A
male
age
41-50,
*dvice_man
writes:What's your view on this woman's behaviour? Here's the story: I have a female colleague about my age. For the last 6 months she's been passing by my office often, smiling, being flirty, offering to make me a coffee, and all that. I perceived her as a teaser and never reciprocated to her flirty attitude. Seeing that she insisted I decided to give her my number and offered her to join me for jogging sometime. I was sure she wouldn’t call, but after 3 weeks she did. We had a great time and although she confided to me she was feeling very bad due to a personal problem, after spending time with me she felt a lot better. Before we left I gave her a hug and she said she was glad I did that move and said we should meet again. A week passed by and although she passed by my office she never stopped to say hi. Just passing by and smiling. I called her after a week to invite her to meet again but she found an excuse. After another week I invited her again but she declined politely. I don’t intent to make any further moves but I’d like your point of view on this. Why would she come after me and at the moment when I reciprocate a little she gives me a cold shower? Thanks
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (1 September 2011):
Advice_man is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for your responses RedAthena & jonas, you've been very helpful. That's pretty much how i perceived her actions. I didn't mention that the reason she was feeling sad on our meeting was that she broke up with her bf with whom she was with for 3 years but realized she was bad for her so jonas you might be right. Throughout my dating 'career' i realized that if a woman is interested she responses, she calls, she gives you the green light. If she does neither it means she is not interested.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (30 August 2011):
 She had second thoughts to pursuing something other than a friendly working relationship. Otherwise she would have taken you up on your offers.
Who knows why she backed off? You would have to ask her if you are interested in knowing her better.
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