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writes: I am a devoted Christian and I am not going to have sex until I am married and I want to wait. I know I am only young but I was wondering if it would put guy's off me, because I wouldn't have sex with them. When I am older would it affect my boyfriend relationships? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): This is a smart idea. That pretty much what I believe.
I don't think that guys will be "put off" if they believe in the same thing. So, what I am saying, is to find a guy that believes in waiting until after he's married.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): Nick Lachey waited for Jessica Simpson as he loved her so much. There are guys out there but I think it be easier for you if you found a guy who a christain like yourself anf truely understands why your waiting.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 It will only turn off those guys that just want you for sex, and have no intentions of waiting until marriage either.
It will require a little bit of work on your part to go places where you can find like minded men, but in time, you will find someone that feels as strongly about it as you do.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 It IS a shame that there aren't more girls and boys - young men and women who believe like you do. Sometimes I don't even answer the question because of my religious convictions.
There will be boys that are put off by that fact that you want to wait until your married for sex. It doesn't necessarily make them bad people, just that they aren't where you are in respect to religion and spirituality. God works on us all at different times. Sometimes we're really young and somtimes older when God puts things in our spirit to do or NOT to do. It seems that God has moved on your spirit to save yourself for marriage - which IS the right way!
And don't be tempted by those "other" things that young men and women do that they don't consider actual intercouse like mutual masturbating and oral sex. These things are also damaging to the spirit when done outside of marriage (solo masturbation done in private and without fantasizing about other people I believe is okay though - but that's MY belief).
As God is working on you, so is he working on your future husband. Just remember to pray for exactly what you want in a mate and watch God do his thing!
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): I'm a guy and I'm waiting as well. Some guys might be put off by it but those guys aren't very good people to begin with. If someone can't respect you in this decision then it's doubtful they would respect any other decisions of yours. It will affect your relationships by helping you to weed out boys who see you as simply a sex object and men who respect you as a person. Remember if you are ever feeling overwhelmed that the Lord will never allow you to be tempted beyond your ability to deal with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Not if they are worth keeping honey! You save yourself, the one that respects you enough to respect your religious devotion will be a very lucky man and no doubt glad to wait for you. x
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (28 September 2007):
 If a guy does not respect the fact that you want to wait till you are married before you have sex, then he is not worth being with in the first place. A guy that truly loves you will respect what you want and wait for you till you are ready.
Hold out for what you believe in, i think its a good thing, its a shame there are not more girls like you out there like you.
Take care x
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