We played truth or dare, what did my wife get up to?
Q. Hi. A bunch of us (about 12-14 people) were playing Truth or Dare a week ago at our house. My wife and I are happily married for a few years, and this is not the first time we have had 'semi-wild' parties (read, not swinger parties, just 'fun' ...
A. 1 December 2007: Glad to hear you're both moving on with your lives. Now you know what can come of these types of game play and how dangerous it could be. No more worrying about what might have been. She gave you her version and let it be. Great, and glad to ... (read in full...)
What is this lump I have in my groin?
Q. I'm a virgin, but i found a lump on my inner thigh which is sitting on the right side my vagina (the edge of the lip). Its not too hard but if i apply pressure to it, it does hurt a little bit. What is it ? Im really worried about it and i'm ...
A. 7 November 2007: Hmmm.
Sounds like (****PLEASE NOTE: I'm not a doctor so I can't diagnose what you actually have. I can only speculate from the information you have given.****) a Bartholin cyst. These usually tend to lie on one side of the vagina near the oute... (read in full...)
Did I lose my virginity? Did he? What happened here??
Q. im worried!did it happen? me and my bf was fooling last night. im a v and wanna stay one till im married and my bf knows that. but last nite he did put he's thing in me but not in my vagina but the other one. i really dont know what exactly happened ...
A. 6 November 2007: Well, at the rate your going you won't be a virgin for very long. Pretty soon you will want to feel his penis inside you. Simply put, if you want to stay a virgin until your married, don't allow yourselves to be in situations that will involve you ... (read in full...)
I'm married, never cheated on my husband, and the tests reveal I'm HIV positive. How do I tell him this...?
Q. How can I handle my life? I'm 30 yrs old I have i'm married for 6 yrs now. i didn't have sex with other guys but when i tested my blood i'm positive with HIV, do you recommend to tell to my husband? He will kill himself and I belive him he didn'...
A. 6 November 2007: First question: are you sure your husband hasn't had sex with other women except with you? Has your husband been tested for HIV? Could you get him to get tested? I think this might help your situation greatly.
Did you have sex with any other me... (read in full...)
We played truth or dare, what did my wife get up to?
Q. Hi. A bunch of us (about 12-14 people) were playing Truth or Dare a week ago at our house. My wife and I are happily married for a few years, and this is not the first time we have had 'semi-wild' parties (read, not swinger parties, just 'fun' ...
A. 6 November 2007: I agree with Eddie (by the way Eddie, 5 stars!). It was a game. Like he said, any number of things could have happened behind those closed doors. But if you don't know how you would feel if you knew wife gave him oral sex or a handjob, then stop ... (read in full...)
He may love me or may not love me.
Q. I have been with my bf for 2 years. Recently we have been having problems over his lack of interest in me and the relationship. He has retaliated by not coming home until 8 or 9 every night and on weekends alot later than that, refusing to tell me ...
A. 4 November 2007: I think the bigger question is why would you ALLOW him to destroy your heart?
You are in effect giving him the power by which to destroy your heart and walk all over you. You have to believe that the love you have to give is more precious... (read in full...)
Could I still be pregenent
Q. On October 27, 2007 I had sex with my ex and the comdom burst and he came inside me. On the 1st of November I came on my period could I still be pregnant?...
A. 3 November 2007: While in most cases it is considered "normal" for a woman to NOT have a menstrual cycle/period while pregnant - there are times when a woman will continue to experience periods and is indeed pregnant. That being said, the answer to your question is ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel so lost after breaking up?
Q. OK, last night I broke up with my bf of 4.5 yrs, we have'nt really been happy for the last yr or so as we lost our spark and both of us did nothing to help our relationship until it was too late. Last night, I sat him down and told him we are ...
A. 31 October 2007: Yeah it's normal. Especially after a relationship that lasted as long as yours. You put lot's of emotion and time and consideration to him that now you have no outlet for those strong feelings - even though the relationship was doomed. So it's ... (read in full...)
Do I continue with or end this relationship?
Q. i m in love with a guy and we have sexual relation also. now i wanna marry with him but he is not ready to talk with his parents. now plz tell me either i continu this relationship or end this relationship....
A. 26 October 2007: Well - I see that your flag says India - so I'm assuming that's where you are from. I'm also assuming that this is not an arranged marriage either (and for those reading this I DO have friends from India who's marriages were arranged by their ... (read in full...)
Love affairs from afar, circumcision, and masturbation.
Q. First, I'm in a distant relationship and love my gal too much. This is what's causing da problem. I think about her to the extent of my head aching. I miss her so much that it really hurts. Sometimes i feel she doesn't love me as i do because ...
A. 26 October 2007: Thinking about her to the extent of your head aching? Hmmm
Well, I don't know what to say about that. I guess you could just stop thinking about her soooo much - but that's probably easier said than done. How distant is distant? Could it be th... (read in full...)
We are devoted Christians, is it okay to share a bed?
Q. My Fiance and i are Christians,She visited me and was too late for her to go back,she had to spend the night in my house(one roomed house with 1 bed). Please tell me was i suppose to sleep together on one bed? or i leave her and go to a lodg...
A. 26 October 2007: In my opinion, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. So long as the two of you aren't engaging in ANY type of sexual activity while sleeping together. No touching, petting, rubbing, sucking - none of that. People who claim to devoted ... (read in full...)
She's a big wimp and can't stand pain... how can we make sex better for her?
Q. To make a long story short, the girl I'm currently dating lost her virginity to me...which is nice. However, she is in her late 20's. A little odd, but not really the issue. The problem is, sex with her is difficult, meaning she can't seem to ...
A. 24 October 2007: First, it might be beneficial that she see her gynecologist as there might be a problem that needs to be resolved. The reason it wasn't noticed before is because she was a virgin and never had a penis pushed inside her - so now that she's finally ... (read in full...)
How long will it take for this problem to fix itsself?
Q. I am a fifteen year old boy, my foreskin doesn't come back, I believe this is called phimosis. I don't know what to do, I dont want to tell my parents, it isnt a problem, i just feel uncomfortable with it. What can I do, and how long will it tak...
A. 22 October 2007: Right, this won't fix itself. You'll need to inform your parents because they will need to take you to the doctor to have it checked out. The doctor may have to do an "intervention" in order to get your foreskin to retract. One question: was the ... (read in full...)
My son has to repeat the 8th grade and may have ADD.
Q. My son has to repeat they 8th grade, he has alway's had trouble in school..he does not want to repeat..he feel's like his teacher's think he is stupid and have given up on him and he is giving up..I have limited control because after my divorce I ...
A. 22 October 2007: Well, first of all - he can't self diagnose himself with ADD. And the only way he will get ANY medications for ADD is if he is appropriately evaluated by a psychotherapist who will give him the diagnosis is that's what it is.
I think the best... (read in full...)
I need help with an inter-racial decision.
Q. I need opinions on Inter-racial dating. I am a mexican/white girl. I have been goin out with man of black skin for the past month. I really think he is cool. However, the people in town do not always apporove. Also my mexican friend revolts and ...
A. 21 October 2007: Love transcends all! So whether or not you want to date within your specific nationality or outside of it, love is what matters. Your friends, however shallow will begin to see what you see in your man once they really get to know him - and if ... (read in full...)
Is cum and sperm the same thing?
Q. what does itmean when my boyfriend says "can i cum in your fanny" does it mean can he jus have an orgasm without a condom on? is it the same as spunk? is it al the same stuff? can cum get me pregnant if it goes in me or is it just sperm that gets ...
A. 21 October 2007: Ahem.
fanny...
buttocks: the fleshy part of the human body that you sit on; "he deserves a good kick in the butt"; "are you going to sit on your fanny and do nothing?"
female genitalia: external female sex organs; "in England `fanny' is vulga... (read in full...)
Why is a man being a virgin in the west a shame?
Q. Why people in the west think that an adult man to be virgin is a shame? I think being a virgin, because you don't want to put yourself with someone who doesn't deserve to make love with and to be with a lady who shares the same beleif, is something ...
A. 20 October 2007: I like what martini said.
Be proud of your beliefs. Stand firm on them. Your beliefs are what got you where you are today. And your beliefs will take you to places you've never even dreamed of. Stay faithful and prayerful.
Society has t... (read in full...)
Is cum and sperm the same thing?
Q. what does itmean when my boyfriend says "can i cum in your fanny" does it mean can he jus have an orgasm without a condom on? is it the same as spunk? is it al the same stuff? can cum get me pregnant if it goes in me or is it just sperm that gets ...
A. 20 October 2007: Okay. Cum and Sperm are NOT the same thing. "Cum" is a derogatory or slang term for "semen". It is also a slang term given for the act of orgasm/ejaculation. Semen is the name given to the fluid a man emits when he ejaculates (or cums). Sperm ... (read in full...)
Is my penis a normal size for a 13 year old?
Q. err hi i was wondering if this is normal im 13 and my penis is 5.4 inches long i mean i think thats good but is it ok to be so big so young?...
A. 20 October 2007: Every penis on every boy grows at a different rate until it reaches its predetermined size (genetics). Sure, it's normal for you to be that size. But don't put too much focus on it. Focus on school right now.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Condoms keep going missing, but it seems impossible that he's cheating!
Q. Well, here I am again -- the saga of the missing condoms continues. I wrote a few weeks ago about a collection of condoms in my boyfriend's closet, that have been disappearing. Many of you and some of my guy friends stated that my boyfriend may be ...
A. 18 October 2007: Yea, I'm with the anon female respondant on this one. I would definitely NOT rule out the daughter taking the condoms just yet. I too started having sex at a young age - which means girls (daughters) were having sex at a young age too.
Relax... (read in full...)
Cheated on my husband and now I'm pregnant.
Q. I am in love with a man and he is really good to me. However, I cheated on him and he was always working and not making any time for fun with me. I am pregnant and wondering if I should tell my husband?...
A. 18 October 2007: I think you should. If you don't and he finds out later it'll be MUCH worse!
If you tell him now about the mistake, maybe you two can work out the problems in your relationship and mend it. It gives him time and his right to decide if he wants... (read in full...)
How do I deal with b/f BO?
Q. my boyfriend has a bit of a B.O problem. i mean ont get me wrong he baths daily, uses aftershave and keeps clean but he doesnt use anti-persprint under his arms and tey get sweaty and you can smell it. he comes over to me and he leans over gives me ...
A. 17 October 2007: Well, everything that everyone said is good. A nice, inexpensive anti-persperant deodorant is good. But because he's probably going through puberty and his body is working in overdrive, he might need a little time finding the right one for him. ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion after the rape, my religion says it's wrong. I will never be forgiven...
Q. i had an abortion because i got pregnant by someone i didnt want to have sex with in the first place (date rape) and i didnt want to raise the baby or have my family know that i was raped (they are very religious and would disown me if they knew i ...
A. 15 October 2007: Hey darling. Hell is not an option for you. The anonymous female reader said it best when she quoted 1 John 1:9. There's also another passage in John 1:29 that states "Behold, the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world!" TAKEN AWAY! ... (read in full...)
I can't get my juices flowing. What can I do?
Q. hi, my husband and i are having sex problems. he thinks I dnt luv him and that he doesnt turn me on i gave birth a year and 5mos ago and have been through a really rough time. My husband was deported the day of the babys birth, then i moved wi...
A. 12 October 2007: Well, I definitely think you need counseling. Not that your crazy or anything, but that you have been through a lot of stuff, and it's weighing heavily on your mind (or so it seems).
Sex STARTS in the mind - it's psychological at first. ... (read in full...)
I would love to make love to him more often and for longer, but he is not very forthcoming! Help!
Q. Hi I am married with 4 kids, 2 quite grown up and 2 still at home. I would like some marital advise. My husband and I are having some problems in the bedroom area of our lives. He is not overly active and I am wanting more. He is satisified with a q...
A. 10 October 2007: Hmmm - communication. That's your starting point. Talking to your husband to let him know what you want, need, and how he can give it to you.
However, I'm left wondering if there have been something you might have inadvertently left out. Ha... (read in full...)
My best boy mate and I have a sexual relationship, but when we went out it didn't work! Is it right to stay as we are, then?
Q. i have a best boy mate. we have a deep history together. we also currently have a sexual relationship but we are still virgins. we both want to lose our virginity to each other. we talk about how great it would be if we got married. though when we...
A. 10 October 2007: You should ask him how he feels about you. Or create a scenario and change the names of the persons and tell him the story of one woman who fell in love with her best male friend. Ask him what he thinks about it. See how he reacts to it. You ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cant ejaculate. Do we have a problem here?
Q. Recently my boyfriend cant ejaculate,We have sex for a long time but there is just no end so we both give up.This has happened twice in the last week.DO we have a serious problem?...
A. 4 October 2007: If this is something that has happened suddenly I'm sure I'm not the only person who would say that he needs to see a doctor immediately!
However, there could be some psychological issues that are taking precedence for your boyfriend at the mome... (read in full...)
I took antibiotics while on the pill and now I am late.
Q. I'm currently taking birth control, and have been regularly for about the last five months, and my period has always been regular, arriving on the exact day it should. At the beginning of this month, I was also taking antibiotics, for one week, an...
A. 4 October 2007: Taken directly from the Mayo Clinic website:
The effects of antibiotics on birth control pills may be overstated — except in the case of one antibiotic, rifampin. Studies clearly show that rifampin decreases the effectiveness of birth control ... (read in full...)
How do I break up a friends with benefits deal? Is that even a good idea?
Q. HELP!! Im currently dating this guy, and so far we've been having fun to the fullest! Yes we argue but we make up that same instant (nothing serious) , we aren't in a relationship, but were sexually intimate. So u can call it a friends with benefits ...
A. 3 October 2007: Yeah, just let him know what's going on. I think it's unfair to assume that he doesn't want a relationship too! Men, like women, can become emotionally attached to their friend with benefits. I should know, it happened to me! Maybe if you tell ... (read in full...)
I lost weight but I'm still not fully happy. How can I gain confidence?
Q. Hey everybody, i am 17 years old and did weigh 16 stone. i was a size 18/20 clothes and had glasses. i felt fat and ugly. i got bullied all the way through school every day i would get a comment "fat bitch" "errr look its blobby" "haha fatty bum ...
A. 1 October 2007: The most attractive thing about a woman (or a man) is that they FEEL like they're beautiful. This is hard to do when you've had years of being told you're fat, or ugly or whatever the case might be. Phil is right, school kids can be cruel.
... (read in full...)
Will it hurt my boys not to have a male influence in their lives?
Q. Curiosity question here. I am currently separated from my husband and seriously considering divorce. Of course at this time in my life I feel like I don't ever want another man in for life for as long as I live. Every experience I've EVER had ...
A. 30 September 2007: Hmmm, although I don't support divorce, I do have an opinion to your question...
I too, like many men in this country was brought up in a single mother home. And as all these women do, my mother tried her best to meet all my needs - up until a ... (read in full...)
Losing erection just when I have to wear the condom. Any solution?
Q. Hi ive got a bit of a problem. Whenever me and my new girlfriend go for sex I can not get it up when about to use a condom, it will not work for me. If we do it without one im perfectly fine and I easily get one up fastly. Any solution ???...
A. 30 September 2007: Hold long is it taking you to to get the condom on? Sometimes, the time it takes to get the condom, open the package, find the correct side to put the condom on and roll down the penis is enough time for the erection to go away.
Solut... (read in full...)
Will it put off guys to find out I am going to wait till marriage?
Q. I am a devoted Christian and I am not going to have sex until I am married and I want to wait. I know I am only young but I was wondering if it would put guy's off me, because I wouldn't have sex with them. When I am older would it affect my ...
A. 28 September 2007: It IS a shame that there aren't more girls and boys - young men and women who believe like you do. Sometimes I don't even answer the question because of my religious convictions.
There will be boys that are put off by that fact that you want to ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to use anything else apart from a vibrator? If so what?
Q. is it safe to anything else other than a vibrator or dildo as a self pleasuring measure - if so what? i haven't got a bf at the mo and am a really horny!! any advice would be great. anonymous...
A. 28 September 2007: I've heard of women using cucumbers for pleasure devices. Probably because it their huge size. Just place a condom over it and have at it.
I've also seen women using detachable shower heads to direct the spray of the water onto the clitoris... (read in full...)
Is there a way for girls to know when a guy is climaxing from a bj w/out being told?
Q. Is there a way for girls, performing oral sex, to know a guy is cuming without the guy saying so? ...
A. 28 September 2007: I didn't know that from a woman's perspective (feeling the throbbing). Thank's BlueEyes. So let me ask this, why are there so many women who get upset if the guy comes in her mouth? If you can feel it, why won't she just stop and stroke him to ... (read in full...)
Curious about orgasms...advice?
Q. when a woman comes so hard like 5 or 6 times and is just very sore all ove is that normal ? also is it possible for a man to come 2 times one right after the other ?? ...
A. 28 September 2007: You're not a freak just because you can have more than 5-6 orgasms in one session. Heck, I'm sure many women would LOVE to have that many orgasms in one session. You're just in tune with your body, that's all.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Curious about orgasms...advice?
Q. when a woman comes so hard like 5 or 6 times and is just very sore all ove is that normal ? also is it possible for a man to come 2 times one right after the other ?? ...
A. 28 September 2007: Well, if you're having a full body orgasm 5-6 times per night, and based on the physiology of a full body orgasm which means that all the muscles are tensing and relaxing in quick succession, then it's certainly possible for you to be sore after ... (read in full...)
Is there a way for girls to know when a guy is climaxing from a bj w/out being told?
Q. Is there a way for girls, performing oral sex, to know a guy is cuming without the guy saying so? ...
A. 28 September 2007: Well, to simply answer your question - she needs to be versed on the signs of a man cumming in order for her to be able to know what's happening.
The man, usually will have some sign of cumming. Increased breathing, tensing up or grabbing... (read in full...)
My f*ck buddy mentioned us having an exclusive relationship! What's going on?
Q. I need a guys opinion for this one, please. I have this guy, we were fuck buddies or at least thats what we still are meant to be but we dont have sex any more. Ive known him a year but from june-august I didnt see him as I went to austria for a fe...
A. 26 September 2007: Yeah, sounds like he wants a relationship to go along with the sex.
So the question then becomes do you continue on and have a meaningful relationship with your casual sex partner - or do you dump him and find a new fuck buddy?
Hope this hel... (read in full...)
Could I catch anything by swallowing sperm?
Q. hi my name is amy, as of tonight i started to give blojobs to my boyfreind for the first time. as i was sucking him off i swallowed his sperm could i catch anything by doing that?...
A. 26 September 2007: If there are any sores (lesions) in or around his penis - and any sores in or around your mouth - then sure.
There are also the things you can't see (like some STI's). If you really want to be careful next time, buy flavored condoms so that you... (read in full...)
Large breasts, should I get a reduction?
Q. hi, im a 27 year old from canada. im just like every other girl except that i have extremely large breasts. im a 48 eee and im not fat im only 140 pounds, and every time i go out i get stared to death by guys. at first i like it but after a while it ...
A. 26 September 2007: Well. I know you asked "girls" whether or not you should get a reduction but I do think as a man I can offer some advice on this one.
Although they are large and WILL attract just about every man you come across, they will more than likely g... (read in full...)
Can long term friends become lovers?
Q. Dear cupid, do you think long term friends can become lovers? ...
A. 25 September 2007: It's very possible for friends to become lovers. But like stina said, it depends on so much; the situation, current relationships and the like.
The old adage says that friends make the best lovers. Probably because you've spent so much time get... (read in full...)
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