How do I politely tell my man to man up, and how do I tell my future mother-in-law, politely, to stay out of our affairs and not to interfere in our plans?
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advice on how to deal with a domineering future mother-in-law. I have been in a relationship with my guy for the past 5 years, who just graduated and is now working. It is not my intention to marry now as I am still ...
A. 31 August 2011: Whoa.
I was married to a Momma's boy for a LONG time. I have battle wounds from Mother in Law wars.
Your man and your possible future MIL are emotionally manipulative.
So, what do you say? Just what you shared here, but with more clar... (read in full...)
Newlywed virgin not had sex yet. Shall I just 'get it over with' even though it hurts?
Q. So, my husband and I are recently married (only married about a month and a half, so far) but we're still dealing with the issue of my...ahem...virginity...I've never engaged in full intercourse/penetration and we have tried numerous times already, ...
A. 31 August 2011: Since you have tried all the normal bits of advice-have you talked to your Doctor? You might want to address a condition called vaginismus, which is a painful condition of the vagina that prevents comfortable penetration.
There are treatmen... (read in full...)
Diarrhea every time after anal sex?
Q. dear cupid, soo...this is kind of a gross question, buuut it's something i've really been kind of concerned about. is there any connection between diahrrea and anal sex? it seems like every time i have anal, i have diahrrea for at least a couple d...
A. 31 August 2011: Anal Sex has been known to cause fecal incontinence. The leakage is due to the sphincter muscles being stretched open.
Diarrhea is due to the digestive tract not absorbing the water in your waste effeciently.
Basically, waste matter is on a q... (read in full...)
I've been talking online with a 30 year old woman who wants to go out with me!
Q. Hello there everyone i could use some advice. Ive been talking online with this woman she is 30 years old. We have been talking for about a month or so and do not live far away from each other. I have talked to her on webcam so i know she is who ...
A. 31 August 2011: My son in nearly 18. He barely has the skills to have a relationship with someone his own age.
Dating a woman 30 years old, even if legal, will have nothing but complications for you. Please think it through before you get any more involved... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is very talkative, how do I make her change?
Q. Dear dearcupid, My girlfriend is hell of a talkative and she doesn't know when to stop. She eats the brain out of me when gets started. Yeah, I have to admit that between she also makes me laugh with her sharp sense of humour but 80% her talk is ...
A. 31 August 2011: Stop dating her or take her to places where you need to be quieter. Other people will shssssh her, and maybe she will get the message that everyone does not need to hear EVERY thought that runs thru her mind.
Encourage quieter outings. Remark o... (read in full...)
I've been talking online with a 30 year old woman who wants to go out with me!
Q. Hello there everyone i could use some advice. Ive been talking online with this woman she is 30 years old. We have been talking for about a month or so and do not live far away from each other. I have talked to her on webcam so i know she is who ...
A. 30 August 2011: No it is not legal. A 30 yo woman showing interest in a teenager is not normal-It is pedophelia.
If you are scared-that is probably your inner warning system telling you loud and clear to stay away from this situation!
Listen to your instinct... (read in full...)
Why would she come after me and at the moment when I reciprocate a little she gives me a cold shower?
Q. What's your view on this woman's behaviour? Here's the story: I have a female colleague about my age. For the last 6 months she's been passing by my office often, smiling, being flirty, offering to make me a coffee, and all that. I perceived her as ...
A. 30 August 2011: She had second thoughts to pursuing something other than a friendly working relationship. Otherwise she would have taken you up on your offers.
Who knows why she backed off? You would have to ask her if you are interested in knowing her better. ... (read in full...)
Family pressures made my boyfriend end our relationshp.
Q. can anyone tell me why in lebanon and the middle east there is a bad attitude towards an older woman with a younger man. is it the same throughout all of the middle east or mainly in lebanese society. my relationship of 2 yrs has ended because my ...
A. 30 August 2011: He did not fight because he did not have the strength to. His ties to his family were stronger than his love for you.
Because of his young age, he does have different life experiences and a different self-actualization of what is importan... (read in full...)
I cant stop sleeping around when I'm drunk!
Q. I have a very embaressing problem. I cant stop sleeping around when Im drunk. In the past month, Ive gone out a couple of times and got absolutely plastered, pulled some bloke and took him back to mine. I have sex with them then I kick them out. In ...
A. 30 August 2011: Have you considered that you have a drinking problem?
When you get plastered, you lose all inhibition and common sense. Time to stop hanging out at the pubs and get yourself into a program to address WHY you are drinking so much to lose your sel... (read in full...)
He wants me to have sex with someone else because he has no sex drive, and he wants to fool around with a man again as he is bisexual! How do I cope with this?
Q. I'm in need of some serious advice. So lately my husband's sex drive has plummeted and our sex life hasn't been that great because along with his sex drive his stamina has plummeted as well. Well he sat me down two days ago and said that he knows he ...
A. 30 August 2011: I think he is saying he has no/little sex drive for heterosexual sex and feels he might have more drive with a homosexual experience.
If you agreed long ago that your marriage and sexuality was going to be reserved only for each other, then bot... (read in full...)
My step son leaves everything to the last minute and leaves me to pick up the pieces, and my husband expects this of me too!
Q. I am extremely frusterated about something that keeps happening and I don't know what to do.. My step son always waits for the last minute to do everything then it is just expected that I will jump through hoops to take care of it. My husba...
A. 30 August 2011: You have to be the one to show them how you want to be treated. If you keep giving in to their selfish and impulsive demands, then they know how to get what they want.
Get in the habit of telling them bluntly, but nicely,
"I can not meet you... (read in full...)
My lying cheating ex is so ungrateful for all I did for him
Q. I broke up with my ex a month ago after he lied cheated several times while I was living with him helping him get well after foot surgery he coudnt walk I cooked three meals a day cleaned after him and his cat got his medicine and other errands to ...
A. 30 August 2011: He is angry because his plans to take advantage of your generosity failed. YOU did not fail him. He failed himself.
Good for you that you stood up for yourself and walked away.
Do not worry about why he is bitter. Disconnect from him, go to ... (read in full...)
I don't want to end my 11 year marriage but my wife is not sure. She cheated
Q. i have been married for 11 years to the same women, i have never cheated on her. two months ago our fighting got really bad and i was ask to move out the house. then one night she ask to talk to me, i went over to the house where she told me she ...
A. 30 August 2011: Have you asked your wife is she is willing to go to counseling with you to help her sort out her feelings towards the marriage?
She has asked for space and perhaps that is what she best needs for a few days to sort out her thoughts. She might be... (read in full...)
Will a man cheat because his "man crush" thinks it's okay to cheat on your wife?
Q. I am concerned about my husband. He has an at home business but recently he met a new friend on xbox life. This is a male friend. I have no issues with him having friends, that's not the issue. The issue is that for the past three weeks he has sta...
A. 30 August 2011: You are right, gaming is not the issue.
Balance and priority are the issues. I hope you get a chance to sit down and talk with him about your concerns. If you can not talk about it, there is no chance of it getting resolved. ... (read in full...)
Will a man cheat because his "man crush" thinks it's okay to cheat on your wife?
Q. I am concerned about my husband. He has an at home business but recently he met a new friend on xbox life. This is a male friend. I have no issues with him having friends, that's not the issue. The issue is that for the past three weeks he has sta...
A. 30 August 2011: I would say you should be concerned. Your husband is acting more like a teenage boy than an married adult with children.
The comment about hating to take your son to school is disturbing. Also, is he having these sexually charged conversa... (read in full...)
Is the MIL trying to "stir the pot" or am I just paranoid?
Q. Hello Cupid friends, I have been married 3 years but with my hubby for 7years. Here is my issue: I think my MIL talks crap behind my back maybe even bringing ex GF's names up? to break us up so he will move back home across the country to mother b...
A. 30 August 2011: Not all MIL's are evil. Some are Divine.
I think you need to focus on your relationship with your husband and not what your MIL is doing,saying or what motivates her.
You married HIM, not her. You said you THINK she is talking about ex... (read in full...)
His parents made my life hell, and now that we've moved away he's withdrawn
Q. My husband is driving me crazy. We have been married for almost 20 years - when we first married he insisted that we live close to his parents who constantly meddled and controlled him making my life miserable. They had 24 hour access to our house ...
A. 29 August 2011: I almost felt like I was reading a page out of my own journal! With one exception-I divorced my Mama's Boy.
As long as they can take advantage of you-they will. But, this really is not a IN-LAW problem, this is a husband problem.
He told you f... (read in full...)
Boyfriend moved away for college... Drama... HELP!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and have been best friends for 5 years, so we are very close and very much in love, mutually. Just two weeks ago he went off to college. He now lives 6 hours away, so we realize we won't be...
A. 29 August 2011: When your BF left for college, he probably was completely on board with monagamy with you. He obviously cares for you, because he shared with you that he was feeling tempted and was honest about his feelings. He could have gone off and experimented ... (read in full...)
He wants me to be normal with her so her husband doesn't find out about their relationship!
Q. me and my partner just had newborn baby (4 weeks) his cousin wife come down to help me i just had a gut feeling that some thing was going on i walked in the living room and they were kissing hes apoligized but doesnt know why he did it and now he ...
A. 29 August 2011: What does your partner mean by treat her normal?
Does he mean to act as if nothing happened? You caught them being innappropriate.
If I were in your shoes, I would be sending her home and let her answer to her own husband why she is back ... (read in full...)
This guy doesn't like the way I dress and makes me feel weird. Should I date him?
Q. I have been dating a guy I met in a Bar, just for four or five times, he seems polite and hasn't asked me for getting off or sex, though he behaves weird and avoids contact like me touching his arm or thinks like that when we are close. He has told ...
A. 29 August 2011: So, who is he interested in? It can not be you, because he just sees you as a foundation to build on to BECOME the woman he really would like to date.
He is not boyfriend or even date worthy. He is a loser.
You do not knowt this guy well ... (read in full...)
How can I kick the habit of swearing?
Q. How can I kick the habit of swearing? I feel very bad mannered and want to kick the habit alltogether but how? I feel guilty everytime I swear but I need to learn to control my language before it comes out. I find it really difficult becaus...
A. 28 August 2011: *Get a swear jar! Tell someone about it that you trust who could use some extra change. Everytime you swear, drop a quarter, a doller, etc. Whatever it takes to feel the sting of "Gee that COST me!". Your friend gets to collect the funds at the ... (read in full...)
Leading a Happier Single Life
Q. I'm exhausted from overanalyzing and despairing about the tendency for love to just randomly fall into people's lives, and how this random occurence has never happened for me, and how there isn't much I can do if it never does, because attraction ...
A. 28 August 2011: What a beautiful post!
I smiled because I can remember feeling that way. My life took an unexpected turn and had a pattern of loss (2 family deaths,Mother remarrying, and a divorce.)
I remember joking that this was NOT the rock and roll li... (read in full...)
My wife has no sex drive and this is ruining things!
Q. My wife has no sex drive. This is ruining everything. We have been together for 12 years and we have 3 children, separation is NO option. I have searched not only this website but the entire net high and low and have found nothing, no real a...
A. 26 August 2011: Dear OP, Communication is part of any good relationship. You are married to your friend, but you are not married to a really GOOD friend who will give you open and honest dialogue. A friend will hear you out and consider your viewpoint. This fri... (read in full...)
My wife says that sex with me grosses her out. Can that change?
Q. I am 38 and my wife is 41. We do not have sex anymore and have not for at least a decade. She says that sex with me grosses her out. She says that the idea of sex itself does not gross her out, and she fantasizes about sex with other men sometimes, ...
A. 26 August 2011: I am so sorry you are going thru this. You have taken EVERY step but one. Counseling with someone who deals with sexual aversion. If she will not go with you, then you go yourself.
When you DO go yourself, let your wife know where and what you... (read in full...)
Why is he pursuing me so relentlessly, despite my attitude? He has a partner already
Q. I am currently involved with a long distance relationship/friendship that's puzzling. This person claims they are "in a relationship", yet has been pursuing me relentlessly. I have received flowers, money, clothing, letters, cards and other gift...
A. 26 August 2011: I would be rather creeped out by a man who said that no matter what I say he is going to keep pursuing me.
He wants to keep the fling open. You do not have to. If you close it anything else he does is stalking and there are laws against that:)
... (read in full...)
Why do I no longer care about my friends?
Q. why do i seem to not care about the people i went to college with anymore? They're my closest and bestest friends! Yet i have purposely been distancing myself and making all sorts of excuses as to why i can't go out with them. I just feel like i ...
A. 25 August 2011: How is every thing else going in your life?
Do you still have a passion and interest in hobbies and activities? Do you still go out and enjoy yourself, meet new people, socialize with others?
If yes, then you are the one that changed. That i... (read in full...)
Can 14 negative pregnancy tests be wrong?
Q. Can 14 negative pregnancy urine tests be wrong. I just want to know if it's possible to get 14 consecutive tests wrong and nothing else. I'd appreciate some feedback, thank you....
A. 25 August 2011: If you have seen 14 test be consistently negative then the test is negative.
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Is he gay from being in prison or just a weird?
Q. I have a question about what turns men on. I have been sleeping with a guy for way over a year and recently he asked me to do something in bed that made me wonder and got embarrassed for him. He wanted me to play with his anus. I didn't want to at ...
A. 25 August 2011: Anal play doesnt mean hes gay. It means it feels good.
There are lots of nerves between the anus and perineum. (Same for the male and female anatomies) and some folks just find it pleasurable.
Many women also like this area stimulated.
I... (read in full...)
I dreamed of having sex with fat men
Q. For two nights I dreamed of having sex with 2 different fat men. They were of average attraction and one a doctor and the other a celebrity. Both were of different race. Can you tell me what this means?...
A. 25 August 2011: Are you on any new medication or having stressors in your life?
I would not think anything more of it other than it is a weird dream.
You could seek out a Dream Interpretation website for kicks, but there is no exact science to tell you what a ... (read in full...)
My friend left me on my own during our night out in a town I don't know
Q. Am i overreacting or taking this too far by telling my best friend i don't want to be friends anymore. Would you still be friends with someone who did this... Before I start, i just want to say unlike the girl. I didn't know the area we were in, the ...
A. 25 August 2011: If you told her how you felt about her abandoning you and she showed no signs of regret...then no, she is not your friend.
Chalk it up for experience and hang with people who care about your well-being AND safety.
... (read in full...)
We only see each other once a week, but she calls me clingy. I buy her everything, but she says I never take care of her. Is she using me?
Q. so me and my girlfriend have been fighting for the past two weeks. She keeps telling me im clingy, and she needs space, and i only see her once a week, so i dont understand how im being clingy. another thing iv noticed is i pay for everything. i pay ...
A. 25 August 2011: Your gf loves you.....for your money.
You do not have a relationship, you have an business arrangment. So, what do you get in return for your gf maintenance payments?
If you fell into a situation of financial hardship, do you think she would ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my ex's will live a more fulfilled life than my own and it's getting me down. How do I stop feeling this way?
Q. I'm worried that I'm not living my life to the fullest and unfortunately the main reason for this is because I tend to compare my life to the lives of my ex girlfriends. Let me explain... I don't know why, but I'm really stuck on the idea that my...
A. 25 August 2011: Your exes are not lucky, they are choosing to live their lives and use what resources they have around them. They are choosing to be happy. Do you think they are comparing themselves to others? Probably not.
Pick a goal in life YOU want to achie... (read in full...)
Sex has become a chore. I want to have sex but not with him!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months. To be honest, he never satisfied me 100%, but I enjoyed being with him. For the past two months, sex has been a chore. I want to have sex, but not with him. I literally get a little pissed off inside when he ...
A. 25 August 2011: If you are sexually incompatible and you have already talked to him...end the relationship. Nothing is going to change.
Expecting otherwise is like expecting a fish and a bird to live together.... (read in full...)
What should I say to my sister in law's niece, and what should I do about the party?
Q. I have a problem. I was supposed to be going to a party this weekend for my sister in law's dad's birthday. My sister in law and my brother didn't invite me. My sister in law's niece did, although, my sister in law sent everyone a message on ...
A. 25 August 2011: Sorry, I had to break your post down a bit more to digest what you are sharing/asking.
INVITE TO THE PARTY for your SIL's Dad?
So, is this person someone you have a relationship with?
"It's also awkward because i hardly know my half brother... (read in full...)
My wife has no sex drive and this is ruining things!
Q. My wife has no sex drive. This is ruining everything. We have been together for 12 years and we have 3 children, separation is NO option. I have searched not only this website but the entire net high and low and have found nothing, no real a...
A. 25 August 2011: Sit down with her and talk to her about how you feel.
Tell her you miss having sex with HER. (Do not approach it with the attitude that you miss sex for you-its true..but you have to focus on the couple aspect)
Invite her to start exploring ... (read in full...)
I don't like my daughter calling her dad's girlfriend "mom"
Q. I am going through a divorce and should be finalize this month. My ex has been living with his girlfriend and her two kids for a year now. We have joint custody of our 7 year old little girl. My question is this. My daughter told me that when she...
A. 25 August 2011: I know this hurts YOU (from personal experience!) but how does your daughter feel?
As hard as it is-do not let your daughter see how much it hurts you, she might feel like she has to choose between sides and walk on eggshells to protect the feel... (read in full...)
Should I stop seeing him? Found escort agency on his computer
Q. I came accross an escort agency on my new boyfriends computer history, one year later its there again, he has had txt messages advertisine 'indays' from women and the occassional sexy picture on his mobile. His excuse is that it was his son using ...
A. 25 August 2011: Have you asked him why he hasnt bothered to remove and or block the websites and texts?
How did he react with the reasoning that his son was looking at an online escort service?
Even if this was not going on..are you happy?
If you have tol... (read in full...)
Question for the women: How often do you tell a guy the sex "great" or "amazing" or something similar?
Q. Question for the women: How often do you tell a guy the sex "great" or "amazing" or something similar? I realized the other day that my GF almost never says anything like that. But, then again we've been going out for several years so it seem...
A. 25 August 2011: If I think it is important to let my guy know that I was satisfied, I enjoyed myself, compliment him, etc in the afterglow. My lover can always tell physically that he rocked my world.
I even made a lover laugh, because the first thing I thought ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over my old flame even after a year of no contact!!!
Q. 2 years ago i started talking to a guy on msn, and we had such a great connection that we arranged to meet up. I had such an amazing time and we ended up kissing and it gave me butterflys even talking to him. We continued to meet up every weekend ...
A. 24 August 2011: I had a friend that went thru similiar circumstances.
I told her that the guy that kept coming back from the past actually was using her to make himself feel better. Flirting with her was an ego boost.
There was no real relationship, ye... (read in full...)
I'm not physically attracted to her but I love her personality
Q. Hi. I've known a girl for about a year. She has made it very clear to me that she really likes me and wants to form a relationship with me. I really like her too. She had a great personality and she is someone I would normally go for. The onl...
A. 24 August 2011: You will end up hurting her if you start a relationship.
She is going to want affection, sex, public displays of affection.
Your body language might be able to lie for a little while that you adore her, like being near her, touching her... ... (read in full...)
I feel trapped. What should I do? I've had a threesome and my husband does not know.
Q. Hi i'm 32 year old wife and a mom with a kid of 3 years old . I'm feeling confused and trapped with a dilemma all because of my mistakes. Almost 3 months before I met a nice and good looking girls who's 23 years at the gym. We had the same gym ins...
A. 24 August 2011: You cheated. You gave yourself sexually to another person outside of your marriage. Male or female does not matter.
If your husband knows about this arrangment and you have an open relationship-fine. If you have kept this secret-of course i... (read in full...)
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