Is it me, or does he have a secret? He only wants anal sex!
Q. My husband only wants anal sex. We'll start out making love vaginally, but then it seems he can't come unless he's inside my anus, or masturbating on my anus. He also prefers to be behind me, So i'm kinda starting to wonder if it's me, or if he's ...
A. 24 April 2008: I think the first thing is to talk to your husband and ask him directly what or why is it? There could be many reasons for him seeming to only want to make love anally. A couple of them being:
-It's a fetish. He could have watched one too many... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 20 April 2008: This is an unfortunate situation. It's pretty bad that she was raped by two guys she thought were her friends. It will be even worse if you guys have a riff in your relationship together because she won't do what you think is right - no matter ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble masturbating! What is this white stuff?
Q. hi, im 15 years old and im having trouble masterbating. when its time for me to cum i only get a white liquid. anyone got any advice???...
A. 17 April 2008: Well technically...
Sperm is microscopic - meaning you can only see it under a microscope. Semen, which is comprised of many fluids from the male body and also contains sperm is usually white in color or sometimes a little off white (yellow ... (read in full...)
Are there any other people who want to wait for marriage before having sex?
Q. As a young man 25 years old, I want to know if there are any other people from 18-35 who have standards and want to remain virgins when they marry, also would not marry a person who has been divorced and had kids of of wedlock?...
A. 16 April 2008: "One writer boastfully says, The words of GOd arent meant to be take literally but by grace we are saved... The bible doesn say that."
Ephesians 1:5-12
5 having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to... (read in full...)
She wants me to be more aggressive with my love-making!
Q. My wife says I love her , make love to her, too softly she wants me to be more aggressive. I need some examples and she says to me , figure it out . "I want to be taken not made love to". Help!...
A. 11 April 2008: When you say she wants to be taken I get the impression she wants you to "take" it, not beat her around.
For example, next time she doing the dishes, or even cooking (move her away from open flames), or ironing clothes or whatever: just walk up ... (read in full...)
I'm 8 months pregnant, will having intercourse hurt my baby?
Q. I'm 8 months pregnant, and me and my husbund still want to have sex, but find it hard what can we do to make it easier? Will it hurt the baby or am i just being silly?...
A. 11 April 2008: You find it hard that you can't find the right positions, or hard that you are unsure if sex will harm your unborn child or not?
First of all, congrats on your pregnancy. Many blessings to you and your husband.
Now, sex while pregnant is okay... (read in full...)
Does a woman make a man cum with her body, or does the man make himself cum using her body?
Q. Hi People, On rare occassions wen me n my boyfriend ahve sex, hes more into it den me n i dnt usual put too much effort into it but he still manages to cum. I was just wondering, when men/boys cum wen having sex wud u say that: The woman m...
A. 11 April 2008: I would say it's neither one: most men cum or reach orgasm simply through the friction of the penis moving in and out of the vagina.
So the woman wouldn't have to do anything - she could just lie there while he pumps away - him doing all the ... (read in full...)
How safe is ORAL SEX from AIDS.. HIV...??
Q. How safe is ORAL SEX from AIDS.. HIV... Is it dangerous to have oral sex with women for aids ?...
A. 20 March 2008: I'm guessing your question is whether or not it is dangerous to have oral sex with women WITH HIV/AIDS? Correct?
Again the process of infection lies with opportunity. If there are open sores in the mouth of the person giving oral sex, then cer... (read in full...)
Sex, the messy details
Q. I plan on staying a virgin until my wedding night and I hope to marry a virgin. I'm concerned about what our wedding night might be like. This might sound naive but just how messy is sex without a condom. Is there semen everywhere? What about ...
A. 20 March 2008: Hey Drummaster!
Let me first applaud you for taking the narrowed, mostly untraveled road of chastity until marriage. Very noble.
Having said that - in this day and age it would almost be a miracle to find someone else who is a virgin. Not tha... (read in full...)
Sex with my teacher.
Q. I have this extreme urge to just make out with my teacher and have sex with him. I feel like he likes me too. I don't know. I'm confused. =\ btw: I'm 15. He is 37....
A. 20 March 2008: Sexual feelings at this age are a part of the normal maturation process. It's not a bad thing that you have these natural feelings.
Lots of young people tend to have "crushes" on persons much older than them. All kinds of feelings swirl around a... (read in full...)
Should I be at all worried that she may be pregnant? I know this sound stupid but I just don't want any kids with her....
Q. Two weeks ago a friend stayed at mine, we slept together, she is not on the pill so we used a condom, wanting to play it safely I didn't even cum inside the condom whilst I was in her, we had been messing around before and I had been fingering her ...
A. 10 March 2008: Two people have already said it - but if you're that hung up on having a child with her, you shouldn't be having sex with her. Point blank.
But shouldn't be pregnant. It seems you took all the necessary precautions to make sure pregnanc... (read in full...)
I found out my 16 year old had (protected) sex, how should I approach her about it?
Q. I have a 16 year old daughter. Last night, I picked up the phone wanting to make a phone call unaware my daughter was talking to her best friend. She had said that last Saturday, she had sex with her boyfriend, who is also 16. When she had gone out ...
A. 10 March 2008: Most teenagers are usually afraid of telling their parents when they've begun having sex for fear of what their parents will say. Even if the parents tell their kids "you can tell me anything" - it still doesn't make it any easier when the parents ... (read in full...)
How do you tell if the condom has split?
Q. Hi all, I've read a lot of horror stories about condoms splitting and stuff. Its the only contraception me and my gf use (she has a history of cancer in her family and doesn't wanna risk increasing her chances with the pill, patch etc) Anyway, j...
A. 10 March 2008: The few times I've had a condom to split on me I noticed right away that it happened. The sensation (for me) changed quite noticeably and I pulled out to notice only half the condom still on (the bottom half).
I never noticed any leakage ... (read in full...)
No sex before marriage... or should I?
Q. My family are conservative Christians and have a strong, deeply rooted belief that sex before marriage is a big no-no. For the first half of my life I also believed in this, and I wanted to remain abstinent until marriage. If anything, to make my ...
A. 28 February 2008: (I am certainly going to take a big ratings hit for this one - but here goes...)
That new atheistic, agnostic boyfriend of yours is causing you to challenge and doubt your faith. The one thing I want you to understand is you cannot allow someone ... (read in full...)
Sexual activity not finalised in intercourse, could I be pregnant?
Q. The other day, me and my boyfriend did a bit of foreplay. He came and then for the first time he fingered me, his penis did not enter me, but it touched my vagina. Could i be pregnent? ...
A. 24 February 2008: IF his penis still had semen on it when it touched your vagina then YES, it is conceivable that you COULD get pregnant. The chances are low, but still possible.
Hope this helps.... (read in full...)
Does anyone out there agree with staying a virgin until they are married?
Q. heyx I was just curious, is there anyone out there that agrees with me when i say i want to stay a virgin til im married? Does anyone think thats good? Im 15, and believe that you shouldnt have sex untill you have had your wedding. do you think th...
A. 24 February 2008: Good for you! Not pathetic at all. Let the guys you date later in life know that up front - some guys just aren't willing to wait and will continue to pressure you until you finally give in. If he's not willing to wait, he's not worth keeping.
... (read in full...)
What are the benefits of marriage?
Q. In the week when Paul McCartney and Heather Mills agree monetary settlement, the question of fairness and behaviour arises. What are the benefits of marriage, if any? Isn't it just an unfair contract where if one party breaks the terms, the other ...
A. 23 February 2008: I wish I could top Dr. John. But the fact is, he spoke on every subject I would have touched on.
Well done, Dr. John. Well done.
... (read in full...)
To men: do you ever think of your wives/girlfriends while masturbating to porn? Why would you prefer porn to homemade erotic videos?...
Q. well, i was working with a guy who's very tight with me on a lot of subjects, and he later showed me some new porn dvds he had bought the other day... he made a comment about this porn stars parts which he described as" looking very very tight". ...
A. 22 February 2008: I don't know what really makes me believe one vagina is tighter than the other just by looking at it? I guess when watching porn, the way the vagina grips the shaft would be one way. I don't know.
But to answer your other question. When mas... (read in full...)
What does he mean by not wanting to put a label on our relationship
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a little while now,I'm ready to move to the next level but he likes it the ways it is, and doesn't want to put a label on what we have going on now..How should I take that?? Are we a couple?? Or are we just friends ...
A. 15 February 2008: Sounds like he's having his cake and eating it too (pardon the cliche). Guess you'll always be his sex buddy - maybe.
Putting a "label" on your relationship would ultimately mean that you two are in a "committed" relationship. With commitme... (read in full...)
Can you 'teach' family members how to masturbate if they asked you?
Q. is it ok for a 19 year old guy to show his 15 year old brother how to masturbate if he asks him to...
A. 12 February 2008: I agree with everyone here on this one. It can be viewed as very disturbing if you actually show your brother how to masturbate. Words (just telling him) should be enough.
If he's looking for different techniques, then he can look it up on the w... (read in full...)
Female ejaculation - possible for many if the correct area is stimulated?
Q. I've got a pretty good sex life with my boyfriend, we have sex often and I always have multiple orgasms in these sessions, so I'm pretty happy... but I have a query! I know some females ejaculate when they orgasm, and I'm not sure whether the inte...
A. 12 February 2008: Well, you are right about there being a lot of gimmicky websites on the internet in regards to female ejaculation. The porn industry is greatly responsible for this subject becoming so well known these days.
However, I do know for sure this hap... (read in full...)
My husband had a snip, but could I still get pregnant?
Q. can i get pregnant even though my husband had a snip, but didn't get it reversed?...
A. 12 February 2008: Although the risks are low, there is still the possibility.
I'm not sure of the exact number, but you and your husband should have been told to use protection (birth control) until a certain time period has passed or until he has reached a certai... (read in full...)
Is there such a thing as a curse or bad karma?
Q. I wonder if there is any chance , that there is such a thing as curse or karma? I try to live this life ,with the best intentions, yet everything falls apart on me. I thought, you make your own luck. It really does not happen in my life. I was nev...
A. 11 February 2008: You know, some people just don't believe in curses or karma. And they stand by the belief that everything that happens in their life is supposed to happen and that those happenings are handed down by God. Of course, there are people who believe in ... (read in full...)
How can a marriage survive without sex or affection??
Q. My husband is struggling with impotence, with no medical causes,or known reasons. It suppose to be psychological,but we don't know how to go about that. He seem to feel very bad about this, but We just stuck,we have no other idea what could be ...
A. 11 February 2008: First of all, let me say that I deeply sympathize what is going on with you and your husband.
If your husband is having a problem with impotence that has no medical or physical cause, you would need to have that diagnosis given to you by a doc... (read in full...)
Does bi curious make you gay?
Q. just wondering, is it normal to be bi-curious? and does being bi-curious make someone gay? thanks....
A. 10 February 2008: Hmmm...
Normal? What may be normal for some may not be normal for others.
I'm assuming that you are contemplating - or thinking about pursuing some type of relationship (either sexual or not) with someone of the same sex (assuming you ar... (read in full...)
Does one's body change after losing their virginity?
Q. I was just wondering...Does your body change after you lose your virginity? If so what changes??? My mom told me that when girls lose their virginity that their butts start to get wider..is this true???...
A. 8 February 2008: There is no evidence that sexual activity makes any part of the body any different - except of course the vagina. The vagina itself still looks the same - there's just no hymen anymore (**if there was a hymen to begin with. Remember, not having an ... (read in full...)
My husband is going to be a father, but I'm not the mother, any advice?
Q. I have been married for 14 yrs. We have 3 children 16,12, and 10. We have and presently have a wonderful friendship, sex life, and he is a wonderful father. He has just told me he had an affair with a lady at work with whom he told he was divorced. ...
A. 7 February 2008: My father had an affair with my mother. I was born without the knowledge of my stepmother. My father carried on with this relationship for 10 years until I made a phone call to my dad to ask why he didn't pick me up to take me to the park.
My st... (read in full...)
Buying a house with my girlfriend, how can I make sure she can't touch the downpayment which my parents donated?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are looking at purchasing our first home together. My parents have graciously offered to give us a down payment. They want the house to be in my name which I understand. What should I do if anything so she can't come and get ...
A. 7 February 2008: Ouch Collaroy!
Hmm, you might want to check the laws in your state governing these such issues.
If she establishes residence in the home and contributes to the home, there will be nothing you can do to keep her from getting half the home's ... (read in full...)
I haven't had Sex in a year and It's really getting me down
Q. I'm 19, I've gone a year without sex, and I feel pretty upset over it. It seems like such a terrible thing to say to your friends; "Well guys, I've not had any for a year, now". I've been in relationships, but they haven 't worked out, and so I'm ...
A. 7 February 2008: Putting THAT much value on sex can be dangerous. Yes, sex is wonderful and should be enjoyed as much as possible when given the right circumstances - but sex itself should not be a stand in for the more important parts of a relationship like ... (read in full...)
No girlfriend and a strong desire for Sex is making feel ill! What is this?
Q. hi,i think i need an urgent help i have no gf in my life but i have a strong strong desire for sex, recently i donot feel healthy, when i contact my doctor he told me that i don't have as such a physiological health problem except the gastric ...
A. 4 February 2008: Lack of sex does not inherently cause any physiological health issues. However, if you focus so strongly on the fact that you aren't having sex and really believe that lack of sex is causing some type of illness or uneasiness within you, then you ... (read in full...)
My legs cramp when an orgasm builds? Why?
Q. Thanks to some advice I'd been given from one of the Uncles on this site, I've finally started to orgasm and its wonderful! But, this that I'm about to mention has always happened and seems to still happen... Whenever I felt I might orgasm before, I ...
A. 20 January 2008: Yeah, yoga might help in this situation.
Orgasm in most cases involves most of the major muscle groups causing contractions. The contractions (orgasms) might be shocking to your muscles causing cramping. You can try general stretching at the b... (read in full...)
Do ALL men cheat under certain circumstances? Can you be intimate with one person and still truly love someone else?
Q. I am in an open relationship with a man I care about very much, I'll call him Calum. He's a professional musician and travels a lot with his bad so we have an understanding that when we are together we love each other but never ask questions about ...
A. 11 January 2008: I guess sexual faithfulness would only be as important as the couple makes it. There are couple who "swing" or engage in sexual activities with other couples and for them this is okay. For other couples this would absolutely be a deal breaker. So ... (read in full...)
Has he been in a lap dancing club? He's fairly attentive to me and a good father to my child, but it's the deceipt I cannot tolerate.
Q. Hi, I have just found out my husband has been into a lap dancing club. Basically the other night i found out he had been viewing porn and he lied about it to me. My husband travels a little with his job, usually Prague, a few years ago he used to go ...
A. 9 January 2008: I don't know. It's possible to go into a club not knowing what to expect. I don't know how clubs advertise in your country but here in the United States it's pretty freaking obvious what kind of club you're walking into before entering the front ... (read in full...)
How is sexual pleasure related to using tampons?
Q. I have been using tampons for about 6 months now. No one has fingered me, or given me oral and i have not had sex. So many people say that you are sensitive in your vagina. If this is so, why doesn't it feel "nice" when you move a tampon in or out...
A. 9 January 2008: Good question.
Many psychologists will tell you that the biggest and most important sexual organ in the human body is the......BRAIN! That's right. The brain.
Sexual activity begins with thoughts of sexual desire. Hormones that are regulat... (read in full...)
Do ALL men cheat under certain circumstances? Can you be intimate with one person and still truly love someone else?
Q. I am in an open relationship with a man I care about very much, I'll call him Calum. He's a professional musician and travels a lot with his bad so we have an understanding that when we are together we love each other but never ask questions about ...
A. 7 January 2008: No, ALL men do not cheat under certain circumstances. That is a very unfair "guilt by association" assumption to make; that since we are men and have sexual needs that we WILL cheat on our wives when given the opportunity and that just isn't true. ... (read in full...)
Why do I suffer with bad BO?
Q. I have a problem. a BO problem. I don't know why or how it has happened. I shower daily (under my armpits also) and i don't wear the same t-shirt for 2 days. what can it be then?...
A. 3 January 2008: Puberty maybe? Not sure since your age isn't posted - but it might mean that you need to start to using deodorants with antiperspirants.
Once puberty starts really getting into gear - you start secreting from glands that you didn't secrete ... (read in full...)
Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 3 January 2008: I'm with you on this subject. I do have to admit that I'm not entirely sure why your answers wouldn't be posted.
Something I've taken notice of - and stopped frequenting this site because of - is the people's lack of understanding for multiple... (read in full...)
I started having spontaneous erections, will I start having spontaneous ejaculations too??
Q. im just wondering, i have spontaneous erections and i no that is normal, but i am just wondering when i will start having ejaculations when i get erections - if i will ejaculate at all - and how to deal with the sperm when that comes out when i do ...
A. 3 January 2008: Spontaneous erections are a part of growing up. Spontaneous erections are natures way of letting us know that everything is working as it should.
Spontaneous ejaculations are a different subject. You can have spontaneous ejaculations during t... (read in full...)
Our Marriage isn't working. What should I do?
Q. I have been married for sometime and I have a 10 year old daughter. I have been having marriage problems for the last 3 years. My wife works part time and I work full time. I pay most of the bills. My wife spends her money on herself and our ...
A. 3 January 2008: Divorce is always hard - not matter how you slice it. I just filed for divorce on Thursday so I know how hard it can be.
Trying to mend a broken marriage is hard, VERY hard - but it CAN be done. However, it takes two to tango. Meaning,... (read in full...)
I don't like people staring at my penis...what should I do??
Q. I am 12 years old and i have a 6" (16cm) soft and 7.5 inch (19cm)erect penis. In changing rooms people just stare, even adults. I don't like it sometimes, children of my age say how i get it so big i dont like what should i do? ...
A. 25 December 2007: You could wear a towel when in public changing rooms. When going to the shower make sure you're covered and when getting out of the shower make sure you're covered. Put your underwear on while you still have the towel on.
Some people might sa... (read in full...)
I want to have sex but I'm not sure how to prevent pregnancy
Q. I want to have sex but I am scared That I will get Pregnant Btu I really want to have sex so what should I do??...
A. 19 December 2007: Well if you're that scared of getting pregnant you probably shouldn't have sex.
While today's contraceptives are really effective at preventing pregnancy, NONE of them are 100% effective. Which means there are times when these products fail. M... (read in full...)
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