you owe it to yourself to explore that: go for dinner and enjoy yourself! Be honest so that the age gap does not become an issue within the relationship itself; if you can laugh and joke about it that's even better. Should you both want to take it further I would recommend considering how your son would feel about the relationship.
And ultimately, be happy and flattered: a toy boy sounds like good fun to me ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): go for it i'm 46 and have been flirting with a 22 year old for several month, we have now moved to the next stage,ie kissing and are both enjoying each others company. you only live once and as long as no else is involved just enjoy.
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (29 December 2008):
 Personally I would like to say what the hell go for it! However I am in the same age range as you and would be very cautious so I probably would feel too embarrassed to call/ go out with him. If you are a good looking woman with attitude then going out for dinner with a 22 year old man is perfctly ok. I understand where you are coming from though with peer pressure, what other people might think etc and so for me that would be too much to deal with. I would be frightened that I was making a fool of myself. I don't think my view is right and in reality who gives a toss what people might think it is down to the two of you but how the outside world sees me is over important to me.
I would go if you feel drawn to him, have things to talk about and basically want to. One dinner is nothing in the scheme of things but be careful with your emotions.
Have fun
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): You only live once and it was fait that had you both sitting on that plane. You both like each other and you are both interested so you should call him. You can be honest with him and tell him your age and that you have a Son his age and see how he feels. As long as you put all your cards on the table there is no harm done. Some men really like older women and he probably will not have a problem with it, he is obviously attracted to you.
You don't want to look back at this and ask "what if"
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