What are the facts about pre-cum?
Q. Hello, I've recently come off the pill and my boyfriend and I and now using the 'pull out method'. I'm a little worried because once his done his business outside me he re-enters me straight away. Could I still get pregnant? What are the f...
A. 24 November 2008: Once he's done his business - I am assuming you mean cumming. He then re-enters after having ejaculated.
YES! This could get you pregnant. He has not had a chance to completely clear his urethra of semen after the first ejaculation. The uret... (read in full...)
Please just help me put my mind at ease. Very concerned about my size!
Q. I am a teenage male and a virgin, let's just say 15-18 and I am stuck on the time old question of does size matter. I won't lie, I'm at a 4.5 to 5 inches and for someone like me, you see guys with 6 and 7 inch penises wondering if THEY are big ...
A. 18 November 2008: Hmm, you point out the very thing that many men have difficulty with. Wondering if they'll ever be "good enough" for the woman they are with. Yes, there are women (and men) out there who would prefer a larger penis to a smaller one. To them, ... (read in full...)
Please explain to me if I experienced female ejaculation.
Q. This may sound weird but when my boyfriend fingers me and gives me oral i squirt, but i don't fully orgasm. It's like it feels so good and i just release. The other day i orgasmed and it was really amazing and when i came the same stuff was coming ...
A. 17 November 2008: It sounds like ejaculation to me!
If it feels good and you release - you probably had an orgasm. Maybe not a BIG orgasm that you were hoping for, but an orgasm nonetheless.
The stuff coming out was probably your cum, nothing to worry about. ... (read in full...)
Why does my cum numb my partner's penis??
Q. Please tell me you might know the answer to my question, I am a healthy female no medical issues, but my boyfriend states that after i get off really hard during foreplay, that when we go to have sex after a few minutes his penis goes numb. Why is t...
A. 17 November 2008: Numbness of the penis leads me to think about some type of nerve issue - maybe pressure on the nerves. Perhaps maybe some type of vascular disease or diabetes (not that your husband has any of these but it's worth mentioning).
Is this a new is... (read in full...)
I'm only 13 and nervous about having sex - I don't want babies!
Q. i think im ready to have sex, but i dnt kno yet because babys cuz along wit it, but my boyfriend is waiting on me. so wat should i do im only 13?...
A. 16 November 2008: Well - outside of the fact that you're only 13, if you don't want babies then don't have sex. It's pretty simple.
With sex, there is ALWAYS the chance of pregnancy. EVERY form of birth control has a failure rate. The failure rate may be small... (read in full...)
I'm having a problem satisfying my wife. Advice ?
Q. hello all solve my problem I'm a man and i think that i can not sataisfy my wife and my stay time is about 7 to 10 minute my wife not orgasm within this period why? please let me answers i m waiting...
A. 8 November 2008: There is much more to sex than just intercourse.
Look up some techniques on how to stimulate a woman during foreplay (the list is endless, so I can't list them all there). But try oral sex. This involves using your mouth and tongue to stimulat... (read in full...)
Have I been raped?
Q. (sorry that it's so long) a couple of months ago i got drunk coz my 'friend' spiked my drinks and that night i was sleeping round her friends(John*) house he is about 22-23 he takes drugs n was waiting to go to court for grh(grevious bodily harm) ...
A. 8 November 2008: What happened to you was unfortunate. I don't want to get all preachy, but this is a prime example of why it is so important to KNOW who your friends are and whether or not you can trust them.
What happened to you is called Sexual Assault.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to masturbate the nights he works?
Q. hello my husband works 4 nights a week we are in our early forties we have lots of sex no need for me to want more ,but at night time is when im horniest even though he pleases me is it wrong for me to masturbate on the nights he works?...
A. 30 October 2008: I wouldn't call it "wrong" - but only if it causes a problem in your sex life. Since you say that it doesn't - then it's probably not an issue.
However, you can probably use this time to still involve your husband. If possible, have your hus... (read in full...)
How much sex is normal / usual for a couple after 10 years?
Q. I want to know how much sex is normal for a couple after being married for 10 years.Give me realisitic figures please.Thank you....
A. 29 October 2008: Oh, why didn't you say so! LOL!
Well, when my wife and I were just dating, we did it like rabbits. Couldn't get enough - it was probably somewhere around 4-5 times per week.
But after getting married, it waned ... A LOT! It dropped to *m... (read in full...)
How much sex is normal / usual for a couple after 10 years?
Q. I want to know how much sex is normal for a couple after being married for 10 years.Give me realisitic figures please.Thank you....
A. 28 October 2008: "Normal" is whatever you and your husband defines "normal" as.
One couple may find that once a day is normal vs. another couple who will think once a week is normal.
Whatever the frequency of sex - if both parties are satisfied with t... (read in full...)
Is there a way to induce vaginal squirting?
Q. Is there a way to induce vaginal squirting or is it just something few women are born with?...
A. 26 October 2008: I'm not sure. There are some websites (and of course books) touting how to teach the female how to ejaculate but I have never read (or heard) of any female being able to learn through these teachings. Of course, it is something you are wanting to ... (read in full...)
I promised her oral sex...would it be tacky if I backed out?
Q. Help... I need some advice soon. I am a 25 year old married woman. I have been married about three years. My best friend since freshman days in college is a woman my age and married just about as long. In fact, we were each others Maid of Honor ...
A. 25 October 2008: My advice would be to not do it.
Just because she isn't a man and there wasn't actual penetration during your sexual encounter doesn't mean that it is okay. Continuing to engage in sexual congress with your married friend could have disastro... (read in full...)
Is it harmful for me that he sucks my nipples during sex?
Q. I Just married women my husband is very understandable he makes me happy during sex but i m confused about one point, that he is suking my nipples {not bite} he want to make me happy but is this right?I Like it too but little bit confused that it i...
A. 24 October 2008: Sucking your breasts and nipples during sex is very normal. Men like to suck the breasts of the woman they are with. Not only is it something that men desire to do, but most women find this pleasurable as well.
Hope this helps.
... (read in full...)
I have noticed his sex drive has decreased. What is the probelm?
Q. My husband is 52 yrs old and i am 44 yrs old, we got married 9 yrs ago. For the past few yrs. I have noticed his sex drive has decreased. We used to be intimate twice a week and now is once or twice a month. As a women I take care of myself and ...
A. 23 October 2008: Well, the first thing you need to do is remove the feeling that the issue is with you. You have nothing by which to go by in determining that the waning sex drive has anything to do with you. That is an unfair burden to place on yourself so stop ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to have sex with another man?
Q. i need an opinion. i've been married to my husband for 13 years, my husband can't stop thinking about me having sex with another man. we agreed to try swinging a few times even though i was back and forth about it i tried it for him, after ...
A. 22 October 2008: You and your husband are on different sides of the spectrum. While your husband desires to see you with another man and will do anything to make that happen - you will do anything to make it NOT happen. Unfortunately in this situation there is not ... (read in full...)
Air trapped in the vagina during doggy style - any suggestions? Anyone else had this problem?
Q. When my husband and I have sex doggy style - sometimes he gets so much air in there it hurts for hours! I don't know what I can do about this. I haven't told him this before - I didn't want to make him feel bad cause I know hes not trying to hurt ...
A. 21 October 2008: Hmmm...
I've had this happen with my wife (now ex wife) sometimes. I don't remember it being with any particular position, it just happened from time to time. What I do remember is her vagina releasing the air either when I thrusted into her... (read in full...)
I am a virgin, how can I tell him I am not ready for sex, without losing him?
Q. There's a guy at my school who I want to be my first. People have said that he only wants me b/c im a virgin that's very "blessed" in the way im shaped, front and back. I know for a fact that he doesn't act the same towards me as he did the other ...
A. 20 October 2008: Okay, so this is the same story that can be found here:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-be-his-first-but-im.html
What happened? I thought you told everyone how amazing they were in helping you out? You even gave a wonderful story ... (read in full...)
Do men really prefer the bodies of their girlfriends/wives over the perfect model type in most porn?
Q. Do men really prefer the bodies of their girlfriends/wives over the model perfect type in most porn. I mean do they really prefer a mommy body with scars and sags (not overweight)as they say, over the scarless pre baby bodies on playboy and ...
A. 18 October 2008: I guess I'll jump in on this one.
I wouldn't necessarily say men prefer these women, but these "perfect" bodies are just something to look at. Another thing for you to remember is MOST of the women in porn are fake: fake breasts, fake eyelashe... (read in full...)
He said I have a big vagina yet he's the first man I've ever slept with!
Q. hi everybody, I am writing this so I can have advice about things I don't know. I've just get married lately and I was virgin but the problem is when I had sex with my husband he says that I have big vagina and he hardly feels me. Even although...
A. 16 October 2008: Genetically, it is possible that you have a large vagina.
When you say large, what you are talking about is the area inside the vagina. Like Maid Marian said, women are very different. Some women have very tight vaginas while other women ma... (read in full...)
How do I increase my libido? It's ruining my life. I feel molested when we have sex because I do it just to please him...
Q. Does anyone know of any natural remedie to increase female libido? My Husband is a scorpio and he wants sex 24/7. I don't have any desire at all or I am just not sexually attracted to him, it's a problem I am only 30 years old. Please help, I...
A. 9 October 2008: I am sorry that you are having a difficult time being intimate with your husband.
First off, I think it warrants trying to find the root cause instead of a "fix". By finding the root cause, more often than not the issue will resolve itself. ... (read in full...)
What could all these symptoms mean? I'm so worried and confused!!
Q. Alright, so I posted a couple of days back to get peoples opinions of whether or not I was pregnant. So a quick summary of that was - "I had sex with a boy, he had a condom, but I told him that he didn't have to wear it, and he said he would, b...
A. 28 September 2008: The only true way to be certain is get a pregnancy test.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
The idea of my wife being with other men doesn't make me jealous outright. But I don't know how I will feel on the night?
Q. Hi my wife are i are 26 and have been married for 3 1/2 years. We were each others first but both had one other sexual partner before we started officially dating and eventually got married. My wife has recently lost a lot of weight she had put...
A. 28 September 2008: I totally understand why and how you can be torn on this issue.
In relationships, we strive (well at least most of us) to make our partners happy and will do almost anything to ensure their happiness. Sometimes this involves doing things that doe... (read in full...)
I'm wondering what walks of life the aunts and uncles come from?
Q. Dear posters, I think its wonderful to have people from different walks of life, to be able to come here and look at others situations with a different set of eyes. its great! On to my question, I was left wondering what each and every one of you...
A. 25 September 2008: I was hoping to read some responses from people I've always wanted to ask this very question to...but anyway...
I am a Registered Nurse (Pediatric). I love my job. I see the good and the bad.
I'm not that interesting. I just like to share in... (read in full...)
We're Christians, my wife doesn't dislike sex, but she doesn't like it, we have sex very seldom, how can I fix this, what am I supposed to do?
Q. ok I dont understand this and I know it probably sounds like every other question that guys ask about sex, but....My Wife doesn't like sex, and doesn't seem like she is ever going to. She doesn't dislike it, but she doesnt like it. During the first ...
A. 24 September 2008: Firstly, I would like to applaud your in your efforts in making your marriage work. Not many young couples make the concerted effort and take divorce off the table before issues arise, so that in and of itself is very commendable.
I think th... (read in full...)
Bigger does feel better but is it SAFE? My husband and I have experimented with large sex toys.
Q. Dear Cupid, My husband and I have been happily married for 30 years. We are both in our early fifties and enjoy sex tremendously. Over the past year my husband decided it was time for me to experience the feeling of being penetrated both ...
A. 24 September 2008: Whatever you and your husband do to keep your sex life healthy, fresh and exciting is great. Just keep doing it.
To answer your questions: if it makes you sore, go easy. Try not to take the biggest toy every single session if you don't have to.... (read in full...)
What constitutes a healthy sex life?
Q. what is a healty sex life? How many times should you have it? When you don't feel like you are getting enough sex or feel rejected when you try to make the first move does it mean he is not interested in you?...
A. 20 September 2008: There are many factors that come together to create what is considered a healthy sex life.
First of all, a healthy sex life is defined by each couple. So while others might state what they feel is a healthy sex life, the truth is that everyone... (read in full...)
Can guys run out of sperm?
Q. Hey guys, just wondering if I could run out of sperm after having sex a large number of times in a year/week, I mean, women run out of eggs, but supposudly, a man produces around 2 million sperm a day, but what if you run out of all 2 million? Will ...
A. 19 September 2008: It is almost (biologically speaking) impossible to "run out" of sperm. But, it may be possible to not have enough.
When it is time for you have children with your wife, you will need to have a healthy number of VIABLE sperm ready for fertiliz... (read in full...)
I am willing to accept my hubby's son (product of his affair), but now comes the hard part: telling our daughter that he exists. Not to mention my depression! Help me with my emotions!
Q. My husband has another child as a result of an affair, she (the mother) wants him to walk away from his son, he does not want to do that. I personally don't know how anyone could ever expect that of another human being (especially one that they ...
A. 14 September 2008: Wow, this is tough.
First I would like to extend my sincere condolences to you and your family. I know this will be tough. I know because I've been there.
I've been there not as the father who fathered the child, but the child that was f... (read in full...)
Was I given a date rape drug?
Q. About 2 weeks ago 3 guys that I met while I was at my aunt's house called to say that they were driving to my town to see me and that we should meet up and hang out. First of all I was in shock that they were driving about 130 miles just to see me. ...
A. 14 September 2008: Hmmm....
You are misguided in your alcohol consumption and how this all works. You say that at the party in Europe, you drank as much as you did over a six hour period. Okay. But two weeks ago, you drank only over (about) a 3-4 hour period. ... (read in full...)
My parents think it's wrong for me to date a black guy, is this racist?
Q. My mom and dad are soo protective. i like this black guy...alot and he likes me. but my parents think it is wrong for a white girl to date a black boy. i think thats racsism. but me and this boy have been talking for a year and we tell each other ...
A. 14 September 2008: As a black man, I am not convinced this is a race issue - well not entirely.
Yes, they might have said (according to you) that it is wrong for a white woman to date a black man - but did you ask them why? This would be a good time to sit down wit... (read in full...)
My mother doesn't appreciate my rap lyrics, how do I get her to accept them?
Q. I've been writing rap lyrics for a good while now and I made a few tracks with my friends and they say I'm really good. And it's not just them, I won a freestyle tournament where there were experienced people judging. My dad is indifferent but ...
A. 11 September 2008: Rap, for the most part, isn't good.
But there ARE artists who refrain from using those offensive words in their rhymes. Of course, those artists are not "mainstream", meaning they aren't as well known as the artists who use that type of language... (read in full...)
We got heavily drunk and now we can't remember anything from that night!
Q. I was out recently, got heavily drunk and went home with a girl. I have never had sex before and the last thing I remember was sitting on her couch saying “I’m going to go to sleep”. I woke up the next morning on top of her friend’s bed (in her ...
A. 10 September 2008: Let me start off by stating the obvious: getting THAT drunk is VERY dangerous! Getting that drunk sets you up for many, many issues down the road.
I mean, where you raped? What she raped? If you can't remember, you probably weren't in a goo... (read in full...)
Was this really a one-night stand?
Q. Am so confused! 2 year ago i met a guy n we became friends. last year we were invited 2 a party n he showed more interest in me. later that night we went 2 his place, he wanted sex n i said NO. We kept in touch n 2 weeks ago i went 2 his place n we ...
A. 10 September 2008: I think sappygirl said it best:
"...that is what happens when us girls give up sex before we make them work for it..."
It's probably still too early to tell but it seems like you might have been a booty call.
Avoidance is usually ... (read in full...)
Can I get a purity ring even if I'm not a Christian?
Q. im not christian and i want to wear a purity ring. my parents dont know abou them so i dont want to explain how i wont have sex. so i was wondering can i get one even though im not christian? also can i buy it for myself and not get my parents t...
A. 10 September 2008: ABSOLUTELY!! Christians (me being one of them) don't own the rights or privileges to wear purity rings. It's just a symbol. The ring being a complete circle that unlike other shapes is continuous, never broken. A vow made that you will never ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait on sex to earn respect in a relationship?
Q. Ok it's super unlike me to wait on sex but I'm coming to realize that pretty much if you want someone to respect you, you have to give it some time. So... how long do I give it and more importantly how the hell do I politely turn it down??? Guys are ...
A. 8 September 2008: For clarification...
I wasn't calling you a slut - just the women I have encountered.
Men can be sluts too. However, society doesn't frown upon men being promiscuous as they do women. Quite unfortunate because we're teaching our young men to... (read in full...)
How long should I wait on sex to earn respect in a relationship?
Q. Ok it's super unlike me to wait on sex but I'm coming to realize that pretty much if you want someone to respect you, you have to give it some time. So... how long do I give it and more importantly how the hell do I politely turn it down??? Guys are ...
A. 8 September 2008: As a guy, I just want to touch on one point you made in your question...
"...Guys are pretty much used to girls just givin it up so I feel I would find myself in an awkward position directly after turning it down, etc"
This is to the contrary ... (read in full...)
Which one's the daddy?
Q. first day of my last period was july 16th 2008 i messed with another man on the 22 the 23 and 24th of july i got back with my babydaddy on the 27th of july and stayed with him they my due date is april 23 2009 i am pregnant with twins i need to ...
A. 6 September 2008: When the child is born...
Pa-ter-ni-ty test.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
I bleed when I use the toilet. What can I do?
Q. I am having a problem, anytime i go to the toilet bloods comes out, it just started for one week and 3 days now, someone should please refare drug to use and how to go about it....
A. 6 September 2008: No one can refer a drug for you to use until it is known why you are bleeding. Also, no one should be giving that kind of advice over the internet.
You need to see your doctor. It could be a gastrointestinal disease which will need to be treat... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a 15-year-old to have sex with a 26-year-old?
Q. Is it ok for a 15 year old male (me) to go out with a 26 year old women and have sex?? Any advice?...
A. 5 September 2008: No.
I'm quite sure this breaks some laws. She could be jailed.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Does he want a baby with me or was this an accident?
Q. I need help. I have a sex buddy who Im falling in love with, and we usually use condoms, but has gradually changed. Now we don't use condoms and occassionally he doesn't "pull out". Last night he didn't pull out. I'm wondering does he want a baby by ...
A. 4 September 2008: Wow. Sex with someone who isn't able (or willing) to make an emotional connection with you? You say he has a girlfriend - so it seems like he's using you for the very thing you're giving him.
Think about this: will having a child with a man yo... (read in full...)
Is Sarah Palin a suitable candidate for VP?
Q. [Part of a DearCupid series on the forthcoming Nov 08 presidential election] Sarah Palin, John McCain's choice for vice-president, is a strict anti-abortionist, pro-guns and against sex-education. Her 17 year old daughter is now pregnant. ...
A. 2 September 2008: Hmmm...
I don't think she makes a good candidate simply because she doesn't know what her potential will entail. She's already said (before being nominated) that she would consider the job of VP (paraphrasing) "...if someone could tell me what ... (read in full...)
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