My HUSBAND was interviewed, but I saw that he kept looking in the direction where girls were?
Q. he is a theater actor and was interviewed at a talk show. i noticed that he was frequently looking the direction where many girls were sitting there were men too but the staring became too noticeable. i saw that he kept looking in the other di...
A. 1 October 2011: I would caution you to learn to compartmentalize your husbands public persona and his private one. He was acting this way in public, nothing was sneaky or improper about it.
Men look at pretty women. That is simple truth. It does not mean any... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I need to be more independent.
Q. me and my bf were talking about how wish i can be away form my parents,i had had enough with them he told me that i should make more friends because it's kinda weird if i'm with him most of time... my instinct felt weird when he said this so i a...
A. 1 October 2011: You may only spend 1-2 times a week with him, but if he is your only real social outing in a week, he may be feeling awkward that his is your only close friend?
He is suggesting you get a fuller life. That is not a bad thing. Just because your par... (read in full...)
Why am I treating this girl so badly?
Q. Please can you help me.I have been with my partner for 2 years she was my soul mate my best friend and my lover, we had planned our life together, and I was going to ask her to marry me. I have had a very difficult 3 months, with work and my health, ...
A. 30 September 2011: It is good you acknowledge that you are mistreating her.
Then use your love for her to get the help you need.
You sound depressed. Talk to your Doctor!
Also, see a counselor or keep a journal to vent all your ugly feelings to-not your gf.... (read in full...)
We work together, fight all the time. Should we get a divorce?
Q. I'm married for 4 years and since there i had good moments and bad moments too, like every marriage is. But the last months it's getting hard keep the balance. Work, finance, family, relationship, pressure to have kids, i dont know if i'm up to ...
A. 30 September 2011: No. You do not divorce.
You figure out what really is the issue that is causing conflict. Get yourself into couples therapy to discuss what is causing the arguments.
You already have a place to start. Finances, your work flow, family, th... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my married boss!
Q. I'm madly in love with my boss. He's the company president and I'm his executive assistant. He's very good-looking and smart. I can't stop myself from faliing for him. He's living alone now but he's married and have kids in california which is very ...
A. 30 September 2011: You mentioned that he opens up to you about his personal life.
I think that creates a false sense of intimacy with him. You feel like you are in his "inner circle" and somehow special to be told these private things. You might feel that you "get... (read in full...)
Should I stay in this baby mama drama relationship?
Q. I`ve been in a relationship with someone for 7 months he told me about the other lady that he use to have a relationship with she has 1yr old twins that she said are his they are waiting on dna test result but he is attached to the kids and she ...
A. 29 September 2011: I would be cautious about getting attached to someone who has a mess that still needs some cleaning up.
He needs to get a lawyer and get a court order for DNA testing. ESPECIALLY if she has accepted any form of child support towards the children... (read in full...)
He never wants to get married because he is afraid a woman will take away his money.
Q. I've been married for 20 years. It was a loveless marriage and Im glad that I had the courage to end it. I've got my own house now and a part time job which I can manage to support myself. I've met this man 16 years older than me. I've been with ...
A. 29 September 2011: At first I was thinking "Prenuptial Agreement" but this guy is not just financialy stingy.
Chances are he is EMOTIONALLY stingy too.
He does not treat you to a meal or a small, inexpensive gift once in awhile in the COURTING stages of a rela... (read in full...)
Mother in law interference....
Q. Hi. My mother in law is so controlling. She wants to tell me how to give her money, when to phone her and how many times. She practically wants to run every facet of my life. How i am raising my children. Apparently i am staying with two of her ...
A. 29 September 2011: You have had enough. Talk to your husband that this situation makes you feel like running away from your life!
He is permitting you to be disrespected in your own home.
Let him know that either he can stand up for you, or you will do it yours... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from my ex
Q. Me and my ex was together for 8 years until 4 weeks ago when we finished. We had our ups and downs but we had a good life and had worked hard for everything that we have got. My ex said I became to clingy and made her feel unloved, unwanted and ...
A. 28 September 2011: You are allowing her to mess with your head. If you are going to continue to live with eachother, you are going to have to set some boundaries.
For starters, get a lock on your bedroom door.
Second, go hang out with YOUR buddies and do n... (read in full...)
Ladies, which do you prefer - the cook or the dancer?
Q. Just out of curiosity to all the women out there, which do you prefer - a man who knows his way around the kitchen or a man who knows his way around the dance floor? And why? (I'm just taking a poll of sorts after an interesting discussion among...
A. 28 September 2011: The cook. A true cook is someone who loves to pleasure someone, nurture them, is in touch with all their senses, is aware of balance and satisfaction.
A Dancer is good, but I would rather slow dance clumsily in the kitchen while we make an amazi... (read in full...)
Have I just forgotten what is fair? I feel like we are not married even though we have been for 3 years!
Q. Forgotten what normal is... My second Husband and I have been married for three years together for four we have a two year old son between us and each have two other children from previous marriages. Our relationship has been utter turmoil, w...
A. 28 September 2011: My question is what DO you get out of this marriage?
What does he get out of it?
Seems like it was doomed to begin with? Maybe it is just time to take care of you and your kids and leave the bum behind. You might be better off without him than... (read in full...)
Everybody loves my husband except me!
Q. Hi Cupids. My husband of 16 years is perfect by everybody else's standards. He is well liked by my family and friends, a good husband, a good father and best friend. I know that logically he is a good choice for me. He has stood by me during goo...
A. 28 September 2011: You are basing your rejection on your husband on being attracted to him physically?
How can you rebuild that when your loyalties are divided between him and your married lover?
Your decision to stay or go should not be based on whether your ... (read in full...)
My baby's father cheated and had a baby with her!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for two years and i got pregnat in may 2010 and while i was pregnat he had cheated on me most of my pregnacy but after my son was born i wanted my family together so i for gave him. i found out the girl he was cheating on ...
A. 27 September 2011: But who had MORE responsibility towards you?
That is right, the Father of your baby.
You are angry at her for seducting your man.
Your man did not have much of a moral charachter to begin with if he allowed himself to be so easily seduced.... (read in full...)
How much trouble would we be in if we have sex at a movie theatre and get caught?
Q. I am 19 and I have been with my bf Brett for 2 yrs. Our 2 yr anniversary is on wednesday and I wanted to do something special so I asked him what he would like to do. I was kinda shocked when he sadi he had 2 things he had always wanted to do the ...
A. 27 September 2011: Did you really feel like taking a chance at a mark on your permenant record for some theater nookie?
... (read in full...)
My baby's father cheated and had a baby with her!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for two years and i got pregnat in may 2010 and while i was pregnat he had cheated on me most of my pregnacy but after my son was born i wanted my family together so i for gave him. i found out the girl he was cheating on ...
A. 27 September 2011: Your anger is misplaced. He is the one that cheated on your relationship and had unprotected sex.
Yes, he should get a DNA to be sure, but YOU should also be tested to make sure he did not bring you a souvenier from his cheating with this gir... (read in full...)
So much friction his head becomes numb....is there anything that can be done to help?
Q. I' writing a question on behalf of a dear friend of mine. His penis is very big,both in length and girth, especialy the head is huge. I think this causes so much friction during sex that the head becomes numb. Either way he hardly ever comes. It ...
A. 26 September 2011: I would reccommend a silicone based lube-it will not dry out as fast as a waterbased lube.
He also needs to work on his foreplay. A well aroused woman is going to feel MUCH different!... (read in full...)
Is a woman who doesn't want kids doomed to be single forever?
Q. Is a woman (who's 33 in two months)who doesn't want a man with kids doomed to be single forever? I am in the process of splitting from a father of two who i have been with for two years. experience has taught me that i'm too insecure to embr...
A. 25 September 2011: Not at all! There are plenty of men that are child free by choice too. If you put out a dating profile online, make sure to share that up front!
There will be people that feel the need to question your choice. Ignore them.
I am sure you will... (read in full...)
My wife has told me she is disappointed in the way I proposed to her
Q. Hi I proposed to my now-wife a year before we got married. When I asked her, she started to cry, but not because of joy. She said yes, when I repeated the question. Later I found out, that she is very disappointed by the way I asked. We now are marr...
A. 25 September 2011: I think your wife might be feeling a bit of shock about being married.
You can not undo the past. She said yes and married you!
All you can do is say you are sorry that you did not meet her expectations, but it is unfair of her to bring it to y... (read in full...)
G/f complained about my penis. Is she cheating?
Q. my girlfriend recently started complaining of my penis size. Could this be the sign she is cheating on me? ...
A. 23 September 2011: What is she complaining about?
It may not be a sign she is cheating, but it IS a sign something is wrong! ... (read in full...)
I like to watch her masturbate, is this normal?
Q. [note: please do not write questions in all caps] I like to watch my wife masturbate and she likes to watch me. I'm very small in size, maybe 6 inches hard. She tells me it doesn't matter. It bothers me and I just hope she's truthful. I perf...
A. 23 September 2011: It sounds like it is normal for you and your wife.
If you are both mutually ok with the situation-what is the problem?... (read in full...)
If we form a living arrangement he says he will only help with the food bill. Is this fair?
Q. Im a 46 years old woman just divorced my husband. I have got my own house and a part time job but earning just enough to support myself. I've met this man 16 years my senior and we gets on well and we've been together for 3 years. He has a good job ...
A. 23 September 2011: Your post is confusing.
You have been together 3 years, but he sees the two of you in a new relationship?
He says you have no contribution to the relationship and you are not sharing his wealth? What does that mean?
If you are currently ... (read in full...)
Asking an ex-girlfriend out to lunch?
Q. I'm thinking of asking my ex-girlfriend out to a light lunch to gauge things. Any tips or advice on how i should do this? I was thinking a text (aside from face to face talking, 90% of our communication was from texting. She doesn't like talking on ...
A. 23 September 2011: My girlfriends and I have recieved texts like this from exes..let me share with you random thoughts that I have said or heard...
"What does he want? Does he want to see me again?"
"Why the 'squeeze me in' to his busy day approach?"
"W... (read in full...)
Could my hubby be straying?
Q. Hi everyone Me and my hubby are very close and still very much in love after almost 22 years...He is the kind of man that wants to hold my hand,always touch me and always tell me how how much he loves me.our sex life is better then ever before...
A. 23 September 2011: What you described sounds more like a medical issue.
I would look for other signs if you really suspect cheating.... (read in full...)
Am I being demanding or is he being uncaring, and doesn't love me as much as it appears?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost half a year. Things are generally well, but I occasionally feel he doesn't love me as much as he says. We live quite a distance apart so have to be in touch mostly via text. He replies to them fairly well, ...
A. 23 September 2011: Texting is not a relationship. It is a quick and easy shortcut to communication.
REAL communication takes place in voice, in tone, in the eyes, in the flesh., etc.
You might be reading too much or too little into his texts. I would say your e... (read in full...)
Emails and texts with sexual innuendo, should I be upset or is it harmless?
Q. My fiancee lives with me. He sometimes sends emails to his ex girlfriends with sexual inuendos. Should I be upset about this or is it harmless flirting/banter. He doesn't tell me about the messages and I have asked that he does. I have also see...
A. 23 September 2011: Put the marriage on hold. Flirting and sexting with other women while in a committed relationship is out of bounds.
I would not ask him to show you each case of this, but ask him WHY he does it?
Have you told him that you know of these texts a... (read in full...)
I broke up b/f of 5 years and he hasn't contacted me since then!
Q. I broke up with my bf of five years because of the lack of sex. I broke up with him on Sunday, and then I left his home, but he still hasn't contacted me. He has not asked for me back, he has not called or text or anything. Did I not mean anything ...
A. 23 September 2011: Why would he need to contact you? You dumped him.
... (read in full...)
Am I taking this too personally?
Q. My boyfriend and I are pretty solitary. We go out and do things, but generally just the two of us. One of our mutual friends was talking about Halloween parties and he really wanted to go, but he did not seem to even think of taking me with him ...
A. 23 September 2011: Are you sure that it was not assumed you are invited?
You were standing right there when the conversation happened.
It would be VERY rude to have discussed a party in front of you and exclude you. Maybe this is a misunderstan... (read in full...)
G/f's ex has invited her for a movie, and I don't trust this guy at all
Q. My girlfriend's old friend / ex boyfriend invited her to the movies with him, alone. Her and I have been dating for 18 months and I've never really felt like this before. I feel, not that she would cheat on me or anything, but the ex will do ...
A. 22 September 2011: Talk to her and tell her you are uncomfortable with the situation.
Being friends with an ex is ok. Hanging out with an ex is ok. But, doing anything "date-like" with an ex is NOT OK.
I had this SAME experience, but with my now EX bf. His ex g... (read in full...)
Empty nest, trust issues, communication issues ...
Q. I have been in a rocky marriage for 24 years, broke up last year for 8 months and returned to him. But now he is texting a woman that he admitted have a sexual relationship with. I confronted him after finding the text messages and now he angry at ...
A. 22 September 2011: People who HIDE NOTHING, have nothing to hide.
If he has not changed regarding being trustworthy, then how much has really changed?
Whatever he did during the time he was NOT with you is the past, but if he is hiding stuff NOW while you ar... (read in full...)
Am I right to feel upset about this? Or should I accept it?
Q. My bf of 14 months and i have been looking at buying a business together for several months now. We've been looking at cafe's to run together. We've both been scouring the businesses for sale ads and i found a little lock up shop in a terrific...
A. 22 September 2011: If the two of you were discussing investing together and running a business together, then yes you have a right to be upset. You have been putting in the work to find suitable properties and now he is speaking like HE will be the only one running ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my married boss!
Q. I'm madly in love with my boss. He's the company president and I'm his executive assistant. He's very good-looking and smart. I can't stop myself from faliing for him. He's living alone now but he's married and have kids in california which is very ...
A. 22 September 2011: You are playing with fire and you are going to get burned.
You would be putting your feelings, you self esteem, your reputation, your job, and that man's marriage at risk.
Put some boundaries between the two of you and limit the time you spe... (read in full...)
I predict my girlfriend will forget my birthday in 10 days. Should I remind her?
Q. I can almost know for certain that my girlfriend will forget my birthday happening in 10 days. I know I will be upset about it. Should I somehow hint it to her? Or just wait to see what happens. I started saying this girl in Japan, 5months a...
A. 22 September 2011: No, do not remind her.
You barely started a relationship and went long distance. It may be feeling strained due to the LDR.
There really wasnt enough of an investment in each other to start expecting things like remembering Birthdays.
... (read in full...)
How to I get my friend's girlfriend to stop coming on to me?
Q. Hey guys, I'm really inexperienced in the whole male female dynamic kind of thing. I don't really know what's a sign of attraction from a girl. So I might as well tell you why I'm asking this. My friend's girlfriend, is like a really good ...
A. 22 September 2011: She may be flirting with you, she may be just a touchy-feeling kind of person, she may be "territorial" and wanting to assert her connection with you.
REGARDLESS of the reason, if you are uncomfortable with it,speak up. You need to set up the b... (read in full...)
Are these normal games or is he unsure?
Q. Hello to all who take the chance to read this. I met a man through a dating website about a week and a half ago. I had a good time,and he seemed to as well. There was a lot of atraction,and he was a very sweet guy. I got a little concerned when he ...
A. 22 September 2011: My first impression is that this guy may not be a good match for you because your lifestyles are already showing some clashing.
You only went out on one date. There may not have been chemistry for him, otherwise he would be seeking you out to s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend proposed...but went looking for a second-hand ring!
Q. So my boyfriend proposed to me the other day. All was going well until he started searching for an engagement ring. We were talking on the phone and he said "Here's one I think you'll like" and sent me a picture of the ugliest ring I'd ever seen. ...
A. 22 September 2011: I do not think this is about money-you would be happy with a handcarved ring!
I would guess you are bothered because it seems the man you want to marry appears to not have listened to your preferences. He did not match the ring to the girl, wh... (read in full...)
I had sex with my married boss to keep my job and now I feel sick!
Q. I think i have just had sex with my boss to save my job. Ive always known hes fancied from since i started. but at the start of the year he told us that out of 3 of us 1 of us would get sacked. its just an office job but its a job so i decided ...
A. 20 September 2011: You had consensual sex with him. You both knew what you were doing. You were trading sex for job security.
If you traded cash-what would that be called?
You decided that you wanted to fight dirty to win. You did.
Your boss could be ma... (read in full...)
Am I obliged to tell his wife the details about the sex we had?
Q. A few months back I slept with my married boss twice. We got on great in work and in general, one thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together. Things were awkward and a mishap in communication led to a second 'mistake'. We agreed it would ...
A. 20 September 2011: I think you should have aplogized to her for your part of the affair then guided her back to her husband.
You are not obligated to discuss the details and should not engage in talking to her any more.
Assure her you are not seeing him anymo... (read in full...)
He forgot my birthday and I am going to forget his. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. I've been this guy for about 4yrs. The past year has been nonstop fighting between us because he's constantly screwing up but for some reason, I always stay. I'm not even sure if I love him anymore, and most of the time, I absolutely can't stand him ...
A. 20 September 2011: You have been holding a grudge on him since APRIL!? Did you ever talk to him about it?
You asked for a loan (a significant amount) and he turned it into a gift. A NON loan. So, it was not good enough.
You asked for flowers. He sent a plant.... (read in full...)
What do the lyrics to this song mean?
Q. What is the real meaning behind the song "How to Hate" by Lil Wayne? Does it basically mean that love turned to hate and that the girl led him on or something? Does the scenario reflect reality? I would appreciate it if someone else can give a ...
A. 20 September 2011: It might be better for you to do some internet research and google Lil Wayne fansites for feedback on this.
... (read in full...)
I think he should have told me at the beginning that he had bad credit and had been blacklisted!
Q. I started dating a man I met via internet 2 years ago. All seemed fine to start with. He told me once he has no credit cards because he doesn’t want any. Fair enough. He rented his flat, didn’t own property or have a mortgage. He bought a new ...
A. 20 September 2011: No, he should have been honest. We live in a credit based society even if we choose not to use it. Having a decent credit rating is a sign that we are reliable with our money.
DO not cosign for him on anything. You might be putting YOUR credit a... (read in full...)
Irrational insecurity or something to worry about?
Q. Hi all. A couple of things, I suffer from insecurity really badly whenever I am in a relationship and it always pushes my bfs away, they end up leaving. The thing is, a couple of things about my bf worry me and I would just like to know other ...
A. 19 September 2011: You describe two issues.
*A BF who has an drinking problem and feels pressured to socialize in these drinking fests with his coworkers.
*He has a friend that was a former FWB connection.
The former FWB friend is easy: Is she still on hi... (read in full...)
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