What is my sexual orientation?
Q. i'm 16 and really confused of my sexual orientation. when it comes to porn/sex i definitely like straight. i hate watching gay anal and also lesbian sex. when it comes to dating, marraige, life partners; i DEFINITELY want a girl. BUT this is the ...
A. 4 January 2010: Sexual orientation has more to do with who you identify your sexual partners to be. Pornography is not a good foundation to base sexual orientation on.
In pornography, you are watching both male and female actors engage in sexual intercou... (read in full...)
How much does it cost to get a divorce?
Q. The man that im with now is separated from his wife and has been for 4 years. Ive offered him money to get the divorce but he didnt want to take it. I only did it just so he could go ahead and get it over with. How much does it cost to get the ...
A. 26 November 2009: It really all depends...
If there are children, the cost of divorce is really high since lawyers are needed in most cases involving children. If there is joint assets such as a house or multiple cars, a lawyer might be deemed necessar... (read in full...)
Why risk the chance of pregnancy?
Q. If man know when their are cumming, why is it that their still will cum inside? (Especially when they are avioding getting her pergnant)....
A. 3 September 2009: Any man who cums inside a woman should know and understand they are at increased risk of her getting pregnant. Any woman who allows a man to have sex with her unprotected should know and understand she is putting herself at an increased to be ... (read in full...)
Is squirting possible or just faked?
Q. I guess this question is more pertaining to any personal encounters... But never the less, I was wondering is squirting real, is it staged, or faked in some fashion? If it is in fact real, how is it achieved thanks...
A. 27 August 2009: Squirting IS indeed real - not fiction. Although porn will "fake" it sometimes, there are women out there who can squirt when they achieve an orgasm.
Not all women can do it. Some believe women can be taught how to do this while others believe ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but don't want to get pregnant
Q. well im in love with my boyfriend verry much and he lives in texas he is comming down to see me next summer and we planed on making love but im afraid i have done it b4 but now i can get pregnant and i realy want to with him but i dont know what to ...
A. 23 August 2009: Unfortunately, the only way to prevent pregnancy 100% of the time is to not have sex.
I'm sure you've heard that statement before - but it's true. All birth control methods come with an inherent failure rate. Mostly due to human error (not usi... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin, he wants to make love but I'm so scared!
Q. Well, I am really akward when it comes to boys, but there is this particular one who is sooo sweet, and he is just beutiful inside and out, but one day when we were alone, he began to touch me, it felt so good, but as he began to try and unbutton my ...
A. 23 August 2009: Then don't do it! If you want to be a virgin, then stay a virgin. If he is willing to wait, then he will wait and he WON'T try anything. Period.
You need to be firm in your decision to stay a virgin. Tell him your reasons and do NOT waiver. ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my drinking husband because of our daughter?
Q. I am a 49 year old female with a 14 year old daughter. I have been married 15 years and for the entire time I have known this man he has drank; but it seems every year his drinking is getting worse. Even though I am married, I feel like a single ...
A. 23 August 2009: Yes. But not because of your daughter. Because of the vows you made 15 years ago.
The man you fell in love with and married 15 years ago now has a problem and he NEEDS help. Moreover, he NEEDS support. So for starters, instead of leaving,... (read in full...)
It seems as though my husband has lost interest in our children's welfare and that there's 'nothing we can do'. What do you think?
Q. We have grown children , but they are very troubled. Drugs.etc.. And there is a lots of bad news about them, but my husband started to not care about them.He refuses to care about them. He was always trying to keep himself away from painful ...
A. 17 August 2009: Well - this is a hard one.
There are parents out there that will do ANYTHING for their children, even when they've grown and are out of the house. But then there are parents who really want their children to "fly the coup" - get out on your own... (read in full...)
Trying to conceive since last year and havent. Very depressed about it. Any advice?
Q. Hello my name is Christina, i am in so a depressing place. I am 20 yrs old and i want to have a baby. I recently got married 11/16/08 and since then been trying to conceive, but cant. Its really depressing and i feel like im in a dark blocked ...
A. 15 August 2009: Okay - STOP beating yourself up! That's the first thing you need to do. Stop it.
Just because your husband has a little girl does not automatically exempt him from being the problem. Since his daughter's birth there are many things that cou... (read in full...)
Unsatisfied sex with husband has me thinking of a member of the family
Q. Wondering if you could give me some advice, my husband and I love each other but the problem comes with sex. He has never really been able to get an erection in the last 10 years and if he does get one it is not a complete one and dont last long. ...
A. 15 August 2009: I agree with the anonymous female poster below in that you are investing too much time and energy thinking about another man and what he MIGHT be able to do for you as opposed to thinking about fixing the problem in your marriage.
You haven't ... (read in full...)
Separated from husband because I cheated... should I visit him when I'm next in his area?
Q. Dear All, I have separated from my husband six months ago. And we are living in different cities. I am going to the city where he lives next week. I still have feelings for him. But I have hurt him very badly in the past. I have a lot of guilt reg...
A. 15 August 2009: Are you attempting to fight for your marriage? Are you attempting to win back the affections of your husband? Are you planning on telling your husband how deeply sorry you are and your plans for reconciliation should he come back to you? Do you ... (read in full...)
Trying to conceive since last year and havent. Very depressed about it. Any advice?
Q. Hello my name is Christina, i am in so a depressing place. I am 20 yrs old and i want to have a baby. I recently got married 11/16/08 and since then been trying to conceive, but cant. Its really depressing and i feel like im in a dark blocked ...
A. 13 August 2009: Hello Christina.
Most fertility specialists will tell you need to be trying for at least one full calendar year before going to a specialist for a "problem". So at this point, clinically, there isn't a "problem" yet.
Ensure that you and you... (read in full...)
How does horniness work.. ?
Q. is it possible for a horney guy to just be horney for a specific girl? and if a guy gets horney from thinkin of you, could it be because he likes you? not just physically...
A. 10 August 2009: Hmmm...good question. I'll try to answer in the most scientific way possible as to avoid confusion.
Wiki defines horny as "a slang term for sexual arousal and/or desiring sexual gratification". So basically, being horny means the person is sexua... (read in full...)
Seperated and awaiting divorce but I'm not sure about dating whilst going through this process. What are your views?
Q. I separated from my husband not even a month ago and we are getting a divorce shortly when we can afford it. Well I met a guy that went through a divorce himself and has been single for awhile. He's not a huge step up from my ex husband but better ...
A. 3 August 2009: Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. The problem we face is people having that exact viewpoint - that marriage is only a piece of paper. Marriage is a sacred and highly regarded connection between two people who love each other. The piece ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my ex will show or mention the pictures I sent him! What can I do?
Q. Okay so this has got me climbing the walls. I sent pics to my ex bf of me in my bra and now im freaking out cause im afraid he's showed to somebody cause he's an idiot now i realize it duh too late. either way im freaking out and i did this almost a...
A. 3 August 2009: Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. A lot of young people forget that once you send a picture to someone or post a picture on a website, it no longer becomes "your" property.
It's probably better NOT to mention it to him as he probably... (read in full...)
Whats the difference between cum and sperm?
Q. hey there, ok so this is a simple question what is the difference between cum and sperm ?? i'm a girl so that's why i don't know. i also wanted to know what does ejaculated mean ??? thanks =]...
A. 1 August 2009: Well...
Cum is actually used interchangeably as both a noun and a verb. As a noun, "cum" is slang for a man's ejaculate - or semen (ejaculate also being both a noun and a verb. Ejaculate being the fluid that comes out of the penis during orgasm. ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant once the sperm hit air?
Q. what if a guy comes onto a female's hand and then she masturbates and the dry semen is in her vagina... can she actually get pregnant?...
A. 20 July 2009: Sperm can live anywhere from 2 to 5 days once inside the female body. The temperature inside the human is optimal for sperm survival.
However, outside the body, sperm live only a few hours. This depends on the ambient temperature and the rate... (read in full...)
Is my husband THAT unhappy?
Q. here's my situation ive been trying to stay with my husband after the last screw up (internet cheating) but lately he doesnt want to cuddle snuggle we dont even have our almost daily quickies anymore ok so we have a 17 month old son so we ...
A. 20 July 2009: Well, there are many reasons that can be the cause of his issues. But the only way to know for sure is to open a dialogue with him - get to start talking about what the problem is. It may not be that he is 'unhappy' at all. He could be feeling ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant once the sperm hit air?
Q. what if a guy comes onto a female's hand and then she masturbates and the dry semen is in her vagina... can she actually get pregnant?...
A. 20 July 2009: If the semen was totally dry, and not in the process of 'drying', then probably not. If the semen is totally dry, the sperm no longer have their nourishing fluid to keep them alive. So if you masturbated with totally dry semen on your hand then ... (read in full...)
Which position would be good for first time sex?
Q. well i am about to have sex for the first time with my gf (yes i have a condom) and i was wondering was position would be good for the first time...my friend told me like cowgirl (woman on top) but ya......
A. 19 July 2009: Neither I nor anyone here on this site, should be answering this question as it will be "contributing to the delinquency of a minor". This offense is a punishable crime - a Class A
Misdemeanor.
Because of your status of being between the ... (read in full...)
Lack of sex is making me want to leave my girlfriend before I cheat on her!
Q. My girlfriend tells me im hot and sexy. Very often i have to turn down other girls that want sex from me, but my own girlfriend never comes onto me. She has an extremely low sex drive and my only option is masturbation. I am in my early 20's and i ...
A. 17 July 2009: A relationship should not weigh so heavily on whether or not you are or are not having sex with each other. There should be more to a relationship that keeps you two together. When you find a mate you truly love and adore, things like this are not ... (read in full...)
Effectiveness of withdrawal method plus spermicide?
Q. Are there any statistics available on the effectiveness of withdrawal used in conjunction with a spermicide? I'm not on the pill any more and started having sex with my ex again. He never would wear a condom, so we've been using a spermicidal gel ...
A. 15 July 2009: I would imagine there is not a lot of information regarding the pull out method since there are many factors than can contribute to its effectiveness. Spermicidal gel can help, but I am not sure of its effectiveness either. You'll have to read the ... (read in full...)
Men want porn but have to settle for us
Q. Hi there. I just have a quick question about porn watching please... It seems to me, that porn is what men want, but us (real women-their wives with stretchmarks from their children) is what they have to settle for... Is that true? Thanks ...
A. 12 July 2009: In my opinion...
With regards to the women in porn, they are purely an object of raw, physical desire, nothing more. In most cases, the ONLY thing we might want to do with these women is have sex with them. That's all. We wouldn't want them as ... (read in full...)
How important is it for you to see your partners face during intercourse
Q. Body language and expression tells a lot. How important is it for you to see your partners face during intercourse? Do you like seeing the expression of pleasure on partners face during sex? Is that good for you? ...
A. 12 July 2009: For ME, it is very important. On occasion...
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. Intercourse is one of, if not the most, intimate act between to persons to show their love and affection towards each other. Looking into your partners... (read in full...)
He wants to go on holiday together and have sex without a condom!
Q. After i broke up with the man i used to date last year i started to date with a man i knew for a while but i didn't date with him because i didn't like him a lot. As nothing seemed to get improved with the man i used to date i decided to go out with ...
A. 7 July 2009: In my opinion, this is a very bizarre request for someone to ask. Having said that, it is a request that should probably NOT be granted.
Of course, the decision is yours to make. I guess there are people who could argue the side of why you shou... (read in full...)
Can tight vaginal muscles damage a penis?
Q. My boyfriend is always extremely worried that I'm too tight and will cause damage to his penis. I have really good control over my vaginal muscles, but usually during orgasm they squeeze down on him and it freaks him out. He says it's too tight ...
A. 7 July 2009: As a man who has been through this, I can say through my experience that damage did not occur.
She had (has) Vaginismus - a condition in which the muscles of her vagina contract involuntarily. This condition can make sexual intercourse very dif... (read in full...)
His greatest fear is getting a female pregnant..so why ask to ejaculate inside her?
Q. A man's perspective would be most helpful, but if any women have any understanding of this as well, I'll take whatever you have to say-- Why would a man repeatedly fantasize about and ask to come in a woman during unprotected sex, when he also say...
A. 25 May 2009: Well, it is not a fantasy of mine, but I would rather ejaculate inside a woman without a condom than with one on.
For me, knowing that the woman is getting ready to accept my ejaculate unprotected makes my orgasms somehow stronger and better. ... (read in full...)
No protection, change of pregnancy?
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend yesterday but without protection.my periods date is coming nearer,one day after,ie tomorrow.Do i have chances to get pregnant by chance....
A. 23 May 2009: Yes. As "Kellyxxx" has already stated, any unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Can pre-ejaculation cause pregnancy??
Q. if one has sex,but ejaculation is not done ,then does a women has chances to be pregnant without ejaculation.or is it natural that even if ejaculation is not done,then too sperms are released into a females body.plz help..!!...
A. 23 May 2009: Well, the answer is yes and no.
First let's talk about pre-ejaculatory fluid which is also known as "precum". This fluid comes from the Cowper's Gland and functions to lubricate the urethra in males and neutralize the acidity of the urethra ... (read in full...)
Honestly guys, do you really like the taste?
Q. My boyfriend goes down on me a lot and when he kisses me I can taste it and its so gross! He says I taste good but I feel like he is just saying that to make me feel better. Do guys really like how a girl tastes down there?...
A. 21 May 2009: To answer your question, yes.
I absolutely enjoyed the taste of my wife. Some days I couldn't wait for her to get home JUST so I could eat her out. It was absolutely divine.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
We have not had sex for 2 years due to his lack of sex drive...
Q. I'm asking guys, but not only... So, if my husband can't get it up with me, but he is not physically impotent,/night erections present// then is it possible he will be able to get it up with someone else? I mean, I just don't know, if I should ...
A. 20 May 2009: There are many reasons men are not able to obtain erections during sexual activity. However, if he is still having night erections, then the problem is narrowed down to something psychological. It could be stress, anxiety, finances, home issues, ... (read in full...)
Hypothetical question: What happens if the guy wears two condoms?
Q. ok so i was just wondering what happens if the guy wears two condoms??? i'm not at all planing to have sex im just wondering .. but wouldn't one just slip off or wouldn't they just break due to the fact that they're both rubber and wouldn't the ...
A. 11 April 2009: No, using two condoms is not considered safe. Just as you pointed out, using two condoms together will cause one or both of the condoms to break due to the friction of the condoms rubbing together. Only one condom is needed.
Remember, the "saf... (read in full...)
My bf is making me feel like crap sexually :-(
Q. My boyfriend of just over one year has been telling me for months that he thinks I am cheating on him because my "p*ssy feels different and stretched out like I have been f*cking n***ers". He has also then become upset with me when I become more ...
A. 6 April 2009: I think everyone has said what needed to be said: you need to get out of this relationship, FAST!
It is more than obvious he does not respect your wants or needs. You need and deserve to be happy. Find enough courage to get out of this rel... (read in full...)
Who cums first between a guy n a gal?
Q. hi there good people. I'm back again for your excellent advices. here's what I've been wondering most bout: who cums first between a guy n a gal?...
A. 28 March 2009: Are you asking who SHOULD cum first or who actually does by design?
By design, men will cum first because if you break it down to it's most simplest meaning; during sex men are to impregnate women. Simple and to the point.
However, in o... (read in full...)
Pregnancy and having sex!
Q. I'm 21 weeks pregnant. I know that as long as you are told it's okay to have sex by your doctor you are in the clear. The only thing that I was wondering, and quite embarrassed to ask my doc, is does it matter how rough you do it? My husband and I ...
A. 19 March 2009: I think the doc might say however you want it, have it.
With some limits, of course. You wouldn't want to do something that could CLEARLY jeopardize your pregnancy. It sounds like you and your husband enjoy some pretty physical sex and the phys... (read in full...)
Do black men really have larger penises?
Q. I am white women who has only dated white men, but my friend has a black boyfriend and she tells me he is the best sex she has ever had, she only dates black men. she says they have the biggest penis'. I want to know if this is just a coincidence, ...
A. 12 January 2009: Well, yes and no.
There are some black men with larger penises - and then there are some black men with smaller penises. Just like there are white men with larger penises and with smaller penises.
There are studies out there touting that bla... (read in full...)
Do men experience a sore penis after or during sex?
Q. Do guys experience a sore penis after a couple of sexual exercises as well? I've had that a couple of times before and my bf's thing would be fine but this time he told me his penis was sore when we had to continue sex! I was also feeling some pain, ...
A. 3 January 2009: There may be a couple of reasons why his penis is sore after (or during sex).
In my experience, the issue was her pubic hair. Apparently, at the point of penetration - some of her pubic hair was being pushed/pulled into her vagina. While I ... (read in full...)
I'm so upset my 16 year old daughter lost her virginity
Q. Im a mother with strong beliefs .right know i can't think straight just found out that my sixteen year old (girl)lost her virginity and im so hurt im purely old school hey you want that you got to pay the responsibility. my husband wants to beat the ...
A. 1 January 2009: Hey. Even though I don't have any children, I understand your frustrations and empathize with you. The children of today really don't know what sex REALLY entails. The joys, the pain, the ups, the downs, the heartache - there is lots that come ... (read in full...)
Do women like swallowing? My girl says I don't taste good!
Q. Was chatting to my fairly new partner today, and got onto the topic of oral sex. Our sex life is good, with lots of oral sex as part of it. Ive always assumed she enjoys giving almost as much as receiving, when we see each other (fri to sunday a...
A. 9 December 2008: I think it's a matter of preference. Some like swallowing, some don't. Some like the taste, others don't.
My previous partner would do both. Sometimes she swallow, other times she wouldn't. But I always came in her mouth because she knew I r... (read in full...)
I climax too fast, even in case of a slow intercourse, what can I do to change this?
Q. Hi. Me and my husband have been married for four months. I've always/usually have came faster than him, but I was on Lexapro for a time, and it took me longer times to cum, compared to what it used to take me. Now when we have sex, I cum really f...
A. 26 November 2008: I really like this question.
On the one hand, I could say that this really isn't a problem. That you should count your blessings that you are able to come, AND come many times - since there are women out there who have never come or only com... (read in full...)
What are the facts about pre-cum?
Q. Hello, I've recently come off the pill and my boyfriend and I and now using the 'pull out method'. I'm a little worried because once his done his business outside me he re-enters me straight away. Could I still get pregnant? What are the f...
A. 24 November 2008: Once he's done his business - I am assuming you mean cumming. He then re-enters after having ejaculated.
YES! This could get you pregnant. He has not had a chance to completely clear his urethra of semen after the first ejaculation. The uret... (read in full...)
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